Maximize Your Influence

You could have the greatest product in the world, but if there is no trust, there is no sale. Trust can be ambiguous, but certain things are pretty clear: 1) You can’t get others to trust you unless you first trust yourself; and 2) your message will not be convincing to others unless it’s convincing to you. Whenever someone tries to influence us, in our minds, we ask ourselves, “Can I trust this person? Do I believe him? Is she concerned about me?” We are less likely to be influenced if we sense that the person trying to persuade us is driven solely by self-interest. Trust is the glue that holds the entire persuasion process together. Trust is created when you put your audience’s interests and wants before your own. Research shows that, deep down, people want to trust others. Gaining and keeping trust for both the short and long term is vital to your success as a persuader.  Do people trust you?  Are you sure?  What is the one element of trust that most people don’t have on their radar?  How to you create that instant trust from your prospect?  Join me for this week’s podcast on Increase Trust -  How Will Power Affects Character.  Discover your missing element for massive trust.

Not only do charismatics use your gestures in the right way, they also have the ability to read and interpret nonverbal gestures.  You can read people like a book and obtain the knowledge you need to adjust yourself and your presentation based on what body language you are reading.  When you can read and be aware of your body language, you can synchronize your nonverbals to create instant likeability and rapport.  You can create positive subconscious triggers.  If you don’t have control of your nonverbals, you could come across as flustered, nervous, or out of control.  Jobs That Need Peop le Skills Are The Most Recession Proof Be more aware of your body movements and nonverbal behavior.  Sure it takes some effort, but the rewards will last a lifetime.  Join me for this week’s podcast on How to Instantly Connect With Anyone:  Your First Impression – Rapport or Repel?  I will go through each body part and non-verbal so you can identify in others (and yourself) how to instantly connect with people or cause resistance.    

What makes someone successful? Why do some people achieve wealth while others don't? How can we predict who will make it big, who will barely make ends meet, and who will fail? How do we quantify the characteristics of highly successful people? Emotional Intelligence Has 12 Elements. Which Do You Need to Work On? Given that increasing your EQ is critical for your success, you need to master this skill.  Influence is on1 of the 12 areas of Emotional Intelligence.  Join me for this week’s podcast on Fine Tune Your EQ or Emotional Intelligence.  You will discover the areas that are critical for your ability to master your own emotions and reading/adapting to the emotions of others.

Imagine that there is a giant rubber band inside of you. When dissonance is present, the rubber band begins to stretch. As long as the dissonance exists, the band stretches tighter and tighter. You've got to take action before it reaches a breaking point and snaps. The motivation to reduce the tension is what causes us to change; we will do everything in our power to get back in mental balance. Sleepless And Selfish: Lack Of Sleep Makes Us Less Generous We like to feel a level of consistency in our day-to-day actions and interactions.  This harmony is the glue that holds everything together and helps us cope with the world and all the decisions we have to make. Dissonance causes us to distort our memories or remember what we want to see or how we want it to happen.  This blurs reality and allows us to cover our mistakes. Do you want your persuasion to stick?   Do you want your sales never to have buyer’s remorse?  What causes that dissonance or regret for saying yes?   Join me for this week’s podcast on Saving the Sale: Refunds, Regret, And Remorse.  You will discover the techniques used to get those sales to stick.  

Let’s talk about where negotiation fits into the world of persuasion and the difference between the two.  Persuasion occurs when your ideas are so convincing that the other party adopts your point of view.  With persuasion, there is no compromising as there is in negotiation. While persuasion is the ultimate ideal, anytime any one of us presents our ideas, the other party is often equally committed to their convictions, thus making negotiation the next best path.  When we hear the word “negotiation,” we often think of a complex deal in the business world.  However, in reality, all of us are involved in multiple negotiation processes every day. 10 Hard Bargaining Negotiation Skills What about negotiating a raise?  What if your boss is going to use those hardball negation tactics?   What do you do?  Join me for this week’s podcast Negotiating A Raise – Mistakes To Avoid.  I will focus on which tools work best, which techniques to avoid, and how to deal with those difficult mean tactics of the other side.  

Moods affect our thinking, judgment, and willingness to say yes. When the person you are trying to persuade is in a good mood, they are more likely to accept your offer. The opposite is also true. If they're not in a good mood, chances are much higher they won't bite. This is a massive advantage to you when it comes to persuasion. Great persuaders create the right mood. Leading with Humor Using humor is the fastest way to get someone in the right state.  Yes it works and yes, you can get better?   Do you get people to laugh?  How about a smile?  Join me on this week’s podcast on How Humor, Happiness, And Mood Increase Sales.  Discover how to use appropriate humor to get your prospect in the right state and easier to influence.

Do you know how long waiting times affect persuasion? Do they bave a negative or positive influence? Listen now to see how waiting is either helping or hurting your persuasion. Psychology of Waiting Lines Starbucks still has a problem with long lines Long Waiting Times Cost You Sales

Many times, when we are trying to be persuasive, we want to highlight all the perks and plusses. It's only natural. Wouldn't helping someone see the potential gains of your product or service be a good thing? Yes, but here is the issue: Your audience will buy for their own reasons and only their reasons. How managers can spark, not squelch, our motivation They don't care about why you like the product or service. They don't care how much you know about it—don’t bury them in detail. The more you spout off about features, the more your audience mentally checks out.

Do you think people are trying to flatter you into submission?  Are they using manipulation tactics and want to know how to resist.  Are you seeing signs of gaslighting and feel like they want to take advantage of you?   Let me give you the answers.  How to Spot Manipulation Tactics, gaslighting, coercion Join me for this week’s podcast on Resisting Manipulation And GasLighting – The Dark Side of Influence  

A poll with your prospects found that Trust is at an all-time low.  Their default setting is not to trust you.  In fact, only 12 percent of the prospects trusted their persuaders, while 88 percent of the persuaders felt they had established trust with their audience.  Wow, what a disconnect. It’s harder to gain credibility nowadays than in the past. Are you good at what you do? Bragging about it could make people trust you less Are you credibile?  Are you sure?  You say yes, and your prospects say no.  What are you doing that destroys your credibility?  The answers and science surprised me and will surprise you.  Join me for this week's webinar on How Being Too Qualified Hurts Trust.