The Partnership Podcast

In this scintillating episode, join Lauren and Trey as they invite listeners into the intimate realm of their long-term partnership. Delving deep into the dynamics of Longing & Anticipation, Violating Prohibitions, Searching for Power, and Overcoming Ambivalence, this episode unveils the secrets behind their enduring passion by exploring the profound influence of Jack Morin’s Four Cornerstones of Eroticism. Lauren and Trey share their personal journey, discussing how these pillars of emotional intimacy, communication, novelty, and vulnerability have played pivotal roles in sustaining the fiery spark in their relationship. Through candid anecdotes and heartfelt conversations, they offer a raw and authentic portrayal of how they navigate the complexities of maintaining desire over the course of their partnership. Listeners will gain valuable insights into the importance of emotional connection in fostering a strong foundation for intimacy. Lauren and Trey share their communication strategies, highlighting the significance of open dialogue in understanding each other's needs and desires. The exploration of novelty brings a fresh perspective to keeping the desire (to want) alive, whether through spontaneous adventures or creative endeavors that add excitement to their shared experiences. Moreover, vulnerability takes center stage as the duo delves into the power of authenticity in the bedroom and beyond. By sharing their own vulnerable fantasies and the origins of their personal turn-ons, Lauren and Trey provide a roadmap for listeners to cultivate a deeper connection with their partners, fostering an environment of trust and acceptance. Get ready for an episode that goes beyond the surface of romance, offering practical tips and heartfelt stories that listeners can relate to. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating the exciting world of new connections, this episode promises to inspire and ignite the flames of passion in your own journey of love. If you would like to learn more about the Four Cornerstones of Eroticism, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Facts: Martial Rape was overturned in 1975 The Commonwealth of VA repealed the crime of fornication, i.e., voluntary sexual intercourse by an unmarried person, punishable under current law as a Class 4 misdemeanor in March of 2020!

After a recent sexual encounter that felt slow, nurturing, and wonderful, Lauren and Trey decided to categorize the different types of sex they have in order to help you (and enjoy some shared laughter!) This episode is a quickie, but we hope it titillates you in all the right places. These are the categories they came up with, what would you add? Slow Sex Sleepy Side Sex On-Top Sex Use the Space Sex Semi-Public Sex Selfish Sex Quick Sex Mutual Masturbation If you would like to learn more about expanding your own sexual menu, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

TW: Spanking as child abuse. They knew immediately that they could have done better. Episode 55 is a play-by-play of how a momentary problem turned into so much more. Watch or listen to hear how Lauren and Trey each take accountability for the individual roles they played in this brief conflict. Trey shares how a resiliency check-in led, by Lauren speaking the words, “Jelly-Bear,” would have helped to dismantle the entire misunderstanding BEFORE it happened. They each expound on what this soft word means to them and how it would have helped them coregulate and love one another more fully. Lauren shares an intimate memory of abuse from when she was 13-years-old; and how by demanding blind obedience, she was robbed of opportunities to practice how to disagree and argue from a place of respectful agency. She asks Trey if they can renegotiate this traumatic memory through play this week and he enthusiastically agrees. They both discuss how, at times, forging new neural pathways can feel like tremendous work and the temptation to throw in the towel can be HUGE, but they end this episode encouraged by the ways they each are growing THROUGH these challenging opportunities. If you would like to learn more about navigating conflict in your partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Episode 54 is a follow-up to Episode 53! Make sure you listen to that HERE. Trey and Lauren dive right into the concept of anxiety as a form of sexual arousal. This is directly connected to Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation: ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT. Lauren talks about how it turns her on to have sex when other people are somewhere in the house. Trey surprises her by sharing that the spicy sexual encounters they have in public spaces are because SHE is aroused by the sneakiness, NOT because it is enticing to him. This shocks her and is precisely why we should have these conversations with our partners! Trey explores the sexual benefits of creating a life that allows him the freedom and space to be turned on. He expounds on why he has eliminated porn this week to allow more space for sexual arousal. Lauren smiles, and at minute 9:58 says her favorite phrase, “We turn ourselves on.” Our desire for our sexual partners has so little to do with them and so much to do with us! Trey talks about protecting Lauren’s space to come into her sexual body and Lauren segways into the concept of desirability. She shares that it’s important to cultivate a life that makes us FEEL DESIRABLE - even our friendships and the types of fun we have outside of the home affect the sex we have. She shares that she gets really turned on thinking about Trey’s choice to begin therapy and the meditation practices he makes time for daily. At minute 16:15 they unpack their game changing practice of Nightly Check-Ins that includes just two simple questions. “Any ouches today? What brought you joy today?” This modality has given them so many new tools! Lauren was never given permission to have opinions of her own, and this tool of sharing an “ouch” has given her a new and playful tool to express her own voice and thoughts. Trey wants her to share her opinions and this gives her a way to do so! No more appealing here. Watch at minute 24:00 as Trey directly addresses partners whose first instinct is to say things like, “stop being ridiculous.” He questions traditional households where men are in charge simply because of their gender. They close out Episode 54 discussing the 2023 “Peace on Earth” Christmas Card trend. Lauren shares why she feels this joke is harmful and disgusting. Trey shares how jokes like this don’t even deserve our time or opinions. If you would like to learn more about sexual turn-ons and turn-offs arousal in your partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠ Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Happy Holidays! Lauren and Trey kick off this episode with a long conversation about arousal and erections! Lauren gives a quick anatomy lesson - sharing what IS and is NOT normal for a penis in a sexual encounter! Then they accidentally stumble into a hilarious discussion about porn, film sets, and fluffers. When Trey expresses doubts that fluffers even exist, Lauren gets SO embarrassed. It’s worth the watch for sure. After normalizing different levels of “hardness” and the various things that can lead to lack of an erection, Lauren and Trey discuss the role of attraction and the wisdom of our bodies that we may sometimes be ignoring, just to get laid. Trey tells of a few sexual encounters where an erection was hard to maintain, but as he likes to say, "sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good." They discuss the critical importance of hygiene in sexual encounters and reveal Lauren’s lack of love for showering! Trey asks her if there’s anything on his body that can repel her, and Lauren admits that a scratchy 5-o’clock shadow or bad breath can be a big turn off. Trey shares that if his feelings have been hurt, his penis is not going up, after Lauren asks him if there’s anything she’s ever done to turn him off emotionally. They then explain that they do not have a transactional sexual relationship in which either of them is required to “drop trou.” Lauren rounds out the topic sharing that criticism is a major turn-off for her, because it makes her question her own comfort in her own skin. After spending the majority of the podcast discussing arousal of the penis, Lauren spends a few minutes describing what a lack of arousal can feel like in the vulva and in the body of the vulva owner. She describes the most recent time she experienced dry mouth while in a sexual relationship she should have left. They close out this episode talking the smallest bit about vaginismus and dyspareunia, but that conversation will be continued next week! If you would like to learn more about sexual arousal and response, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠ Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

On Episode 52 Lauren and Trey discuss the ways in which they are building bridges, growing their support teams, and allowing themselves to be witnessed. They ponder why people raised male tend to avoid therapeutic interventions and Lauren challenges Trey on the level of success he feels like he has attained. Do the wounds of our parents affect the way we interact with our lovers? Trey will be figuring that out soon! Lauren dissects the concept of “felt safety” and how as she and Trey grow closer they have the potential to wound one another more and more deeply. Recently, she has seen first hand how much her “ugly” triggers Trey’s childhood coping mechanisms. At minute 19:20 Lauren shares an analogy about how she feels she can see the brand new bridge they are building to one another while they traverse a temporary bridge they've built over these past few weeks. You will not want to miss the vasectomy update at minute 23:30! Trey tells the tale of bringing a "fresh" semen sample to the urologist and the hilarity that unfolded! They close out this episode with a conversation about agency of choice and the power of celebrating the little wins every day. By inviting others into their lives to speak loving truth these two are slowly building a stronger bridge back to one another. If you would like to learn more about connecting sexually or healing inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠ Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Episode 51 is a real-time look at the old and new tools Trey and Lauren are using to heal themselves and their partnership. They discuss the individual ways they are caring for their nervous systems and how they are navigating one another’s sensitivities in this season. If you would like to learn more about healing inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

In this episode, Trey and Lauren reflect on three major misunderstandings from their vacation. With transparency and vulnerability, they explore how these instances triggered deeply rooted traumas within each other, shedding light on the complexities that emerged amidst their disagreements. Amidst the turmoil, Lauren advocates for a shift in perspective, encouraging Trey to embrace curiosity during their arguments and misunderstandings. This episode delves into the emotional intricacies of their relationship, offering listeners a poignant glimpse into the challenges of navigating conflict and healing wounds in real time. Tune in to witness an unfiltered dialogue as Trey and Lauren traverse the nuances of their journey, seeking understanding, growth, and connection in the face of adversity. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Episode 49 is all about travel post-blow-up and the guardrails Trey and Lauren are putting into place to support themselves and one another. They detail the ways in which this recent trip to NYC majorly differed from past adventures - specifically their new “ouch” check-ins and taking accountability for themselves first! If you listen till the end you’ll catch a hilarious story of train bathroom intimacy and how obstacles can be titillating or terrifying. If you would like to learn more about guardrails like this inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠ Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

They are finding their way back to each other - gently, slowly, and tenderly. This episode is full of the tools they are using and the insight they have sought from outside sources. At minute 10:28 Trey shares how their joint Human Design reading with Andie Thueson provided wisdom they were craving! Click here to book your own: https://andiethueson.as.me/schedule.php Lauren explains how needed this reading was for her and they both share their biggest takeaways and how they are using them in this time of healing. Lauren talks about their Anniversary Dinner and how she felt hopeful for the first time. The new information they’d taken in gave them new things to discuss and it was healing. Trey shares how Lauren hadn’t even felt safe to be naked in front of him and at minute 29:45 Lauren describes the Sensate Focus work they used to learn one another’s bodies in new ways. This exercise allowed trust to be rebuilt patiently. At minute 32:00 Lauren gets firey as she explains how she remained an ally to herself throughout this hard time - NEVER granting access to body without feeling safe and secure. She expands on Sensate Focus and how Dr Betty Martin’s tools gave her words to ask for what she needed, wanted, and desired. Trey describes their joint coaching session and the new routines they’re implementing to allow them both to check-in daily. Lauren gets giddy as she talks about all they learned through archetypes! Trey describes the “Good Boy” he turns into and how it leads Lauren to feel like a princess in a tower. At minute 41:00 they discuss the tool they learned of “gathering our council.” And Trey challenges men to not be “such a grumpy mother f*cker” and embrace childhood wounds. Trey says this is work he GETS to do - not that he HAS to do. Trey expresses his gratitude for the blow-up and Lauren shares how the outside insight has given her hope. At minute 47:00 Lauren asks if this experience has pushed them forward and Trey answers that Lauren feels more sacred to him now. If you would like to learn more about healing and coming back to each other in partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠