Dom Sub Devotion

Most men think dominance means force. They bark orders, tighten control, or push until she submits. But that kind of control only creates compliance, not devotion.    In this episode of Dom Sub Devotion, I share why true dominance doesn’t come from pressure or intimidation, but from presence. Your ability to be steady, grounded, and unshakable in yourself.   Over the course of this hour, you’ll learn:  • Why force erodes trust while presence builds it.  • How to become a man whose energy shapes the room before he speaks.  • The role of consistency in dissolving her fear and resistance over time.  • Daily practices to cultivate presence—breath, stillness, clarity, intention.  • How presence transforms erotic power exchange and deepens submission.   Presence is harder than force, because it’s not something you can fake. It’s not a trick you pull out in a scene or an argument. Presence is who you are in every moment—at the dinner table, in conflict, in the bedroom, and beyond. And when you embody it consistently, it becomes the gravitational pull that she naturally yields to.   Key Quote from the Episode:    “Force can win a moment. Presence can win a lifetime.”   Listen now to learn how to build the kind of dominance that doesn’t have to demand, because it compels devotion on its own.    ⸻   Resources & Next Steps    If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:  • Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture  • Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man  • Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic  • OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://onlyfans.com/dawnofdesire   ⸻   Stay Connected   • Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.  • Join our email list for updates and new episodes: https://infinitedevotion.com  • Follow us on Instagram: @_infinitedevotion.

Dawn rejoins Andrew to celebrate 100 Episodes!    Two years ago we launched this podcast with a simple vision: to share our real life as a Dom/sub couple beyond the limitations of short captions and quick clips on social media.    Week after week, we’ve opened our lives, our marriage, and our devotion. Today, Episode 100 is a celebration, and a reintroduction.   In this conversation, we revisit the heart of Infinite Devotion:  • Who we are as a couple, and how our 24/7 D/s dynamic has shaped us.  • What we stand for: truth, freedom, authenticity, and devotion.  • Why we share our life so openly, from this podcast to social media to OnlyFans.  • Why devotion and long-term commitment are essential to the depth we’ve built.  • How D/s has been a path to growth, courage, honesty, and sexual liberation.  • Why we’re not here to give you a rulebook, but to show you how we live, so you can find your own path.   We also reflect on what’s changed since those first clunky recordings — the growth, the lessons, and the willingness to keep showing up every week.   This is not a “how-to” podcast.  We’re not here to tell you how to live D/s. We’re here to show you how we live it — and what’s possible when you combine devotion, erotic expression, and unconditional love inside a long-term, committed relationship.   ⸻   In This Episode You’ll Learn:   • Why authenticity matters more than rules or labels in D/s.  • The difference between devotion and codependency.  • How to recognize when fear and shame are blocking your freedom.  • Why triggers are often pointers toward the very desires we need to claim.  • How kink and everyday life can be integrated, not separated.   ⸻   Resources & Next Steps    If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:  • Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture  • Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man  • Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic  • OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://onlyfans.com/dawnofdesire   ⸻   Stay Connected   • Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.  • Join our email list for updates and new episodes: https://infinitedevotion.com  • Follow us on Instagram: @_infinitedevotion.

Fear is the single most corrosive force in any Dominant/submissive dynamic. It distorts truth, poisons consent, and quietly turns devotion into performance or control. In this episode, I break down how fear shows up for both Dominants and submissives, how even fears outside the relationship bleed into your dynamic, and why no amount of technique or protocol can save a power exchange that’s built on fear.   We’ll look at:  • The subtle ways fear masquerades as love, responsibility, or boundaries  • How fear-based leadership robs your partner of agency  • How fear-based submission leads to performance, collapse, and resentment  • Why fear from outside the relationship (money, family, social pressure) still disrupts connection and polarity  • Why consent cannot survive in the presence of fear  • How to shift from fear to truth, both individually and together   If you want to create a D/s relationship that’s rooted in freedom, devotion, and truth, not fear, this episode is for you.   ⸻   Links & Resources:   • Learn more about Rapture, my in-depth course on devotional Dominance and submission: infinitedevotion.com/rapture  • Listen to more episodes and find our free resources and other courses for Dominants, submissives, and couples at infinitedevotion.com ~~~

Most people are living by rules they never wrote. Rules about what love should look like. Rules about what makes you a “good person.” Rules about success, morality, sex, and identity. Most of those rules were handed to you by someone else. Parents. Culture. Religion. People who didn’t even live by those rules themselves. But you’ve built your life on them without ever asking if they’re actually yours. That’s what this conversation is about: questioning everything. Not to rebel. Not to burn your life down just to prove a point. But to live in truth. Because if a belief is real, questioning it only makes it stronger. And if it’s not real, you’ve just uncovered a cage you didn’t know you were in. Either way, you win. In this episode, I share: • How to tell the difference between truth and programming. • Why most people avoid questioning beliefs (and why that avoidance costs more than you think). • The 3 questions that will help you break free from rules that aren’t yours. • How unexamined beliefs sabotage love, intimacy, and power exchange. • Why freedom in your inner world will inevitably change your outer world , and why that’s a good thing. This isn’t theory for me. I’ve lived it in my marriage, in my leadership, in my faith, in my business. Questioning the rules has cost me comfort, image, and entire communities… but it’s given me something much more important: a life that’s actually mine. If you’ve ever felt like you were playing a role, performing for approval, or building a life that looks good but doesn’t feel right, this episode will hit home. For more on how I support people in coming home to living a life that's their own, and how that helps you connect in D/s dynamics and deeply polarized relationships, check out https://infinitedevotion.com/store  

Every man says he wants a woman who’s wild. Every woman says she wants to feel free. But the truth? Almost nobody is ready for what that actually means.   In this episode, we’re going deep into the raw, unfiltered truth about freedom and desire in relationships. Why women are cut off from their true wanting, why men unconsciously sabotage it, and what it actually costs to live a life of freedom instead of fear.   If you’ve ever wondered why passion fades… why sex feels like obligation instead of obsession… why you feel like you’re rationing your own aliveness just to keep the peace, this conversation will show you why.   Here’s what we cover:   • What genuine desire actually is (and what it’s not)  • Why most women have been conditioned to starve their own hunger  • How men secretly fear the very freedom they say they want  • The ancient wound that drives control and kills polarity  • Why freedom is terrifying and why it’s worth everything it costs  • The two paths every couple has to choose between: the cage or the fire   This is not a quick fix. It’s not a conversation for the faint of heart. But if you’re ready for the truth about what makes relationships feel alive and why most people never experience it you’re in the right place.   Links & Resources:   • Follow us on Instagram for daily conversations  • Learn more about our course Rapture → infinitedevotion.com/rapture  • Check out Andrew’s flagship course: Becoming A Dominant Man - which will teach you how to become a man who can lead your woman to freedom and own the inner Dominance to hold all of her wildness. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man  

Last week, Dawn and I opened up a side of our relationship we’ve kept private for years—and the response was overwhelming. After announcing Dawn’s OnlyFans and that we were sharing the intimate side of our dynamic publicly for those who wanted to witness it, we received incredible encouragement, some honest questions, and a little judgment.  In this episode, I reflect on what this experience has taught me about risk, freedom, love, and masculinity. I share the first email we received just two minutes after our announcement, why 98% of the feedback was positive, and what the 2% of negative responses reveal about illusion, expectation, and control. We’ll talk about:    • Why listening to the body’s wisdom is the foundation of every big decision   • The question that sparked a conversation about masculinity and freedom  Why defending Dawn's freedom isn’t passive—it’s the deepest form of devotion   What men had to say about this decision that might surprise you   • Why almost 80% of our initial OnlyFans subscribers were women—and what that means   • How projection, judgment, and control destroy intimacy    Whether you agree with our choices or not, this episode isn’t about convincing you. It’s about showing what’s possible when you stop living for approval and start living in truth.   ⸻   Links & Mentions:   • Listen to last week’s episode with Dawn for the full backstory  • Connect with us on Instagram @_infinitedevotion  • See inside the spicy side of our D/s dynamic at https://dawnofdesire.net  • Explore resources for building deeper intimacy and freedom in your relationship at  https://infinitedevotion.com  

Hi friends - Dawn here. My official, albeit temporary, return to the mic is probably going to shock some of you. When I stepped away six months ago, I was in the midst of a personal transformation. This season of silence was in support of a homecoming of sorts for me.   A full blown sexual spiritual awakening that we weren’t yet ready to share. Now we are. This episode will give you a lot more context, but as of today, I am ready to officially let everyone know that I'm on OnlyFans creating adult content, and I'm beyond excited to share this side of myself with you. I’m creating some of this content on my own, some with Sir. Not as a performance, but as an example of what true sexual freedom can look like inside of a relationship of 16 years. We know that not all of you want to engage with this part of what we're doing now, and that's okay. Infinite Devotion will remain the place where we share about our relationship and our dynamic. But we couldn't keep this part secret anymore. It's too big of a part of who we both are.    So for those of you who want to join us and see into the spicier side of me, and our dynamic, you can see for yourself at https://dawnofdesire.net   ~~~ This episode goes into a lot of detail around what this has all been for me, and I truly hope you'll listen. I've also written a letter to our followers and listeners that you can read here, for even more of the full story of what's led Sir and I to this place.    You can read that letter here: https://infinitedevotion.com/blog/dawn-of-desire Love, Dawn

In this special episode, Dawn returns to the podcast for the first time in six months to answer your questions—raw, real, and unscripted.   We’re in the middle of launching the Rapture Self-Study Course, and this Q&A episode is the perfect companion. It’s an honest look at what life really looks like inside a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic—one rooted in love, truth, and personal transformation.   If you’re newer to the show, this is a powerful reintroduction to Dawn and her journey. And if you’ve been with us from the beginning, this episode will feel like coming home.   ⸻   In this episode, we explore:   💬 Does her collar get hot in the sun? 💬 What happens to submission when you don’t want to do what he says? 💬 Will we still be living this dynamic at 75? 💬 What role does Dawn play in choosing her clothes, makeup, and appearance? 💬 How do we talk to family and kids about our D/s lifestyle? 💬 How has surrender changed Dawn’s body and her relationship to food, fitness, and control? 💬 What’s the line between expressing desire and topping from the bottom? 💬 What’s the most liberating part of submission? 💬 How do you deal with jealousy inside a power exchange relationship? 💬 How long did it take Dawn to “break her ego”? 💬 And yes… someone asks if she likes BBC or white guys (we answer that too).   ⸻   Highlights & Quotes: 🌀 “The longer I’ve been in submission, the more me I’ve become.” 🌀 “Submission isn’t about getting your way. It’s about giving up the need to.” 🌀 “My ego didn’t break. It just became irrelevant.” 🌀 “Being right is a poor man’s version of self-worth.” 🌀 “I want to be a horny, kinky, radiant 75-year-old woman.” 🌀 “You can’t sprinkle kink on a regular relationship and expect it to transform you. It has to become who you are.”   ⸻   Whether you’re in a D/s relationship or just curious what it really looks like behind the scenes, this episode is an invitation into the deeper truths that make power exchange both erotic and transformative.   Next week, we’re diving into the real reason Dawn stepped away from the podcast—and what’s coming next. It’s a big one. Don’t miss it.   —   🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. 🖤 Learn more or join Rapture at infinitedevotion.com/rapture 📲 Follow us on Instagram @infinitedevotion 💌 Got a question for a future Q&A? Drop it in our DMs or on our stories.

What if dominance and submission weren’t just a game, a kink, or a performance… but the structure that could reshape your life, your love, and your entire sense of self?   In this episode, I share the truth behind what we now call Devotional Dominance and submission as the lived, daily reality of our marriage. I talk about the mistakes we made early on, the illusions that had to die, and the exact ways D/s became our path to deeper intimacy, spiritual growth, and erotic freedom.   You’ll hear:  • Why most D/s dynamics collapse outside the bedroom, and how to prevent it  • How structure, love, and sovereignty actually work together  • The 5 subtle patterns that slowly destroy D/s dynamics from within  • Why performance, pleasing, and control are not submission or leadership  • The personal story of how Dawn and I almost destroyed everything and what saved us  • How real transformation requires letting the dynamic remake you    If you’ve ever struggled with living this lifestyle for real… if you crave depth, polarity, erotic honesty, and intimacy that lasts—you’ll find a mirror here.   And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’ve created something powerful.   Rapture is the most complete, embodied journey we’ve ever created. It’s for couples and individuals who want to live this devotion in real life…without the guesswork, the shame, or the endless pattern of collapse and confusion. It includes 6 transformative modules, over 20 hours of teaching, lifetime access to live Q&As, and a path back to truth. Learn more at infinitedevotion.com/rapture.   ⸻   Connect with us:  Website: https://infinitedevotion.com Instagram: @_infinitedevotion Questions? Message Andrew directly on Instagram.

In this special live-recorded Q&A episode, Andrew answers your most pressing questions about living a 24/7 D/s lifestyle with honesty, depth, and clarity.   This one is packed. It’s not scripted. It’s not curated. Just Andrew, live on Instagram, answering real questions from real people about dominance, submission, inner work, kink, emotional safety, and what it actually looks like to live a power exchange lifestyle in the real world.   Whether you’re new to the dynamic or deep in it already, this episode will help you reflect on what matters most: trust, leadership, inner strength, and truth.   ⸻   💬 Questions Andrew answers in this episode include:    • “Why does it feel like a cop-out when men blame women for being unsafe to masculine expression?”  • “How do I know if a man’s relationship with his inner child is healthy?”  • “How long did you research D/s before bringing it to Dawn?”  • “How do you integrate your dynamic while living full-time on the road?”  • “Why did you add an O-ring to Dawn’s collar?”  • “How can I get my husband to Dom me harder? He’s too soft.”  • “Do you get tired of being around each other all the time in the RV?”  • “How do you deal with judgment or criticism online?”  • “Any recommendations for healing inner child wounds?”  • “How do you navigate a dynamic when the Dom has a dismissive avoidant attachment style?”  • “Can I be submissive if I earn more money or have more assets than my partner?”  • “What do you do when Dawn is sick?”  • “Do you take breaks from the dynamic to recharge?”  • “How do you make and maintain friendships while in a BDSM relationship?”  • “Does Dawn call you ‘Sir’ in front of others?”  • “What’s in your contract beyond rules and tasks?”  • “Why don’t you use punishment in your dynamic?”  • “What should a Dom do if he gets ‘too excited’ during a scene and crosses a line?”    ⸻   🧭 Topics also explored:    • The real difference between childishness and inner child wounding • What to do when one partner initiates D/s but the other isn’t fully in it yet • The line between submission and self-abandonment • Embodied leadership vs. performative dominance • Living the dynamic through life’s challenges—not just in the bedroom • Why presence, containment, and self-control are non-negotiable traits for a Dominant • How integrating D/s into everyday life (even when someone is sick or stressed) is what makes it sustainable and fulfilling   ⸻   📍 Mentions + Resources:    • Becoming a Dominant Man – Course for men ready to lead from inner strength • The Self-Respecting Submissive Woman – Free guide • EMDR therapy, Hypnotherapy, and the book How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera   ⸻   📲 Subscribe & Share    If this episode hit home, send it to a friend, your partner, or someone who needs to hear real talk on power exchange. Follow us on Instagram @infinitedevotion and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube for weekly episodes.   — 🔥 The DOM SUB DEVOTION Podcast: For those who crave love, power, surrender, and truth—without performance or pretense.   ~~~   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man   Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else’s contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store   Free Resources:    FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman