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Catherine Gray is a Sunday Times Bestselling author of five books, including debut smash hit The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. She’s sold well over a quarter of a million books and her books have now been translated into nine languages. She’s been sober since 2013. Catherine has also written about being single later in life and learning to appreciate the ordinary.  Eric and Catherine discuss her latest book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That LastsBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Catherine Gray and I Discuss The Lasting Joy of Being Sober and… Her book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That Lasts The power of getting more specific with your gratitude lists Being several years removed from addiction and in the advanced stages of recovery Understanding that addiction doesn’t have to define you, but that it’s always there No longer defining herself as an alcoholic after several years of sobriety Addiction can be the difference between what you intend to do and what you actually do How addiction is a spectrum and not black or white The issues with labeling yourself as an addict What matters most is asking yourself if your life would be better without the substance or behavior The challenge with addictions that are considered socially acceptable  How most experts agree there isn’t such a thing as an addictive personality Some people may have addictive tendencies based on various traits Understanding that our perception of ourselves is what shapes our reality Catherine Gray Links:Catherine GrayTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine Gray (2018 Interview)Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy (2019 Interview)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Emily Balcetis is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University. She is the author of more than 70 scientific publications and her work has been covered in Forbes, Newsweek, Time, National Public Radio, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and many others. She has also received numerous awards for her work.  Eric and Emily discuss her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emily Balcetis and I Discuss How to Focus and Accomplish Goals and… Her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the World Her decision to tackle learning to play drums The four tools of accomplishing a goal What it means to materialize a goal How our brains can’t be trusted to accurately assess our progress toward our goal The importance of writing down and tracking progress  Figuring out what we want to accomplish AND creating a plan of action Foreshadowing obstacles that might get in our way and how you’ll deal with them increases your chances of success The value of narrowing your focus of attention How time is a big determinant of what goals we set and whether we reach those goals Finding ways to connect your current self with your future self can make it easier to make tougher choices that lead to better outcomes later How it sometimes makes sense to have a “wide bracket” or broader perspective The power of framing and how what we see predicts what we do Emily Balcetis Links:Emily BalcetisTwitterWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emily Balcetis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Change with Katy MilkmanBehavior Change with John NorcrossSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Regina Louise] is an American author, child advocate, and motivational speaker, who is best known for successfully navigating through more than thirty foster home placements as a ward of the California Juvenile Court system.Eric and Regina discuss her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-LoveBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Regina Louise and I Strategies for Unconditional Self-Love and… Her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-Love Growing up in difficult circumstances and still feeling her worth How we can all benefit from a cleared-out heart  Learning to grow through what we go through Understanding that you can’t change the past, but you can reclaim your dignity and self-worth Learning to be with the difficult feelings inside of us Understanding that the tragedy she endured was not personal How she learned to protect and value herself when her caregivers couldn’t Her introjections leading to her growth The tendency to feed the “less than” of herself Taking responsibility for her own healing Creating distance and making meaning of her past experiences Regina Louise Links:Regina’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Regina Louise, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee TaylorPerfecting Self Love with Scott StabileSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stephen Guise is an international best-selling author, blogger, and entrepreneur. His books have been translated into 17 languages, including his latest book, Elastic Habits: How to Create Smarter Habits That Adapt to Your Day.Eric and Stephen discuss his unique approach to creating good habits that are adaptable to your life and unique circumstances.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Stephen Guise and I Discuss How to Form Elastic Habits and… His book,  Elastic Habits: How to Create Smarter Habits That Adapt to Your Day How bad habits fulfill some needs An elastic habit is one that creates flexibility and more points of progress How flexibility is strength when it comes to obstacles Lateral flexibility is having several different options to achieve the same goal Vertical flexibility is having the option to move the intensity of the activity up or down The roles of the different levels: mini, plus, and elite How to work with feelings and motivation in establishing habits How to apply the lateral and vertical flexibility to habits  Cues or triggers are what prompts you to do the behavior The different types of cues or triggers: time. activity, daily, emotional, and window  Intelligent tracking and why it’s important in establishing new habits The process for creating and implementing “elastic” habits  Stephen Guise Links:Stephen’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Guise, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Behavior Change with John NorcrossTiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

James Clear is the author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur, and he has taught in colleges around the world.  James is also the creator of the Habits Academy, the premier training platform for organizations and individuals that are interested in building better habits in life and work.  In Part 2 of this interview, Eric and James discuss more specific ideas and concepts for establishing good habits and eliminating bad habits.If you’d like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!James Clear and I Discuss the Compounding Nature of Habits and… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment Learning to make it obvious or reduce friction when trying to create good habits  Habit stacking and priming your environment for success Clarifying the action: “After _____, I will _____” Getting specific with your actions (when, where) How social environment affects the attractiveness of habits Making habits easy and convenient The two-minute rule for establishing good habits A habit must be established before it can be improved Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line Make it satisfying – how positive emotions cultivate good habits and negative emotions destroy them Bring the long-term consequences into the short term Reinforcing your identity by your actions James Clear Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with James Clear, you might also enjoy these other episodes:James Clear (2015)Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

James Clear is the author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur, and he has taught in colleges around the world.  James is also the creator of the Habits Academy, the premier training platform for organizations and individuals that are interested in building better habits in life and work.  In Part 1 of the interview, Eric and James discuss habits and how to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change.If you’d like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!James Clear and I Discuss the Compounding Nature of Habits and… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones How habits are like the compound interest of self-improvement Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts How bamboo growth is like habit growth The importance of building a foundation of habits to see results How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored Focusing on systems rather than goals How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits How goals can create an artificial finish line The role of identity in behavior change How you choose to act leads to the kind of person you want to be Learning to adopt a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindset How humans are learning machines The 4 stages of habits: cue, craving, response, and reward The 4 laws of behavior change: make it obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying To break a bad habit, invert the 4 laws of behavior change James Clear Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with James Clear, you might also enjoy these other episodes:James Clear (2015)Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

John Zeratsky was a designer in the tech industry and became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s also the author of multiple books and his work has been published in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, Eric and John discuss his book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day If you'd like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!John Zeratsky and I Discuss How to Make Time for What Matters and… His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day Understanding the limits of will-power Setting up our environment so it’s easier to make the right decisions The two powerful forces that compete every day for our time “The Busy Bandwagon” and the feeling you’re not in control of our time “The Infinity Pools” of neverending options of distractions  Questioning the “defaults” in our lives and finding ways to change our behavior Creating a highlight for everyday Structuring your day around your “highlight”  Finding more meaningful moments Taking back control of your time and energy Creating barriers to distraction The fundamentals of managing your energy The importance of focusing on the process, not the outcome Becoming aware of how our interaction with technology makes us feel John Zeratsky Links:John’s WebsiteTwitterIf you enjoyed this conversation with John Zeratsky, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Time Management for Mortals with Oliver BurkemanBeing a Procrastinator with Tim PychylSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker, and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and how to go about getting things done.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss How to Get Things Done and… His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone The Tao Te Ching Focusing on your input and letting go of the results We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them Creative constipation breeds toxicity  We’re either creating something or destroying something We don’t do ideas, we do projects How doing our best work is often really hard The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not The problem with automatically believing our thoughts How discipline limits decision fatigue How action expresses priority Charlie Gilkey Links:Charlie’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and MeditationDavid Kadavy on Getting StartedSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Arthur Brooks is a bestselling author, social scientist, and the President of the American Enterprise Institute. He teaches Leadership and Happiness at the Harvard School of Business.In this episode, Eric and Arthur discuss happiness as well as his book,  Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Arthur Brooks and I Discuss What It Takes to Find Happiness and… His book, Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt The four extrinsic things that feed off fear are money, power, pleasure, and fame The four intrinsic things that feed off love are faith, family, friendships, and meaningful work How happiness requires meaning and having meaning requires challenge and/or difficulty The three aspects of meaning are coherence, purpose, and significance How writing out the thing you learned from a bad experience can bring meaning to it Learning to find significance in the small things How we need to stop living in the future and appreciate being in the present The freeing idea that nobody really cares like we think they do The more you judge others, the more you will feel judged The therapy for feeling insecure is to stop judging and start observing The link between humor and happiness How we should reject grimness Rejecting the expectations of the holidays can lead to more happiness Arthur Brooks Links:Arthur’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookNovo Nordisk - Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management. To learn more, visit truthaboutweight.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Arthur Brooks, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan Rauch – The Happiness CurveRuth Whippman on The Complexity of HappinessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist. In 1996, Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain, causing her to lose the ability to walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. John Britton is a former anesthesiologist who suffered a right brain injury leaving him with only his left brain to function. After hearing Jill’s previous episode on this show, John contacted Eric and they thought it would be interesting to host a conversation with John and Dr. Bolte Taylor to discuss their respective experiences.In this episode, Jill, John, Ginny, and Eric talk about what it’s like to experience the world through your right brain vs. your left brain and how they come together to make for whole-brain living. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, John Britton, and I Discuss Right Brain Injury vs Left Brain Injury and… The functions of and interaction between the right and left hemispheres of the brain How the left brain governs past and future, me the individual, details, boundaries, language That the right brain governs the present, the “we” collective, connections, expansive, and openness The way the two hemispheres of our brain interact with one another in a healthy brain How John experienced the world before, during, and after his right brain injury The most helpful rehabilitation approach for John post his injury Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s experience of her left hemisphere traumatic brain injury and her recovery story Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor Links:Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor and John Britton, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Whole Brain Living with Dr. Jill Bolte TaylorThe Divided Yet Connected Brain with Iain McGilchristLessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman BarrettSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.