FRIED. The Burnout Podcast

Hi Fried Fans! On the last #straightfromcait episode, I shared 5 words with you that come up often as guides on my clients’ burnout recovery journeys. Those words were: safety, owning your genius, embodiment, community, and truth. When it came time to make the infographic for the episode (if you’re not following me on LinkedIn or Instagram, now's the time to get on board! :)), I added one more word - RESTORE. And when I asked you which of these words resonated most, RESTORE was the winner by a country mile. Some of the comments you left taught me that you still aren’t sure how to turn this word into an actionable step that you can take in your life, so I decided to break it down for you. First, we have to think about what this word means when it comes to being a human. I mean, we could talk about restoring furniture, but I’m not sure if the metaphor would work. The word restore has a simple definition: to bring something or someone back to a former condition but when we’re talking about health, is that really what we mean? Here’s what I think resonated with you in the word restore (and feel free to correct me if I’m wrong!) The word restore means to be brought to a state of overall well being. It might be a state that is even better than a state you have ever experienced. It means creating space for healing. It means slowing down, having a respite from day to day events and stressors, and allowing your body to use it’s natural powers of rejuvenation without interrupting her before she’s done. It means sleeping deeply, eating well, and resting without feeling guilty. But that all sounds like a tall order, so how can you start to give your body more time to restore itself today within the schedule that you currently have? Luckily, I have a few ideas ;) You'll find 3 tips in this episode and 2 of them take under 60 seconds. Let me know which is your favorite! XOXO C ALSO - The Bouncebackability Factor (my first book!) is available for pre-order (in the kindle version, the paperback will be out Sept 14th). Check it out here: bit.ly/bouncebackorder AND - I loooooooooove hearing your stories. If you have been pushed too far to the edge and you're ready to end the burnout cycle and live the life you deserve, book your initial call here: bit.ly/callcait That first call is free and it's everything we need to figure out if I'm the right person to help you right now. Slots for the fall are filling up quickly, so snag yours asap! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is being released on my birthday! YAYYAYAYYAYAY! Shout me out everywhere because I love my Birthday! :)   Especially tag me on IG: @cait_donovan Today I want to chat with you about the power of words. Often, in the first call with a new coaching client, there is a word that pokes itself out and decides that this is what we need to focus on during our work together. It happens intuitively, and it serves as great guidance as you heal. Today, I want to share 5 of them with you that happen to pop up fairly frequently! 1. Safety - there can be a lack of safety in your life even if you’re technically ‘safe’. If there are areas where you feel unsafe, your nervous system will remain stuck in fight or flight and it will be really hard for you to heal. This can mean living with someone who has explosive emotions, it can mean feeling that you don’t buy new stuff because you’re afraid you can’t care for it. 2. Owning Your Genius - this is true if you’re on the right path, but still need to allow yourself to grow to a bigger scale - staying small can burn you out!   Truth - when you are living a life that your parents or culture would deem acceptable but what you want to do is a little less conventional or socially acceptable than traditional modes of working ( or LIVING). Community - we need other people. A couple weeks ago, I did a #straightfromcait about external validation and I meant every single word. Soon, there will be a FB group around The Bouncebackability Factor (preorder now!)   Embodiment - the knowledge that you have in your brain is shared with your heart and your body. I was stuck in intellectualizing my situation for a long time and I HAD the knowledge, but I wasn’t APPLYING all the knowledge. Practicing allows for embodiment! If you want your own word, we start by getting on a free consult call (we need to know we love each other before we start this process! :)). You can book a time slot for yourself here: bit.ly/callcait   XOXO Cait P.S. The Bouncebackability Factor Reviews are IN! Here’s an example to get you excited to snag your copy ASAP… “I laughed, I cried, I took a deep breath and sighed … was it possible Cait had been following me around and documenting my trials and tribulations??? It was a BLESSING to acknowledge that the symptoms and manifestations of Burn-Out were systemic in society, especially so with women. It was also reaffirming to know that it is possible to slow the progression of being fried alive by learning to recognize signs and symptoms and pay attention to the whispers of the body that require attention and lovingkindness, before the whispers turn into screams, or worse.” Kathy P.P.S. Want to pre-order your kindle copy IMMEDIATELY!??! You can do that here :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, I’m speaking with Nicole Liloia, a therapist and business strategist who helps women entrepreneurs build bigger businesses and create consistent income growth by helping them create multiple income streams. Her system allows her clients the freedom to work less, while still making more money. Nicole got her Masters in Social Work from Columbia University, loves Taco Tuesdays and Apothic wine.   Nicole talks about her experience living on a small salary in the Big Apple and how that contributes to burnout, her love for travel and how that inspired her to bust through the limiting ideas of running her own business, affiliate marketing and of course, Dawson’s Creek (that’s why you’re here, isn’t it?)! We discussed how we can often suffer from burnout but call it laziness and be ruthlessly hard on ourselves and how it actually takes time to recover, it’s not a flip of a switch for anyone. Stay till the end, because Nicole also shares some easy tips on affiliate marketing and how you can get started today, even if you have a job or don’t have a business. Plus, ways you can start saving on autopilot and guarantee a more secure future for yourself!   I truly enjoyed speaking with Nicole and love that she actually lives so close to me and both of us would love to know what resonated the most with you from today’s episode and would you like to listen to an episode dedicated to finances and burnout? Send me a message on Instagram and I cannot wait to hear from you!   Connect with Cait Website: www.caitdonovan.com Cait on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cait_donovan Fried on Instagram: www.instagram.com/friedtheburnoutpodcast Pre-Order My Book: https://bit.ly/bouncebackorder Connect with Nicole Website:https://www.nicoleliloia.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nicoleliloia Grab your Freebie here https://www.nicoleliloia.com/multiple-income-streams   Xo Cait   P.S. Do something to care for yourself this week and book a FREE call with me! Initial calls last 35 minutes and are a great way to kickstart your burnout recovery. Book your call at caitdonovan.as.me/free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

External validation is crucial for preventing burnout, as lack of praise is a major risk factor. The podcast challenges the idea that internal work alone can solve burnout, emphasizing the importance of external support. Surrounding yourself with positive influences and seeking validation from others can help overcome burnout and rediscover joy in life.

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Khadijah Tishan Washington MSW, LCSW , a licensed therapist who credits her own creative and chaotic childhood with inspiring her passion for social work. Khadijah began her journey of service and self- healing in child and family mental health. Her latest book, ‘REAL’ is a memoir of healing and deeper awareness that directs you to serve the most vulnerable- the people serving the neglected, abused, and marginalized. Khadijah describes this journey of serving and self-healing as ‘REAL’.    During our conversation, she shares snippets from her own life, her childhood and her lived experience with racism in America and generational trauma it inflicts, what makes her so passionate and how all of that has informed her work over the years   I truly enjoyed speaking with Khadijah and having this extremely important conversation continue. I’d love to know: What is one thing that stuck out for you from this conversation? What’s your biggest takeaway? Both Khadijah and I would love to know, so please share and tag us on social media so we can support and cheer for you!   Connect with Cait Website: www.caitdonovan.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/friedtheburnoutpodcast Pre-Order My Book: https://bit.ly/bouncebackorder Connect with Khadijah Website: https://khadijahtishan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/khadijahtishan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/khadijahtishan/ Buy her book HERE!   Xo Cait   P.S. Do something to care for yourself this week and book a FREE call with me! Initial calls last 35 minutes and are a great way to kickstart your burnout recovery. Book your call at caitdonovan.as.me/free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi FRIED Friends! LINK: bit.ly/callcait You’ve found yourself right in the beginning of a #straightfromcait episode and I’m so grateful that you’re here. Your time, and your listening energy is so appreciated and my biggest hope is that the information you get by being here is worth every last second. I really do my best to be sure that’s the truth! We’re at the end of July now and holy shit, it’s almost August 2020. Can you even? I cannot. In August, I will celebrate my 38th Birthday (I love my birthday, so get ready to hear about it a few times in the coming episodes ;)) and let me tell you, I’m not where I thought I’d be. Growing up, I knew I’d do something a little different, I was always a little left of center when it came to my choices, my friends, my style, and my ideas. And even though this was always a part of me, I felt too far away from center for a long time. As a pre-med student who turned to Chinese medicine instead, and as an American living abroad, and then as an author of a book and a podcast on a topic that no one used to talk about - it seems like I’m always at tne edges. Living on that edge, making the different choice, following my heart sometimes left me defensive and in a state where I had to PROVE to everyone that I wasn’t crazy, that acupuncture worked, that life coaching matters, that the work I do is POWERFUL and transformational even if other people didn’t understand it. It’ll be no surprise to you, as a FRIED The Burnout Podcast listener, that this constant need to prove my value because I was not in the mainstream was part of my burnout. I realized this past week that is no longer the case. Not only do I not have anything to prove (I’ve already done the uber successful bit) but I’m so glad to be on the edges. I like living here in the world of personal development, spirituality, alternative medicine, energy healing, quantum physics and all of it. Even when I don’t agree with it all, I love it and I love being a part of it. That’s why, when I was totally burnt out, I was reallly frustrated. I would read things on manifestation and the law of attraction and mindset and positive thinking and want to throw something against a wall - it all sounded like bullshit to me, even though I’d experienced it earlier in my life. When I was burnt out, it was because I was not in my OWN mainstream, not in my OWN center. I was trying too hard to be ‘good enough’ for everyone and everything else that I left myself behind. When you do that, you’re spending an awful lot of time in your left brain and you’re missing the magic, the energy, the creativeness, and the connectedness that your right brain has to offer. When they’re both working, both the left and right sides of your brain, when they’re connected, when they’re communicating properly - the magic comes back. This is when you can use gratitude journals instead of resentment journals and manifestation alongside your goal setting.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Whitney Goodman, a licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of The Collaborative Counselling Center in Miami, FL. She provides counseling to individuals and couples who want better relationships and to heal from the hurt in their past.  During our conversation, she shares her own burnout story, that happened really early on in her life and career and how she felt like a failure being a mental health professional herself. After being told “you’re too young to be burnt out”, she decided to leave her job and go out on her own, quickly realizing that burnout was happening because of the structural inequities at her job and the lack of support in her own life and not because she chose the wrong profession. We also talk about toxic positivity and why you need to avoid it (despite what social media is telling you), people pleasing and the good, the bad and the ugly of boundaries!  I truly enjoyed speaking with Whitney and this episode is chock full of so much goodness, that I’m curious: What is one thing that you KNOW you need to start implementing in your life? Both Whitney and I would love to know, so please share and tag us on social media so we can support and cheer for you!   Connect with Cait Website: www.caitdonovan.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/friedtheburnoutpodcast/ Pre-Order My Book: https://bit.ly/bouncebackorder/ Connect with Whitney Website: https://www.thecollaborativecounselingcenter.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sitwithwhit/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CollaborativeCounselingMiami/ Courses: https://sitwithwhit.mykajabi.com/store/ Xo Cait P.S. Do something to care for yourself this week and book a FREE call with me! Initial calls last 35 minutes and are a great way to kickstart your burnout recovery. Book your call at caitdonovan.as.me/free/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week’s episode of FRIED: The Burnout Podcast, you’re getting a #straightfromcait episode about my favorite emotion and my favorite topic. I often say that things are my favorite topic because there are so many things I love to talk about (I was BORN to podcast, even if it didn’t exist yet back then ;)). But this one really takes the cake. Because I said it’s my favorite emotion, you might think I’m talking Gratitude, or JOY, Happiness, or Humorous. I love all of those too, but there’s one that I ReALLY love and I love it for it’s transformative properties. I love it because no one else talks about it. I love it because working with it is SO SO SO Powerful. So, what’s my favorite emotion? Resentment! Some of you may have guessed that because I do have a course that helps you transform Resentment - it’s called The Resentment Journal mini course and for just $27 bucks, you can save yourself years of wasted energy and become an boundary building master. You'll find the shownotes for this episode at: https://www.friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/post/sfc-resentment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode of Fried, we’re talking to Dr. Kara Pepper, practicing primary care Internist in Atlanta, GA, and a life coach for physicians struggling with burnout, transition, imposter syndrome and perfectionism. A recovering perfectionist herself, she coaches doctors through their own burnout and transition and helps them to love the life they worked so hard to create. She is a wife, mom, yogi and westie lover. She shares her story of how she went from being a Professional ballet dancer in her teens to becoming a leading physician. She opens up about how she used workaholism to mute her feelings since childhood and although she’d built a great looking life on paper, underneath it all she was miserable and barely holding it together. After her in-laws’ deaths, she crashed and burned out, couldn't keep the pieces of her life together and while she fantasized about running away and leaving it all behind, she finally took a sabbatical that would allow her to rebuild a life that was meaningful, sustainable, and connected. We talk a lot about making changes in areas that you can actually control,separating the external and internal causes of burnout and focusing on what you actually can change first, gaining energy from that and then moving on to the rest. This talk is so damn important right now as we continue to move through COVID and physician and nurse and hospital worker burnout is going through the roof!    Share this one with all of your medicine based friends, they need to know that they are not alone! We've got their backs and that there is help out there! Connect with Dr. Kara Pepper Website: https://www.KaraPepperMD.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karapeppermd LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kara-pepper-2555b42/   Connect with Cait Donovan Website: https://www.caitdonovan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/friedtheburnoutpodcast/ Resentment Journal for $27 only: https://www.caitdonovan.com/resentment-journal Do something to care for yourself this week and book a FREE call with me! Initial calls last 35 minutes and are a great way to kickstart your burnout recovery. Book your call at caitdonovan.as.me/free.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's #straightfromcait, I'm reading to you from my book, The Bouncebackability Factor. I think this passage is important for today because it is all about sitting in the muck when we feel like shit, not spiritually bypassing our problems, and not finding silver linings before it's too soon. Right now, amidst coronavirus and the very necessary renewed talks on racism, the energy is heavy - and before we try to shake it off, we need to allow it time to process. The passage that I read from the book this week should help you understand why. If you're stock full of resentments and you're stuck in them, I have a new tool for you! It's The Resentment Journal Mini-Course and it's a $27, 17-page fill in able pdf workbook for your emotional transformation pleasure.   It even got me an article in Forbes recently, so you know it's good stuff ;) You can grab your copy of the Resentment Journal here: https://www.caitdonovan.com/resentment-journal And, if you know you need more support than that, you can always book a free consult to find out how I can help :) https://www.caitdonovan.as.me/free My ears are ready for your story <3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices