The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe So many men have no idea what their female partners mean when they ask for more romance. Others understand what romance is but they don't deeply understand how sad their wives are about the lack of it. If you have ever dismissed or minimized your wife's desire for romance, or if you have no idea how to execute on it, this is the episode for you.  My analogy about oral sex for men being like romance for women is worth the price of admission alone!  And so are the four concrete practical ways to be more romantic and up your game starting TODAY. Related links: 10 Ways To Be More Romantic 6 Ways That Romance For Women Is Like Oral Sex For Men Please keep listening, and I hope the listener who requested this topic enjoys this podcast!  And everyone: subscribe to The Dr Psych Mom Show and rate it on Spotify and Apple!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener sent me in a voice question! (If you'd like to record a question, ask me on the Anchor app where I record my podcasts!)  She listened to my episode "When Men Won't Take Care Of You" and needs advice about her boyfriend.  I use attachment theory and other variables to tell her how to better communicate with her boyfriend, and to help her recognize some deeper issues that are potentially at play.   Relevant links: Interdependence As A Relationship Goal Overfunctioning Help! I Do Everything And My Husband Does Nothing Attachment Theory Please send me in some more questions, everyone!  Thanks for listening, and follow me on Facebook!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Many women are sad that the guys they are with never seem to take care of them or protect them.  This isn't just because you meet the “wrong” men or guys who are “selfish.” Instead, you may be subconsciously drawn to dynamic that you remember from earlier in your life. In this episode, I discuss the two categories of women that struggle with this issue, and how to change the frame so that men feel the desire to care for you. When You Feel Like Men Never Take Care Of You Why We Pick Partners Who Are Bad For Us The book I suggested Thanks for listening!  Please suggest topics at samantharodman@gmail.com and follow me on Facebook!  

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe There are many red flags that your partner will eventually start regarding sex with disinterest if not outright distaste.  Most people aren't vigilant for these signs, but if you are on the dating market (or considering dating in the future), this article is a MUST READ. I also discuss what may be going on if you are in a sexless marriage and the person didn't have ANY of these red flags in the past.  The post this podcast is based on is here.  And if your partner condescends to you about wanting sex, read this. If you're already in a sexless marriage, read my blog and this book. Thanks for listening!  If you are looking for a therapist, check out my site here.  And subscribe to my podcast and share!

Discover the shifting dynamics in relationships when women out-earn their husbands. Delve into the psychological effects and the importance of open communication in addressing power shifts. Explore how couples can navigate these changes and maintain stability. The discussion covers the emotional impacts of earning differences and highlights the role of couples counseling in redefining roles. Is there a biological explanation for women wanting to earn more later in life? Unpack these intriguing questions and more!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe From my work with couples, I can tell you that many men are just as dissatisfied with their sex lives as women are.  Often, women have no idea, thinking that when a man gets laid, he's happy.  This "pizza" theory of sex (all pizza is good pizza) is WRONG especially as a man gets older.  In this episode, I discuss 6 things that men yearn for in bed, why they find it hard to express their desires to their wives, and how men's deepest desire may not be what women think it is at all! For further reading: 6 Things Men Want In Bed Love And Care Fantasies Please subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Facebook!  The more people love my podcast, the more of them I will record!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe If you struggle with anxiety, it has a huge impact on your children.  I grew up with anxious parents and developed anxiety as a result. Your child doesn't deserve to feel constricted and trapped by anxiety!  In this episode, I discuss what an anxious worldview is, why it develops, consequences to kids of being raised by anxious parents, and, of course, how to treat your anxiety for the sake of yourself and your kids. Here are some relevant links: Exposure Therapy: How To Sit With Your Anxiety Is Your Anxiety Hurting Your Kids? What It Feels Like To Cure Your Anxiety Thanks for listening, guys, and please subscribe and follow me on Facebook!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode of the Dr Psych Mom show, I discuss compatibility as a concept, and specific areas of compatibility that I have found to be very important in determining whether couples will be happy together. There are some extra areas for second marriages, because you'll be spending so much time together without kids in the house one day.  I also answer the question: do people really ever change in these key domains? Should you just stop dating someone that doesn't meet these criteria, or should you have some wiggle room? As for the links I promised: here you can read about compatibility in first marriages and in second marriages, and here is my post on knowing you deserve a better partner than one who treats you poorly, in reference to my marathoner example at the end.  Thanks for listening!  Please subscribe and follow me on Facebook!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Most couples don't know the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire, so women think they just aren't attracted to their husbands anymore when they actually would have great sex IF they understood more about their biology. Don't sabotage your sex life by assuming that female desire should operate the same within long-term monogamy as it does when you're in the honeymoon stage!  Many women never think about sex during the day, but can have great sex if they understand what responsive desire entails. I also include a formula for switching up your order of operations in the bedroom that takes into account how much longer women take to warm up.  Please subscribe to my podcast and follow me on Facebook.  Read more on the topic of responsive desire here. And read about the erotic blueprints and find out your style here!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Many people found my post on not letting your kids treat you like garbage useful, so I expand on it here.  Why do parents let their kids walk all over them and how can you stop this dysfunctional pattern before your kids turn into narcissists?  What in your family of origin may have led to this tendency?  What are concrete ways to buck the trend? Tune in for my BDSM analogy alone!  Please subscribe if you find these posts helpful!  And follow me on Facebook.