Sex and the Psyche S3E5: The Irony Of Sexual Selfishness
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Oct 9, 2025 A candid discussion erupts as Andy seeks to shift from a passive role in the bedroom to a more assertive presence. The hosts tackle the fear of appearing toxic when expressing sexual needs and emphasize that advocating for oneself can actually foster respect and trust. They introduce practical tips for enhancing communication through both verbal and nonverbal cues. As they explore ways to create intimacy, the conversation underscores how vulnerability can deepen connections, turning the dynamics of relationships into collaborative experiences.
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Practice Speaking Needs Daily
- Actively practice speaking your sexual needs using small, repeated exercises to build somatic belief.
- Start with safe, low-stakes moments and 'act as if' until it feels natural in the bedroom.
Asking Isn't Disempowering Your Partner
- Asking for sexual needs can feel like implying your partner is weak, which creates overcorrection toward silence.
- Advocating for your needs actually trusts your partner's strength to hold your voice, not steamroll them.
Use 'Act As If' To Build Confidence
- Use 'act as if' exercises (accept compliments, rehearse scripts) to shift intellectual knowing into bodily belief.
- Repeat brief practices daily to increase the percentage you can actually receive and express in the moment.