Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single SerenityThat being single is not terrible!How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see itEnjoying where you are at the timeThat there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being singleThe “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving targetHow you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thingChoosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudesThat being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationshipHow people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being aloneWhat being a “love addict” meansHow you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happyHow essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationshipThe three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attachedHow feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single nowA thought doesn’t have to lead to an actionDon’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)Catherine Gray LinksHomepageInstagramTwitterDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feedThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25. Visit www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine Gray (First interview 2018)Mary O’MalleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jonathan Rottenberg is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of South Florida where he’s the director of the mood and emotion laboratory. He’s also the author of the book, The Depths:  The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic“, which he and Eric have discussed before. In this interview, they discuss some of the studies and research he’s involved with specific to those who go on to flourish after having depression. Why do they? What can we learn from them? There’s hope and practical wisdom in this episode for you.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rottenberg and I Discuss…His book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression EpidemicThriving after depressionThe studies and research he’s involved withPeople who thrive after depressionThe destructive and recurring nature of depressionThe typical low expectation for those with depression about life moving forward and how it should be differentWhat is mental “health”?Psychological well beingExperiencing positive emotionsExperiencing negative emotions to a lesser degreeFeeling of balance in lifeHaving meaningful relationshipsFeeling a sense of autonomy over your lifeHow happy should we expect to be?Having elements of wellbeing amidst struggling with depressionThe 3 things that seed a low mood: events, temperaments, and routinesRuminationWays that people can work with depression more skillfullyHaving a different relationship with your negative thoughtsHaving connections with othersResearch on flourishingHow much control do we have over our state of flourishing?That it’s never too lateThere is hopeOur culture that idealizes euphoriaThe role of our basic temperamentFactors of wellbeing other than emotion and moodThe organization he helped found, Depression ArmyThe interesting and transformative experience of depressionThat his depression has been defanged and it doesn’t break the skin anymoreJonathan Rottenberg, Ph.D. Links:Depression ArmyFacebookTwitterInstagramBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less, go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trialPolicy Genius helps you compare insurance plans and find the right policy for you at a price you can afford and then they handle everything – negotiating your rate and booking your appointment. Visit www.policygenius.comRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johan HariLisa Feldman BarrettTherese BorchardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss…Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and LifeHow emotions are a guidance systemThat emotions can help us adapt and thriveThe thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”Emotional AgilityLoosening up, calming down and living with more intentionThe space between stimulus and responseEmotional rigidityAllowing the story in our head to drive our actionsBeing who we most want to be in this worldMoving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it”Getting hooked – accepting thought as factThat we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data sourceThe story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted wayHow to get unhookedGetting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hookedI’m noticing that I’m feeling ____Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves“Walking your why”Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values?Social contagionKeeping your values front of mindDiscomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful lifeThat our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our valuesUnder our difficult emotions are signposts for our valuesPremature cognitive commitmentStories help us to make sense of our worldNaming our storiesSusan David, Ph.D. Links:susandavid.comTed Talk – Susan David, Ph.D.FacebookTwitterInstagramDaily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious, organic, carefully sourced, chef created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feedThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. To get a full month for FREE, visit thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code: WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting OldHis reflections looking back on his lifeThe resilient fabric of his lifeHow perfection is an illusionThe role mistakes can play in one’s lifeThe gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present momentFeeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)Moments of life that are burdened with egoThe correlation between ego concerns and anxietyThe importance and role of perspectiveThe what and why of the things we’re doingThe question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?My legacy vs Our legacyHow we’re all embedded in community“I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”How life and work are profoundly communalReflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”Turning attention outward vs inwardBeing one among many vs trying to be something or someone specialThe healing impact of getting out into the natural worldHis poem “Harrowing”To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waitingParker Palmer LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus – Thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a full month for FREE! thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and AddictionRight View and how it relates to having less fear in your lifeHow right view is always liberatingAsking, “does it help?”“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS LewisThe problem with trying to control your mindTranscendental MeditationHanging out in tasklessnessThe open space of awarenessHow thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditateRelax your grip, and relax back into yourselfIt doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.What it means to relax at the moment of contactRelax into it, stop the resistance of itPain is inevitable, suffering is optionalsuffering = pain x resistanceDean Sluyter LinksHomepageMeditationYoutubeTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50Connection to othersGenerosityThe factors that most contribute to our happinessThe U shape curve of happiness in lifeThe emotional peak of lifeHow our expectations change as life goes onThat our values continue to changeThe fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetimeHow the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durableThe hedonic treadmillWhat to do to be happier at the bottom of the curveThe suffering that comes from social comparisonStaying in the present momentInternal criticismGuilt vs Shame in mid-lifeThe benefits of being other-directed, other-orientedHow the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friendJonathan Rauch LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Courses Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every DayUnderstanding the limits on will-powerSetting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisionsCreating more time in your day for the things you care aboutThe two powerful forces that compete every day for our time“The Busy Bandwagon”The Infinity PoolsQuestioning the “defaults” in our scheduleCreating a highlight for every dayLiving a “someday” lifeFinding more meaningful momentsUrgency, Satisfaction, JoyBatch the little stuffLaser modeTaking back control of your time and energyCreating barriers to distractionManaging your energyBuilding your energyFocusing on the process not the outcomeJohn Zeratsky LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Sources Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm- The number one app that helps you meditate, sleep and relax. For a limited time, get 25% off a Calm premium subscription – giving you access to ALL their content – at www.calm.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful PoetryMarilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…Her book, How I Discovered PoetryHer poem, MississippiHer book, A Wreath for Emmett TillThe poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnetsHer poem, Rosemary for RemembranceHer poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a WreathHer poem, Like His Gouged EyeHow poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silenceThe value of silence in a life well livedSilence, contemplation, and self-knowledgeOur quiet centerHer book, CarverHer poem, Professor Carver’s Bible ClassHer book, Snook AloneMarilyn Nelson LinksHomepageFacebookNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsweep’s free guide, Crushing the 5 Barriers to Growth, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7 day free trialSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…His book, 10 Poems for Difficult TimesSaying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”How poetry helps us in difficult timesThat poetry gives voice to that which is unsayableThe poet Ellen BassHow suffering can soften us if we bow down to itThat you can’t fake surrenderThe opportunity in suffering is growthHow poetry points us in the direction of possibility in sufferingThe poet Maggie SmithThe poet Marie HoweAnnunciation by Marie HoweThe specific pointing to the universal in poetryRoger Housden LinksHomepageTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.compromo code WOLF 20 off first custom sampler setQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing www.getquip.com/wolfand get your first refill pack for freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.