The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on why men don't only work to support their wives and stop saying this martyred BS if you say it! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What does it look like when husbands have preoccupied attachment?  Basically they act controlling, jealous, and insecure... while trying to do it in a socially approved of manner.  Harassing their wife with shit she needs to learn and ways she can be closer.... all while limiting his ability to ever actually get laid because he seems like a bottomless pit of need.  Cute, right?  I also discuss why this goes better when women have this attachment style than when men do. Because, biology. Remember to listen to the episode Attachment Theory Overview (paid episode from May 13: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6dKujgHKgrjcAy2jiwM6oA?si=upnAyRtnT_S0VWcDvUIeAA) to understand more about this!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on why men don't only work to support their wives and stop saying this martyred BS if you say it! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you think that hearing about you doing something dangerous will make your kid do it, why didn't hearing all the shit you brag about make them do all those things? I never heard a kid say well Mom says she used to play outside instead of playing video games so I'm going to throw out my Xbox! Kids can bond with you from hearing about how you're a real person, and part of being a real person is having a past where you made choices, some good and some bad.  Honestly, I can't think of a better way to make your kid never want to have sex than to tell them that you did it because THEY DON'T THINK WE'RE COOL, GUYS.  :) The real thing you're worried about is that they think you're a hypocrite... so try and work on any hypocrisy rather than hiding from your kid that you are a real human.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on why telling your husband how dysfunctional he and his family are doesn't turn him on! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you promise to take your kid to get ice cream that he doesn't need and then you are too tired, you drown in guilt and take him for a double scoop the next day.  However, when you promise to give your husband a BJ for the past ten years and don't do it, it's any other Tuesday.  Why do women think this and what do I see it leading to in relationships?  Plus don't worry, the guy isn't some kind of sad victim in this, here's what he's doing wrong as well.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on why telling your husband how dysfunctional he and his family are doesn't turn him on! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you try to do shit your wife wants but somehow it doesn't count because you were supposed to want it too, but the stuff you want (like sex) she does for YOU, this is the podcast for you!  This is an unhealthy trend I have seen for a couple years where women tell men what to want and therefore the man can never sacrifice for the woman, which means the woman never gets to feel loved and prioritized.  Listen for more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on why telling your husband how dysfunctional he and his family are doesn't turn him on! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People frequently make the mistake of comparing how much they would see their kids after a divorce with how much they would see them in a happy marriage, or their potential sex life after divorce with what it would be in a happy marriage, or loneliness after divorce with the lack of loneliness in a happy marriage... forgetting that THEY AREN'T IN A HAPPY MARRIAGE!  In this episode, I explore what the true comparison point should be, and how to reframe it to be more rational in your decision making.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on binge eating/drinking as a coping tool! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I just discussed why men don't always want to have sex even if they are physically attracted to their wives, and one reason I mentioned was that their wives struggle with anxiety.  In this episode, I expand on why it is very hard to live with a partner with anxiety, and how males in particular can feel very frustrated by this.  I also discuss why your husband isn't to blame for your anxiety, although it is very common that women think this.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on binge eating/drinking as a coping tool! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ While looking at porn sometimes for fun together can be exciting, the majority of individuals that I see in my office are using it as an outlet because they are unhappy with their sex lives.  In this episode, I discuss the ramifications of this, why women hate it so much, how you know porn is an issue for you, and how even the most intelligent guys can get messed up and start thinking porn is like real life (especially due to the prevalence of one type).

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on binge eating/drinking as a coping tool! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I frequently see a couple that is the gender inverse of The Wife Who Wants More And Her Annoyingly Satisfied Husband (https://open.spotify.com/episode/3xoOuPI2c13qdTOcFVvME8?si=njsYMxPtRrqiqSbkOGB8bw)... except the guy wants more IN BED. I discuss the three types of people who want "more" from their marriages, whether this is emotionally or sexually, and how to figure out if the problem here is you or your relationship!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is on binge eating/drinking as a coping tool! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The Lost Daughter, on Netflix now, is a great movie that I recently watched.  In this episode, I discuss it with some SPOILERS (so watch it first if you hate spoilers) and how it can help you empathize with your younger self (if you're a mom) or with your wife (if you're a dad).  If you want to read the book too, here it is: https://amzn.to/3c5BMUf

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is whether "never go to sleep angry" is good or bad advice! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Low T, depression, not being attracted to their wife or sexual abuse history are at play with some men who don't want sex.  However, there's a whole subset of guys who have none of these issues but still want zero to do with their wives sexually.  Why?  Because men are people too and sometimes they can't screw a woman who seems to hate them, or is way anxious, or is controlling and contemptuous.  More on this "men are people" epiphany in the episode!