The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how acts of service and physical touch may be opposite love languages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I constantly discuss how there is no free lunch with your partner's personality.  In this episode I dispel a favorite male myth: that of the woman who loves touch and sex but is also cool with you living your best life and doing whatever the F you want all the

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses what happens when people have different expectations for the empty nester years. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I constantly discuss how there is no free lunch with your partner's personality.  In this episode I dispel a favorite male myth: that of the woman who loves touch and sex but is also cool with you living your best life and doing whatever the F you want all the time. WTF is this mythological creature? Join me to talk about reality.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses what happens when people have different expectations for the empty nester years. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you have said anything like this, this is the episode for you.  Comments like this are sexist and not even true.  Both genders like appreciation, and words of affirmation is a gender-neutral love language.  If you don't want your husband to say sexist stuff like, "Women are irrational," then don't make sweeping insulting comments about men!  Not to mention that women want a cookie for physical intimacy or whatever other aspect of a partnership that they personally don't prioritize doing in exactly the same proportion as men want a cookie for doing chores.  And when it goes beyond appreciation, people of BOTH genders act like martyrs and should work on it!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, tomorrow's will explore what happens when people have different expectations for the empty nester years. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you have tried to give your husband more sex but he's still not acting any less sad/angry/lonely, perhaps you will have to listen to my kids and penicillin analogy again, and think about what would happen if he did one load of laundry every month and said this was "enough" to make you happy.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, tomorrow's will explore what happens when people have different expectations for the empty nester years. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I still get emails from readers of my 2014 article on Psych Central about engaging narcissists in couples counseling: https://psychcentral.com/pro/engaging-narcissists-in-couples-counseling.  As the idea of "narc abuse" has taken over popular media, many people put narcissists into a category of unchangeable and "bad" in a way that we used to think of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (which has been disproven).  In this episode, I discuss how many, many narcissists change and grow in therapy, and what to look for in a therapist when you're dealing with this issue.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, tomorrow's will explore what happens when people have different expectations for the empty nester years. For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you were raised in a negative, anxious home, it is easy to replicate this for your child without intending to.  This episode explores how anxiety may be constricting your life in ways you don't even think about, and how to help your children grow into confident, unencumbered adults.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is discussing why not to marry someone who puts you on a pedestal! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sex is the male proxy variable for INTIMACY AND LOVE.  It isn't about sex.  They want a loving wife and you can say you're loving if you never hug your husband but you're lying to yourself. Would you hire a babysitter who didn't want to touch your baby? Listen for more analogies that annoy you because you know I have a point.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recently why you shouldn't marry someone who puts you on a pedestal! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ This question came up in my Facebook group!  Your "type" is related to many things, which we explore in this episode.  Also, should you ever marry against type?

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recently why you shouldn't marry someone who puts you on a pedestal! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Why do women do this monstrous thing?  You can probably understand it a lot better after this podcast!  And... it's kind of like stuff you do yourself (gasp!).

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the next will be why you shouldn't marry someone who puts you on a pedestal! For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many of my clients are people who pushed away prior partners who were too into them, and only settled down with the person who, in retrospect, showed all the signs of not really liking them too much.  Then, later in their marriages, these clients are upset by how disconnected they feel, sexually, emotionally, and more, from their partners... who didn't actually change all that much! Take note: even if you divorce your spouse, you will likely still be drawn toward people who aren't that into you.... unless you work on your self esteem!  Listen for more.