The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is discussing how you should divorce when you're not angry but accepting. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I was asked what I think about the ideas of evoking anxiety to keep a woman interested (e.g., making her anxious that you will leave her) and other ideas from men's forums. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, so the same way as I made fun of the Fair Play book, I make fun of a Married Red Pill post.  Listen and learn why LYING, MANIPULATING, AND HANDLING PEOPLE IS UNETHICAL AND DOESN'T WORK LONG TERM.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is discussing how you should divorce when you're not angry but accepting. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many men, especially if they were raised in a more conservative home, are fascinated by more liberal women when they meet them in college or beyond. This is in part because they conflate a liberal political viewpoint with sexual openmindedness and drive. As these men eventually realize, these are very different constructs.  Further, from what I see in my office, any political extremism (in either direction) is related to being MORE closedminded and unempathic, not less so.  This means that the woman who advocates tirelessly for the needs of others may have a complete blind spot to seeing your sexual needs as valid.  Understand what is and what isn't a proxy variable for sexuality, and you won't keep banging your head against the wall trying to square the circle of your wife.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is when you won't admit you're depressed. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Both married men and single/unhappily married women enjoy the fantasy of one day being in a marriage where the woman remains sexually obsessed with her husband at the honeymoon stage level all throughout the relationship. This doesn't happen often, and in the rare cases that it does, it has nothing to do with anything about the physical attraction levels between the partners. Instead, we need to learn about the concept of "limerence" and how it applies to the idea of eternal continuous sexual passion.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the next one is discussing how you should divorce when you're not angry but accepting. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked what the signs are that a partner will continue enjoying sex after marriage, the opposite of this post (https://www.drpsychmom.com/2017/09/09/how-to-tell-if-your-partner-will-stop-enjoy-sex-after-marriage-and-kids/).  I have discussed pieces of this before but I have compiled it all for you, including the fact that YOU'RE STILL KIND OF FLYING BLIND BECAUSE PEOPLE CHANGE.  Either way, there is a proxy variable for this and I discuss it here.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is when you won't admit you're depressed. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ In this episode, I discuss why your wife doesn't want to do this "easy" "fun" thing that many men want.  Listen to learn how to empathize, which is preferable to being a dick about things.  And empathy can actually make her likelier to do if not this then other things you want!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 75+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is about what your child learns from how you treat your partner! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ All about infidelity, from a subscriber's request! Including: emotional affairs, rates of affairs, who cheats based on attachment style, and whether you can work through affairs!  And by the way, here's me talking for three hours of continuing ed on this topic if you're DYING to hear more :) https://tzkseminars.com/6826 Lastly, the book I mention is this one: https://amzn.to/3SKa7aQ

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 75+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is about what your child learns from how you treat your partner! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ When I recently posted pictures of my husband's romantic gifts on our dating anniversary on Facebook, someone commented about wanting a romantic partner the next time around.  While having a romantic husband is wonderful, there are things people should recognize about romantic people in general, and how this construct goes along with others that you may not have been drawn to at the stage of life that you were choosing your current non-romantic partner.  Additionally, here are tips on what romantic people look for, so you can know what to do if you want one (or rethink wanting one!).

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 70+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is about what your child learns from how you treat your partner! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I was going to make this one subscriber only but it's so important that I figured I would make it free!  Most people act like if the man wants oral and the woman doesn't, they have come to a Major Impasse which is Not Solvable.  This is truly a load of BS and both men AND women don't understand how easily this "problem" is solved by couples with healthier relationships. Listen for a paradigm shift that can transform your marriage!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 70+ awesome bonus episodes, the next one is what your child learns from how you treat your partner! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked if there is any real "recovery" from insecure attachment, or if this is like being an alcoholic where you always will struggle with your insecure ways of acting.  In this episode, I address this and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe. And you'll get 70+ awesome bonus episodes, most recent one is Couples You Meet In Counseling #3: The Divorced In Spirit! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Picture this: a woman's husband refuses to have sex with her because she "doesn't communicate effectively" and turns away from her hugs and kisses. Wouldn't you tell her to divorce this asshole?  If you believe in equal rights then how can you think differently about this situation when a woman does it? Listen for more.