Dom Sub Devotion

Every man says he wants a woman who’s wild. Every woman says she wants to feel free. But the truth? Almost nobody is ready for what that actually means.   In this episode, we’re going deep into the raw, unfiltered truth about freedom and desire in relationships. Why women are cut off from their true wanting, why men unconsciously sabotage it, and what it actually costs to live a life of freedom instead of fear.   If you’ve ever wondered why passion fades… why sex feels like obligation instead of obsession… why you feel like you’re rationing your own aliveness just to keep the peace, this conversation will show you why.   Here’s what we cover:   • What genuine desire actually is (and what it’s not)  • Why most women have been conditioned to starve their own hunger  • How men secretly fear the very freedom they say they want  • The ancient wound that drives control and kills polarity  • Why freedom is terrifying and why it’s worth everything it costs  • The two paths every couple has to choose between: the cage or the fire   This is not a quick fix. It’s not a conversation for the faint of heart. But if you’re ready for the truth about what makes relationships feel alive and why most people never experience it you’re in the right place.   Links & Resources:   • Follow us on Instagram for daily conversations  • Learn more about our course Rapture → infinitedevotion.com/rapture  • Check out Andrew’s flagship course: Becoming A Dominant Man - which will teach you how to become a man who can lead your woman to freedom and own the inner Dominance to hold all of her wildness. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man  

Last week, Dawn and I opened up a side of our relationship we’ve kept private for years—and the response was overwhelming. After announcing Dawn’s OnlyFans and that we were sharing the intimate side of our dynamic publicly for those who wanted to witness it, we received incredible encouragement, some honest questions, and a little judgment.  In this episode, I reflect on what this experience has taught me about risk, freedom, love, and masculinity. I share the first email we received just two minutes after our announcement, why 98% of the feedback was positive, and what the 2% of negative responses reveal about illusion, expectation, and control. We’ll talk about:    • Why listening to the body’s wisdom is the foundation of every big decision   • The question that sparked a conversation about masculinity and freedom  Why defending Dawn's freedom isn’t passive—it’s the deepest form of devotion   What men had to say about this decision that might surprise you   • Why almost 80% of our initial OnlyFans subscribers were women—and what that means   • How projection, judgment, and control destroy intimacy    Whether you agree with our choices or not, this episode isn’t about convincing you. It’s about showing what’s possible when you stop living for approval and start living in truth.   ⸻   Links & Mentions:   • Listen to last week’s episode with Dawn for the full backstory  • Connect with us on Instagram @_infinitedevotion  • See inside the spicy side of our D/s dynamic at https://dawnofdesire.net  • Explore resources for building deeper intimacy and freedom in your relationship at  https://infinitedevotion.com  

Hi friends - Dawn here. My official, albeit temporary, return to the mic is probably going to shock some of you. When I stepped away six months ago, I was in the midst of a personal transformation. This season of silence was in support of a homecoming of sorts for me.   A full blown sexual spiritual awakening that we weren’t yet ready to share. Now we are. This episode will give you a lot more context, but as of today, I am ready to officially let everyone know that I'm on OnlyFans creating adult content, and I'm beyond excited to share this side of myself with you. I’m creating some of this content on my own, some with Sir. Not as a performance, but as an example of what true sexual freedom can look like inside of a relationship of 16 years. We know that not all of you want to engage with this part of what we're doing now, and that's okay. Infinite Devotion will remain the place where we share about our relationship and our dynamic. But we couldn't keep this part secret anymore. It's too big of a part of who we both are.    So for those of you who want to join us and see into the spicier side of me, and our dynamic, you can see for yourself at https://dawnofdesire.net   ~~~ This episode goes into a lot of detail around what this has all been for me, and I truly hope you'll listen. I've also written a letter to our followers and listeners that you can read here, for even more of the full story of what's led Sir and I to this place.    You can read that letter here: https://infinitedevotion.com/blog/dawn-of-desire Love, Dawn

In this special episode, Dawn returns to the podcast for the first time in six months to answer your questions—raw, real, and unscripted.   We’re in the middle of launching the Rapture Self-Study Course, and this Q&A episode is the perfect companion. It’s an honest look at what life really looks like inside a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic—one rooted in love, truth, and personal transformation.   If you’re newer to the show, this is a powerful reintroduction to Dawn and her journey. And if you’ve been with us from the beginning, this episode will feel like coming home.   ⸻   In this episode, we explore:   💬 Does her collar get hot in the sun? 💬 What happens to submission when you don’t want to do what he says? 💬 Will we still be living this dynamic at 75? 💬 What role does Dawn play in choosing her clothes, makeup, and appearance? 💬 How do we talk to family and kids about our D/s lifestyle? 💬 How has surrender changed Dawn’s body and her relationship to food, fitness, and control? 💬 What’s the line between expressing desire and topping from the bottom? 💬 What’s the most liberating part of submission? 💬 How do you deal with jealousy inside a power exchange relationship? 💬 How long did it take Dawn to “break her ego”? 💬 And yes… someone asks if she likes BBC or white guys (we answer that too).   ⸻   Highlights & Quotes: 🌀 “The longer I’ve been in submission, the more me I’ve become.” 🌀 “Submission isn’t about getting your way. It’s about giving up the need to.” 🌀 “My ego didn’t break. It just became irrelevant.” 🌀 “Being right is a poor man’s version of self-worth.” 🌀 “I want to be a horny, kinky, radiant 75-year-old woman.” 🌀 “You can’t sprinkle kink on a regular relationship and expect it to transform you. It has to become who you are.”   ⸻   Whether you’re in a D/s relationship or just curious what it really looks like behind the scenes, this episode is an invitation into the deeper truths that make power exchange both erotic and transformative.   Next week, we’re diving into the real reason Dawn stepped away from the podcast—and what’s coming next. It’s a big one. Don’t miss it.   —   🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. 🖤 Learn more or join Rapture at infinitedevotion.com/rapture 📲 Follow us on Instagram @infinitedevotion 💌 Got a question for a future Q&A? Drop it in our DMs or on our stories.

What if dominance and submission weren’t just a game, a kink, or a performance… but the structure that could reshape your life, your love, and your entire sense of self?   In this episode, I share the truth behind what we now call Devotional Dominance and submission as the lived, daily reality of our marriage. I talk about the mistakes we made early on, the illusions that had to die, and the exact ways D/s became our path to deeper intimacy, spiritual growth, and erotic freedom.   You’ll hear:  • Why most D/s dynamics collapse outside the bedroom, and how to prevent it  • How structure, love, and sovereignty actually work together  • The 5 subtle patterns that slowly destroy D/s dynamics from within  • Why performance, pleasing, and control are not submission or leadership  • The personal story of how Dawn and I almost destroyed everything and what saved us  • How real transformation requires letting the dynamic remake you    If you’ve ever struggled with living this lifestyle for real… if you crave depth, polarity, erotic honesty, and intimacy that lasts—you’ll find a mirror here.   And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’ve created something powerful.   Rapture is the most complete, embodied journey we’ve ever created. It’s for couples and individuals who want to live this devotion in real life…without the guesswork, the shame, or the endless pattern of collapse and confusion. It includes 6 transformative modules, over 20 hours of teaching, lifetime access to live Q&As, and a path back to truth. Learn more at infinitedevotion.com/rapture.   ⸻   Connect with us:  Website: https://infinitedevotion.com Instagram: @_infinitedevotion Questions? Message Andrew directly on Instagram.

In this special live-recorded Q&A episode, Andrew answers your most pressing questions about living a 24/7 D/s lifestyle with honesty, depth, and clarity.   This one is packed. It’s not scripted. It’s not curated. Just Andrew, live on Instagram, answering real questions from real people about dominance, submission, inner work, kink, emotional safety, and what it actually looks like to live a power exchange lifestyle in the real world.   Whether you’re new to the dynamic or deep in it already, this episode will help you reflect on what matters most: trust, leadership, inner strength, and truth.   ⸻   💬 Questions Andrew answers in this episode include:    • “Why does it feel like a cop-out when men blame women for being unsafe to masculine expression?”  • “How do I know if a man’s relationship with his inner child is healthy?”  • “How long did you research D/s before bringing it to Dawn?”  • “How do you integrate your dynamic while living full-time on the road?”  • “Why did you add an O-ring to Dawn’s collar?”  • “How can I get my husband to Dom me harder? He’s too soft.”  • “Do you get tired of being around each other all the time in the RV?”  • “How do you deal with judgment or criticism online?”  • “Any recommendations for healing inner child wounds?”  • “How do you navigate a dynamic when the Dom has a dismissive avoidant attachment style?”  • “Can I be submissive if I earn more money or have more assets than my partner?”  • “What do you do when Dawn is sick?”  • “Do you take breaks from the dynamic to recharge?”  • “How do you make and maintain friendships while in a BDSM relationship?”  • “Does Dawn call you ‘Sir’ in front of others?”  • “What’s in your contract beyond rules and tasks?”  • “Why don’t you use punishment in your dynamic?”  • “What should a Dom do if he gets ‘too excited’ during a scene and crosses a line?”    ⸻   🧭 Topics also explored:    • The real difference between childishness and inner child wounding • What to do when one partner initiates D/s but the other isn’t fully in it yet • The line between submission and self-abandonment • Embodied leadership vs. performative dominance • Living the dynamic through life’s challenges—not just in the bedroom • Why presence, containment, and self-control are non-negotiable traits for a Dominant • How integrating D/s into everyday life (even when someone is sick or stressed) is what makes it sustainable and fulfilling   ⸻   📍 Mentions + Resources:    • Becoming a Dominant Man – Course for men ready to lead from inner strength • The Self-Respecting Submissive Woman – Free guide • EMDR therapy, Hypnotherapy, and the book How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera   ⸻   📲 Subscribe & Share    If this episode hit home, send it to a friend, your partner, or someone who needs to hear real talk on power exchange. Follow us on Instagram @infinitedevotion and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube for weekly episodes.   — 🔥 The DOM SUB DEVOTION Podcast: For those who crave love, power, surrender, and truth—without performance or pretense.   ~~~   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man   Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else’s contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store   Free Resources:    FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman  

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most avoided and most essential parts of any real power exchange dynamic: disagreement.   Most people think that if a D/s relationship is strong enough, aligned enough, or deeply polarized enough, there shouldn’t be any disagreement. But that belief is exactly what causes most dynamics to slowly collapse under the weight of silence, resentment, or performance.   The big point in this episode is this:  Disagreement isn’t failure, it’s feedback.    And how you handle it will define whether your dynamic works over the long run, or eventually collapses.   In this episode, I share how Dawn and I have navigated this exact terrain in our 24/7 D/s marriage.    This is something that my wife and submissive, Dawn, and I have navigated over the last 6+ years in a 24/7 D/s dynamic. And we’ve learned that disagreement, when handled with integrity, doesn’t weaken the dynamic—it strengthens it.   Here’s what I get into:  • Why real Authority doesn’t fear resistance—it’s built to hold it  • What happens when you suppress your submissive’s truth instead of integrating it  • How we use our Realignment Protocol to repair conflict without collapsing polarity  • The hidden cost of fake agreement and performance-based submission  • What a Dominant needs to do in the moment she says “no”  • And how structure either becomes a prison, or the very thing that allows her to melt     I also get personal about how I used to handle these moments—reactively, with force or logic—and how everything changed when I learned to pause, listen to the signal underneath Dawn’s voice, and lead from presence rather than control.   Whether you’re deep into a 24/7 dynamic or just beginning to play with power exchange, this episode will give you the tools to stop fearing tension and start using it to strengthen your connection, your sex, and your trust.   ⸻   Reflection questions to take into your relationship:   • What helps you feel safest to speak your truth, even when it’s hard?   • What helps you trust your partner to lead or follow, especially in moments of disagreement?    ⸻   Thanks for listening and being part of this movement to bring humanity and truth into Dominance and submission. If this episode hit home, leave a review, share it with a partner, or head to infinitedevotion.com to go deeper.   And remember: The strongest dynamics aren’t the ones with the least tension. They’re the ones with the most trust.  ~~~   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man   Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else’s contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store   Free Resources:    FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman      

Episode 90 — Why Women Don’t Find Dominant Masculine Men  This is the sister episode to Episode 88 (“Why Submissives Resist”). But this time, it’s not for the men—it’s for you, the women who messaged me by the hundreds after that episode. Women who cried, who remembered, who finally felt seen. Women who said: “This is what I’ve been craving.”  In this episode, I’m speaking directly to you. You say you want a Dominant man. You ache to surrender. You long to be led. But do you actually want to let go of control? Do you know the difference between craving submission and living it? This episode is not here to coddle you. It’s here to hold up the mirror—to call you back to yourself, and to the sacred edge where true submission begins. We’ll talk about projection, ego traps, feminine control patterns, somatic trust, and the death of performance-based submission. I’ll show you what it really takes to embody a life of devotion—and why that Dominant man you long for can’t lead you until you actually choose to follow.   This one is raw, deep, and likely confronting. But if you let it in, it could change everything.   ⸻   💡 Key Themes Covered:   • Why longing is not the same as readiness  • How projection and blame block real surrender  • The subtle ways women unconsciously kill leadership  • The difference between safety and comfort  • Why trust begins in your own nervous system—not in his behavior  • The trap of performing submission vs. living it  • How to turn daily moments into acts of devotion  • Why the right man won’t fight you for the lead  • The terrifying and liberating truth of being reshaped by love  • How true submission starts as a practice, not a personality   ⸻   🔥 Memorable Lines:    “Crying over what you don’t have doesn’t make you ready for it.”   “You’re not submissive because you want a strong man. You’re submissive when you’re willing to meet your edge and stay open anyway.”   “Don’t ask for a dominant man to lead you if what you really mean is: lead me only in the ways I like.”   “You don’t become submissive by getting a collar. You become submissive the moment you choose to live without control.”   “Real submission isn’t obedience. It’s openness.” ~~~   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man   Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else’s contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store   Free Resources:    FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman    

 Episode 89 – Let Go of the Game: Healing Without Effort with Sven Loss    In this illuminating and soul-stirring conversation, Andrew welcomes Sven Loss—a widely respected teacher of inner freedom and truth—to explore a radical idea:   What if healing doesn’t require years of work? What if transformation is instant—if you stop trying?   This episode is a deep dive into the paradox of healing, identity, and transformation within the context of polarity, power exchange, and intimate relationships. Andrew and Sven both share their stories of awakening—not through slow self-improvement, but through moments of surrender that changed everything.   Together, they dismantle the illusion that “working on yourself” leads to wholeness and instead reveal:  • Why the effort to let go is actually a form of holding on   • How your addiction to fixing yourself is the very thing keeping you stuck  • Why deep healing often begins the moment you stop performing and trying  • How your relationship patterns are shaped by early life conditioning—and how to break the cycle  • The real reason most people don’t know what they want (and why that’s okay)  • How masculine and feminine embodiment naturally emerge when you stop pretending  • The truth about safety, leadership, and freedom inside power exchange relationships  • Why dominance begins with surrendering to truth—not performing control   This episode is especially powerful for couples navigating a D/s dynamic, polarity work, or deep inner work in partnership. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of trying to heal, be more masculine or feminine, or “get it right,” this episode will give you permission to stop… and just be.   🌀 Featured Guest:  Sven Loss is a Relationship and Transformation Coach. He helps people break free from subconscious patterns that drive their behaviour and how they show up in relationships and life. His work guides clients toward self-realisation, healthy relationship dynamics and a general sense of peace with their lives and themselves.   🖤 Links & Resources:  → Learn more at infinitedevotion.com → Follow Andrew & Dawn on Instagram: @_infinitedevotion → Connect with Sven on Instagram: @sven.loss → Connect with Sven on Instagram: https://svenloss.com     📌 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who’s ready to stop trying and start living.  ~~~   Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man   Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else’s contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic   Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations   Social Links:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion   YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion   Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion   Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store   Free Resources:    FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance   FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass   FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds   FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman      

Discover how a submissive's resistance can signal areas for growth in a dominant partner. The dynamic of dominance and submission is examined, revealing that true leadership requires self-confidence and emotional stability. Learn the difference between controlling and containing, and why a dominant's presence can inspire surrender. The discussion emphasizes accountability and personal development as key to building trust and safety in relationships. Ultimately, dominance is portrayed as a deep commitment rather than a mere vibe.