The Modern Phoenix

In this powerful conversation with Gervase’s colleague, friend and mentor, Jolenny Piedra, Jolenny shares her personal story of how a traumatic injury at a young age gifted her the perspective she and G both feel could change the world: From “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this here to teach me?” They also dive deep into how to strengthen our human capacity for being in community with strangers or loved ones who trigger us and challenge us. Expect endless mindset shifts for working with reality and not against it, in all areas of life, particularly relationships. And a crash course on how to not only learn from cycles of judgment with loved ones, but to actually see them as opportunities for healing. Jolenny is a Trauma-Informed Spiritual Life Coach. Over the past 13 years, she has worked with thousands of clients, holding a space of deep safety, reverence and acceptance as they mapped their own paths from emotional and spiritual struggle back to the light of truth and of love. The practice and heart centered approach of mindfulness, deep soul inquiry, and conscious empowerment has been and continues to be a cornerstone of her coaching practice. To learn more about Jolenny, you may find her at: https://sacredsoulliving.com/ or @sacredsoulliving on social media platforms. Guest Info Connect with Jolenny on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sacredsoulliving/  Learn more at https://www.sacredsoulliving.com/  Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Want to join a community of women having perspective shifting conversations biweekly? Join the Collective Tier of G’s Mastermind (rolling admission): ​​https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/allme Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv      Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit G’s website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

This week, Gervase is giving you a heart to heart—with examples from her personal life, her marriage and her clients—on why you not only can trust yourself, but it’s actually critical that you do so. So many modern women are bogged down under their conditioning about what they should or shouldn’t do, and this causes a big problem when they feel a big life change stirring inside them. We intuitively know to do something that will shake things up, but we don’t follow through due to the abnormality or inconvenience of it, or because we listen to our heads over our hearts. Every time we do this, I call it abandoning ourselves, and every time we abandon ourselves, we strengthen that muscle of DISTRUST that perpetuates more suffering and self-doubt. Listen in for how to reverse engineer this cycle to choose yourself, to start trusting yourself and watching the miracles and magic that happen in every area of your life on the other side of that. Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Join the Waitlist and be first to know when we next launch The Gateway. https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv      Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

In this robust conversation, Jackie shares several pieces of good news where this fight is concerned and gives us not only hope, but also next steps. It’s a must-listen, especially for those of us who are looking to understand exactly how this affects us all, but especially people of color. This was not clearly stated in this conversation, but deserved to be: “Black Americans are disproportionately impacted by gun violence. They experience 10 times the gun homicides, 18 times the gun assault injuries, and nearly 3 times the fatal shootings by police of white Americans.” (from the Everytown website) More about Jackie Shelley: Jackie Shelley is the SC state leader of Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America--the leading force for gun violence prevention, with chapters in all 50 states and a powerful grassroots network that works at the local, state, and federal level to create change.  Upon graduating Clemson University, Jackie taught high school English and served as yearbook adviser in the public school system.  After deciding to start a family, she became a stay-at-home mom and weekly volunteer in her kids' classrooms.  Devastated by the mass shooting of first graders at Sandy Hook elementary, Jackie started the Charleston, SC group of Moms Demand Action and has served in a leadership capacity ever since.  She lives in the Charleston area with her husband, two sons, and a space-invading pug named Zelda. More about Moms Demand Action: Moms Demand Action is a grassroots movement of Americans fighting for public safety measures that can protect people from gun violence. We pass stronger gun laws and work to close the loopholes that jeopardize the safety of our families. We also work in our own communities and with business leaders to encourage a culture of responsible gun ownership. We know that gun violence is preventable, and we’re committed to doing what it takes to keep families safe. Guest Info Connect with Moms Demand Action on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsdemand/  Learn more about Moms Demand Action: https://momsdemandaction.org/  Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Join the waitlist and be the first to know when we next launch The Gateway. https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/  Resources Mentioned C3 fundraising link for SC C4 fundraising link for SC www.besmartforkids.org Text join to 64433 to get connected with Moms Demand The Instagram video G watched by Students Demand Action that made her cry and also gave her hope: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CewtZSqjQHk/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Text “students” to 64433 to join Students Demand Action

This week, we did something special and different. We pulled a paid mini-course out of the vault and are sharing one module of it with you here on the podcast fo free. It’s meant to help you re-imagine your relationships, and it starts with your relationship to yourSelf. You are the common denominator in every relationship you have. That is incredibly relevant, and we lose sight of it so often. Listen in as G drops truth bombs left and right and reminds you (as always) to start the process of any relationship makeover with (ahem) YOU. You’re not in charge of what happens to you, other people's behavior or healing, but you do have choice in how you experience what is happening to you, and in this module-turned-podcast-episode, you’ll learn how to harness the power of self-responsibility for lasting, loving relationships where all of you is welcome and vice versa. Want to go deeper into re-imagining healthier, healed relationships with yourSelf, your partner and other women? This self guided, 3-day mini course is available for purchase: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/masterclass-relationships-re-imagined. You can also get it as exclusive bonus content inside The Gateway Membership. Get on the waitlist to know when doors open again: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway. Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive    Join The Gateway waitlist, and be first to know next time we launch! https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway   Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

G sits down with former mechanical engineer turned boudoir photographer, Latoya Dixon Smith, for a juicy permission slip to embrace your truth and not be afraid to be fun, playful and sexy. They speak on the importance of releasing the narratives around the sh*tty things that happen to you to invite a perspective shift. Readiness is an illusion. As modern women, we have been brainwashed to believe that if we slow down, there will be consequences. Slow down and listen to the redirection nuggets of wisdom that present themselves.    More about Latoya: Latoya Dixon Smith (she/her) is a mechanical engineer turned boudoir photographer, certified sex doula, and international speaker based in Greenville, SC. Featured on HBO, she has also been widely featured in publications including The Huffington Post, ESSENCE, and The Greenville Business Magazine.In addition to activating women to find confidence and self-acceptance through empowering photos, Latoya enjoys speaking with women about accessing pleasure, power, and peace through the power of the erotic.   Guest Info Connect with Latoya on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/latoyadixonsmith/  Learn more about Latoya’s current offerings: https://www.greenvilleboudoir.co/instagram    Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Get in The Gateway Waitlist: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources Mentioned Learn more about @TiedandTruth waist bead: https://www.instagram.com/tiedandtruth/   

G sits down with her current business coach and one of her oldest entrepreneur friends, Emily Cassel, for a juicy convo unpacking some “trends” they’ve been noticing in the coaching industry. From “word salads” to “downloads” and “codes in the quantum,” they are doing their damndest to discern, in real time, how to be regularly gut-checking whether the words we use and the way we market big concepts like femininity and intuition as coaches is ethical, in integrity and in service to a generation of women listening. In this episode, we talk about: How to embody what your values are in the coaching world as well as being a woman and a mother, to stay in integrity. The power of investing in yourself to calibrate quicker and stay in your zone of genius.  Emily Cassel is a Charleston, SC-based business strategist and leadership coach for women entrepreneurs and the founder of WMNûp, a global network and community of women leaders and entrepreneurs who are disrupting industries, innovating change, and doing things differently. WMNûp serves the mission of lifting and leveling women up in business, life, and leadership.  Emily also hosts the podcast Like Nobody's Business, where she teaches women entrepreneurs how to masterfully navigate the inevitable growth edges and evolutions of business, life and leadership. Emily currently offers her work in three primary ways: through The Soulful Leadership Mastermind, the 90-day Business Evolution private Intensive, and the WMNûp community membership. Guest Info Listen to Like Nobody's Business on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6sOG579fZWHypDrML2yoiL?si=c41942e21c0142ca  If you're a Charleston local, check out her monthly FREE WMNûp gatherings to meet other change-making women in our local community.  To learn more and connect with Emily, find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/emilycasselofficial/  Visit her website http://emilycassel.com/   Work with Gervase    Doors are open for less than a week for the beta round of my new membership community, The Gateway. https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway   Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Gervase is getting publicly therapized this week with soul mate and licensed professional counselor Chelsea Green. Chelsea speaks such wisdom about how the systems that we are surrounded by as children, translate into our adult life. The conversation is sprinkled with mic drop moment after mic drop moment from the choices that women, and individuals face everyday to how we can calibrate our roles in the patriarchal society.  In this episode, we talk about: The patterns we perpetuate as adults that stem from what was deemed “normal” to us as part of our nuclear family Why and how roles (parent, daughter, wife) develop within systems and an exercise for introducing flexibility to your capacity to step in and out of your rigid roles How we trick ourselves into associating comfort with control The traumatized parts of us that developed in reaction to the way we were raised Chelsea is a Licensed Professional Counselor providing integrative mental health therapy in Charleston, SC. Her therapy practices specializes in working with adults, couples, and families in the midst of life transitions, relationship stress, trauma recovery, family systems, anxiety, depression, and stress. She is also a family constellation group facilitator and a visual artist who merges her many talents to curate transformative experiences. Guest Info Follow Chelsea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseagreencreates/  Work with Gervase  Doors are open for less than a week for the beta round of my new membership community, The Gateway. Use code: FOUNDINGMEMBER to get 50% off, if you join by Monday, June 27th: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/  Resources Mentioned Season 1 podcast episode with G’s health coach, Laura Butler: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Ir6249XK7vQJbjcEwoyVv?si=sbsv5_mtRy-UfSGOVZ0PvQ

Gervase put back on her Champagne Society moderator hat in this conversation with new mom friend and NYC-based entrepreneur, Amri Kibler. Amri is the CEO of HeyMama and has been building a powerful community for mothers while also raising (wild) small humans, so we talk everything from the ride of motherhood and the four steps we believe mothers can collectively take to empower and improve the current state of the modern mother’s mental load and workplace bias. In this episode, we talk about: Our parallel experiences as mama community builders, ambitious women creating our own communities and real AF moms who have screamed at our kids right before putting them on the bus The internal narratives mothers are carrying around right now (hint: self-doubt is a big one) The current work of modern mothers to understand their OWN value and then share that perspective at home and work The four steps we believe mothers can collectively take to empower and improve the current state of the modern mother’s mental load and workplace bias. Amri Kibbler is a mom of two. After launching HeyMama on a shoe string budget in 2014, she led the brand's community from a small instagram account to one of the world's largest working moms communities. Prior to founding HeyMama, she spent more than 10 years as an editor and stylist creating content focused on building women's confidence and self worth  for major publications, including Glamour Magazine and Cosmopolitan. Amri leads HeyMama’s community, membership team and all event programming. Guest Info Follow HeyMama on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heymamaco More information about the Heymama membership, which provides connections, support, resources, and events for working moms around this country is here.  Support and get involved with the “Motherhood on the Resume” campaign: https://www.heymama.co/motr Work with Gervase    The Collective Tier of the It’s All Me Mastermind is a 6-month group coaching container with weekly direct access to G for hot seat coaching at a fraction of her private coaching rates. Join here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/allme Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

On this solo episode, G is responding to the mass shooting in Uvalde, Texas (and the several in the week since), with a perspective (we often overlook) she believes can set a new standard for changing the world and your life. The It’s All Me framework reminds us that YOU are the solution. Your awakening and connection to Self is THE answer to strong and sustainable change. Any change you wish to create in the world must first start inside you . . . then in your home, then in your immediate circles. The systems that profit from our powerlessness, overwhelm and disconnection do not want us to pause. So we set a new standard again . . . and we PAUSE. Email us any follow-up questions to G from this episode to hi@gervasekolmos.com. Resources from this Episode: Text ready to 64433 to get actionable messages from Everytown Links to past podcast episodes on depression: “Living With Depression: My Personal Journey”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bsLxmS4ACz6R4mHazs1R7?si=dFLKROSeTrC_Aza8rJIfJw “Suffering is Optional”: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1XqL0VNNf4c2qYSFxP0Bmk?si=JFowsyFjThq-jJ1BACmUOg Review our podcast on iTunes:  Follow Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos One private coaching spot left to work with Gervase. Apply here

I sat down with my wise and thoughtful friend Katie Ashley, another Charleston, SC local, to hear her takeaways from the seasons and cycles of the past few years as I know she is someone who embodies the #ItsAllMeMindset beautifully. Katie brings her lived wisdom to this conversation and shares it through her unique lens of her therapeutic yoga training and Chinese medicine, plus her personal experience with surfing. In this episode, we talk about: The cycles (or cyclones) of being a woman, mother or entrepreneur  How Katie keeps herself at the center of her life’s experiences. #itsallmemindset Earth lessons, samskaras and giving ourselves grace to be in the process How we were both reluctant nature lovers🙈, even though it connected us to the inherent magic in the cyclical nature of seasons, tides, and our human experience. How Katie faced a deathly fear of the ocean to cultivate self-trust and lean into her true desire to be a surfer The incredible metaphor that surfing provides for a modern woman mastering her balance of the masculine and feminine. More about Katie: Katie Ashley offers individualized movement therapy in her downtown studio space in Charleston, SC. These sessions include a blend of functional movement, equipment based Pilates, Katonah Yoga, Buddhist meditation philosophies and practices, hands on Thai yoga therapy techniques, and a good dose of Traditional Chinese Medicine themes and classical yoga philosophies. She is the author of the book, Living Life On Purpose, and is the resident yoga teacher at the Feminist Magic Market that occurs in the cozy backyard of Itinerate Literate Books in North Charleston. She teaches weekly yoga classes at Yoloha Yoga Factory on James Island and offers workshops wherever she’s invited. She is also the Wellness Coach at Hammocks on the Edisto, a small residential treatment center for women in recovery from trauma and alcohol and substance abuse and has long been an advocate for recovery of all kinds.   Guest Info Follow Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katieashleylove/  Learn more on Katie’s Website: http://www.katieashley.org/  Grab a copy of Katie’s book: http://www.katieashley.org/book/    Work with Gervase    Join the It’s All Me Mastermind, Collective Tier: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/allme    Join the It’s All Me Mastermind, VIP Tier: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/allme Book a Connection Call with G and see if the mastermind is right for you: https://calendly.com/gervasekolmos/30-minute-session Download my G’s free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources mentioned: My Referral link for Holy Woman with Sarah Jenks: https://sarahjenks.ontraport.net/t?orid=139277&opid=38 Jenny Brown: Shaka surf school:  http://www.shakasurfschool.com