The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some men ask, but if some women in your practice are the higher libido partner, does this mean that there are in fact women who DO still experience spontaneous desire within monogamy?  Or can we understand this differently?  I give you some helpful analogies that you would have already understood if you'd have followed me on TikTok :)

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ In today's longer than usual episode, which if you know me means I go on more tangents that hopefully you find interesting or at least informative, I discuss the popular male delusion that there are women out there whose sexuality just needs to be unlocked and then they will go from "a woman who never liked sex before me" to "a woman who is going to be kind of like that woman in that porno I love where she becomes a complete slut but ONLY for this one special dude because of his magical penis." I relate this delusion to delusions women have, including that the feral raccoon you marry will turn into a neat and tidy husband. Also, I discuss what women REALLY think when they are someone who never liked sex that's all of a sudden having more of it than ever during the honeymoon phase with their now-husband.  Note: it's not some bait and switch insanity, please stop going down internet rabbitholes that tell you this.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Today I dispel many men's favorite fantasy (after the threesome one): that having just one more sexual encounter per week or one more BJ per month or any other specific concrete sexual incremental change will be the transformation you and your relationship always needed and you will become the happy, secure man you always knew you could be.  Would that it were that simple!  In this episode that if you're honest you really ought to send to your wife to compensate for inundating her with all the other ones, I tell you what you're really yearning for and why, and potentially even how to get there.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ In my last episode, I discussed how most women are fine with way less transcendental mindblowing sex than their husbands think they want.  However, there are also people on the other end of the spectrum who are not enjoying themselves much at all, but are just used to life being generally frustrating and sad for them, so they don't think there's really any other option.  I discuss the link between family of origin, low self-esteem, and an unsatisfying sex life (in both women and men).  Nobody deserves deeply dissatisfying sex!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Today I discuss cognitive errors that even the smartest people make in therapy, such as:  1. 50 sessions with a therapist I don't really make progress with is better than 5 with a therapist that I do make progress with 2. There's no urgency in fixing my marriage unless we are about to divorce 3. A therapist knows exactly what I need to work on by mind reading so it's okay to not share what I'm really hoping to work on (it's shameful and she ought to magically pick it up anyway) 4. My partner is the problem! Let's talk only about them to distract from talking about me. 5. A therapist is magical so no matter what defenses I put up, s/he can move around them and get into my psyche without any effort on my part And more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to turn your wife off if you've been getting laid too much recently! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Today I discuss that most monogamous women don't give a single shit if their sex life isn't mindblowing with their husband.  If it is a dumpster fire, they care, but whether it is a 6/10 or a 9/10 isn't really of interest to the large majority of women.  Listen for more revelations!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, tomorrow's is on why yelling at the kids is a good way to never get laid. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The main attachment styles that I discussed in my Attachment Styles overview podcast (https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/Attachment-Theory-Overview-Secure--Preoccupied--and-Avoidant-e1ieate) did not include fearful-avoidant, which is called disorganized in kids. This happens to kids who grow up in abusive homes and is a consequence of early trauma and not trusting a caregiver to meet even your basic needs for safety.  In this episode, I discuss this lesser known attachment style and what to do about it!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why going back to work can help some stay at home moms who feel overwhelmed/anxious/depressed! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ You guys like my role playing, so here I show you exactly how to be kind, calm, loving and potentially get closer to your wife by doing so!  At the very least, you will be proud of your behavior vs continuing to be sulky, resentful, bitter, and sarcastic, which ain't gonna fly with wife #2 either if it comes to that.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why going back to work can help some stay at home moms who feel overwhelmed/anxious/depressed! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you've heard the term "scarcity mindset" in terms of dating/sex, you are likely a dude looking to feel happier and more secure.  This episode delves into how this mindset develops (hint: nothing to do with dating/sex), how it changes the lens you use to view the world, and how it can sabotage your efforts to be in a happy healthy relationship OR JUST BE HAPPY AND HEALTHY YOURSELF!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent is on why going back to work can help some stay at home moms who feel overwhelmed/anxious/depressed! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you've been in multiple toxic work places, it's likely that there is internal deeper work you need to do to figure out why.  In this episode, I discuss which types of people end up in these situations, how they relate to your family of origin and trait levels of sensitivity, and ways to reframe toxicity as a concept!