The Modern Phoenix

WTF is Human Design, anyway? Oh just one of THE primary tools I’ve used to rocket ship my business, next-level my mindset and develop unwavering trust in my intuition and energy. But WTF is energy, anyway? Okay - well as you can see we’re down a rabbit hole here, but keep an open mind and meet my mastermind sister, Corinne Mickler Kaye as she helps us explore Human Design and so many more of those self-help buzzwords we hear all the time without having any clue what they mean. In this interview she explains the newest tool converting us spiritual types in droves: Human Design. In this incredible conversation, we talk about: Gervase’s personal experience harnessing Human Design The origins of Human Design (this blew G’s mind) Human Design “authorities” and basic concepts Definitions of masculine vs feminine How powerful pleasure is for women Religion, spirituality and Glennon Doyle (again) And a bunch of other super deep stuff To have your chart read and schedule a session with Corinne, message her on Instagram - @corinnemicklerkaye or email her at cocomkaye@gmail.com LAST LAST CALL for The Femme Paradigm Mastermind! Doors close before our second call, Tuesday, March 30th at 3:30p, and there are still spots available. Go to gervasekolmos.com/coaching to join us!

Let’s set the stage. Adopting twins, 5 year old daughter, a thriving career, navigating 9th move... Listen in on an interview with Social Media Expert and Entrepreneur, Erin Phillips, where we get into it all! Erin is the founder and CEO of Pinckney Palm, a social media agency that works with CEOs and businesses who market to women 25 to 55 on social media. In this episode, G and Erin talk about: *Erin’s experience with endometriosis and infertility *The mindset necessary when Erin and her husband pivoted from trying to conceive to adoption *Why they went to a therapist to talk through the decision to adopt twins *Going on meds this year to cope with basically everything being out of their control *How Erin keeps a positive attitude through her 9th move, newborn twins, a 6-figure business and life. *The realities of entrepreneurship and motherhood *How rock bottom leads to leaps of faith and getting “lucky.” Keep in touch with Erin and support her work in the world by following her on IG IG Handle: @erinn.phillips / @pinckneypalm Website https://www.erinnphillips.com/ Got questions for Erin or G? Join us for a Champagne Society afterparty Q&A on Clubhouse, Tuesday, March 23rd from 12:30-1pm to ask them yourself! Get in on the replay of the free masterclass Gervase taught last week by joining the pop-up Facebook group until Sunday, March 21st. Sign up to get access to The Worthy Woman. Spaces still available for The Femme Paradigm Mastermind with G! Join us here. Want more, but still not quite ready for the mastermind, dive into The Femme Paradigm Online.

The old paradigm of "mean girls," competition, jealousy and back-stabbing is ending. Covid has kind of made it non-negotiable to take our friendships to the next level or let them go entirely, but most women haven't actually been taught HOW to do this. Until now (drum roll) . . . In this episode, I'm interviewing a very close friend of mine who not only teaches a new paradigm of trusting our bodies and intuition but also models this paradigm in our personal friendship. For the past 8 years, Stephanie Burg has provided women with the spaces and tools to liberate themselves from trauma, past conditioning, old storylines, and everything the world tells them they “should” or “shouldn’t” be. She is a trauma-informed, Certified Integrative Health & Transformational Life Coach, Breathwork Facilitator, Somatic Healing & Embodiment Guide, international retreat & Sacred Circle facilitator, and steward to plant medicines. In this episode, we dive deep into . . . The very real lineage of the separation and isolation of women that leads us to project our jealousies, insecurities, judgments, etc onto other women How being in community with other women “doing the work” does NOT make us immune to our old triggers coming out What a “wound” or trigger actually looks like in the real world and why we are wounded in the first place How to repair a relationship when you have reacted from a trigger How to change the way we RESPOND to other women and how this can teach us what we believe about OURSELVES. The dirty deets on our ONE FIGHT and how we faced it and fixed it The most profound (and EASY!) act of love you can do for an introvert friend Boundaries How to reframe a friendships that isn’t working anymore How to BE the paradigm shift and cultivate next level relationships How to use your body and intuition to navigate next-level relationships Follow Stephanie on Instagram: @stephaniemburg Work with Stephanie: www.stephanieburgcoaching.com Are you a paradigm shifter? The Femme Paradigm is a 6-month coaching container for women who are hell YES ready for a NEW way of womanhood. The women in this mastermind and online group will get my TOTAL support in fully aligning with and trusting their untapped femme wisdom.  We start March 8th, and you can choose the level of mentorship and peer-to-peer support that best suits your desires, below. Join The Femme Paradigm Online Join The Femme Paradigm Mastermind VIP Upgrade Follow Gervase on Instagram Follow The Champagne Society on Instagram

If you want to close the gap between who you’re being and who you desire to become, you’re going to have to make some new choices. We change the choices that we make by changing our beliefs. Remember, you have old, dusty ass beliefs you created or adopted when you were a child that you have been using to make your choices for decades. You can choose to upgrade those. Most people don’t know how to do the work on their beliefs, and we’re not meant to do this work without guidance! So here is a real life example from one of the women on our first group call inside my program, Becoming: Her male colleagues have repeatedly dismissed her and passed her over for the job of Director, harnessing the lie she unconsciously bought into decades ago - that being a mother in the workplace makes you less capable than your male colleagues. Give this episode a listen and I’ll show you HOW we do the work on our thoughts and beliefs in my coaching programs and why that changes the trajectory of your entire life. In this episode I cover: How my clients become more confident How to rewrite core beliefs that feel powerful and true, so you no longer have to fake it til you make it. You own it, embody it and BECOME IT. Why it’s transformational to connect to the energy and intention of a group of women upleveling  Doors officially officially close to Becoming this Wednesday, January 20th, before our second group call at 12pm. If you are ready to become a mama who feels the joy of the juggle with littles and is in full control of her beliefs and choices, join us!

Jay Ell Alexander lives in Richmond, Va. with her husband, Chris, 15-month-old son, Chris, Jr. and their pup, Luna. She is the Founder and CEO of The Vaughn Strategy, a public relations strategy consulting firm and the owner and CEO of Black Girls RUN!   I brushed shoulders with Jay two-ish years ago at RebelleCon, and I know you will find her to be as authentic, lovely and magnetic as I did back then. It was very cool to have a conversation with her on the other side of motherhood about ALL the surprises this “hood” had in store for her and all the ways it changed her. Her 15mo tries to break down the door to get to her during this interview, so it feels appropriate that much of the convo was like a juicy first-time mom tell-all. Jay is ambitious and juggling two different businesses while also making her own health a priority, so this one is super relatable if you like the new mom real talk or want to hear about the hustle of the juggle.   In this episode, G and Jay talk about: -Rites of passage of first-time moms & the mental prep of cookie baking with kids  -Her (intense) pandemic schedule mommying and full-time entrepreneuring -Her experience with postpartum depression and her “bounce back” expectations -Why me and Jay should actually be the ones hosting the childbirth classes -The nastygram she sent her mom friends after becoming a mom -Why Jay’s husband is convinced Jesus Christ was a woman -Lightning crotch -How she healed her PPD with running -The ups and downs of Black Girls Run and the magical story of how angel investors made it possible for her to acquire it -How she successfully pivoted BGR - a company based on races/events - during a pandemic   Keep in touch with Jay Ell on IG at @jayellalexander visiting her website at jayellalexander.com   Buy her book on Amazon here.    Find a Black Girls Run running group near you Follow Black Girls Run on IG On FB   Gervase’s digital course for new mamas, Becoming launches January 11th Join the six-week masterclass Join as a VIP

This week I recorded a special mini coaching episode to help you coast through the holidays! If 2020 has you: Deep in overwhelm  Comparing yourself to what I call the “Father Christmas Mothers” of social media Feeling guilt or shame b/c you “should” be more grateful or “should” be doing more/better as a mom Or if you can only see evidence of what you lack instead of what you have I got you! In this episode I teach: How to easily and reliably shift out of overwhelm, burnout, negative self-talk and victimhood How we GET things all the time, which we don’t RECEIVE, and why that blocks our flow of abundance and feeling good The subtle difference between gratitude and receiving An easy DIY coaching exercise you can do to practice receiving at the level necessary to shift out of a spiral The role visualization plays in priming your brain How hypnosis ties into this practice My first digital course, Becoming, begins January 11th. Designed to serve a mama with any number of littles and delivered via 6 modules, this course walks you through lessons and coaching exercises designed to help you BECOME on the other side of motherhood. It is structured around the 6 pillars a mama needs to understand and embody for her own rite of passage into upleveling.  The six pillars I’ll teach on are: Intuition, Identity, Self-love, Relationships, Ambition & Mindset. Each week we’ll dive into a pillar to unpack what keeps women stuck, and DIY coaching exercises to break free. There’s even 5 VIP slots for women looking for more 1:1 support from me during the 6-week program to integrate more fully and dive into questions, specific challenges and goal setting. Head on over to www.gervasekolmos.com/coaching to learn more about that program and join us. And as always feel free to shoot me a msg on IG @gervasekolmos with any specific questions you have about the program.

Erin is a mom of 3 who’s lived 9 lives, She’s been a full-time SAHM, a full-time working mom, a part-time working mom, and an entrepreneur. She worked for other people for 5 years before she took a leap of faith in her own vision to create her company, Totum.   Totum means whole in Latine - they are devoted to helping modern mothers feel whole in motherhood - body, mind, relationships to ambition, my relationships themselves.   In this episode, G and Erin talk about: -How to discern between striving and trusting -We talk about the show Mrs. America and how the women’s movement really hasn’t gotten very far - the next frontier of feminism will happen within the corporate structure -feeling like an imposter when younger women tell you your an inspiration -Erin’s unstructured structure as a mom of 3 and entrepreneur in 2020 -The mental load of women in 2020 and how each of us quickly and easily gets unblocked in life and businesses -Erin’s next-level definition of how to feel WHOLE i.e. “Totum” as a working mom  -Both of our strong arguments for trading productivity for feeling WHOLE -Doing it all vs having it all / giving ourselves permission to stop -The “myths” Erin holds inside about what it means to do it all vs have it all -Echoing Eve Rodsky, “Time is time; time is not money” -Mom guilt, the endless responsibilities we put on OURSELVES as mothers and the mindfuckery of it all -G talks about how she’s okay going first in airing her dirty laundry to create vulnerability, community and permission to have it all, but not have it all together. -Erin’s final piece of advice is vital for any preggos who are ABOUT to push out a baby   Keep in touch with Erin and support her work in the world for all the mamas by following her on IG at @totumwomen and visiting her website at www.totumwomen.com   Gervase’s new digital course for new mamas, Becoming, is open for enrollment til January 5th.   Let’s do this.      Learn more about Gervase Kolmos:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/about   Follow Gervase on Social:  instagram.com/gervasekolmos   Follow Erin + Totum on Social:  instagram.com/totumwomen   Visit Totum Online: totumwomen.com   Get G in Your Inbox Here:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter   Learn more about The Champagne Society:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com   Follow the Champagne Society:  instagram.com/thechampsociety facebook.com/thechampsociety 

Kennae Miller is the owner of Transformation Yoga, South Carolina’s only Black, Veteran and woman-owned yoga studio. Transformation Yoga provides the tools of yoga and meditation to people in underserved, underrepresented and marginalized communities from an anti-racism, anti-oppression and trauma-informed framework.  Kennae is also the co-founder of Enough, which bridges yoga, racial and social justice together to provide funding and awareness to local issues and grassroots organizations owned and led by BIPOC.  Kennae is one of the most fascinating and whole-hearted humans I am in community with, and turns out even at 9pm on a school night, we had no issue getting right into so many of her personal life experiences (particularly as a black yoga teacher and leader) that will enlighten, inspire, empower and just open your mind to where you may also be in need of giving or seeking liberation. In this episode, we dive into: Her personal experience as a police officer’s daughter AND her experience as an officer herself, in the south, for several years, unfortunately witnessing corruption and injustice How she started being asked to dim her personality in the yoga world Diving into that time Kennae called G out(in? whatever) on the ‘gram Why she committed to NOT watching cartoons at age 7 How she parents her son who moves through the world as if he’s been here before The question she challenges herself with whenever she wants to not take care of herself and how everything is in the name of her liberation  How she’s balancing two sides of an identity partly formed from watching her mother’s successes and mistakes re: self-care, celebration, and more When “no” is a full sentence How we can all honor our own culture without appropriating other people’s culture  This one packs a punch, so buckle up. Make sure you follow Transformation Yoga on Insta @transformationyogasc and support Kennae’s deeply important work in the world at transformationyogasc.com.  

Lucy Cuneo is an OG; she was a panelist for one of the earliest in-person events with The Champagne Society, and she is one of Harper Bazaar’s best photographers in the world. Like many of us during these times, she's trying to navigate her balance of career, children, her conscience, and bringing her whole (political) self to her platforms.  In this conversation, we dive right into it and discuss the following: Why having two babies is different than one Why her integrity meter started going off in 2018 How we're both trying to transition from a “white girl business” to a business with heart, soul and purpose Sloppy action being better than inaction Lucy uses the word "ether," a lot Why she feels there is something naturally selfish about blogging The quandary of bringing more of yourself to your business and social media Why you should never judge the way another mother balances her mental health re: the news Why she became political on social media this year and her regrets about it And so much more Final note and warning: This is an open conversation between two democrats two weeks before the presidential election, which we now have the outcome for. This is not only a space for democrats, but this is only a space for women who can handle hard, honest conversations and big feelings. You belong here, if you decide you do. Let’s do this.    Learn more about Gervase Kolmos:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/about   Follow Gervase on Social:  instagram.com/gervasekolmos   Follow Lucy on Social:  instagram.com/lucycuneo   Visit Lucy's Website:  www.lucycuneo.com   Get G in Your Inbox Here:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter   Learn more about The Champagne Society:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/thechampsociety   Follow the Champagne Society:  instagram.com/thechampsociety facebook.com/thechampsociety 

Brittny Irvin is many, many things.  During the day, she’s a teacher at a high school in the Charlotte, NC area.  After work, she’s helping her super-cool daughter Bean develop a social presence based on making a difference, sharing your individuality and just being yourself (shout out to @thesweetlifeofbean). All day, every day, she’s a Mama x3, a woman of color, and an all around bad-ass. Oh, and there was that time she was a panelist at one of our favorite events with The Champagne Society.  Brittny is an inspiration to us all, especially as a high school teacher during a global pandemic.   In this conversation, she dives DEEP discussing the following: What it's like being a teacher during a pandemic Her experience with a COVID, "geriatric" pregnancy Managing being over-extended as a black mother, friend, and educator during the BLM revolution Pacing herself for waves of anti-racism Social media induced mom guilt Knowing what it feels like to be the only minority in a classroom And so much more Final note: We are not shaming you if you took your kids to the pumpkin patch this year. I kinda wanted to make it to one, but just didn’t get to it. Let’s do this.    Learn more about Gervase Kolmos:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/about   Follow Gervase on Social:  instagram.com/gervasekolmos   Follow Brittny on Social:  instagram.com/apartyof1 Follow Bean on Social:  instagram.com/thesweetlifeofbean   Visit Bean’s Website:  thesweetlifeofbean.com   Get G in Your Inbox Here:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com/newsletter   Learn more about The Champagne Society:  https://www.gervasekolmos.com   Follow the Champagne Society:  instagram.com/thechampsociety facebook.com/thechampsociety