I Can't Like Myself If I'm Who You Want Me To Be

Tired of contorting yourself into a pretzel so you’re liked? Or so you don’t make others feel uncomfortable by being YOU? In this week’s episode (which is our first ever video podcast!), Gervase dives deep into why women have been conditioned to “perform” and prioritize being liked over being authentic. You’ll learn practical tools and a few hard-hitting truth bombs to help you break free from this hypervigilance so you can come home to yourself.

Watch this episode to discover:

• Why you're taught that likeability is the gold standard for women (while men aren't held to the same expectation) 

• What this hypervigilance on everybody else's comfort level is doing to your nervous system

• The real cost of abandoning yourself to please others (hint: no amount of external validation can make up for the 3 things that you’re losing) 

• Why other people's triggers about you are actually reflections of their OWN discomfort, and have nothing to do with you 

• How to stop making yourself responsible for others' emotions and reclaim your power and agency

• A practical exercise to transform your relationship with triggers so you can use them as data for self-discovery

• The intoxicating freedom that comes when you focus on liking yourself rather than being liked by everyone else

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