The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 70+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I see many couples struggling with different perspectives on home renovations.  Here I discuss the general male and female perspectives that I see.  Use this to better understand your partner and to start a discussion about what home renovations mean to each of you, how you've been communicating about them and whether it's been effective or not, and what color to paint your kitchen because we all know the woman is going to win this battle, people. :)

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 70+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The more I write about sexual issues within marriage, and the more popular my podcast gets (especially episodes like this), the more male listeners/readers, and clients, I get!  I enjoy interacting with these guys, who offer a different perspective than my beloved core female readers (who often started following me when I was writing more about issues related to parenting young kids).  Before finding me, many of these male readers followed predominantly male authors who write a great deal about gender polarity, and they often ask me what I think about this concept. Specifically, they are interested in whether I believe that men need to act more "masculine" in order to tap into a woman's "feminine" energy.  This episode addresses whether I think these concepts are relevant within couples work, and to what extent!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, next one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ This dynamic refers to the couple where the poor beleaguered man is always doing everything for the cold princess who gives him no love.... he sounds like a victim until you remember that it takes two to tango, as with all the couple types that I describe!  Listen to hear how couples get entangled in this dynamic and how to potentially get out!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, next one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ "Shit tests" are a common idea in the manosphere... the problem is that only very sad and unhealthy women do this, a couple percent max.  The majority of women are as confused by the idea of testing your man to make him prove his masculinity as men are by crazy ideas women have about men.... like that they are lazy babies who don't know how to make themselves a sandwich without instruction.  When guys go around learning about "shit tests" and acting like they are prevalent, they are contributing to the exact type of sexism that they (100% should) decry when women do it to them!  Listen to hear who might do a "shit test" and how to respond as well as who is likely to see "shit tests" all over, not just from women, and how to think of the world in a more realistic and not as fearful way.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Got a request to discuss avoidant husbands.  It is more the norm for men to be avoidant than women, which is why I focused on avoidant women, which is less common, in my Avoidant Wives podcast.  But if you would like to know more about how Joe Average Avoidant Dude acts, you can either read one of the million books out there on Emotionally Unavailable Men or listen to this podcast!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recently on female sexual dysfunction! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ You know how much I hate marital scorekeeping.... but on the other end of the spectrum are people who don't tell their spouse how much they do OUT OF LOVE FOR THE SPOUSE!  This is not good either and is basically leaving money on the table.  In this episode I discuss when and how to tell your spouse how much you do for their sake, because sometimes they don't know and genuinely think you do very little for them because you're so allergic to taking credit for things!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent one was on what female arousal is and how to make it happen! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ By follower request: an overview of these two types of male sexual dysfunction, what causes them, how to work on them, how they impact your relationship, and what types of upbringings and marriages lead to sexual anxiety!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recently: what female arousal really is and whether you have ever seen it (and if not: how to see it). For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Someone commented that I should get a makeup consult during one of my Facebook videos lol.  Here's my TikTok response (https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom/video/7143936455499418922?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7126166917792957998) but it also made me move my "concern trolling" podcast episode to the front of the queue!  Listen for my mother-in-law example, overweight spouse example, slutty underwear example, and MORE!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, most recently on female arousal!! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I've discussed anxiety a lot, specifically how many people do not recognize/cannot admit their anxiety.  One way that anxiety manifests that is super common in moms is anxiety about returning to work because of the kids' days off of school and potential missed days of work due to illness.  Many men are very frustrated with this reasoning, so I explore both sides of how a couple in this situation may feel and potentially ways to come together on this issue.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the next one is what female arousal aka wetness really is and when (and when not) to use lube! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What are boundaries and what are ultimatums?  Ultimatums get a bad rap, but what are they and when are they necessary to maintain a healthy sense of self?  All this and more, especially relevant if you grew up in a home where you were not allowed any privacy/boundaries/selfhood, particularly prevalent in homes with self-absorbed parents.