The Modern Phoenix

In this third episode of the newest, uncut series of the podcast, G is coming to you from wherever the F she finds herself to share an aspect of mother-ing that has her saying, “What in the actual . . .?!”  Because it’s always nice to feel less alone in the clusterfuck that is life. Gervase is dropping in from the parking lot of a hair salon to share ways to navigate the hard, the human, and the straight up WTFs of over-giving to our children.    Here’s a WTF gem, straight from G herself:My goal as a mom is to really equip my children with the emotional resilience and tenacity to understand that their feelings are great, that they should feel them all, let it out. I want them to know I'm holding space for them, and also that they don’t get to blame those feelings on me. They don’t get to take and take and take from me until I have nothing left. That is not the model I want to give to my children.    We as mothers need to hear that just because we know how to nurture does not mean that we have to be a punching bag. It takes work and it takes time, but once we’re able to understand our tendency to over-give, to really look at the reasons why we’re over-extending ourselves, that’s when we’re able to operate with a sovereign boundary: a boundary that allows us to continue to give from a place of love rather than resentment, taking care of our loved ones while also loving ourselves.   Love you so much. Muah!G    To join this conversation, find me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos and share your experience with boundaries, self-care, and over-giving.   Apply to work with me: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

We’re going off-the-grid! Join us on this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, as Gervase sits down with modern day cowgirl Arielle Crawford to discuss what it’s truly like to live off grid in today’s world. Gervase and Arielle dive deep into Arielle’s reason for and journey to living off-the-grid, the stories we tell ourselves that leave us feeling disempowered as women, the power of community, and how living off the land can help you heal.   In this episode Gervase and Arielle dive into:   [03:15] Arielle’s journey to off grid living and the harsh reality of all-in sustainability  [14:00] The pattern of “needing a man” and how it disempowers women [19:25] Off-the-grid community and the idea of circularity [26:45] Why Arielle believes getting your hands dirty can be the antidote to depression [30:52] How living your values can help you call in a life of integrity and healing Arielle Crawford is a homesteader and rancher in Central Texas. Before fulfilling her dream of living off grid, she was working in sustainable fashion in New York. She received her MBA from FIT, where she teaches Sustainable Manufacturing. Arielle launched her eponymous label in 2018 after 10 years experience in the fashion industry. After hitting a ceiling with sustainability in the big city, she decided to make the leap and move to Hill Country, where she practices off-grid living, natural building, and land stewardship. In addition to being a badass woman, Arielle is now a zero-waster and climate lobbyist for CCL, where she leads the Fashion Industry Action Team.   Guest Info Connect with Arielle Crawford on Instagram: @TheRealnessPerserve Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

‘Boundaries’ has become quite a buzzword over the past decade (for good reason!), but what do you really know about them? On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase dives below the surface level of boundaries, covering what they can look like, how to set them from a place of love and deep discernment, and why they are the most loving action you can take in your relationships. Join G as she shares boundary examples around toxic friendships, sibling dynamics, and parental relationships. In this episode Gervase discusses:   [01:53] The definition of victimhood and the impact of the It’s All Me framework [06:18] Fostering mutually satisfying, energetically healthy friendships [17:51] How to neutralize and deactivate your triggers before setting boundaries [23:21] Her personal experience of stepping out of blame and guilt and setting boundaries with her mother   This episode is for the woman who is ready to stop feeling like a victim, who is ready to claim her peace and protect herself and others in the most loving, proactive (read: not reactive!) way possible. You get to have friendships that are mutually satisfying, energetically healthy, and sustainable. You just have to take responsibility and claim it. Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources Mentioned IG Live (Mother relationship)

Get ready for some serious sparkly magnetism - our guest this week is bringing the power.    On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase has a deep conversation with Anita Kopacz, delighted mother of 3, spiritual psychologist, and author of the novel Shallow Waters. Anita and Gervase discuss what it’s like to choose you and your gifts over the world’s convenience, why self-work is vital no matter what stage of life you’re in, and Anita’s vision for her work in the world with women of color. In this episode Gervase and Annie dive into:   [04:42] Consciously choosing your intuition [09:32] Finding and making time for your zone of genius [20:13] Anita’s journey of following her intuition and spiritual gifts [35:09] Why being in tune with your pain is vital [40:21] Earth stackers and taking your power back [49:55] Anita’s visionary work with women of color Anita Kopacz is an author, a spiritual psychologist, and the head of the nonprofit Zero F’s Given, a campaign created to help victimized populations heal trauma and reclaim their power. Her recently released novel, Shallow Waters, highlights the African mermaid goddess Yemaya, braiding in historical events and figures from the slave trade era while simultaneiously calling out to women of color to remember who they are. Guest Info Connect with Anita Kopacz on Instagram: @AnitaKopacz Buy Shallow Waters on Amazon   Work with Gervase Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Dr. Annie Andrews, mom of 3, pediatrician, and a candidate running for South Carolina's 1st Congressional District. Dr. Annie shares her heart for service, her views on gun control and women’s rights, and her vision to make the world safer for the women and children of South Charleston and beyond.  In this episode Gervase and Annie dive into:   [02:05] How Annie juggles life as a wife, mom, community leader, and congressional candidate [7:28] What fills her cup after serving the needs of others [17:58] The necessary shift from voting red or voting blue to voting with your heart [33:42] Understanding the deep roots of political corruption [46:14] The true power of women voters   This episode is a call to action: Step out of the generational blinders that have you believing that always voting a certain way is a heroic badge of loyalty, and step into the immense power that comes with being a woman who votes with the values and people in her heart.   Because “It’s All Me” includes doing what we can to take care of the ones we love.   Dr. Annie Andrews is a Professor of Pediatrics, caring for children and adolescents since 2009. She developed and directed the Advocacy Curriculum for the Department of Pediatrics. She is a gun violence prevention researcher, active volunteer, community advocate, and a mom who cares about the legacy we leave our children. To support Dr. Annie Andrews or to learn more about her campaign, visit drannieandrews.com.   Meet and hear from Dr. Annie on Oct 4th from 6-8pm at a private event on James Island hosted by Gervase Kolmos, Stacie Barber and Emily Cassel. Email Gervase: hi@gervasekolmos.com for the address and to RSVP.   Guest Info Connect with Dr. Annie Andrews on Instagram: @AnnieAndrewsMD Learn more and donate at drannieandrews.com   Work with Gervase Doors close for Legacy on September 28th https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/8a47d8f7-a49d-4c59-8831-7480453f508e Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources Mentioned Moms Demand Action: https://momsdemandaction.org/ Vote mama: https://www.votemama.org/ Public info on who’s taking PAC money: https://www.opensecrets.org/political-action-committees-pacs/top-recipients/2020

On this week’s solo episode, Gervase is digging into the programming most of us have that tells us everything is equally important.   When we decide we’re no longer available to do it all, it all shifts. When we trade doing everything for ONLY doing the things in our zone of genius, the result is freedom to finally focus on what’s actually important to you.   In this episode G shares: How you can start to honor your true self and edit ruthlessly all that has not been serving you.   How to apply this mindset to partnership, motherhood or entrepreneurship How to decide what is an emergency and what you have been brainwashed to believe is an emergency.   This is the inspiration for Legacy!  It is the innerwork that you will receive if you join us.   Give voice, vision, time, energy and money to the life, legacy and identity that is in your heart to live.     You run a tiny universe! STOP doing it all. Be MORE YOU while doing what matters most!   Work with Gervase Doors are open for LEGACY—a four-week group coaching program for the modern mother. Instead of trying to do it all, be more you while doing what matters most. This program will first make it easy for your subconscious to allow more ease, abundance and joy than the mothers who came before you. Making choices and to do lists will become intuitive, impactful and easy. Join me  LIVE on Instagram on September 19th at 8 p.m. Eastern to hear how reparenting myself and reclaiming my wholeness is the path that led me to my work in the world:  www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Follow Gervase Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

In this new, uncut series of the podcast, G is coming to you from wherever the F she finds herself (a power walk, maybe?) to share an aspect of woman-ing that has her saying, “What in the actual . . .?!”  Because it’s always nice to feel less alone in the clusterfuck that is life and to hear how we’re navigating the hard, the human and the straight up WTFs of, well . . . back to school, for example.     Personally, this back-to-school season was ripe with basic B mom triggers where I found myself in spirals of doubt.  Why did I let the girls pick out their own clothes?  Did everyone else bring supplies to the first event?  Why am I so bad at this and other moms are so good?  Remember that in this WTFness of modern motherhood, you can take your power back when you stop the self-judgment. It’s all an opportunity to remember that when you prioritize the things that matter to YOU as a parent, everything gets a LOT easier.   I love you so much.  You’re doing amazing!   To join this conversation, join me over on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos and share your triggers about back-to-school.   Do you want to do everything or be you while you do what matters most?  Sales are open now for LEGACY.   Apply to work with me: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive

Trigger warning: In this episode we will be discussing abortion and sharing a story of a newborn baby’s death. Please care for your wellbeing   In today’s episode Gervase is talking with newfound activist and a Charleston force for abortion rights, Sarah Frick. Sarah shares her personal and painful story of losing her first baby, Grace, at three days old and the medical complication that led to her making the choice to abort her next two fetuses before finally birthing the three healthy children she has now. It’s messy and inspiring, as all the best stories are, which is why we hope this conversation empowers you to go share yours with people open to listening.   In this episode we dive into: The moment Sarah got the call and knew she would need to abort her baby Why her story highlights that safe abortions need to be legal Sarah’s (not great) experience speaking in front of lawmakers in the Senate How to be pro–life and pro-Jesus and the intersection of religion and politics What it’s like to be a newfound activist How to protect our energy while fighting the good fight How to navigate the awkward spaces as women and mothers where we find differences of beliefs How and why the old white men making all these new laws and decisions about women’s bodies are clearly acting out of fear   We know conversations about abortion aren’t always “comfortable,” but we believe compassionate conversations are the only things with the power to change the lens through which we see complex issues.   If you would like to take action to support Reject the Total Abortion Ban- Call your Senator immediately and tell them to vote NO H 5399 before the bill is debated on the Senate floor on Wednesday, September 7, 2022 For more information Click here.   More about Sarah Frick: Sarah Frick has been in the yoga and fitness industry for 16 years. After opening and operating two successful power yoga studios for 10 years in Charleston, South Carolina, Sarah sold both at the peak of their success to rebrand not only her fitness concept but herself. She wanted more than just a fitness experience. Sarah’s life had changed. She had changed. She had grown. She had experienced loss. She had experienced grief. And, ultimately, she had experienced grace. Losing her first child, Grace,in early infancy was a pivotal point in Sarah’s life. Losing Grace dropped Sarah into her body, into her heart, and into her life to truly see what was important and what mattered. From that, The Works Method started to bud and to take life. This practice she created—The Works Method—is extremely physical. She inspires people to think, If I can work through some of this shit on my mat, imagine what I can do in my own life. Sarah currently lives in a little beach town with her three wild children and equally wild husband.  Connect with Sarah on Instagram: @sarahlivesyoga and @theworkschs The workschs.com   Work with Gervase   Click LEGACY on sale now.   Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources Mentioned: WREN - Women’s Rights and Empowerment Network:  https://www.scwren.org/

In this complex conversation with Kerri Kelly, the author of American Detox, Kerri shares with Gervase the event that disrupted life and forever changed her as she strove to find meaning, healing and understanding of who she was and how she got to this place. In this episode we dive into: Our roles in the world and what shapes us. How our societal rules are built to uphold systems of power. The veil that clouds our ability to see the truth. Vast differences in life experience based on proximity to privilege. How good intentions don’t justify actions.   Kerri shares that you can start to recalibrate your life around new values based on the truth.  Just being willing to hold the truth and be changed by the truth allows you to see that the “we” is more important than the “I” if we are going to survive and thrive together.  It’s about opening to the whole truth in our world and realizing that we have all internalized the teaching of toxic ideas.  By interrogating our actions and thoughts, locating where we are inside of the systems of power and privilege and engaging collectively we can imagine a better world for everyone. Kerri is the founder of CTZNWELL, a movement that is democratizing wellbeing for all. A descendant of generations of firemen and first responders, Kerri has dedicated her life to kicking down doors and fighting for justice. She’s been teaching yoga for over 20 years and is known for making waves in the wellness industry by challenging norms, disrupting systems and mobilizing people to act.  Guest Info Connect with Kerri on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kkellyyoga/ Learn more at https://americandetox.co/  Order American Detox. The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781623177249  Work with Gervase LEGACY 2022  Apply to work with Gervase by booking a Soul Shift Intensive: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive  Join the waitlist for the next round of The Gateway. https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit my website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/  Resources Mentioned Winner takes all by Anand Giridharadas

In this new, uncut series of the podcast, G is coming to you from wherever the F she finds herself (minivan, maybe?) to share an aspect of woman-ing that has her saying, “What in the actual . . .?!” Because it’s always nice to feel less alone in the clusterfuck that is life and to hear how we’re navigating the hard, the human and the straight up WTFs of, well . . . managing time, for example. Which, btw, what is time? Who is managing theirs according to whatever insane expectations they’ve set for themselves and am I the only one who has decided I’ve managed 100% of the time I’ve had up until this moment and maybe I can just give myself more credit today and every day for how much I DO do with the time I’ve got? To join this conversation, join me over on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos where I’m taking tips, tricks and WTFs of time management! Get on the waitlist for the Gateway membership where we have conversations, camaraderie and brainstorm real issues like this monthly: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway Apply to work with me: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/1-1-coaching-intensive