The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, unconditional love, and most recently: why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com A lot of women come in with this complaint, but it is important to look at both sides of this issue.  There may be some good reasons that your husband is saying this, related to your actual behavior, and some that relate back to him. Listen to explore different ways of understanding this comment! Including: maternal gatekeeping, what anxiety is and isn't, how your family of origin may convince you that you're a fuckup, and more.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, and unconditional love!  Tomorrow's will be on why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com For some reason people are surprised and angry when their laid back wife is also messy or their ambitious husband is also selfish.  Personality traits don't just show up on the positive side of the ledger!  Here's how to be more objective about your partner and start being more fair and loving.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, including how to go down on a woman, why men are increasingly dissatisfied with marriage, how to know if you're needy or assertive, and 53 more! Next one will be on why it's often a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com I had a female Facebook group member ask about this topic!  This episode includes: how to deal with jitters, whether to pay in case you missed this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/if-you-want-a-man-to-take-care-of-you-dont-offer/id1603301666?i=1000557752616, how to pick where to go, and what to talk about and what not to talk about. Keep in mind I'm a couples counselor so I don't give some BS advice about not talking about politics or jobs or exes or whatever; you need to GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!  

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent two are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, and unconditional love! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com In today's requested episode, I tackle why you're scared of what people think about you, how and why to stop caring, and a special mantra that can make you give less of a shit what people think!  

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past! And tomorrow's paid episode will be on unconditional love! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com If you follow me on Facebook, you saw when I posted this article: https://nypost.com/2012/11/25/nobody-marries-their-best-sex-ever/ I entirely disagree!  Many men think that sexual skill is a trait that you come to the relationship/encounter with, but in fact even the most experienced man needs to learn from every woman he's with about how to please her unique body/set of preferences.  Your spouse can and should be the best sex you ever had, as you are constantly teaching them how to better please you!  Women, start training the men you are with- if not to be your spouse then for womankind as a whole! By the way, guys should also marry the best sex they were ever with.... if you can't train her to be this during your dating time, then you'll be in my office ten years later.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com In today's episode, I discuss one way that people lie to themselves, which is rewriting the history of your relationship, convincing yourself that you were always unhappy or that your partner was always terrible.  This way of looking at the relationship doesn't do justice to yourself, your partner, or your relationship, and is often just plain old wrong.  Listen to this episode for all this as well as what kind of traits make you most appealing on the dating market post-divorce (hint: it's not trash talking your ex and blaming them for everything!).

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Welcome to the second season of the DPM show!  This is a completely arbitary designation based on that I had 200 episodes and this would either be number 201 or #1 of the second season so why not change it up!!  Today we will be discussing why guys want the light on, why women don't, how senses work, and how sensitive women and their husbands may not ever see (no pun intended) the woman's (and therefore the couple's) full sexual potential if she feels like she is under the microscope all the time.  This episode is brought to you by this: https://amzn.to/3bRYFKt just kidding but buy it.  And if anyone who makes those wants to advertise on my show just lmk and hmu. (That lingo shows I am young and trendy.)

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com A subscriber asked what to do if your partner wants to try something really "out there" in bed.  I give you some incisive and clinically compelling comments like YOLO, whatever doesn't kill you etc, and even the transformational JFC get over yourself. But honestly people, you don't get a loving relationship from being a Negative Nellie, so a reframe is in order if you are always the "no" "stop" "that's weird" partner.  Also since what's good for the goose is good for the gander, I discuss how if you really want to get your spouse to do the Epileptic Flamingo position or whatever you decided really floats your boat, you should be bringing your A game in all other aspects of the relationship.

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes including the recent one on intercourse not being the be all and end all of what you all should be doing in bed! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Men don't give a shit generally speaking about your stretch marks/if you showered right before sex/if you didn't shave that day, so how can you get over thinking they do?  Also how can men empathize with their wives' terrible body image and understand that this is a real thing to her and not just an excuse not to have sex?  Also do some men give a shit about stretch marks?  Sure but few and here's how to spot them and what to do if your partner is one of them.  

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes, including most recent one about how intercourse needs to not be the only thing you do in bed! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com What is menopause and how and why does it lead to a profound change in sex drive in many women?  Many listeners have asked about this, so here you go, guys!  Also covered: how men's fear of mortality may interact terribly with their wife moving into this phase. Related post: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/08/24/when-you-stop-caring-about-sex-before-your-partner-does/