The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m talking about how high achieving women can access more joy during the holidays – without all of the stress! Instead of dreading all the tasks associated with this time of year, I want to show you how to have fun and discover new delights in the season, because it is possible! In my new program, “Uncompromising Intimacy--How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays” I’ll be sharing how to bring more intentionality, more ease and more meaningful connection during this time of year. Learn more about the program in today’s episode, hear an amazing testimonial from a woman who participated last year, and sign up here: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday   IN THIS EPISODE:   [00:46] The stress of the holiday season  [06:00] Living with intentionality  [08:15] Details about “Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays” www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday [09:42] How do you feel during the holidays [10:18] How to communicate expectations with loved ones [13:00] How to make meaningful memories [13:25] The art of reflection [14:30] Testimonial from a participant in last year’s program   KEY TAKEAWAYS:   Alexandra’s coaching program, “Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays” helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. Program begins with a bonus call on December 1, 2021. Details at www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday. Along with the joy of the holiday season comes an exceptional amount of stress and pressure for high achieving women who strive to create fun and meaningful experiences for their families. Living with intentionality during the holidays means learning to have balance between serving your family and honoring your own experience. Prioritize what really matters to both you and the people you love.  Alexandra’s coaching program, “Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During The Holidays” helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. We’ll start by focusing on how you feel during the holidays, how you felt in prior years, and how you feel anticipating this one.  One of the first steps to accessing joy during the holidays is discovering your (often pushed aside) feelings and desires for. When you achieve that clarity you have a much better chance of making those hopes and desires come true.   Next we’ll talk about how to successfully communicate with loved ones about how you want to do things so they are better for everyone. Instead of just delegating, learn how to collaborate and co-create with your family. This will bring a beautiful new energy to the holidays. Then we’ll focus on making meaningful memories.  And in the final week of the program, we will learn the art of reflection: ending the holidays by looking back and examining your experiences so as to be ready for next year.   Links Mentioned:   Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday   Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl   Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage   Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/   FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7   FB page: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m speaking with the incredible Nneka Chineme Unachukwa, MD, commonly known as Dr. Una. She is a pediatrician, podcast host, entrepreneur coach to physicians all over the world, and CEO and Founder of Ivy League Pediatrics in Lawrenceville, Georgia. On top of all that, she is also a wife of 15 years and mom to four children. In this insightful and encouraging conversation, we discuss delegation within marriage, the distinction between compromise and staying true to yourself, and how marriage is the ultimate personal development program.    IN THIS EPISODE:   [01:27] Dr. Una is introduced and shares the meaning behind her name [04:57] The heart behind Dr. Una’s work and her podcast, EntreMD [07:48] How your decision-making process impacts your intimate relationship [12:36] The importance of delegation  [19:07] The difference between compromise and prioritizing when it comes to identity, values, and dreams within relationships [25:47] Dr. Una answers the questions, “What have you learned about yourself as a result of being married to your husband?” [31:14] Information about Dr. Una’s Podcast, EntreMD   KEY TAKEAWAYS:   Communication is key when making important decisions that affect your partner. In order to accomplish more in life and have more time and freedom, you have to leverage the power of people and adopt a lifestyle of delegation within your marriage and your work-life. When we prioritize certain needs or desires in a relationship, the method will not matter as much as the outcome.  Bring all of yourself to your relationship. Never try to bury your hopes or dreams in order to avoid conflict. We are the best we can be, the most fun, the happiest, when we are true to who we are, and when we make room for our partner to do the same. Marriage is the best personal development program!     Links Mentioned:   https://entremd.com https://entremd.com/podcast/   Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl   Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage    Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com    Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy    FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7    FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/   

As parents, we sometimes forget just how much our relationships, especially our relationship with our partner, impacts our children. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I interview my nine-year-old son, Matthew. We have a very frank, unscripted conversation where I ask him questions about our family, his friends, and life in general. He shares some insightful thoughts about how the smallest hint of tension or disagreement between his parents can be upsetting and he offers advice on how he believes parents can help children “have a wonderful time”. Buckle up for a really sweet and unique conversation that I'm excited to share with you.    IN THIS EPISODE:   [00:46] Introduction and explanation of today’s guest [04:55] Alexandra welcomes her son, Matthew to the interview  [05:20] What’s it like being the youngest child in the family? [06:34] What makes the Stockwell family, the Stockwell family? [07:22] What do you mean by we are the “opposite of divorced?”  [10:06] How children perceive parental tension   [11:45] What’s it like having older siblings?  [12:28] Advice for parents: How to help your children have a wonderful childhood [13:08] What have you learned about yourself from being a son and a brother?   KEY TAKEAWAYS:   It’s important to understand that what happens within your marital relationship will have an impact on your children.  The more sensitive your child is the more they might perceive the simplest of tensions between you and your partner as a negative experience  Matthew shares two important pieces of advice to parents on how to help kids have a wonderful childhood: challenge kids to grow and learn but don’t push too hard; and encourage children to connect with others but also let them learn to be content by themselves.   Matthew is Alexandra and her husband's 4th and youngest child, age 9 at the time of the interview. In the conversation, Matthew shares openly and honestly about being a member of the Stockwell family and shares insights on how important his parents relationship is for him.   Links Mentioned:   Intimacy Program: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy/   Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage   Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com   Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl   Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy   FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7   FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

How do you feel about scheduled intimacy? Many couples feel it's only necessary for those who lack passion or have marital issues. However, I’m here to tell you that’s just not true. We make time for other things we value, like exercise and eating regularly. Why shouldn’t we also carve out designated time for intimacy? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m talking about the misconceptions surrounding this and the many benefits that couples experience when they priortize sex in this way.   IN THIS EPISODE:   [00:46] How do you feel about scheduling sex? [4:48] How to alter your perception of scheduled intimacy  [07:57] The anticipation of scheduled intimacy  [13:51] Guiding intimate expectations and communication [17:40] The Intimacy Program   KEY TAKEAWAYS:   There is a misunderstanding that scheduling sex is only for couples that lack passion or are having marital issues - that’s not true. When we value things, we schedule it into our lives like exercise or eating regularly. Why shouldn’t we priortize sex in the same way? Just like looking forward to dining at a nice restaurant or going out on a date with your partner, scheduling intimacy builds anticipation. Scheduling sex increases intentionality and communication within your relationship, which leads to greater intimacy.   Links Mentioned:   Intimacy Program: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy/   Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl   Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage    Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy   FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7   IG business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

 On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m speaking with Dr. Brent Lacey about marriage, money, and more! Professionally, Brent is a gastroenterologist who is passionate about helping physicians succeed with business and personal finances. In his personal life, he and his wife have cultivated a magnificent marriage based on honesty, clarity, and humility. In his words, “Marriage is the ballgame. If you don’t get that right, there’s no point in having anything else.” During our conversation, we talk about how having a healthy, loving relationship will spill over into all facets of your life, how to date your spouse and how to overcome money problems in your marriage. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] Dr. Brent Lacey introduced [01:50] How marriage impacts all facets of life [07:29] Advice from other couples  [09:00] Money and marriage [16:00] The power of “Why” in communication [20:00] Marriage and Money Summit information [23:00] Personal growth from marriage [25:00] Dealing with disappointment in marriage KEY TAKEAWAYS: A healthy, loving marriage will spill over into all areas of life Through intentional acts of love in marriage you can keep your relationship from becoming mundane and routine No matter how old you get, you need to date your spouse Letting your spouse know the story and “why” behind decisions and values is really important to healthy communication Honesty, clarity and humility are essential to building a healthy marriage   Links Mentioned:   thescopeofpractice.com/marriage-and-money/ Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage  Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell. IG business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m exploring Jada Pinkett and Will Smith’s marriage and how they have created a dynamic and fulfilling relationship. In looking at their relationship and other couples I have coached, we begin to see how important it is to establish what the foundation is for your marriage and clarify what keeps you and your partner together. Identifying the answers to these basic questions will help your marriage go from just surviving to flourishing! IN THIS EPISODE: [01:00] Alexandra’s dream interview; joining Jada and her family at the Red Table Talk.  [02:16] Exploring Jada Pinkett and Will Smith’s relationship; why does their marriage work? [03:40] What is the foundation for a lasting marriage?  [08:42] Will and Jada; what is the perfect way to interact as a couple?  [12:22] Alexandra guides a couple she has coached to explore the foundation of their relationship. [17:00] Clarify what keeps you together in your relationship. [17:41] Aligned & Hot Marriage Program Offering. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Every couple should identify what the foundation of their relationship is. Ask yourself and your spouse, what is the perfect way to interact with each other? It is so important to clarify what keeps you together as a couple. Is what you choose something that makes for a juicy relationship? Links Mentioned: Aligned & Hot Marriage Program - www.alignedhotmarriage.com Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage  Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

Today’s episode is the exciting start of all of the juicy newness of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. I’ve invited my husband, Rodd Stockwell, MD, back to the podcast to discuss how we’ve kept our marriage feeling new and fresh over the last 25 years. We dive into the nature of how desires naturally change over time, overcoming the fear of expressing those desires, and cultivating uncompromising intimacy. While this is one of those conversations that could go on for hours, tune in to hear this bite-sized chunk all about keeping it fresh! IN THIS EPISODE: [03:43] Rodd’s response to one of my most asked questions: How does your relationship stay exciting after 25 years of marriage? [06:14] Are things boring in our bedroom? [11:16] Uncompromising intimacy and growing to prioritize our experience. [14:11] Overcoming the fear of expressing desires. [17:21] The importance of how you listen when your partner shares. [20:37] A practical application of open communication about one’s feelings and desires. [21:34] The role curiosity plays in continuously arising emotions and desires. KEY TAKEAWAYS: All people change naturally over time and have new desires that arise. It’s about honoring what’s arising in each other that makes it different and new and fresh. If one person is overriding fear and expressing a desire, then there's somebody listening and how that person listens is incredibly important. It takes courage to take the risk to suggest trying something new. But it begins with not letting the fear win.  The thing that keeps a relationship spicy and alive is cultivating uncompromising intimacy. The ability to be aware of how you feel, and develop the ability to express it to your partner, and receive and hear when your partner shares.   LINKS MENTIONED Uncompromising Intimacy - Podcast Episode 25 Years of Intimacy, with my Husband Rodd Stockwell - Podcast Episode Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage  Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com  Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy  FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7  FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/    BIO:  Rodd Stockwell, MD is a Pain Management Doctor. He is Alexandra's husband of 25 years. Together they have 4 children ranging in age from 9-25.

It’s time for some exciting new changes! In this episode, I’m sharing all of the updates and plans for the podcast. From the name and cover art, to the format of the episodes, I want to make sure that you’re up to date with where we’re heading next. I’m thrilled to share these changes with you, and I look forward to the next expression and pleasure in this phase of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Enjoy this next iteration of my podcast relationship as you come along for the ride. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:52] The new podcast name and cover art and the reasons behind them. [02:52] How I view my podcast and listeners through the lens of a relationship. [03:50] Sharing the elements of the next expression of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. [05:39] My plan to incorporate more specific teaching through vignettes. [06:13] The details of how you can celebrate this next phase of the podcast with me on Facebook.     KEY TAKEAWAYS: The Marriage Podcast is now The Intimate Marriage Podcast. It is more accurate, juicier, and true. The new cover art is classy, subtle, and sexy. It better reflects what I am all about. Interviews with amazing couples are not going away. I will also interview individuals as well as going deeper in my solo episodes.  The celebratory Facebook Party is on October 7th, 2021, at 9 AM PST. For those who attend live, three people will have a chance to win a transformative 30-minute coaching session with me. The recording will be available for replay, so please join the Facebook group even if this date has passed.     Links Mentioned: Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group for the celebratory Facebook Party on October 7th at 9 AM PST: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

In anticipation of Josephine’s 25th birthday, Alexandra interviews her daughter on the experience of being a child in a family where the parents have an evolving, hot, intimate marriage. They talk about the clarity and internal confidence it has provided Josephine as she herself navigates life and relationships. While there is a lot of juicy content and amazing insights in the episode, it’s hearing how Alexandra and Josephine connect and communicate that reveals so much. BIO: Josephine Stockwell is the oldest of four children, a classical musician, and Alexandra’s daughter. She loves to cook, cut and style hair, and health/fitness. She brings curiosity, emotional intelligence, creativity, and sunshine wherever she is. Josephine is violist. She is currently in graduate school at Northwestern and a member of the Civic Orchestra of Chicago.   Josephine's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephine_stockwell/ Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

In this episode Alexandra goes deep into the details of uncompromising intimacy. She defines compromise and describes the kind of relationship it creates: bland, neutral, comfortable companionship. In contrast, uncompromising intimacy leads to deep emotional connection, dynamic expansion and self-expression, and passion! Listen in for more details and specificity about what this actually looks like in practice, and be sure to read Alexandra’s bestselling book on the same topic, called “Uncompromising Intimacy.” Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage