Sex and the Psyche

A candid discussion erupts as Andy seeks to shift from a passive role in the bedroom to a more assertive presence. The hosts tackle the fear of appearing toxic when expressing sexual needs and emphasize that advocating for oneself can actually foster respect and trust. They introduce practical tips for enhancing communication through both verbal and nonverbal cues. As they explore ways to create intimacy, the conversation underscores how vulnerability can deepen connections, turning the dynamics of relationships into collaborative experiences.

Guests, Rocky and Monica, discuss long-term marriage (35 years +) and navigating waning desire and grief/loss. Both guests have been married over 35 years, and struggle with being the sandwich generation and feeling very full taking care of their own children as well as elder parents. Jenni and Daniel discuss key aphrodisiacs for long-term relationships and how to let go of the social narrative that we can only connect when there is excitement. They offer creative ways to connect as we age and our genitals and sexual functioning may not work they way it used to; and how to connect in times of grief and/or exhaustion.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's guest, Kim Kaplan, Producer of SATP, asks her own listener question about what makes good sex. After after experiencing a surprising, spontaneous afternoon delight with her husband, Dr. Jenni and Daniel discuss the ingredients that make up good sex, how lingerie is so subjective, and XXX. Kim learns how her secret to success is not to take herself so seriously. Vulnerability is sexy! Daniel demonstrates how the higher desire partner functions and thinks; while Jenni offers insight into the lower desire partner. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Co-host Kim Kaplan transitions to Producer of the Year as Dr. Jenni and husband Daniel take off with season one of Sex and the Psyche. Daniel and Jenni are not just clinical sex therapists, they are married. They take listeners behind the scenes of sex and relationship therapy- diving deeper than just the mechanics of sex, but also exploring why we have and don't have sex. For years they process client cases, and now listeners get to hear those conversations to understand how we work as humans. Sex is the most vulnerable and naked place we go both physcially and emotionally. Daniel and Jenni explain how Season one will help listeners how to optimize their relationships and sex lives by understanding the psychological dynamics underneath. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A guest explores navigating differing sexual desires with her husband, seeking fulfillment instead of feeling like it’s a chore. The hosts explain asynchronous arousal and offer tips for inviting connection without obligation. They discuss playful refusals and the importance of giving advance notice, allowing the lower-desire partner to prepare for intimacy. Mindset is crucial, as they contrast viewing sex as an obligation versus a generous gift. Practical tactics like flirting and communication are highlighted to enhance mutual satisfaction.

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.  As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kim and Dr. Jenni bring Jenni's sex therapist husband, Daniel back into the conversation to discuss the issues that most affect men. We learn more about his treatment methods and why it's so important for men to have a safe space to discuss these issues and how it benefits them and their relationships. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Hollie Neujahr, the owner of N2 Physical Therapy, is a pelvic floor rehabilitation expert with a DPT from Duke. She discusses the intricacies of pelvic floor pain, including conditions like vulvodynia and vaginismus, and how they affect sexual health. Hollie explains the importance of pelvic physical therapy, touching on the roles of consent and trust in treatment. The conversation highlights how chronic pain is influenced by both physiological and psychosocial factors, as well as the need for multidisciplinary care for enhanced recovery.

Julie Sondra Decker is the author of the book The Invisible Orientation, and is a strong advocate for the asexual community since 1998. In this episode, Dr. Jenni and Kim have an in depth and personal conversation about Asexuality, the myths, the truths, and some eye opening revelations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this weeks episode, Dr. Jeni and Kim talk to Dr. Craig Heacock, an adolescent and adult psychiatrist and addiction specialist in Colorado who hosts the psychiatric storytelling podcast “Back from the Abyss.” (He is a co-therapist in the Phase 3 trial of MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD and has particular interest in the use of psychedelics to treat severe mood disorders and PTSD. In this conversation, we talk about psychiatric drugs and their effect on our sex drive. We also learn about Kim’s struggle with bi-polar, and get a glimpse of her story.   Find Dr. Heacocks podcast here https://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/ Kim’s blog 31-50 - https://31to50.blogspot.com/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.