
The Modern Phoenix
The Modern Phoenix (formerly “It’s All Me”)
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
Latest episodes

Jan 9, 2023 • 29min
Why We Get Stuck Instead of “Reborn” + The Phoenix Sessions
This isn’t New Year, New Me. This is New Year; MORE me. In this solo episode, G is explaining why sometimes we get stuck in the metaphorical birth canal between our intentions for a new season of our lives and the manifestation of said intention. This episode is about zooming in on what happens in our own processes of rebirth and bringing awareness to some common culprits and the massive opportunity we have when what’s no longer aligned for us begins to die. Listen in so you can stop staying stuck and learn your power to move yourself THROUGH the messy, uncomfortable and unpredictable middle as your “Phoenix self.” In this episode Gervase dives into: What her HOT new event series, The Phoenix Sessions is REALLY about and who it’s for. Why we get stuck between intending and becoming One of her million personal stories of rebirth when she became a mother for the first time 9 years ago. The gift of the “F no” The difference between surface-level pleasure that just helps us avoid pain and deep, full pleasure Why seasons of contraction and challenge are big opportunities and not just something to “get through.” Get Your Tickets to The Phoenix Sessions: An in-person transformational experience on January 21st, 2023, in Charleston, SC Details + Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-phoenix-sessions-winter-tickets-507814164837 Use code AMIGA when you and a friend buy two tickets at once and save $100 total To be a sponsor at this event, email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources: The Yoni Codes podcast episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0g4l2Axe4unyEzqnd22JSh?si=CnUPSqNpSRq29_UbHKJfLg

Jan 2, 2023 • 36min
A Guided Grounding for the New Year + How to Discern Your Next Step Forward
Welcome to the first episode of the new year, beauties! If you love to make plans, but you’re not sure what the next step should look like, it’s time to get grounded. Listen into today’s episode as Gervase guides us through a live grounding exercise, explains what it really means to be grounded, and dives into the intuitive life strategy that she uses to help her clients embrace their full selves. In this episode Gervase dives into: [02:35] A live, guided grounding exercise [11:52] What grounding even is and why it matters [16:50] Our mistake as modern women [20:41] The common thread in high-achieving women [25:11] The next move to make The Inner Circle Mastermind is now open! Want to see if the Inner Circle Mastermind is the right next step for you? Sign up for a call to discuss your goals and more mastermind deets here Inner Circle Mastermind: Find out what’s included here Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources: Gervase’s episode on the metaphor of being a tree and connecting to your roots

Dec 28, 2022 • 23min
My Mom and I Debate “The Feminine Mystique”
You contain multitudes. Wait, what does that mean? We know that the world is vast and beyond what our human brains can comprehend, and yet we take our identities, the essence of who we are, and we try to make it fit neatly into society’s little boxes. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase breaks down the natural paradox of our existence and why we should embrace it. Listen in to hear why she has made it her mission to stand for the multi-dimensional woman, and why embracing the It’s All Me mindset is critical to creating everything that you want in life. In this episode Gervase dives into: [00:57] Birthday dinner with her mom and why she got upset over The Feminine Mystique [05:40] What held her back when she first became a life coach [09:06] The lies that keep you from embracing your full, paradoxical self [14:35] An invitation to embrace the It’s All Me mindset [17:27] A path to healing, community, and integrating the It’s All Me Mindset The Inner Circle Mastermind is now open! Want to see if the Inner Circle Mastermind is the right next step for you? Sign up for a call to discuss your goals and more mastermind deets here Inner Circle Mastermind: Find out what’s included here Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources: Free Joyful AF Masterclass replay (available for a limited time) G’s recent podcast episode with Sarah Jenks Mrs. America (TV Mini Series 2020) - IMDb Amazon.com: The Feminine Mystique: 9780393346787: Friedan, Betty, Collins, Gail, Quindlen, Anna: Books

Dec 19, 2022 • 27min
You Are Your One
Somewhere along the line, popularity, belonging, and identity have become synonymous - but it’s all a lie. On today’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase is dropping some insight into the mix, discussing how that belief is harmful to us, our kids, and our relationships. Grab your tea and join G on the couch as she shares how this has shown up in the lives of her clients and her personal life, and what she’s doing to break the cycle. In this episode Gervase highlights: [02:04] Where the belief that popularity equals belonging comes from and the definition of sister wound [03:35] Why moving away and “losing” her best friend was a beautiful opportunity [08:07] An invitation to look back over your life and challenge the experiences that created your ideology of worth and belonging [10:55] The privilege we have as modern women to help counteract these beliefs in the children we love [15:52] The friction between the maiden and the mother archetypes and what that has to do with feeling like you belong The Inner Circle Mastermind is now open! Want to see if the Inner Circle Mastermind is the right next step for you? Sign up for a call to discuss your goals and more mastermind deets here Inner Circle Mastermind: Find out what’s included here The Gateway Plus A year-long membership community that will be your gateway to conversations, concepts, tools, teachers for your real AF life as a modern woman. Check it out here. Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources Mentioned: G’s Sister Wound podcast episode with Stephanie Burg G;s podcast episode with Dr. Viviana Coles

Dec 5, 2022 • 17min
Moving a Client From “Or” Mindset to “And”
Welcome to the It’s All Me podcast, where we don’t play the game of choosing between our dream life and our kids, we choose both. On today’s episode, Gervase discusses how to ditch the ‘or’ and embrace the ‘and’ in life while tending to your root needs as an empowered, modern woman. Listen in to hear how one of Gervase’s clients from the Inner Circle mastermind experienced a healing breakthrough around her either/or mindset, and learned how to reconnect with her needs. In this episode Gervase dives into: [02:09] What it’s like to meet your free-from-societal-conditioning self [03:33] A glimpse into her client’s recent breakthrough [05:55] Why doing the inner work really matters [09:55] Signs it’s time to reconnect with your roots [12:02] An opportunity to stop abandoning yourself The Inner Circle Mastermind is now open! Want to see if the Inner Circle Mastermind is the right next step for you? Sign up for a call to discuss your goals and more mastermind deets here Inner Circle Mastermind: Find out what’s included here Sign up by December 15th for 3k off! Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Gen Admission Promo Code: GA-EARLY VIP Ticket Promo Code: VIP-EARLY Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources: Free Joyful AF Masterclass replay (available for a limited time) G’s recent podcast episode with Sarah Jenks

Nov 28, 2022 • 59min
Burning it all down…again and again and again with Jeannine Kochuba
This week on the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase invites us to sit down with fellow AMDA graduate and New York Times Featured Feminine Leadership & Business Coach Jeannine Kochuba. Gervase and Jeannine share their journeys of becoming the women they are today by embracing and healing trauma, letting go of patriarchal and societal beliefs, and awakening to their power and purpose as women and mothers. Listen in and be part of a playful and deep conversation about how you are the woman you’ve been waiting for. That’s right - It’s All You. In this episode Gervase and Jeannine dive into: [12:38] Glamorizing the hard things we’ve been conditioned to do, why it actually sucks, and how we can choose to do the work that will fulfill us [24:48] The story of Gervase’s Great Awakening [38:11] Gervase and Kevin’s recent argument in front of their kids [46:12] Discovering the power of the "It's All Me" mindset (and Jeannine’s personal discovery experience) [53:01] Why It’s All Me doesn’t equal doing it all on your own Jeannine Yoder is a New York Times Featured Feminine Leadership & Business Coach, Healer, Mom, Broadway Artist, and Founder/CEO of Mentor Masterclass, an all-in life coach training school for women. Jeannine works intimately with leaders who are bored and burnt out by the current success strategies that are being taught. When you are ready to lead from an emergent, abundant and aligned strategy, Jey is the coach you want by your side. She is currently on sabbatical from her larger business while she focuses on VIP level 1:1 coaching and leading custom workshops for virtual courses, live events, and retreats. Guest Info Connect with Jeannine Kochuba on Instagram: @jeannine.yoder Free Masterclass with Gervase Sign up for Joyful AF, a free masterclass with G on Dec 1st: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/joyfulaf Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS; Promo Codes expire Nov 26th Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Gen Admission Promo Code: GA-EARLY VIP Ticket Promo Code: VIP-EARLY Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources: Jeannine’s Instagram post

Nov 23, 2022 • 60min
Remembering the Sacred Feminine with Priestess Sarah Jenks
This week, G brings one of her teachers to the pod—a fellow mom of 3 who also happens to be a Priestess, Sarah Jenks. In this conversation, G excitedly quizzes Sarah on the definitions of and historical context of layer upon layer of the internalized patriarchy of the modern woman. If you’ve wanted a deeper understanding of the Sacred Feminine, the patriarchy, the stories of Mary Magdalene or what it means to be in “ceremony,” this episode will go beyond informative and activate resonance. Listen in to learn what happens when women remember the untold stories of the empowered, magical and wealthy female archetypes that lived during Jesus’ time and re-integrate their souls as modern day holy women. In this episode Gervase and Sarah discuss: {16:30} – The various definitions and types of “ceremony” available today {17:20} - How all the sacred feminine lineages are “remembered” because they were all deliberately erased #boom {18} How she uses her priestess training (and physics) to create a coherent energetic field {20} Sarah’s definition of the ‘Sacred Feminine” {21:47} The full body, emotional reaction G experienced after learning about the Sacred Feminine {32} The way the patriarchy removed women from their power and convinced them their natural magic was “evil” {39:30} Why we can’t fight for abortion rights or better gun laws until we are internally free #itsallmemindset [41:30] The radical notion that Jesus’ mother AND wife were not who the Bible says they were Sarah Jenks is a Priestess and Founder of a Global Sacred Feminine Temple. Her sacred practice and teachings weave together the mysteries of Ancient Avalon, Earth-based practices of her Celtic and Germanic ancestry, the Feminine Path of Mary Magdalene, and the Ancient Egyptian practices of Anointing. Sarah offers live experiences, courses and community that are grounded in unveiling your true power and mission so that you can create the life you're meant to live. Guest Info Connect with Sarah Jenks on Instagram: @sarahjenks Or check out sarahjenks.com Join Holy Woman using my affiliate link: https://sarahjenks.ontraport.net/t?orid=139277&opid=38 Try Sarah’s free resource – Sacred Start: https://sarahjenks.com/sacred-start/ Free Masterclass with Gervase Sign up for Joyful AF, a free masterclass with G on Dec 1st: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/joyfulaf Buy Your Tix to the I AM Retreat in CHS; Promo Codes expire Nov 26th Event Details: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-i-am-retreat-tickets-460263870627 Gen Admission Promo Code: GA-EARLY VIP Ticket Promo Code: VIP-EARLY Join G’s Email List + Try Her Hypnosis for Free Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Nov 14, 2022 • 25min
Joy is a Really Good Reason
What is your relationship to joy? For a lot of modern women wearing multiple hats and feeling responsible for all sorts of projects and people, joy is the first thing they take off their list when life starts to feel too chaotic. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase talks about reconnecting to joy without the ‘shoulds’ and shame, why doing the work to get to joy is worth having tough conversations, and how joy can be a great motivator to lead the lives we desire. After all, joy is a really good reason to live a life we love. In this episode Gervase dives into: [01:24] Addressing the root causes of our discomfort and dissatisfaction to find peace and joy in our hot mess moments [08:56] How joy can be our source of fuel for the things we want to do in life (aka Why cleaning your house isn’t bringing you the calm you’re looking for) [11:30] How we’ve been conditioned to believe our joy is inconvenient and what we can do to claim it for ourselves [19:39] The FREE masterclass that will help reprogram the societal brainwashing that tells us our joy should be last on our list [21:27] The upcoming IRL I AM retreat to reconnect you to your purpose Work with Gervase Check out the totally free upcoming Joyful AF Masterclass here. We start December 1st and spoiler alert: Gervase is going to kick it all off with a LIVE 20 minute group hypnosis session. Read more here. Is this real life?? Start the New Year off equipped to be the woman who saves herself, a woman who knows how to tap into her resilience, power, intuition, and joy. Attend the transformational, luxe, IRL I AM retreat on January 21st. Click here for more info and use promo codes VIP-EARLY (VIP tickets) or GA-EARLY (General Admission) for $100 off until November 20th. There are only 10 spaces available per promo code so if you’re feeling called to attend, trust your intuition and sign up now! Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Nov 7, 2022 • 49min
When Moms Talk Money and Mental Health with Amy Schultz
Ready to talk about money and mental health with mothers who get it? In this episode, Gervase introduces Amy Schultz, mom, co-founder and head coach at Bolder Money, a company on a mission to close the gender wealth gap through money coaching for women. Join Gervase and Amy as they talk about how financial stability affects advocacy for women in the workplace, their journeys with postpartum depression, BPD, depression and anxiety, and how they are navigating it all with an It’s All Me mindset. In this episode Gervase and Amy dive into: [02:53] Recognizing and using privilege to lift other women up [11:02] Giving a big fuck yes to making bold choices and advocating for yourself [22:16] Rewriting societal stories and your beliefs around life, motherhood, and money [45:05] Amy’s challenge for women looking ahead to 2023 Amy Schultz began her career helping companies manage wealth as an actuary, and then transitioned into money coaching after recognizing how ill-prepared she was to manage her own money despite her financial background. Amy utilizes a powerful psycho-dynamic coaching model, combining practical financial guidance and sound coaching principles to help women deeply explore, understand and transform their relationship with money. Guest Info Connect with Amy Schultz on Instagram: @amyschultzmoneycoach Or check out BolderMoney.com Work with Gervase Check out the NEW Gateway Plus+ with live hypnotherapy and exclusive access to discounts and tickets to in-person events https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/gateway-plus Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources Mentioned Podcast episode | When Women Remember Their Political Power with Dr. Annie Andrews

Nov 3, 2022 • 33min
WTF is Up With My Sober Curiosity?
In this uncut series of the podcast, G is coming to you from wherever the F she finds herself (like picking up prescriptions at the pharmacy…again) to share an aspect of woman-ing that has her saying, “What in the actual . .?!” Because it’s always nice to feel less alone in the clusterfuck that is life. Listen in to hear how she is navigating the hard, the human, and the straight up WTFs of her sober curiosity, aka her journey of on and off quitting alcohol…like a woman. In this episode, G discusses: [03:55] Restriction and the “willpower way” vs. the “woman way” and making intuitive choices that feel right for you [08:05] The beginning of her sober curiosity journey [11:35] Why her sobriety doesn’t mean she thinks you’re an alcoholic [14:32] The gift of understanding the next right step [23:57] What sober curiosity has taught her “I had a unified mind, not a split one, so I didn’t need to call on my willpower.” ― Holly Whitaker, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol To join this conversation, find me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos and share your experience with sober curiosity. Work with Gervase Introducing The Gateway Plus+. If you’re looking for a tight-knit sister circle of support, live hypnotherapy with G, AND first dibs on exclusive discounts, click here to read more about The Gateway Plus+. If you’re looking for community and access to the tools that spark change, check out The Gateway. Download your free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Resources Mentioned Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol by Holly Whitaker Instagram | @laurabutlercoaching