The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is male biology across the lifespan! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A lot of guys like to switch into multiple positions during sex and don't understand why their wives are less than enthusiastic about this.  I give you a helpful analogy to help you understand her perspective, why you may be into this type of sex, how men and women differ in their need for the "mental" piece and how this manifests differently, and how to work around this in some ways!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is male biology across the lifespan! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some people who grew up in homes with way too much fighting think that if they aren't screaming at each other, it is normal to have multiple hour "conversations" about the relationship on the regular.  It isn't.  This can be as bad for you guys as never talking. Also, if you do it in front of your kids, they are not learning anything except how to be uncomfortable and sad at home. Today we discuss the overcommunicating phenomenon, why it occurs, how to reframe it, and what to do instead.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is the narcissistic family.  I have 61 of them now so subscribe so you don't miss out.  Tomorrow's will be on MALE BIOLOGY ACROSS THE LIFESPAN!  What's good for the goose etc. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ So many guys just literally don't listen to nature and then blame their wives for being sexually or romantically nonresponsive.  Here is how to understand ovulation, menstruation, perimenopause, daytime vs nighttime, menopause, nursing, childcare, and more.  I have of course covered all this stuff in individual posts and podcasts but some dudes wanted an overview.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is the narcissistic family and its overlap with other dysfunctional families. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ! The previous podcast wasn't actually about waking up when your wife does, it was about not sitting on your ass when she is doing shit around the house to take care of the house and kids.  But when I looked at the headline, it reminded me that it's also important to discuss sleeping and waking at the same time... and some workarounds that deliver this same amount of closeness even if you are wired to sleep at different times.  People vastly underestimate the amount that together time in bed can help with closeness, and we discuss this today!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is about the narcissistic family! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The best way to have your wife think you're not a passive bump on a log is to actually do more shit. Here, I explain the intricacies of this  complex approach.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is how to be less boring to your wife. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom A Facebook group member asked when it is best to have kids switch schools. I weigh in on this and other similar topics.  As usual, this discussion telescopes out to a broader one about how to genuinely empathize with your kids and hear their concerns whether it's about a move or about any parenting decision you make!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is how to be less boring to your wife. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom Expanding on this podcast (https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/When-Your-Partner-Refuses-To-Do-Sexual-Things-That-She-Used-To-Do-With-You-Or-With-Prior-Partners-e1kjfhk), today we discuss how it's just as unreasonable for you to expect your perimenopausal wife to act as she did in college as it would be for her to assume you will work at the same job making the same money through your 80's, and other helpful analogies for men who mistakenly think that if your wife doesn't act like girls gone wild anymore then it must be because of YOU (rather than a twenty year age difference).

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is how to be less boring to your wife. For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom Why do women like projects?  I help you understand the intricacies of the female mind and you will leave this episode with new motivation to just fucking do some random ass project with your wife and reap the plentitude of rewards!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why shit goes sideways when you fix stuff around the house!  Isn't your wife supposed to love that??? For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Recently when talking to my kid, I acted judgmental about TikTok... but you may notice I'm now on TikTok.  Listen to hear this case study of how to recognize judgmental behavior, introspect about WHY you can be judgmental, and commit to being more tolerant, flexible, and kind as a model for your own children... the model you likely wish you would have had yourself!  Plus the one rule to follow if you want to quickly become less judgmental! Relatedly, follow me on TikTok!  lol  https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom And a post: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2017/01/29/grew-judgmental-household-now-hard-empathize-others/

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes, the most recent is why to stop telling your wife to get a hobby! For more discussion about these topics, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com As a follow up to my control issues in men podcast episode, here are some ways to reframe and let go of control before it destroys your marriage.  Women cannot relax enough around controlling men to be affectionate, so they withdraw, which makes the controlling man even more anxious and angry.  Learn how to get hold of your control issues to reverse this terrible cycle!