The Modern Phoenix

The pressure to be more, do more, have more is exhausting, but what if the real problem isn’t you… but the unrealistic expectations you’ve internalized? In this week’s episode, G unpacks the invisible forces keeping women stuck in a cycle of never enough, and reveals why Inner Knowing is the path to authentic happiness and fulfillment. She’ll show you how to tune into your own body and soul wisdom, how to identify when you are being led by external pressures, and how to trust your inner compass to make empowered, aligned choices. You'll learn: What Inner Knowing is and why it’s so important for modern women How to start listening to the body and soul’s signals for easier, more aligned decision making How to break free from external expectations and step into your true essence Practical tips on how to trust intuition in everyday life The power of making decisions based on what feels right, not what looks right   Our souls are literally begging us to pay attention to our inner truth- and how we feel - instead of who we “should” be, how we are “supposed” to act and who they told us we are.  If you’d like to learn how to access your inner knowing - anytime and anywhere - join G in her Inner Knowing Mastermind. This powerful 8 week experience will unlock the wisdom of your body and soul, and help you create a life aligned with your deepest truth.  Sessions begin April 30th, and spots are limited. Act now and learn how to free yourself from the pressure, perfectionism and “pushing through” of modern life.  It’s time you live a life that lights you up from the inside out.  Go here to enroll and get more details: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

Have you ever found yourself completely overwhelmed, frustrated, or stuck in a cycle you can't seem to break? You may feel your body tense up, your mind race, or  feel paralyzed by indecision. You know you’re triggered, but you’re not so sure what to do next. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase dives into what it actually takes to move through a trigger, not just from a logical, intellectual place, but through a somatic and soul strategy that allows you to shift your nervous system and return to a state of clarity, empowerment, and ease. This is not your basic “identifying triggers” surface-level episode. This is about integration - learning to recognize, resource, and regulate yourself in real-time so you stop spinning in mental loops and start embodying a new way of being. Listen in as Gervase shares how to move from an activated state into a place of true self-knowing and safety, so that the next time a trigger hits, you’ll know exactly how to navigate it. If you're tired of being hijacked by your triggers and ready to move through them with ease, grace, and actual solutions, hit play now. And if you’re feeling called to go deeper, Gervase’s Inner Knowing Mastermind is now open! Check out the links below for more info. What you’ll learn: Why knowing about triggers isn’t enough (and what actually shifts them) The biggest mistake we make when trying to "fix" a triggered state How to recognize and work with your body’s activation responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) A simple question to ask yourself when you’re overwhelmed and don’t know what to do How resourcing yourself properly can completely shift how you experience triggers in the future Why emotional intelligence isn't just a mental game, but a Mind-Body-Soul strategy *NEW* The Inner Knowing Mastermind. A sacred space to develop unshakable self-trust and body and soul-led intuition   This 8 week group coaching/ live training experience is designed to give you access to your deepest, most profound truth, and help create a life that makes YOU most happy (instead of all the pushing, pretending and people-pleasing that creates so much stress and incongruence now).   If you are a woman who has “it all” but still feels something is wrong despite all you’ve “done right,” this mastermind is for you.    G will help you unlearn the conditioning that keeps you trapped, and tap into your soul-voice and body wisdom to live a life of authenticity, freedom and feeling fucking good.    It’s time you get to be who you REALLY are, not who *they* told you to be.  Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isn’t working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume you must be the problem? That there’s something wrong with you, that you’re not trying hard enough, that if you were just different, everything would fall into place? This episode of The Modern Phoenix is a wake-up call. Gervase shares a raw and powerful riff from the vault - straight from a live coaching session. She dives into the deep-rooted conditioning that convinces women to gaslight themselves, unpacks how the systems we exist in, like patriarchy, capitalism, and generational conditioning, keep us in a cycle of self-doubt and self-abandonment. Most importantly, she offers a different perspective: what if your emotions, your overwhelm, your desire for change aren’t personal failures, but signals that the ecosystem around you needs to shift? If you’re ready to reframe your inner dialogue, reclaim your discernment, and trust yourself enough to create the ripple effect that leads to real, systemic change, listen in now. What you’ll learn: Why so many high-achieving women believe they are the problem (and why that’s a lie) How to recognize when burnout and dissatisfaction are signals and not personal failings The power of the shift; trusting your emotions instead of suppressing them How to have your own back through the inevitable cycles of transformation What it really means to be a culture-changer in your own ecosystem   Are you ready to stop gaslighting yourself? To stop thinking that you’re ALWAYS the problem, and start accessing your inner wisdom? Be a woman that has her own back. Start with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   

How often do you hold back, soften your words, or twist yourself into knots just to make sure no one gets upset? Whether it’s navigating a tough conversation with your partner, setting boundaries with your kids, or simply taking time for yourself without guilt, many of us have been conditioned to prioritize other people’s comfort over our own truth. In this episode of The Modern Phoenix, Gervase is sharing a behind-the-scenes look at a live coaching call from The Phoenix Revolution, where she explored the deeply ingrained belief that your peace depends on everyone else being okay. If you’ve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, silencing your needs, or measuring success by how well you "land the plane" in a tough conversation, this episode is for you. You’ll hear real coaching, real breakthroughs, and a powerful shift in how we approach boundaries, self-trust, and standing in our truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.   What you’ll learn: Why so many of us feel unsafe when someone is upset with us (and how to shift this pattern) How placing your power outside yourself keeps you stuck in people-pleasing patterns The sneaky ways perfectionism and control show up in relationships What it really looks like to stand firm in your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable A new way to approach difficult conversations that centers your needs, not just theirs Tired of bending over backwards to keep the peace?  Are you curious what it would feel like to burn people-pleasing patterns away and stand in your own truth, powerful and calm in the face of chaos, or other people’s expectations?    It starts with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Did someone mention Pleasure? Summer may be over but the Summer of Pleasure free Masterclass is timeless: Read more here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/summer-of-pleasure   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: IG Reel: It's Not Your Job To Make Them Happy Book: The Science of Getting Rich

Have you ever been told that you’re too emotional? Or do you avoid crying at all costs because you don’t want to look weak? In this week’s episode, Gervase flips this narrative upside down, offering a powerful reframe that reveals why crying is actually a profound act of healing, as well as an opportunity for connection and growth. Listen in as she breaks down the societal indoctrinations and personal barriers that make us resistant to feeling our emotions, as well as the physiological and intuitive benefits of crying, making a case for why embracing your tears is a radical and necessary practice. What you’ll learn: Why the fear of being "too emotional" is costing us authenticity How patriarchy, capitalism, and even feminism condition us to suppress emotions. How allowing emotions to flow can deepen our relationships and create a bridge to our intuition The physiological benefits of crying, including access to soul-wisdom Why creating safe, intentional spaces to feel is key to emotional health How women's circles, somatic healing, and working with a trained facilitator can help you access your intuition, soul wisdom, and deeper clarity   Are you ready to stop suppressing your emotions and start accessing your inner wisdom?  Start with a Soul Shift: The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom. Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

When it’s deeper than talk therapy, it needs a mind-body-soul approach. This week on the Modern Phoenix, Gervase shares insights from her mental health journey turned full-blown personal evolution. Listen in as she opens up about how transitioning from mind-based therapy to soul and body-centered practices like focalizing, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation opened new paths to healing and inner transformation. As she recounts pivotal moments that shaped her understanding of herself, she shares the profound power of trauma responses, intuition, inner child healing, and more, inviting you to look beyond conventional therapy practices and consider your own unique path to healing. What you’ll learn: The strengths and limitations of talk therapy that led Gervase to explore mind-body-soul healing The role of somatic practices and nervous system regulation in mental health What it means to understand and address trauma responses through body awareness Why shifting from self-fixing to self-tending is crucial for healing The importance of integrating mind, body, and soul in any healing journey How to embrace the complexity of healing and look beyond conventional therapy practices. New to the idea of Mind-Body-Soul integration? Start by dropping into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring. Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

The transition into motherhood reshapes not just our roles, but our very beings. In this episode, Gervase Kolmos sits down with Jessi Harold, author of Mothershift, to explore the transformative journey known as matrescence. Jessi shares her insights on how becoming a mother can be both a radical shift and a rite of passage filled with growth, challenges, and deep self-discovery. Together, they discuss the complexities of identity shifts, societal expectations, and the importance of holding space for both the beauty and the struggle of parenting.    Keep listening as Gervase and Jessie cover the balance between rejecting and emulating our own upbringing, explore how motherhood pushes us to hold paradoxes and embrace nuance, and discuss how it transforms not only how we parent but also how we grow as individuals.   What you’ll learn: The meaning and transformative power of matrescense The importance of holding complexity and paradox in motherhood The need for and challenges of finding community and support in modern motherhood How your upbringing can leave you swinging between breaking cycles and repeating them  Why self-compassion is a must in the matrescence journey The value of finding balance and what's right for you in motherhood versus societal norms Connect with Jessi Harrold Instagram | @jessie.es.harrold: Website | https://www.jessieharrold.com/   New! Special Rate: Drop into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring. Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/    Resources: Mothershift Book - Jessie Harrold  

Navigate the demands of the new year with greater ease, intention, and authenticity. In this week’s grounding episode, Gervase invites you to reflect, reset, and reconnect with the cycles of nature around (and within) you. She explores the effect of the Winter Solstice, our changing assignments for this season, and discusses how aligning with nature’s rhythm can help us navigate the demands of modern life with ease. Gervase shares her insights on living as a “modern woman on an ancient Earth,” and how tapping into the wisdom of your body and soul can unlock a new sense of clarity and coherence. Listen in as she guides you through a grounding exercise, sharing tools to help you slow down, refuel, and return to your life feeling aligned, resourced, and ready to create magic. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The power of seasonal awareness and its impact on your body and mind. Why slowing down and resourcing as you go is essential for sustainable energy. How to reset your nervous system in the midst of life’s chaos with a simple grounding exercise. The role of natural intelligence in guiding your decisions and aligning your inner and outer worlds. Why your worthiness is never tied to productivity or societal expectations. New! Special Rate: drop into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring.  Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ 

What if the key to breaking through relationship conflicts isn’t in the talking but in the listening… to your body? In this episode, Gervase reveals how shifting from mind-based strategies to somatic and soul approaches (read: dropping out of the mind and into the body) transformed a weeks-long rupture in her marriage into a moment of deep connection and repair. Listen in as she shares her struggles with “circling the drain” with repetitive arguments, how the mind can get in the way of reconciliation, and the power of the body in moving through relationship stalemates. Keep listening for questions you can ask yourself to explore the practice of dropping into your body wisdom, and for a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t always come from trying harder but from thinking differently.   Drop into your own unique body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session: 60 minute, 1:1 coaching sessions to get you unstuck and ready to work with your body wisdom. On sale through January. Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy    Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

From threats and punishments to connection - this one goes out to the parents of strong-willed children. In today’s episode, Gervase welcomes Wendy Snyder, certified parenting educator and family life coach, to discuss the power of positive, connection-based parenting. Together, they explore the challenges, myths, and opportunities of this parenting style, particularly with strong-willed children. They discuss the impact of healing generational trauma cycles, the role of self-awareness in parenting, and the importance of letting go of shame and perfectionism. Packed with personal stories and valuable insights, this episode is a must-listen for any parent seeking to nurture meaningful relationships with their kids.   Connect with Wendy:  Fresh Start Wendy | Instagram Power Struggles FREE Online Workshop - Fresh Start Family   Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift: Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive   Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/