The Modern Phoenix When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me
When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me is a raw solo where Gervase shares two real-life vignettes—a Zoom with a master lawyer taken from a Costco aisle and a mama-bear moment about her child's bully—to show exactly how she moves from rumination to inner knowing. You'll hear her NPR framework (Notice–Pause–Resource), the shift from outside eyes to inside eyes, and the embodied practice of taking your seat so your next right-for-you move becomes obvious. She also introduces The Inner Knowing Immersion: two 90‑minute sessions + a custom hypnosis track to anchor this practice for 21 days and beyond.
Listen to this episode to discover:
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The NPR micro‑framework to move from spin to center
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Inside eyes vs. outside eyes (and how to switch)
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What it means to take your seat—even in public
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How to spot self‑gaslighting and people‑pleasing
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Why clean energy = clean communication
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How a custom hypnosis can anchor self‑trust for 21 days
This episode is for you if: You're looping on a decision, performing to be palatable, or afraid of getting it "wrong." You want practical, embodied tools to choose the truest thing—at school pickup, in a boardroom, or in a Costco aisle.
Pull Quotes:
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"When I don't know what to do, I return to me."
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"Outside eyes look for rules. Inside eyes look for truth."
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"I took my seat—in a Costco aisle."
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"You've already won when you don't abandon yourself."
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"Perfection is a performance. Truth is a frequency."
Resources Mentioned:
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Inner Knowing Immersion — two 90‑minute sessions + custom hypnosis (21‑day anchoring)
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NPR = Notice • Pause • Resource (simple nervous-system reset)
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Work with Gervase:
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1:1 coaching - learn more about it here
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