The Modern Phoenix
Gervase Kolmos
The Modern Phoenix (formerly “It’s All Me”)
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
Episodes
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Apr 29, 2024 • 1h 9min
134: Understanding Childhood Trauma that Doesn’t Feel Like Trauma with Chelsea Green (replay)
In this replay from 2021, Gervase is getting publicly therapized with soulmate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such wisdom about how the systems that we are surrounded by as children, translate into our adult life. The conversation is sprinkled with mic drop moment after mic drop moment from the choices that we face everyday to how we can calibrate our roles in the patriarchal society. Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practice specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences. BIG NEWS is on the way! Stay in the loop by signing up for the newsletter: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter Guest Info Follow Chelsea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseagreencreates/ Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Apr 22, 2024 • 38min
133: How to Ask For What You Want (at Work) Pt 1
In a masterclass-style solo episode this week, Gervase dives into how to ask for what you want at your place of work. Listen in as she discusses the three main beliefs of a high-performing woman who isn’t getting what she wants, the role of our sympathetic nervous system, the impact of the company you keep, what could be keeping you in a martyr mindset, and how to decipher if these beliefs are stemming from the culture of a toxic workplace or your own belief system. Keep listening for the action steps you can take to make the shift and start getting or creating what you want at work. Catch part 2 in two weeks: How to get what you want at home Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Apr 15, 2024 • 31min
132: Instead of Being Selfless, Be Your Fullest Self
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a client-inspired discussion about selflessness and the lies we’ve been fed that have led us into martyrdom, victimhood, and insecurity. Listen in as she sifts through where the feelings of guilt, shame, and the “I don’t get to have that” mentality come from, the work she and her clients are doing to hold the internal line of authenticity, and how believing in yourself doesn’t take away from anyone, but actually gives so much more to your relationships. Keep listening to hear how you get to be the one to reject the lies you’ve been sold, rework your beliefs, show up as the boldest version of yourself. and how you can be supported through the process. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources: On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good: Loehnen, Elise: 9780593243039: Amazon.com: Books
Apr 1, 2024 • 32min
131: The Magic of the Spring Equinox: Aligning Your Body With the Changing of Seasons
This week on the IAM podcast, Gervase drops in with her thoughts on the transformative opportunity that lies within the Spring Equinox and the practice of aligning your life and body with nature, as she shares her personal experience of tuning into nature and the changes it made in her life. Listen in as she breaks down why the metaphor of nature is relevant to our lives, how seeing your life as parallel with nature can strengthen your mindset and your resilience to live through the hard experiences (or seasons) in your life, and why Spring’s New Year may be her favorite day of the year. Check out the BONUS POD EPISODE that just dropped with Sarah Jenks! Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Join Holy Woman using my affiliate link: https://sarahjenks.com/holywoman/?oprid=27019&ref=139277 *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Mar 29, 2024 • 1h 2min
EASTER BONUS: Remembering the Sacred Feminine with Priestess Sarah Jenks (Replay)
In this bonus replay from 2022, G brings one of her teachers to the pod—a fellow mom of 3 who also happens to be a Priestess, Sarah Jenks. In this conversation, G excitedly quizzes Sarah on the definitions of and historical context of layer upon layer of the internalized patriarchy of the modern woman. If you’ve wanted a deeper understanding of the Sacred Feminine, the patriarchy, the stories of Mary Magdalene or what it means to be in “ceremony,” this episode will go beyond informative and activate resonance. Listen in to learn what happens when women remember the untold stories of the empowered, magical and wealthy female archetypes that lived during Jesus’ time and re-integrate their souls as modern day holy women. In this episode Gervase and Sarah discuss: The various definitions and types of “ceremony” available today How all the sacred feminine lineages are “remembered” because they were all deliberately erased #boom How she uses her priestess training (and physics) to create a coherent energetic field Sarah’s definition of the ‘Sacred Feminine” The full body, emotional reaction G experienced after learning about the Sacred Feminine The way the patriarchy removed women from their power and convinced them their natural magic was “evil” Why we can’t fight for abortion rights or better gun laws until we are internally free #itsallmemindset The radical notion that Jesus’ mother AND wife were not who the Bible says they were Sarah Jenks is a Priestess and Founder of a Global Sacred Feminine Temple. Her sacred practice and teachings weave together the mysteries of Ancient Avalon, Earth-based practices of her Celtic and Germanic ancestry, the Feminine Path of Mary Magdalene, and the Ancient Egyptian practices of Anointing. Sarah offers live experiences, courses and community that are grounded in unveiling your true power and mission so that you can create the life you're meant to live. Guest Info Connect with Sarah Jenks on Instagram: @sarahjenks Or check out sarahjenks.com Join Holy Woman using my affiliate link: https://sarahjenks.ontraport.net/t?orid=139277&opid=38 Try Sarah’s free resource – Sacred Start: https://sarahjenks.com/sacred-start/ Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/
Mar 25, 2024 • 40min
130: Why My Trip to PR Was Good For My Kids (And Awesome for Me)
Back from her trip to Puerto Rico, Gervase shares the impact of our cultural conditioning around motherhood, the stories its led us to tell ourselves, and why leaving martyrdom motherhood in the past will help you not only keep your sanity but leave a legacy for your children that you’ll be proud of. Join the discussion as she dives deeper than the “take care of yourself” platitudes, addressing the symptoms of internalized patriarchy, why there’s no shame in taking a break, and how accepting our multi-dimensionality as women and mothers can leave a lasting imprint on our children. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Mar 18, 2024 • 22min
129: Client Story - Landing in Wonder by Walking Through Fear
Peek behind the curtain into Gervase’s private coaching spaces this week as Gervase shares an anonymous client story about a woman learning to integrate her body wisdom while simultaneously unlearning default patterns in her nervous system. Listen in as Gervase somatically guides her client into a space where she feels resourced and safe enough to not only acknowledge her negative emotions but to allow herself to feel them without shame or judgement. Keep listening to hear how this opens the door to creation of new neural pathways that build trust between herself and her body. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Mar 11, 2024 • 24min
128: Supporting Yourself Through the World's Pain
Sharing an anonymous client story, Gervase discusses how her client was able to move from a place of overwhelming emotions from secondary grief and feeling deep disappointment in her partner, to a place of healing. Listen in as Gervase talks about why one of the most important things we can do in these moments is to tend to our system first, asking how we can be there for ourselves. Keep listening to hear how applying the It’s All Me Framework helped her client onto a path of healing and into a softer space where she was able to meet her partner in an honest, authentic conversation that allowed them to move forward together. Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Mar 4, 2024 • 24min
127: Teaching My Daughters Embodiment {Personal Story}
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase drops in with a personal, real-life example of what embodiment means and how she is teaching it to her children. Listen in as she shares how she turned the boring, dreaded milestone of swallowing pills into a fun practice of embodiment for her daughters and how life can change if we can learn to anchor into safety, community, love, and self-trust instead of into experiences of fear and shame, Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Feb 27, 2024 • 1h 10min
126: Client Story - Loving Your Polarizing Traits with Sophia Prater
Gervase invites friend and client Sophia Prater on the podcast this week to discuss Sophia’s journey from an overwhelmed, ambitious entrepreneur trying to be palatable for everyone to a woman who embraces and feels safe to to be her full self. Join the conversation as they share their personal experiences with redefining hyper-independence, how Sophia practices playing within the range of her polarizing traits instead of labeling them ‘wrong’ or ‘right,’ and how the work they’ve done together inside of the Higher Mastermind is really every woman’s work. Sophia is an entrepreneur, business owner, career coach, and public speaker in the world uf User Experience (UX) design, making technology a little more humane for the rest of the world. Sophia has brought her framework to companies such as Facebook, Google, Uber, HelloFresh, Delta Airlines, Microsoft, Adobe and many more. Connect with Sophia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sophiavux/ Linked in: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sophiav/ Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Get my weekly emails: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/free-framework Free Masterclass REPLAY (Expires 3.1.24) “Just Right” - If you’re ready to try a new way of woman-ing that is not too hot and not too cold, but is just right, and you missed the masterclass on 2.22, you can catch the replay here Enrollment Now Open for the next cohort of The Higher Mastermind (startsMarch 1st): Find more info on this 3 month program for you to meet yourself and other women like you: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount on quarterly Charleston retreats VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Grab your spot for this month’s price of $1550 Private Coaching Spots Open: Book a Soul Shift Intensive to apply: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
