The Modern Phoenix

What if that voice telling you to “be more productive” isn’t your inner wisdom but internalized capitalism? Most of us are living with constant pressure to optimize, monetize, and harvest every moment of our lives, and we don’t even realize it. In this raw episode, Gervase shares a vulnerable moment from her own life that perfectly illustrates how capitalism has trained us to believe we don’t get to just exist. She breaks down how this system affects modern women and offers practical ways to reclaim your humanity. This isn’t about becoming anti-capitalism overnight, it’s about recognizing the programming so you can make conscious choices about your own 500 square feet of life. Listen to this episode to discover: The moment Gervase realized she couldn’t even enjoy a peaceful lunch with her son without thinking about content creation How internalized capitalism shows up in everyday life (spoiler: it’s that voice saying “you’re not doing enough”) Why we’ve been programmed to turn every hobby, idea, and beautiful moment into a business opportunity The “harvest mentality” and why it’s running you ragged How capitalism affects both stay-at-home and working moms (and why both feel like they’re never enough) Simple acts of rebellion: ways to reclaim moments that capitalism can’t touch Why your worth isn’t determined by your output, and how to actually believe it How to create conscious moments of rest and pleasure without guilt The ripple effect of tending to your own “500 square feet” instead of trying to change the world This episode is for you if: You feel guilty taking breaks unless you’ve “earned” them Every hobby feels like it should become a side hustle You can’t enjoy peaceful moments without thinking about productivity You're exhausted from the constant pressure to do more, be more, create more You want practical ways to reclaim your humanity in a productivity-obsessed world Resource Mentioned in this Episode:   Toi Marie (Smith): https://www.toimarie.com/     Follow Gervase:    Let’s hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos  Want to go deeper (and get juicy discounts)? Sign up to Gervase’s newsletter: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Feel stuck in your career, relationship or life? Need clarity on how to move forward and get your groove back? Book a 90-minute Soul Shift Intensive with Gervase https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive

What if the reason you constantly feel drained isn’t because you’re doing too much, but because you’re doing things in a way that goes against your natural design? Most of us are running on empty, trying to force ourselves into systems and rhythms that work for other people—but not for us. This week, I sat down with human design expert and best-selling author Erin Claire Jones to explore how understanding your unique energetic blueprint can transform how you work, love, and live. Erin breaks down the practical magic of human design and shows us how to stop forcing and start flowing. She reveals why most of us have been conditioned to work against our natural energy patterns, how this creates burnout and disconnection, and the simple shifts that can help you honor your design. She shares practical insights for all 5 human design types and explains why this system is less mystical theory and more practical life manual. Listen to this episode to discover:   What human design is and why it’s the most practical system for understanding your energy and intuition The 5 human design types (Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, Manifestors, and Reflectors) and how each is designed to move through the world Why Generators and Manifesting Generators need to ask “Do I really feel excited about this?” before saying yes to everything How Projectors can build successful businesses and raise families without burning out (spoiler: it’s about working with your energy, not against it) Why Manifestors need freedom to do things their own way Why energy management is more important than time management How to use human design to understand your partner and kids on a deeper level   Follow Gervase:    Let’s hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos  Want to go deeper (and get juicy discounts)? Sign up to Gervase’s newsletter: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ Connect with Erin Claire Jones:   humandesignblueprint.com Book: How Do You Choose: A Human Design Guide To What's Best For You At Work, In Love and In Life

Let’s be real: the world doesn’t need another “put-together” woman who’s mastered pretending. It needs you—whole, honest, luminous, messy, intuitive, powerful-as-hell you. That's why we're bringing back this special episode -- straight from the Vault! G goes all in—sharing raw personal stories and client transformations to show you the sacred evidence of what’s possible when you stop hiding parts of yourself. Light and dark. Joy and rage. Fire and softness. All of it belongs. This episode is your reminder (or wake-up call) that being fully expressed isn’t a luxury—it’s your lifeline. Especially if you’re navigating mental health shifts, heavy relational dynamics, or the never-ending mental load of modern womanhood. Here’s what you’ll walk away with: What it actually means to lead with your heart How to feel more grounded in your truth—even when life feels like a lot Why emotional range = personal power A new definition of “strength” that lets you breathe easier A soul check-in: Are you living the Woman Way… or still shape-shifting? Hit play now. Let it land. Let it stir you. Then share it with the women who need it. And if it moves you? Come join the Phoenix Revolution. We’re not here to play small anymore. Get More Support To Create Your Masterpiece Of A Life   CREATRIX: a 4-day on-demand for the woman who wants to reconnect to and amplify the feminine magic and empowered mindset that allows you to easily create everything you want in your life.   You are not the same every single day. And while you can become outwardly successful with values like perfectionism, discipline and hustle—I can show you a better way. An easier way   Inside this four-day on-demand course, you'll learn: What keeps us stuck in cycles of shame, self-doubt, over-doing and feeling disconnected from our whole Woman and how to connect back to Her. The role conditioning plays and how to undo it. How to use your Creatrix magic to let go of your death grip on control and invite in more joy, pleasure, connection, presence. A process for breaking cycles of toxic narratives and life patterns. An empowered mindset that allows you to trust yourself more. And so much more… https://www.gervasekolmos.com/creatrix    More Free Resources Download Gervase’s free gift, the Trust Yo’self hypnosis track: https://bit.ly/3xKuaPv  Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos

What if the reason you struggle to speak from your heart isn’t because you don't know what to say, but because you've forgotten how to connect with yourself first? Most of us want deeper connection, but we’re so stuck in our heads, running on adrenaline instead of presence. This week, Gervase sits down with best-selling author and international consultant Katie Hendricks to explore how to make the journey from head to heart and discover the practical tools that make authentic connection possible. Katie reveals why most of us are walking around “from the neck up,” running on adrenaline instead of presence, and how this disconnection affects everything—from how we show up with our partners, to how we navigate conflict, to how we experience our own lives. She shares practical tools for reconnecting with your body, giving yourself nourishing attention, and moving through the world with your heart open, even when it feels scary. Listen to this episode now to discover: The simple “hmm” technique that shifts you from criticism to curiosity (and opens the pathway between your head and heart) Why most people live “from the neck up” and how this keeps you running on adrenaline instead of true presence Katie’s “loop of awareness” practice—how to circulate attention between yourself and others so you don’t get lost in your head, or lost in others How to ask yourself “How am I experiencing this in my body right now?” and why this question changes everything Why opening your heart feels scary and how to move around the fear instead of forcing through it The difference between giving attention from adrenaline versus presence and why one nourishes while the other depletes How to separate “stuff talk” and “heart talk” so business doesn't block heart connection with your partner How to shift from seeing your partner as a “fixer upper” to an evolving work of art The game-changing concept of a “no blame relationship” and how to create one Follow Gervase Let's hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos  Want to go deeper (and get juicy discounts)? Sign up to Gervase's newsletter https://www.gervasekolmos.com/   Connect with Katie Hendricks Be. Play. Love Podcast: https://beplaylove.com/  Love and Relationship products: www.heartsintrueharmony.com Hendricks Institute: www.hendricks.com

What if you came to Earth with a divine design and a map of your life already written in the stars? This week, Gervase sits down with Carol Allen, a Vedic astrologer with 34 years of experience to explore how this ancient system can offer profound insights into your life's purpose, relationships, and spiritual path. This isn't your typical horoscope chat. Carol shares how Vedic astrology—practiced for thousands of years in India—reveals your “celestial DNA” and why understanding your divine design can free you from the Western pressure to be something maybe you’re not meant for, and help you live in alignment with your soul’s true destiny. Listen to this episode to discover: Why Vedic astrology is different from Western astrology and how it works as “ancient technology” for understanding your soul's path How your chart is your celestial DNA, a snapshot of the Universe the moment you took your first breath Why Western hyperindividualism is making us miserable and how ancient wisdom shows us we're all interconnected frequency beings The concept of dharma and why you're not meant to force yourself into someone else's blueprint for success Why finding love isn't just about you, it's about both people's destinies aligning and what this means for taking pressure off yourself How to live at “the level of love” by being who you're truly here to be How vedic astrology can help you parent based on who your child actually is (as they come “pre-loaded at the factory”) How your chart reveals your natural gifts, relationship patterns, and even physical characteristics with stunning accuracy The cyclical nature of life and why expecting constant progression is making us miserable and exhausted Follow Gervase 📲 Let's hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos ✨ Want to go deeper (and get juicy discounts)? Sign up for my newsletter https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

What if every challenging experience in your life—the difficult relationships, the heartbreak, the family drama—wasn't happening TO you, but was actually teaching you where you still needed to grow? This week, Gervase shares the spiritual psychology framework that has helped her reframe triggers, move through some of life’s most traumatic events, and no longer be affected by other people’s perception of her.  This isn't about spiritual bypassing. It's about understanding that you're a soul having a human experience, and Earth is literally school for your consciousness. Listen to this episode now to discover: Why you’re a soul having a human experience, and how to view life’s challenges as a video game so you can move to the next level in your journey Why Earth Stackers (spiritual allies) keep sending you the same lessons until you learn them (spoiler: your triggers are your curriculum) 3 powerful questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling triggered so it no longer has power over you The difference between religion and spirituality that allows you to connect with the divine without the dogma How to shift from “I am upset because…” (victim mode) to “how can I take my power back” (spiritual boss mode) Why your most difficult relationships are actually your greatest teachers (and how to work with them instead of against them) The ONE question that can reveal your bigger intention in life   Hey Mamas, let’s be YOU again, while raising them: Introducing Whole Mother Rising, a 4 week mini-mastermind for mothers who are ready to reclaim their power, purpose, and joy… without guilt. Because the world has endless advice on how to be a mom, but almost nothing to help you be YOURSELF while mothering. Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/whole-mother-rising Follow Gervase:  📲 Let’s hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos  

What if the key to getting hard tasks done when you’re overwhelmed (or just bored!) isn’t willpower—but more pleasure? This week, Gervase shares how to work with your nervous system by infusing your daily life with pleasure and intentionality when you want to give up. This isn’t about numbing out or pushing through. It’s about tending to yourself so you can stay in the game instead of burning out or bailing when things get tough. Hit play now to discover: The kitchen sink saga that sparked this episode, and why it’s Gervase’s North Star when it comes to her business, parenting and I getting sh*tty tasks done (aka: never-ending admin!) The ONE question to ask yourself when you want to bail on a hard task so you can stay in the game without burning out Why adding just 1% more pleasure can ease overwhelm, help you get the thing done, and soothe your nervous system How intention anchors you when motivation is low and pressure is high How to stay in the “uncomfortable middle” when you want to quit your job (and burn it all down!) If you’re tired of grinding your way through resistance (or giving up and regretting it later) and you’d like to adopt a more joyful, soul-honoring way of being during these moments, this short and simple episode is for you. Follow Gervase 📲 Let’s hang out on IG: @gervasekolmos  ✨ Want to go deeper (and get juicy discounts)? Sign up to Gervase’s newsletter https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

For this week’s podcast, I brought along a friend… high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist, Katarina Polonska! In this episode, we discuss how to make the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave a relationship, how to navigate messy power struggles, and how to move from individualism to collaboration to build stronger, more connected relationships. Yep, we cover it all! Watch this episode now to discover: The #1 way to get clarity on whether you should stay or leave a relationship (hint: the result is win-win: you either transform the relationship or you leave and find someone who is more aligned) The 6-month strategy to "clean up your side of the street" and find undeniable clarity The blame game that often happens in the power struggle phase of a relationship when our wounds (aka: sneaky unaddressed demons) like to come out The responsibility we have to try and understand our partner's needs and to hold them AND ours with equal importance How we've moved away from being collaborative in relationships to being individualistic and believing our needs matter more than our partners A mindset shift that can help you have a better relationship with your in-laws and extended family (even if you couldn't be more yin and yang!) About Katarina Polonska: Katarina is a high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist who specializes in helping people make clear relationship decisions. Her expertise in attachment theory, behavioral science of attraction, and the cultural influences on relationships provides a unique framework for understanding and transforming relationship patterns. Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos And for even more wisdom (and juicy discounts), sign up to her newsletter so you never miss out https://www.gervasekolmos.com/

Does every task on your to-do list feel as equally urgent and like a threat to your survival? In this week's episode, Gervase dives deep into the pattern of over-functioning that keeps so many women stuck in perpetual stress. You'll learn why your nervous system gets locked in high alert and overdrive, even for unimportant tasks such as the laundry. And how this cycle of perpetual doing and achieving causes burnout and a never-ending sense of “psychotic urgency.” And to help you rewire these patterns, Gervase shares practical steps such as how to reconnect to your body, slow down and create moments of calm even in the chaos of modern life.   Watch this episode now to discover:   The biggest indicator that you’re an over-functioner and how this “psychotic urgency” prevents you from being, enjoying and living life Why your brain can't relax when it’s stuck in overfunctioning without signals from your body first (and how this creates a chicken-and-egg problem for over-functioners) The real cost of constantly operating like a computer instead of honoring your HUMAN need for rhythm, rest and pleasure A simple 4-step practice to interrupt the overfunctioning pattern when you feel yourself spiraling The narcissistic-like belief many of us have that unknowingly depletes your energy (and how to contribute without sacrificing yourself) How to create 30-second intervals throughout your day to tune into your body’s wisdom and gradually rewire your nervous system Follow Gervase   -   Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights      http://www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos   -   And for even more wisdom (and her juiciest discounts and invites), sign up to her newsletter https://www.gervasekolmos.com

Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you’re liked? Or so you don’t make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week’s episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to “perform” and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You’ll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself. Watch this episode to discover: Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation)  What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that you’re losing)  Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you  How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else Want Gervase’s personal guidance? If you’d like to become who you’re really meant to be (instead of who they told you to be), you’re invited to join Gervase’s upcoming Inner Knowing Mastermind. During these 8 group calls, you’ll get an embodied sense of who you are, what’s right for you, and how to choose it. But hurry: the first call starts April 30th - and to keep them intimate, there’s only a limited number of seats left! Visit GervaseKolmos.com/inner-knowing-mastermind to reserve yours now. Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram to get her best scroll-stopping insights www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos And for even more wisdom (and juicy discounts), sign up to her newsletter so you never miss out https://www.gervasekolmos.com/