The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Often, I work with women who think their dads are far better husbands than their own husbands, in terms of earning money, being masculine/courageous, being handy, even being romantic with their wives (the woman's mom).  I also often see men who think their own moms are better than their wives at being loving, attentive, and laid back with kids.  (The only difference is that many women now outearn the man's mom, so that's one area where I see less negative comparison.) Listen to this episode to explore why you may be in the situation that your parent seems far superior to your spouse, and how to change the frame!  Also: tips for those of you who are dating.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby, and why NOBODY LIKES A WHINER! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Men who grew up watching porn think that there are certain women who are just never shy or awkward in bed.  This is fake news, people.  The majority of women feel quite shy when out of the hormones-and-adrenaline-fueled honeymoon stage.  Listen to listen about how real women work and why porn's biggest disservice to men is teaching them that women don't have sexual insecurities WHICH THEY DO.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Some discussion came up in my Facebook group about the Fair Play book (https://amzn.to/3RYXDfW; the cards are here https://amzn.to/3aMIePf) If this works for your marriage, awesome.  If not, here may be why and here's how to think and what to try instead!  PS you'll like my Excedrin analogy and my sex cards analogy.

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for all my bonus episodes!  Most recent one was about why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby. Tomorrow's will be why nobody likes a whiner and how to distinguish being an emotionally open man from being a whiner. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com My most recent Couples You Meet In Counseling podcast last season (Season 1 Episode 192) was called The CEO And The Resentful Employee, which honestly was a lot more targeted to wives who do "everything" and their passive aggressive husbands.  Today's episode is about men with control issues, and how this personality style erodes guys' chances of being close and connected with their wives.  We cover where control issues stem from, who you're attracted to when you have control issues, and how to reframe your need to have everything done your way.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Men often think "if I tell my wife she's hot/smart/whatever all the time, it will lose its meaning." To this I rejoinder, "Would sex lose its meaning to you if you guys had it every day?"  Learn why you compliment ration, what this does to your marriage, why it relates to your family of origin, and how and why to stop!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, unconditional love, and most recently: why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Men think it is super obvious why they find their wives hot, but their wives often have literally zero idea what men find attractive about women overall, nevermind what their husband finds attractive about them in particular.  I have many many women in my office who come in believing that their husbands only want to have sex with them because they are a nearby legally approved vagina.  They actually think men like women who have nice hairstyles or trendy shoes or are 100 lbs or some crazy-to-a-man thing like that. Explain to your wife WHAT men like about women and WHAT ABOUT HER IN PARTICULAR is objectively attractive and desirable to MANY MEN INCLUDING YOU.  Listen for more if you think something like, "Why would I mention other dudes would be into her, that's obvious and makes me look weak and anxious" or "There's no way to tell her stuff like that without her thinking it's disgusting" or "The only things I can think of are attributes she doesn't have" or "Well she doesn't find me attractive so this whole conversation makes me look stupid." This podcast exists to counter dumbass self-talk that sabotages your marriage!  

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, unconditional love, and most recently: why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! Next is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Some guys say they have asked their wife for feedback about sex so it isn't their fault when they later realize through my blogs and podcasts that they have been doing approximately zero that the average woman finds arousing.  But in reality, they have been asking in a disingenuous way, if at all, so it's no wonder their wives don't know how to say that they aren't happy.  In this episode I give you concrete ways to talk about sex, and discuss why so many couples fail to communicate effectively about this topic!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent one is why your wife's personality changes after kids! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com If you have issues trusting the opposite sex, listen to this episode to learn why getting outside your comfort zone may heal you!  I cover the therapeutic alliance, treatment outcome research, transference, when your husband has a crush on the therapist, and more.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, unconditional love, and most recently: why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want!  Next will be why and how your wife's personality changes after kids. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com By request in my Facebook group!  The title speaks for itself, people.  Covered: the major mistake many people make, the other major mistake many people make, and actually this is all about mistakes people make when taking family trips and how to stop making them.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent ones are why NOT TO LIE about your sexual past, unconditional love, and most recently: why it's a GOOD THING for your wife to complain about how much sex you want! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com It can be hard to determine a fair split between kids' interests, particularly because you yourself will naturally gravitate to one or the other based on your personality and interests.  In this episode, I cover ways to be sure that you don't set up your kids to dislike/resent each other or you, how to reflect on how your own upbringing impacts your viewpoint on this issue, and how to take an objective look at your subconscious preferences and assumptions that influence your prioritization of one kid versus another!