Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

You’ve heard people say, “I want to get this off my chest,” but what if your kid doesn’t know how to express emotion? How do you get children and teenagers to talk? Dr. Lisa explains the term "emotional regulation," and how parents can help kids manage their feelings effectively. Reena asks, "What if you’re a parent who struggles with managing your own emotions?" Lisa explains how both parents and children can benefit from thinking in terms of learning how to express, and contain, emotions.Events:Join Lisa, Dr. Anthony Fauci, New York Times journalists (who are parents themselves) Apoorva Mandavilli, a science reporter, and moderator Andrew Ross Sorkin, Times columnist as they take your questions about kids and Covid on Sept 9th 1pm est.RSVP below.https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/12/science/fauci-kids-and-covid-event.htmlRead Lisa’s latest New York Times Column:How to Support Teenagers as They Head Back to SchoolListen to Reena's new daily news podcast "The Recount Daily Pod."Dr. Lisa joined Reena on her new morning news podcast.... The Recount Daily Pod... to talk about stress and trauma.You can listen & subscribe to "The Recount Daily Pod":https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-recount-daily-pod/id1574219377?i=1000533968493Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by:Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is it ever too late to help your child rethink a friendship? How do you lay the groundwork to help children choose the right people to be in their lives? Dr. Lisa explains how the friends our kids chose can also give us a window into the people they may date. Even during the teenage years Lisa says there are ways to help foster new friendships. Reena asks when should a parent intervene.Read Lisa’s latest New York Times Column:How to Support Teenagers as They Head Back to SchoolFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by:www.GoodTroubleProductions.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan kick off Season Two of Ask Lisa by talking about how to cope with another school year under Covid-19. They tackle a letter from a parent seeking advice on how to deal with her own anxiety about kids going back to school as the Delta variant rages. She is exhausted and does not see relief coming any time soon. How do we help our kids feel school-ready when we are running on empty?Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanAdditional resources:https://www.drlisadamour.com/Email your questions for Dr. Lisa to: asklisa@drlisadamour.comSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should we be pushing children and teens to make up for lost learning this summer? Or should we let them call the shots on how they spend their time? What really matters most? Dr. Lisa has advice that might seem counterintuitive for parents who feel ready to charge ahead. A mom writes in asking for advice on how to think about summer schedules for her three kids. Reena seeks guidance on managing social media and video games once school lets out. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk about what families should focus on when making summer plans. In this final episode of the season, Lisa and Reena also explain how to stay connected with the podcast this summer. Season Two starts August 24th.Objective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium.Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace. Head to wwww.ObjectiveWellness.comEnter the ASKLISA promo code to get 15% off.Dr. Lisa’s Summer Resource List100 Summer Fun Ideas for Kids and Parents100+ Things for Teens to Do This SummerLisa Damour's 6.1.21 New York Times column Why Teens Need a Break This SummerEmail us your questions or topics you would like us to cover to asklisa@drlisadamour.com.See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lisa and Reena are joined by guest Emmanuel Acho, former NFL linebacker, current FoxSports analyst, host of the YouTube hit "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man," and author of a book by the same name. Most recently, Emmanuel wrote the instant #1 New York Times Bestseller "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Boy." In a discussion both wide-ranging and deep, Emmanuel tackles how to talk with our kids about the n-word, what we can do to address systemic racism and prejudice, and what it really means for parents and their children to act as allies.BOOK GIVEAWAY:Enter to win one of two copies of Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy By Emmanuel Acho from the @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 6/7/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.)Parent PromotionObjective Wellness is sponsoring this episode. Our listeners get 15% off their chocolate-y treat Sweet Calm made with 60% dark cacao, the calming ayurvedic herb ashwagandha, and magnesium. Calm your mind and rediscover your inner peace. Head to wwww.ObjectiveWellness.com and enter the ASKLISA promo code to get 15% off.Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: Www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The pandemic has disrupted our kids' social lives. What can parents do to help a child make new friends if they've withdrawn from their peers? How do we help kids who are reluctant to reach out, or who rub their classmates the wrong way? A mom emails about her twelve and a half-year-old daughter who was once an extrovert and now is not. Dr. Lisa explains the five categories that have been identified by research to describe kids' social profiles, and how knowing these categories helps us give children the right kind of support. Should parents try to engineer friendships? Lisa has a strong opinion on this topic while Reena asks how we can help kids find secure friendships as we emerge from Covid-19.BOOKGIVEAWAY:The Science of Making Friends: Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults; By Elizabeth A. Laugeson, Psy.D.Enter to win a copy from the @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/31/21. Winners will be chosen at random and books will be mailed to the winners.Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should you be concerned if your child has a messy, disorganized room? A mom emails asking for advice on how to handle a kid's room that feels out of control. Dr. Lisa introduces us to the term executive functioning, the mental processes that help with managing oneself and one's possessions. Reena asks if being disorganized as a child can lead to problems down the line. Lisa offers guidance on when it's time to step in and how to help your children organize themselves and their things.BOOK GIVEAWAYEnter to win a copy of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast ⁠2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)⁠3. Enter as many times as you'd like⁠4. For U.S. residents only⁠⁠(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EDT on 5/24/21. Winner will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by: www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

After more than a year of being stuck at home in a pandemic, it’s no surprise siblings are getting on each other's nerves. Should parents step in - or step back - when kids start fighting? Dr. Lisa tackles this question and also explains how parents' approach to conflict can influence how kids fight with their siblings. Reena asks how parents can keep their cool when heads are getting hot, and whether kids can really learn to manage their own conflicts. Dr. Lisa describes strategies that work having seen them in action during a unique summer job.For Children Everywherewww.giveindia.orgGive India helps individuals donate to NGO’s in India helping to fight the Covid-19 outbreak.Send us your questions for our upcoming podcast on talking to kids about race with author Emmanuel Acho. Send questions to asklisa@drlisadamour.com.Additional resources: https://www.drlisadamour.comFollow us on Instagram and Twitter @asklisapodcastSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Talking to kids about their love lives can be uncomfortable, but discussing consent is one of the most important conversations to have with our children. Dr. Lisa explains why she feels that when we focus on consent, we are articulating the lowest possible bar for acceptable physical intimacy. She offers thoughts on how we might rethink and reframe the entire topic in order to be most helpful to our children. Reena asks: Can we change our collective mindset on consent? And how do you explain coercion and consent to children? The conversation includes a look at how pornography factors into teenagers' understanding of consensual relationships.BOOK GIVEAWAY:One copy each of Girls & Sex and Boys & Sex by Peggy OrensteinEnter to win one of 2 books being given away by @asklisapodcast.1. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and/or LinkedIn @asklisapodcast2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn)3. Enter as many times as you'd like4. For U.S. residents only(Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 5/10/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.)OTHER RESOURCES:Lisa's articles from the NYT:Talking With Both Daughters and Sons About Sex (1/11/17)Getting ‘Consent’ for Sex Is Too Low a Bar (7/18/18)Why Teenagers Mix Drinking and Sex (11/14/18)See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Experts are finding that the pandemic has led to an alarming rise in eating disorders. Dr. Lisa explains how eating disorders can sneak up on families and why they can be incredibly harmful. Lisa and Reena discuss how social media can contribute to eating disorders and the fact that these illnesses affects people from all genders, economic backgrounds, and races. Early intervention matters, so what are the signs of an eating disorder? How do you talk to kids about eating disorders? And when should you seek help?FOR CHILDREN EVERYWHERE:Eating disorders can be linked to food insecurity. Feeding America can help you find your local food bank to make a donation.https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbankADDITIONAL RESOURCES:Lisa’s NYT column: Eating Disorders in Teens Have 'Exploded' in the Pandemicanorexiafamily.com Help for parents of children and teens suffering from anorexia and other eating disorders.feast-ed.org F.E.A.S.T. is an international non-profit organization of and for caregivers of loved ones suffering from eating disorders.nationaleatingdisorders.org NEDA supports individuals and families affected by eating disorders, and serves as a catalyst for prevention, cures and access to quality care.maudsleyparents.org Maudsley Parents was created in 2006 by parents who helped their children recover with family-based treatment, to offer hope and help to other families confronting eating disorders. eatingdisorders.ucsd.edu/resources/ Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Center for Treatment and Research at University of California, San Diegowww.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/programs/a-_-e/eating-disorders-program/helpful-links Resources recommended by the Eating Disorders Program at Boston Children’s Hospitalhttps://www.aedweb.org/resources/about-eating-disorders Informational resources developed by the Academy for Eating Disordershttps://www.drlisadamour.com/Ask Lisa is produced by www.GoodTroubleProductions.comBe sure to follow us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @AskLisaPodcast, @LDamour, @ReenaNinanSee acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.