Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss…Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social AnxietyThe positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a personThat the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathyThe neuroscience of social anxietyHow if you face your fears you can change your brainThe problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety Overt avoidanceCovert avoidanceThinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusionAvoidance means we never see what actually happensThe inner criticThe buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire PersonalitySocial Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______The tool, ReplaceAnxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of?4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do?The tool, EmbraceThe role of mindfulness in anxietyMaking your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environmentSelf-compassionCreating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goalDr. Ellen Hendrisken Links:ellenhendriksen.comtwitterNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann HariMatthew QuickEric MaiselSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss…Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic LifeHow words matterThat experiences matterHumility as the cornerstone of spiritualityThe sanctification of the humble spiritSelf-superiority in American cultureBe who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human raceHumility is having an accurate picture of who you areHer take on AAHow holiness is the same everywhereThat narcissism is a disease in our cultureBeing willing to face yourselfHow self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same thingsNot thinking about yourself all the timeThe burden of selfThat we’re looking for freedomObedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen”How each of us grows into the ability to listenEndurance and StabilityThat you can’t rush your own developmentWe become to be of service to othersHow nothing of value spiritually comes overnightThe role of community in one’s great breakdowns in lifeSister Joan Chittister Links:joanchittister.orgCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayFor Hers makes convenient, affordable access to birth control available for all women. You get access to licensed doctors online who can evaluate you and if appropriate, prescribe you birth control that can be delivered directly to your door. The One You Feed listeners get their first month of For Hers birth control for just $5 (see website for full details) www.forhers.com/wolfTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code WOLF to get your first week freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result. **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss…Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around YouThat incivility is contagiousThat kindness is contagiousListening for the missed note instead of the musicPlaying “Gotcha” in the way you look at lifeThe negativity biasThe power of kindnessThe difference between nice and kindHer year of living kindly and blogging about itQuantifying the benefits of kindnessBeing indifferent and still being niceHow you can’t be indifferent and still be kindThat it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be niceExtending yourself beyond what is comfortableCaring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in returnThe chasm between kindness and unkindnessNot being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kindKeeping score and being kindThat when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something elseThe health business of kindnessHow kindness alleviates social anxietyEmploying curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?”Various kindness practicesPracticing a pauseAsking yourself “What is the kind response here?”Receiving graciously as an act of kindnessDonna Cameron Links:ayearoflivingkindly.comFacebookTwitterRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann BerlinBarbara BonnerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation.Spiritual Habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Learn more here: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss…His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self CompassionThat what you practice and repeat is what you getDepression Triggers and Depression CuresThoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and BehaviorsThe triangle of awarenessProcedural memoryThe habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry pointsThe way our brain associates thingsThe way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depressionAvoidance and depressionHow naming something gives us a little space and perspectiveHow naming something actually changes the activity in our brainPerspective-making toolsThe way journaling objectifies your experiencesNatural anti-depressantsMindfulness: a state of engaged curiosityRelating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and masteryThe growth mindset and the fixed mindsetPracticing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindsetHow a learning mindset is related to a growth mindsetThe importance of playHow to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adultElisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links:Mindful Living CollectiveFacebookTwitterYouTube ChannelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States.  He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent CommunicationThat we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to momentThe three steps to create effective conversationLead with PresenceCome from Curiosity and CareFocus on What MattersHow most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another personThat you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or notBringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)Bodily sensations happen in the present momentThe power of pausingHow our rate of speech is connected to our nervous systemThat when we are present, we have a lot more choicesThat our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communicationsThe intention to understandThe intention of kindness and careHow you can practice kindness to someone you don’t likeKindness can be about protecting your own heartThe phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…”Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need?The difference between needs and strategiesThe Nonviolent Communication ModelObservations, Feelings, Needs, RequestsCommunicating in the workplaceOren Jay Sofer LinksOrenJaySofer.comFacebookTwitterInstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Tererai Trent is an inspiring and dynamic scholar, educator, humanitarian, motivational speaker, author and the founder of Tererai International. Dr. Trent is one of the most internationally acclaimed voices for women's empowerment and quality education. Named by Oprah Winfrey as her all-time favorite guest, Dr. Trent's latest book is called The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams. She tells her incredible story in this episode and you will be so deeply moved, so deeply touched, and so deeply inspired by it. We'ver never heard anything like it and are honored that she would tell us about her astounding life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Tererai Trent and I Discuss...Her book, The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred DreamsThe two hungers in our life - the little hunger and the great hungerThe hunger for a meaningful lifeAsking yourself, "what breaks my heart?"The rural community she grew up inThe wisdom of her grandmotherThat her grandmother was defined by her wisdomHer answer to the question she was asked - what are your dreams?The moment she was told that her dreams were achievableWhen her mother said to write down her dreams and bury (i.e. plant) them in the ground.How she broke the cycle of povertyThe baton of poverty, illiteracy, early marriage, and abuse that she redefinedThe baton of wisdom, that she receivedThe four dreams she wrote downWhen her mother said, "your goals in life will be more achievable when connected to the greater good of your community"The difference between culture and customsThe 8 years it took for her to graduate high schoolGetting into Oklahoma State University but not having enough money to fly to AmericaFeeding the deep hunger that says - you can achieve your dreamsWhen she reconnected with the woman who first believed in herWhen she finally earned her PhDShe worked 3 jobs and took 18 hours of coursework and took care of 5 kids getting her food from trashcansHow she is not a victim, she is part of the solutionWhere her kids are now"It is acheivable"How many girls her work has now impactedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Oliver Burkeman is an award-winning writer for The Guardian and his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking explores the upsides of failure, difficulty, and imperfection – which we discussed in our first interview with Oliver several hundred episodes ago. Each week in his column in The Guardian, “This Column Will Change Your Life”, he writes about social psychology, self-help culture, productivity, and the science of happiness. In this interview, he discusses his take on time management in today’s world.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss…His take on the modern time management worldThat technologies of efficiency don’t seem to bring peace of mindHow your to-do list is never going to go awayThat having emails in your inbox is not necessarily a problemTime management whispers of the possibility of true peace of mindThinking of “a simpler time”How processing through your inbox is like climbing up an infinitely long ladderThat tough choices have to be made when deciding what to do with your time – no matter how many productivity assists you haveHow it’s often easier to spend time on trivial stuff than the big projectsDavid Allen’s book, Getting Things DoneHow no one beats them self up for not being able to jump a mile in the air because they never thought they could in the first placeSimilarly, accepting the real limitations in how much time you have and how much you can get done is incredibly liberating Productivity advice from Warren BuffetThe role social media plays in our expectations about how productive we could or should beHow digital distractions help us numb outOliver Burkeman LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eli Jaxon-Bear founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization. Eli is also the author of many books, including the one we discuss in this episode, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary. In this episode, he talks to Eric about accessing and experiencing your true self and things that get in the way of that. Also, he hits on a perspective of the Enneagram that we bet you’ve never considered before. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eli Jaxon-Bear and I Discuss…His book, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual RevolutionaryDiscovering who is feeding the wolves withinThat to know your true self you have to turn away from your false self – the self you construct in your mindNLP, the Enneagram and hypnosis integrated into his therapyHis lasting enlightenment Knowing what you really want and staying true to it in each momentThe journey from “me” to “I” Symptom cure and habit controlHis book, Sudden AwakeningHow your heart is already intelligent and aliveThat the Enneagram Personality Types is actually the Enneagram of Character FixationAsking, does this bring me freedom, true love, happiness? Go deeper than the character fixation and find your characterWaking up from the act, from the show, and stop taking it personally having to prove thingsThe character fixation of an Enneagram type 9The “Chief Feature”All of our experience has a Mental, Emotional and Physical component and the ego encapsulates all three of thoseThe history of the origins of the EnneagramHis book on the EnneagramEli Jaxon-Bear LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere get a full month for FREE thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Belinda GoreAmoda MaaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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