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Ethan Kross is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business and also the Director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. In addition to countless television appearances, Ethan’s research has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and many others. In this episode, Ethan and Eric talk about his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Ethan Kross and I Discuss How to Harness the Chatter in Our Head and… His book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It How we have both emotional and cognitive needs when dealing with the “chatter” in our heads Common triggers for internal chatter are uncertainty and lack of control The three main categories of tools to work with chatter Learning to zoom out and broaden our perspective Distance self-talk is talking to yourself like you’d talk to another person Temporal distancing (mental time travel)  Expressive writing about negative experiences Using your imagination to replay a past experience to gain objectivity Harnessing our internal chatter rather than silencing it How to think about thinking and what we can and cannot control Being aware of how easy some of these tools are to implement Creating if/then plans increases the likelihood you’ll remember to use the tools Environmental tools and the benefits of getting outside in nature  How cleaning and organizing our physical space impacts our mental state Ethan Kross Links:Ethan’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Ethan Kross, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Overthinking and Internal Soundtracks with Jon AcuffScott GorntoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jillian Richardson is the founder of The Joy List, which is a newsletter with the mission of making New York City – and eventually the world – a less lonely place. She also hosts The Joy List Social, an event where you can show up by yourself and leave with a new friend. In this episode, Jillian and Eric talk about her new book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World.  But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Jillian Richardson and I Discuss How to Become Unlonely and … Her book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World Some of the barriers that get in the way of making friendships Some strategies we can use to make friendships Three relationship strengthening tactics How to know when vulnerability slides into neediness That looking for the “perfect” person or group of people can stump you in your search for meaningful connection When you might want to reflect on your relationship to the idea of groups Where to start when you’re lonely and want to connect with others How to meet people if you’re an introvert The importance of being kind to yourself in this process Jillian Richardson Links:Jillian’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jillian Richardson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Find Joy and Community with Radha AgrawalBelonging and Connection with Sebene SelassieSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oliver Burkeman is a British journalist and writer based in New York. He is well known not only for his amazing books, but he also wrote a popular weekly column on psychology called “This Column will Change Your Life” which was printed weekly between 2006 and 2020.  Oliver joins Eric for a third time on the show, and in this episode, they discuss many things, including his new book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals”But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss Time Management for Mortals and … His book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals” How we invest more energy and focus on trying to escape certain feelings Finitude and understanding that life is finite Time and how we relate to it as something we have and use The idea that we are time rather than we have time Accepting the truth of your finitude allows you to live more in the present Confusing meaningful with extraordinary Cosmic insignificance therapy suggests that we reexamine the threshold of what makes a meaningful life Our tendency to want to define and measure what is meaningful in life How the pursuit of using time well can lead us to live in the future rather than being present Asking ourselves if something is expanding or contracting to us The modern attention economy and being aware if we are choosing where our attention goes How the things that matter most to us can provoke unpleasant emotions that lead to seeking distractions The problem isn’t how things are, but rather how we think they should be Trying too hard to be present in the moment  Accepting the impossibility of complete control  Oliver Burkeman Links:Oliver’s WebsiteTwitterOliver’s PostsCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Oliver Burkeman, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019)Oliver Burkeman (2014)Living Between Worlds with James HollisSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He's an international bestselling author, a world-renowned expert on word of mouth, social influence, consumer behavior, and how products, ideas, and behaviors can catch on.In this episode, Eric and Jonah discuss his book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Jonah Berger and I Discuss How to Change Anyone's Mind and … His book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind How people change That most decisions that we make are shaped by other people The major mistake most of us make when it comes to trying to change behavior in ourselves and others How to create change by reducing the barriers and energy required Feeling like we should do something vs because we want to do something People's zones of acceptance and rejection What it means to "highlight a gap" and how it can help us change How the costs of change often come due before the benefits of change are experienced What factors drive Identification vs Differentiation Jonah Berger Links:Jonah's WebsiteTwitterInstagramBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonah Berger, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life with Luke BurgisEffectively Thinking Ahead with Bina VenkataramanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stressed by Holiday Expectations?Join Eric and The One You Feed Community for a FREE online gathering on November 30th at 8pm Eastern Time. (Recording will be available for 72 hours)In this free live event, Eric will teach a Spiritual Habit that will allow you to release these types of stress and touch into a deeper feeling of wholeness, peace, steadiness, and presence. Register Now!In case you’re just recently joining us, or however long you’ve been a listener of the show, you may not realize that we have over 7 years of incredible episodes in our archive! We’ve had so many wonderful guests that we decided to handpick one of our favorites that may be new to you, but if not, is definitely worth another listen! Mark Manson is an author and personal development consultant. His writing is a different take on the self-help genre that he calls self-help from a first-person perspective. Mark has been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald, and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Mark Manson and I Discuss Important Lessons in Life and … Opportunity costs and being aware of the sacrifices His most popular article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*& The misconception of confidence The friendship test in romantic relationships How he applies logic in his writing Positive thinking and his issue with “The Secret” How inspiration often comes from taking action His “Do Something” principle Mistaking happiness for pleasure How true happiness comes from the meaning of our experiences Our need to always be challenged in life How our pursuits change as we get older His article on Ken Wilbur, an American philosopher Mark Manson Links:Mark’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Manson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Everyday Courage with Ryan HolidayLove, Grace, and Grit with Sebastian SiegelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stressed by Holiday Expectations?Join Eric and The One You Feed Community for a FREE online gathering on November 30th at 8pm Eastern Time. (Recording will be available for 72 hours)In this free live event, Eric will teach a Spiritual Habit that will allow you to release these types of stress and touch into a deeper feeling of wholeness, peace, steadiness, and presence. Register Now!Iain McGilchrist is a psychiatrist, author, lecturer, and former Oxford Literary Scholar. He is committed to the idea that the mind and brain can be understood only by seeing them in the broadest possible context, that of the whole of our physical and spiritual existence, and of the wider human culture in which they arise – the culture which helps to mold, and in turn is molded by, our minds and brains.Today Iain and Eric discuss his book, The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Iain McGilchrist and I Discuss The Divided yet Connected Brain and … His book, The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World That creativity requires resistance The differences between the two hemispheres of our brain How distinctions are important but divisions are invented by us The ways our brain hemispheres work together That our world is currently dominated by left brain hemisphere thinking The ways we might address the crises we face as a species and world How he responds to the critics of a right brain/left brain theory The ways in which our hemispheres are connected and work together The difference between our two hemispheres isn’t as much what they do but how they do it The 8 portals our brain uses to get information about the world The 4 powers we have to arrive at truth Iain McGilchrist Links:Iain’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Iain McGilchrist, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Whole Brain Living with Dr. Jill Bolte TaylorLessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman BarrettSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jeremy Lent is an author and speaker whose work investigates the patterns of thought that have led our civilization to its current crisis of sustainability.Today Jeremy and Eric discuss his new book, The Web of Meaning: Integrating Science and Traditional Wisdom to Find Our Place in the UniverseBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jeremy Lent and I Discuss the Integration of Science and Traditional Wisdom in Life and … His book, The Web of Meaning: Integrating Science and Traditional Wisdom to Find Our Place in the Universe The difference between want and intention  Understanding the power of kindness toward the “negative” parts of us His character, “Uncle Bob,” who represents the dominant worldview Worldview is the lens through which we see and make sense of everything  How humans pattern meaning into the world based on what our culture tells us Cultural mindfulness frees us to open up to other possibilities The idea that humans are selfish or have a “selfish gene” and how science refutes this The self-organization of life: the different parts make the whole and the whole relates to the different parts Human nature and how cooperation, not competition has led to the abundance of life on earth Differences between Eastern and Western traditional beliefs in regard to human nature The negative aspects of humans’ ability to cooperate The Taoist notion of Wu-Wei (effortless action) and Yu-Wei (purposive action) Integrating two elements of human consciousness; conceptual (left brain) and animate (right brain) The most important relationship in life is the “I’ and the “self” Chi is translated to matter and energy that make up the universe Li is how Chi is organized How the deep spiritual traditions from the past add richness to what modern science reveals The realization that deep human intuitions are our internal validation of what science tells us about how the universe really is Fractals and the holarchy or structure of life’s interconnectedness Jeremy Lent Links:Jeremy’s WebsiteJeremy’s BlogTwitterFacebookNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Jeremy Lent, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Neuroscience Behind our Reality with James KingslandMike McHargue (Science Mike)Science and the Sacred with Sasha SaganSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jacob Nordby is an author whose many quests have led him to a deep fascination with life in all of its weird splendor. He’s the founder of Manifesto Publishing House and he penned the award-winning novel, The Divine Arsonist, and a non-fiction book, Blessed Are the Weird: A Manifesto for Creatives.  Today Jacob and Eric discuss his new book is, The Creative Cure: How Finding and Freeing Your Inner Artist Can Heal Your Life. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jacob Norby and I Discuss Creativity as a Cure and … His book, The Creative Cure: How Finding and Freeing Your Inner Artist Can Heal Your Life How he defines creativity How creativity can bring you back to your truest self  Why he believes every human being is creative The three enemies of creativity The connection between spirituality and creativity Feeling an inward longing to come home to yourself Rebuilding his life after burning it to the ground How imagination can work for us or against us Allowing our thoughts and emotions yet not empower them The three questions he answers every day How to create more choice points in our daily lives Jacob Nordby Links:Jacob’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Jacob Nordby, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Your Creativity with Julia CameronWriting for Healing with Maggie SmithSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Beth Jacobs is a clinical psychologist in private practice and a former faculty member of the Feinberg School of Medicine of Northwestern University. She is also a teacher in the Soto Zen tradition and incorporates Buddhist studies and meditation into her work as both a psychologist and a writer.  In this episode, Eric and Beth discuss her book,  The Original Buddhist Psychology: What the Abhidharma Tells Us about How We Think, Feel, and Experience LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Beth Jacobs and I Discuss Original Buddhist Psychology and … Her book, The Original Buddhist Psychology: What the Abhidharma Tells Us about How We Think, Feel, and Experience Life Abhidharma is the structural layout of the Buddha’s original vision of the universe Understanding the complex laws of how forces move together in the universe The entity of “me” exists from the arbitrary framework we create for ourselves The 5 skandhas are what is used to construct our reality: form, feelings, perceptions, habit formations, consciousnesses Neuropsychology and the 17 steps of perception Interdependent origination is the idea that everything is in motion and connected How consciousness is just an interaction The various lists of lists in the Abhidharma Energy, mindfulness, and investigation  The idea of gently removing our obstructions Writing and meditation as powerful tools for awakening Beth Jacobs Links:Beth’s WebsiteNovo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management.If you enjoyed this conversation with Beth Jacobs, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Find Bliss with Bob ThurmanInner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack KornfieldSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Austin Kleon is a writer, artist, and speaker. Austin also speaks about creativity for organizations such as Pixar, Google, SXSW, and many others. He is the author of many books, including Steal Like an Artist, and Newspaper Blackout.In this episode, Eric and Austin discuss his book, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and BadBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Austin Kleon and I Discuss How to Stay Creative and … His book, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad How his deep work has usually originated from a dark place Life is about the balance between the light and dark in us His long term pessimism and short term optimism Making peace with things not ever getting easier and learning to enjoy the now. How there are no perfect conditions in life so no sense waiting or worrying about what’s next If/And statements and how life is not linear in that way His reflection on the book her wrote 10 years ago Trying to get back to the beginner’s mind Seeking curiosity over wisdom Ordinary life + extra attention = the extraordinary Paying attention by drawing, writing, reading poetry, or walking Trying to view things as an artist might Forget the noun, do the verb The importance of having a hobbies How energy can be found in books and works of art Austin Kleon Links:Austin’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Austin Kleon, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Your Creativity with Julia CameronWriting as a Path to Awakening with Albert Flynn DeSilverSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.