Be Mythical

I’m speaking to international Speaker, trainer, coach AND former rapper (he opened for the Wu-Tang Clan!) Jason Goldberg. Jason is all about Art of (Self) Leadership… how to take ownership of your spirit, your energy and your life to take action, become more prosperous and have a bigger impact in the world! We had a ball recording this and I think you’re going to love it. What you’ll learn from the show: How self-leadership is all about ARC… Awareness: Recognising the situation and our part in it for what it is. Recognising that the trigger ‘out there’ and our feeling in here don’t have a direct connection, our feelings are created by our thoughts. Responsibility: our ability to respond. Which means that no matter the circumstances, the triggers, the past and how we’ve always done things, once we have awareness we can respond in all kinds of ways. Choice: Now we’re aware of what’s going on and recognise our ability to respond in many different ways, we get the opportunity to make a choice: “What actions and behaviours will move me towards where I want to be?”

I'm speaking to coach and author Dr Amy Johnson. Amy helps people to bounce back from all kinds of different events in life. Amy's new book is out in January and is all about habits, and rather excitingly... the no-will power approach to breaking any habit. So today we're diving deep into how to break a bad habit! What you'll learn from the show: We often try to make changes by focusing right in on the habit that we want to change... from there it can be hard to see anything fresh. When we can zoom out away from the habit, we can relax and see that we're actually healthy by nature, and the habit is simply a load of thought on top of it. We can think a habit is a fixed and is who we are... but we have all have had times in the past when we've been happy, at peace and habit-free or at least moments where we're not acting out on the habit. The past doesn't exist for us outside of our thinking about is so how can a habit exist, outside of thoughts in this moment? We start afresh in every single moment and we don't need to put a label on that.

Born Happy co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is speaking to the wonderful Dave Elleray. Dave shares his surprising story of his transformation from being a deeply unhappy aggressive fearful man to an incredibly open and loving human being. And how he now travels the world to help others to change their lives too. What you'll learn from the show: Sometimes we can look at people who are so open and happy and think "Oh they’ve always been that way and it's just down to their genetics!" or we can think they must have had a beautiful upbringing and have an amazing family and group of friends. We can think "Happiness is for other people and not for me, I’m broken and doomed to be unhappy." Dave's story shows how happiness can happen to the least likely of people. :) Our ability to be open and happy is so often only limited by the self-created illusionary stories we tell ourself and the agreements we make that disconnect us from our true nature. Every single one of us was born happy and happiness is our natural state. That's just the design of the system. In this modern world we are often sceptical about so many things, such as people we meet or stories we hear... but rarely are we sceptical about what we tell ourselves. I invite you to be sceptical of your stories and ask yourself: who would YOU be without your story?

I'm speaking to Rich Habets, a highly successful executive coach and business consultant. What you missed last week: It was an unmissable Fly On The Wall Coaching Session between transformative coach Piers Thurston and his new client, Rachel. Rachel wants relief from her noisy, worry and anxiety-filled mind. She’s tried everything, including self-help, meditation and counselling in the past. Listen to discover what Rachel found out about where all her worries were coming from. If you missed that then you missed out so... subscribe to the show and catch up with that episode after this show! And on this week's show... He says that he used to be in business for all the wrong reasons. He was focused only on money and success and he was manipulative and he gossiped, just to get the business. And he ended up burning out. Today he does the same work, consulting and coaching (and he's successful and makes money) but he does it for the right reasons, he does it from a place of service. And he's in a much happier place! So today we're talking about 'conscious' business - or how to make money and be successful, consciously. What you'll learn from the show: The real difference between 'How to' vs 'Want to', and why this is vital to understand if you want to be successful. Why some of your 'Want to's might not be a real Want to but just doing it, testing and learning is a great way to see that for yourself - Rich gave a great example of the surprising outcome when he gave a TedX talk. The power of persistence - which is a natural outcome of your service-focused 'Want to's.

What you missed last week:It was a wonderful conversation with Molly Gordon about why a scary diagnosis doesn't have to be a scary diagnosis. If you missed that then you missed out so subscribe to the show and catch up with that episode after this show! And on this week's show... I'm speaking to Reed Smith.Reed is the cofounder of Gulf Breeze Recovery, a non-12 step recovery center that uses the 3 Principles as the core of their program. He serves as the Director of Admissions and class facilitator. Today we're going to be talking about the myth of complexity of recovery: why it doesn't have to be a life-long struggle and why addiction is not a disease... and why we ALL have access to mental health. What you'll learn in this show: Reed used a metaphor (and actual prop - see pic below!) of a mirror to demonstrate how we can have a denial of the 'isness' of the situation which is like trying to remove a blemish from our face by wiping a mirror. When we accept or allow the reality that's unfolding - that what we see is only a reflection of what's going on in our thoughts - we recognise that it makes no sense to look to try to fix or change the outside world to remedy how we're feeling. And in another of Reed's fabulous metaphors is around consciousness, and he used a flashlight to explain this (LOVE these props, I might start insisting all guests bring one!)The light is Consciousness, that which makes us aware of what's happening. When the flashlight is pointing above our heads at our thoughts, it's illuminating only our thoughts, which is what we're experiencing moment to moment, even though we're unaware that it's what's actually happening. When we have wonderful moments of connection with others or nature, it's like the flashlight that was only illuminating our thinking, moves to shine out to illuminate the world, and then our personal thinking grows dim and we become more aware of our connection to something bigger and greater than us. Reed's faves... The person that's most inspired Reed is also the author of the book that's most changed Reed, and it's James Allen, the author of 'As a man thinketh'.

Why a scary diagnosis doesn't need to be scary... with Molly Gordon So what happened on last week's show? It was a much-talked about show the wonderful Barb Patterson about true self versus self image. we got into an interesting conversation about personality tests and profiles. If you missed that then you missed out so subscribe to the show and catch up with that episode after this show! And this week I'm talking to the magnificent Molly Gordon has been searching for the meaning of life for as long as she can remember. Molly's been a professional coach for a couple of decades and has trained and practised in many disciplines including Byron Katie's The Work and Jungian psychology, She now coaches from a three principles understanding. This summer, Molly was diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent a mastectomy followed by radiation therapy. She is passionate about sharing with others how even modest insights into the Three Principles have enabled her to find grace and freedom in the midst of what many find to be a scary diagnosis. So today we're going to be talking about why a scary diagnosis doesn't have to be a scary diagnosis. What you'll learn in this show: However scary things feel, we're always sitting safely in the 'cinema seat' and simply watching the scary movie of our thoughts. I love Molly's description of that! We will all be living this life, moment to moment, doing something until we die. We will all die of something. Does it matter what it is? Isn't life really about how we live? We don't have the ability to flick through a book of perspectives and pick the one that looks best... but every human being has the innate ability to have a perspective change. Our consciousness rises and then we will notice that more perspectives available to us.

How to be your true self... with Barb Patterson So what happened on last week's show? It was a goodie... it was with Don Deacy and it's was about the desire to feel better versus trusting that we already are OK. And seriously, subscribe to the show now and then you won't miss out again! And this week I'm talking to the amazing Barb Patterson! Barb runs a coaching and consulting company bringing the insights of state of mind & performance to clients around the world.Barb has lived and worked in Europe and the US. She has over 20 years experience as both an internal executive and outside consultant for businesses, entrepreneurs, CEOs and top executives from all regions of the world. She also mentors other coaches and practitioners. Today we're going to be talking about true self vs the image of who we think we are: Who could I be? What could I do? Could I do more? How could I be better? Am I living my life to my fullest potential? What am I striving for anyway? If you've asked yourself these questions then this is the show for you! What you'll learn in this show: We don't need to strive to be something because all we're doing is striving for an image of who we think we should be! The made-up nature of our personalities means we're not our Myers Briggs types! All of that is just thought. Really we all have a freedom to think all kinds of things and therefore there's a wide open space of who we can be. Who knows what true selves really are but what Barb has seen is that left alone, our true nature always appears and that means we always blossom.

How to feel better? It's all about unconditional trust... with Don Deacy This week I'm speaking to Don Deacy. Don's a three principles coach and also a therapist with many years of experience in all kinds of healing modalities such Acupuncture, Chinese Herbal Medicine and Bowen Therapy. After a lifetime of studying various martial arts at a superficial level Don started studying the martial art of Aikido in 1992 and teaching it in 1997. His passion for this martial art and his desire to understand 'chi', or as the Japanese call it 'ki', led to studying and qualifying in various healing modalities such as Acupuncture, Chinese Herbal Medicine and Bowen Therapy. Initially practicing these therapies as a hobby they quickly became a passion alongside Aikido. In 2008, with the help of his wonderful wife, Don came to see that raising a family, teaching a martial art, running a part time therapy practice and working full time was just too much and something had to give way. So with the support of his wife and family Don took the decision to leave the world of paid employment and set up a full time practice as a therapist. Whilst working as a professional therapist Don came to clearly see the psychological dimension of illness. Feeling ill equipped to address this need he started searching for a solution. In 2011 Don was fortunate enough to come across Jamie Smart and was exposed to Three Principles understanding as uncovered by Sydney Banks. Jamie's wonderful work enabled Don to embrace this understanding and he began coaching using the Three Principles as part of his practice in 2012. In 2013 Don completed the Three Principles Trainer’s Training (3PTT) programme run by Cathy Casey and Dr Mark Howard. As a result of Jamie's work, the excellent 3PTT and the many wonderful teachers he was exposed to over that period Don's professional direction has been profoundly changed. Coaching and teaching the Three Principles has become his primary activity and significantly influencing all the other aspects of his work. Today we're going to be talking about the desire to feel better versus the unconditional trust that we already are perfectly OK, perfectly happy! What you'll learn in this show: Don and I chatted again after the show and he'd expanded further on some questions I asked during the show. And his answers actually make a great summary of some of the great things you'll learn during the show! "What do I mean by grounding? Grounding is balance. An ease of movement and interaction with the world. From grounding comes the ability to flow, to extend our senses, to ride the waves, to take the knocks and keep our equilibrium." "What do I mean by spiritual? Spiritual is beyond the world of form as we see it in the moment. A connection to a far greater wisdom than our personal intellect. From the spiritual comes possibility, new understanding, hope and wonder that guides us and teaches us. "What do I mean by form? We can be conscious/aware of form but we can only be conscious of the the possibility within the formless. As soon as we try to be conscious of the formless we are in effect creating form.What comes to mind is a metaphor. The telescope. When we look through a telescope we see what we are looking at and that is in effect form. Now, there is much more out there than what we are looking at . What we see is what I would refer to as form. What we don't see is what I would refer to as formless. So it is possible to view form and formless as separate but that would be misleading. Form is born from the formless, as is enriched by it, like when we focus a telescope. Form is in effect our awareness which is an element of consciousness. Form is like truth in that it is time specific. The formless is infinite, it is the home of hope, of insight, of wonder, of possibility. The form is present and the home of the intellect. We can move a telescope and we can focus in and out but we must be aware that there is always more to see and what we are looking at we can always see differently. Form is the experience of life and the formless is the possibility of life. [mmmm, I love that! Lian] Form is our understanding in the moment, this is fixed and it has to be to allow us to navigate. As the saying goes, the map is not the territory, so the formless allows us to create new maps and indeed will demand that we do so. As a telescope on earth will allow us to see the universe in a certain way and depending on the location to varying degrees of clarity, the hubble telescope which is in space not only allows us to see the universe in much more detail is has demanded that we rethink everything we thought we knew about the universe!! So perhaps a shift in consciousness is like moving our telescope higher and higher into space. This must by its very nature change what we think we know about form."

This week I’m speaking to Jeff Rader. Jeff doesn’t like to be described as a coach, teacher, mentor but is coming to terms with being called facilitator but mostly just likes to be known as Jeff! Today we’re going to be talking about recovery from addiction. Or as Jeff said… alcohol wasn’t his problem, it was his solution to the pain created by his focus on himself and his thoughts. What you’ll learn in this show: Jeff talked about people need to be in touch with a higher power in order to overcome addiction and stay alive. I say that all of us need something like that, although maybe we don’t need to think of it as God or even a higher power actually. It can simply be feeling that we’re in connection to all that is, has ever been and ever will be. When we understand that we get to see that we’re not so important or responsible for making everything happen. That lack of obsessive focus on ourselves is incredibly freeing. I loved how Jeff talked about accepting and appreciating of the incredible miracle of it all. When we see how awesome the design of the world is, it makes a lot less sense to whinge and moan about the tiny parts of it that aren’t quite as we’d like. We talked about the core of happiness, peace and wellbeing true for all of us, it’s only our thoughts that seem as though we don’t have this. This comes up over and over on this show and it’s no surprise because it’s such a life changer when we really see this for ourselves!

This week I'm speaking to Phil Goddard. Phil says that whilst he could be described as a coach, but he said he could be more simply described as a Lover. :) And it is this pure loving presence that he brings to his clients, groups, family and friends. He started coaching professionally in 2005 and transitioned from an incredibly successful career a leader in UK local and central government departments, and I.T corporations. Swapping hard work for heart work, he brings the simplicity, power and clarity of love into many other lives and organisations, getting to the 'heart of the matter' through one-on-one coaching and coaching intensive retreats, whilst travelling around Europe and the USA. For the past decade, Phil's been evolving his work and the way he works with his clients and he's releasing more recently that it's super simple and really just comes down to love. And today, we're talking about self-love - or how to get over yourself. :) What you'll learn in this show: Self-love isn't about treating yourself. As Phil says '...by all means have the dark Belgium chocolates, buy yourself red roses, treat yourself to a massage, get down to the gym and feast on spinach soup for lunch. Allow yourself some quiet time, say f**k it and book that holiday, have a sit down with a cup of tea, get a manicure and buy the not-from-concentrate juice.' but that isn't what self-love is. Self-love is purely about accepting yourself, as you are. If you're negotiating with yourself "If I put myself through this Hell then I can reward myself afterwards." then that's not love. Reward to counterbalance judgement is not an act of love. Love doesn't involve judgement. Notice the difference between how acceptance feels and how resistance feel. Can you feel that acceptance doesn't create tension?