Be Mythical

Speaking to author, coach and speaker Julian Freeman about the three principles, seeing through our thoughts and fears about money and returning to our default setting of happiness. My favourite take-aways: The hamster wheel of life We can be so focused on working faster and harder to get 'somewhere' that we don't even realise we're on the hamster wheel. The hamster wheel is not our true identity. Life isn't about the money that we as individuals are busy creating on our hamster wheel. There's a flow of money and so we're always only playing with the casino's chips. It might feel like it's our money but it came from somewhere else and then will flow on somewhere - we're just holding it for the moment. Just showing up as you There's no blueprint or technique to make money work for everyone - the power is in who we are as individuals. How we are is what we attract to us. We just have to show up as ourselves to get off the hamster wheel and to see the abundance of opportunities, money and experiences. How we're like our Phones We have a default setting - we mess with the settings, we try to improve ourselves. One button can take the phone back to default and likewise one realisation can take us back to our default setting - our true self. Our auto-pilot takes care of things better than when we're trying to control things. We have have an inbuilt, self-righting mechanism. We all have a super-power of resilience!

Amy Hardison is the wife of the acclaimed 'Ultimate Coach' Steve Hardison. Steve suggested we interview Amy for The Born Happy Show as she's the happiest person he knows. It was fascinating speaking to Amy and to hear how natural happiness is for her. Amy spoke about: Her parents both being very happy and her upbringing being full of happiness, love and self-esteem. Amy said feels that we don't need to be perfect to be amazing parents. Navigating difficult times in life is easier when you recognise that you won't feel the same way forever - even by tomorrow you'll probably feel differently. Happiness comes from having acceptance both for who we are and also what we aren't (accepting that others will be better at some things). It's worth saying that we had a lot of issues with the phone line during the interview, getting cut off several times, but Amy was just so calm and wonderful throughout!Enjoy!Lian xo

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom and happiness... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching her client Emma in their second session, using the three principles understanding. It's a golden episode and there were SO many great points. These were my top three: Thought addictionsWhen we don't understand that thoughts create feelings we can get addicted to certain thoughts thinking that they're causing the great feeling. We can also swap an addiction from one thought for another.Emma's BOOM! Insight was:  "Wow! you could totally switch shopping for being addicted to exercise."Even though it seems that exercising makes us feel good, the feelings aren't coming from the activity, they're still coming from inside: our thinking about the activity.   The Thought TrainViv talks about feeling like a Thought Train is carrying us along and we can't get off it.  The train feels so real because we're always feeling our thinking but really it's more like we're standing in a departure lounge looking up a choice of destinations. We can't choose which thoughts enter our heads but we can choose which ones we board. Not feeling good enoughWe often push ourselves to fit an image, to achieve or to look more attractive because we don't feel good enough compared to others or own expectations for ourselves. We don't often stop to question the truth of thoughts about ourself.Viv mentioned on of my favourite metaphors - the one about diamond, horse crap and nail varnish. As we start to see the truth of our own inner perfection, we start to love ourselves unconditionally and that happiness, love and acceptance for ourselves just radiates out like sunshine onto the world.

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching a brand new client, Emma using the three principles understanding. Emma bears her soul in this session and I could identify with so much of what she was saying. I imagine you will too as I think most of us have felt the way that she's felt, even if the visible expression of it isn't issues around money. Viv was incredibly insightful! In particular, I loved these three key points she made. Our thought of not being 'enough' and that other people are better than us in some way is often the root of us getting into debt. Seeing that all we're doing is engaging in the specific CONTENT of thinking brings acceptance for how we are, just as we are. The more we resist how we're feeling, the more the state persists. Rather than wrestling and trying to change how we feel rather we can welcome the feelings in. We can allow ourselves to get drenched in the feeling like we're walking in the rain. The feelings will dissipate all by themselves. Notice how much the outside world, the media and adverts are tapping into our deepest emotions, and especially fear. Making it easy for us to spend money 'buy now, pay later'. Telling us that we need 'stuff' to be happy, whole and valuable. I also loved Emma talking about being able to see the humour in some of her thoughts, such as 'surfer girl' thought and how seeing the funny side of our thoughts, in itself makes life feels happier, lighter and less serious. We'll catch up with Emma and Viv again on next Thursday's show!

The third and final coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an expert on weight loss and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her client Amy. Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives, through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains: Although it was clear that Amy had made many positive changes, Amy had not seen them herself. Change sneaks up on us because we quickly take for granted our new habits of thought. There’s no such thing as failure and sabotage. We’re only ever testing ourselves against our own made-up thoughts. There’s no end state or conclusion to weight loss, or indeed, anything else in  happiness or life! Every day is a new one and every day we will have fresh thought and will feel differently.

Show notes: This is the second coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an experienced Wellbeing Facilitator and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her new client Amy. Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains: Seeing through the ‘I can never eat that again’ thought allows us makes choices about what we really want to eat How our bodies tell us when we’re full – it’s when the taste declines (is it just me who completely misses that signal?!) That we’re all perfect and happy :) and how we can let go of the negative self-talk as we see it’s just thought We’ll be catching up with Elaine and Amy in a month’s time to see how Amy’s getting on.

Elaine Hilides, an experienced Wellbeing Facilitator and author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book 'Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book', coaches a new client Amy around the thoughts that are creating her eating and weight issues. This is the first of three sessions, all of which will be released as Podcast episodes over the coming weeks. Elaine's approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it's very, very effective - she's helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives. Being a fly on the wall to this coaching session, was mind-blowing even to me, coming to it as a coach with an understanding of the same three principles of Mind, Thought & Consciousness that Elaine shares with her clients. In this episode, Elaine explains: How we often eat to create feelings that recapture memories or pleasant associations with certain types of food The benefits of eating 'mindfully', i.e. checking in with your thoughts and feelings before you reach into the fridge How we can move from that typical dieting mindset of deprivation and willpower, to a sense of happiness, freedom and choice Above all, Elaine is all about people enjoying the food they eat and their lives as a whole. As Elaine says "Using the Mind-Fullness approach, you will have the body you want easily and effortlessly and much sooner than you thought possible.  This approach will change the way you think about food and your weight."

Lian Brook-Tyler interviews Timber Hawkeye, author of Buddhist Boot Camp and founder of the hugely popular movement of the same name, about inborn happiness, Buddhism and how it compares to the three principles. 

Dave Booda, a coach, teacher and musician and Lian Brook-Tyler talk about all things related to the  three principles of inborn happiness - including amazing relationships, creativity and the search for a meaningful life. It's a tad rock 'n' roll in places with bits that you won't want little ears to hear - I recommend you watch this after their bedtime or wear earphones! Enjoy!

Jamie Smart and Lian Brook-Tyler talk about the three principles behind our inborn happiness and clarity. Jamie is an internationally renowned writer, speaker, coach and consultant. He shows individuals and organisations the unexpected keys to clarity; the ultimate leverage point for creating more time, better decisions and meaningful results.