Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

"If the pandemic is about anything, it's about loss,” says Dr. Lisa Damour. Grief can come in different forms - from losing a loved one, to mourning the loss of senior year in high school, to not getting into your favorite college. How can you tell if your child is grieving and what can you do to help? Lisa and Reena examine how to support our kids as they cope with loss. Reena shares how a bouncy castle rented on the morning of her grandfather’s funeral helped her family deal with loss. Lisa discusses insights from Sigmund Freud - written over one hundred years ago - that can be helpful as we find our way through the pandemic.Enter to win one of two copies of "Fall of Freddie the Leaf" being given away by the @asklisapodcast. The book has helped children and adults deal with the mourning process.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast ⁠2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠4. For U.S. residents only⁠⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 4/26/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do you talk to kids about social media postings that might cross a line? What's the best way to start a conversation with your sons and daughters about what's too sexy for public consumption? A parent writes to Lisa and Reena about the suggestive TikTok postings her daughter puts up. Lisa explains how to open up lines of communication and the guidance parents might give about posts that could be seen as provocative. Lisa also shares what she is seeing during the pandemic and details why kids post suggestive content at this age.Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Lisa's fabulous New York Times best-selling book Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast ⁠2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠4. For U.S. residents only⁠⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 4/19/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do you prepare kids for life in the real world? Author Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Lisa and Reena for a conversation on the non-academic skills your children need to succeed as they move into young adulthood. Julie spent more than a decade at Stanford University, some of that time as the dean of first-year students. The women talk about how to discuss race with our children, the different chores kids should take on as they age, and the critical importance of having real responsibilities at home. Julie describes the power of positive parenting and talks about her brand-new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.Enter to win one of two copies being given away by the @asklisapodcast of Julie’s new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast ⁠2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠4. For U.S. residents only⁠⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 4/12/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As we move into the next phase of this pandemic we take listeners back to an encore presentation of "Toolbox for Terrible Times: How to Manage Hopelessness and Helplessness." Lisa offers specific tools to help children with their feelings and describes the key role played by healthy psychological defenses. Reena gets emotional talking about what her son's Connecticut teacher did to prepare her students for the first day back at school. The conversation also covers psychological research on how both children and adults can significantly increase their well-being.Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comAsk Lisa is produced by www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast @LDamour @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

There are many reasons why kids lie to parents. Dr. Lisa gives several explanations for why kids sometimes don’t tell the truth and shares stories from her practice of the difficult scenarios she's helped families navigate, including an example of when parents assume the worst about their teen's behavior and get kids to live down to their expectations. Dr. Lisa and Reena also discuss cheating and how what happens in the mind of a six-year-old cheater differs from cheating among high school students. Ultimately, helping kids develop a fine-tuned conscience can make all the difference when it comes to being honest.FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE: First Book works with half a million teachers in underserved communities to get them books and much needed resources. The organization believes the best way out of poverty is education: www.firstbook.orgARTICLE: Lisa's NYT article How to Help a Teen Out of a Homework HoleEmail your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Talking to a child about pornography might not be a conversation most parents think of having. However, by the age of sixteen, 90% of kids have looked at porn. Dr. Lisa Damour explains that kids' interest in sex is normal and part of healthy development. But she also explains how porn can be traumatic and confusing to kids and teens who encounter it. How do you approach the conversation and at what age should you start discussing it? Reena asks for tips on how to make these talks less uncomfortable.BOOK GIVEAWAYEnter to win a copy of Sex, Teens, & Everything in Between by Shafia Zaloom or a copy of It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris and Michelle Emberley, given away by @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/22/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)ARTICLESLisa's NYT article: How to Talk to Your Teenager About PornographyShafia Zaloom's NYT article: Kids Are Watching Pornography. Here's How to Talk About ItEmail your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

With the one year anniversary of the pandemic approaching there are reasons to be hopeful. The infection rates are dropping and more vaccines are being distributed. So why do so many people still feel down? Reena asks about what parents can do when they feel the ground is shifting and things are out of their control. How do we help kids manage the anxiety of starting in-person school and the persistent stress of this pandemic? Lisa talks through strategies for finding a way out of feeling anxious and depressed.Book Giveaway!!Enter to win one of 3 copies of A Place to Hang the Moon by Kate Albus being given away by @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Finding time to quiet your mind can have real benefits for you and your child. Author, instructor, mom, and entrepreneur Mallika Chopra is our special guest. She says that meditation isn’t just repeating mantras - there are many other ways your kids can be mindful. Mallika also talks about her father Deepak Chopra and how he found meditation after going through his own personal struggles. Mindful eating is also discussed.Book Giveaway!!Enter to win one of 3 copies of Mallika Chopra's new book Just Be You being given away by @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/8/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A parent writes in asking for help to address a teenager's marijuana use. Some teens are turning to drugs in this pandemic as they are looking for ways to cope with the sadness and boredom. Dr. Lisa explains what actually works in getting kids to stop using drugs and how to talk with kids in a way that's likely to keep them from becoming involved with drugs in the first place. Dr. Lisa talks about choices kids might make in the pandemic that could have irreversible consequences, while also offering tips on positive coping. Reena asks when adults should be concerned about their own behavior with regard to alcohol or marijuana use.BOOK GIVEAWAY:Thrivers: The Surprising Reason Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, by Dr. Michele BorbaEnter to win one of 3 books being given away by @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 3/1/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should you speak up when you disagree with the approach other families are taking with their Covid rules? Reena discusses the latest news on the spread of the British mutation and Dr. Lisa describes the mental maneuvers we make when trying to rationalize behavior. How do we find peace when we feel uneasy with what other families are doing? And how do you talk with children about the fact that different families follow different rules?For Children Everywhere - “A Million Thanks” collects and sends millions of letters thanking and supporting our active, reserve, and veteran military. Generosity can come in the form of writing letters or sending art work - all your child needs to send is a picture or note. The organization does request a $1 donation for postage as they sort letters to get into the hands of those who need the mail the most:https://amillionthanks.org/Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comAdditional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.