The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Please subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes! Most recent one: Why Intercourse is Fucking Up Your Sex Life :) For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com By subscriber request, here's an episode on what to do when your wife used to, for instance, have anal with her college boyfriend Bob but then realized she never wanted to do it again after meeting you.  As per usual, I help you think about this differently, give you concrete tips and scripts, and stop you from falling into a victim role that is inaccurate and unhelpful!  

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com When a parent doesn't like you, it impacts your self-concept, future relationships, and almost every aspect of your life.  If you have felt profound disapproval or dislike from a parent, including but not limited to neglect/abuse situations, life can feel like an uphill battle.  Listen to this podcast to learn about how this affects you and how to work on it.

Some listeners asked whether attachment style is passed from parent to child.  It is not genetic, but comes from an interaction between parent and child, so yes, but possibly not in the ways you think. Also: people neglect a VERY IMPORTANT factor when thinking about a child's attachment style: the home environment overall. Listen to this episode for more!  And to the original attachment podcast for background: https://anchor.fm/dashboard/episode/e1ieate Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent ones were about who gets into sexless marriages, and then what it means when your wife says, "I'm overwhelmed!" Also of course there's the oral sex on women one!  And close to 50 others. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com If you follow this blog and podcast, you know that I have written about common dynamics I see in my series Couples You Meet In Counseling.  This is a new one that isn't even a blog post yet!  In this episode I discuss this interactional style that I see where one partner is in charge of managing everything in a critical way and the other partner is in charge of being passive and passive/aggressive.  Sounds funny when I write it like that but it's not too funny if you're trapped in this cycle. Listen to this episode to learn how this dynamic develops and how to fix it! By the way, the recently published #6, The Lean-In Wife And The Underachiever, is here: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/06/29/couples-you-meet-in-counseling-6-the-lean-in-wife-and-the-underachiever/!

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent was on when women say "I'm overwhelmed!" For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com It's common for men to decry how women expect men to change after marriage, acting like they don't expect the same thing.  In fact, women do hope men grow more domestic, and home- and family-oriented in MUCH THE SAME WAY as men hope that women who were not very comfortable with sex will open up after marriage.  This episode tackles both of these fantasies, and how much you can and cannot expect partners to change and grow!

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Next one coming up will be on when women say "I'm overwhelmed!" For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Some people get a rude (literally) awakening at how selfish their kids are when they don't do anything for events like this!  But this oversight isn't really your kid's fault.  Of course, it's ideal for the other parent/co-parent/your partner to help them get something together for you, YOU CAN AND SHOULD MAKE SURE YOUR KIDS RECOGNIZE YOU ON THESE DAYS! Of course it still "counts" if you have to teach kids this, just like it counts that they can read if you teach them to read, or any other thing you teach them! In this episode we discuss which parents won't do this, the cognitive distortions that make them think they shouldn't have to self-advocate, and how this ends up hurting your kids.

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent one was about who gets into sexless marriages. Also of course there's the oral sex on women one!  And close to 50 others, including one coming up about what your wife means when she says, "I'm overwhelmed!" For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com I've had reader requests to discuss blended family difficulties.  I've discussed incorporating your new partner into your life (https://anchor.fm/dashboard/episode/e1j7p09) but there's also the issue of prioritization of certain kids over others.  It is essential that you don't feel like your partner is choosing their kids over yours, because this will lead to endless resentment down the road, from both you and your kids toward your partner (and from your kids toward you because you are with someone who overtly plays favorites!).  How can you deal with this situation and what sort of individuals end up in relationships with who pick their own kids so overtly?  And what if YOUR KIDS are the problem?

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes! Next one coming up will be on when women say "I'm overwhelmed!" For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com When you struggle with depression or family of origin issues, it can be very hard to not be triggered by your kids.  While I advocate being your authentic self with your kids as much as you can (see https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/Being-Yourself-Around-Your-Kids-A-Novel-Idea-In-Todays-Child-Centered-Society-e1hh176), sometimes you have to fake it.  When should you do this and in what areas?  All that and more is covered today!  Thanks for listening everyone.

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent one was about personality traits that accord with sexless marriages. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Many people marry individuals that they know on some level just aren't as smart as they are.  Yes, there are all kinds of intelligence, but if you have thought during dating that you can out-think your partner, I have seen that this dynamic often transmutes into something pretty dysfunctional over time.  And both partners get frustrated, not just the "smarter" one!  Listen to this episode to hear what "processing speed" is for those of us who like to learn random stuff, what other traits are related to this, and how compatibility is king.

The narcissist-borderline dynamic is common in couples counseling and underlies many super high conflict relationships. Here we cover what Borderline Personality is (extreme preoccupied attachment is one helpful lens), how it interacts with Narcissist Personality Disorder and why these two types are drawn to one another, and what to do if this episode leads to a lightbulb recognition moment about your own dynamic. Subscribe!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Therapy! www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow!  www.facebook.com/drpsychmom Link: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/06/06/what-does-a-healthy-relationship-look-like-for-someone-with-borderline-personality-disorder/ Books: I Hate You Don't Leave Me: https://amzn.to/3OaPKl5 Stop Walking on Eggshells by Mason Kreger Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward Emotional Vampires by Albert J. Bernstein Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy T. Behary