Heart of Dating

Audrey and Jeremy share about long distance dating and how they learned to date creatively. They also discuss creating a healthy environment to share vulnerably, overcoming challenges in a relationship, and how to be intentional in dating. Kait had the incredibly pleasure of sitting down with Audrey and Jeremy Roloff today to talk about their story, their INCREDIBLE dating advice, AND to share about their brand new book, A Love Letter Life, Available April 2nd! Jeremy Roloff actually grew up filming for the reality TV show, Little People Big World which has been going since he was 12 years old! He is also a photographer and does SO many incredible things. Audrey Roloff is a blogger who writes about life, faith, marriage, and motherhood and she is also the founder of the Always More clothing Line. Together Audrey and Jeremy are the the co-founders of Beating 50 percent, a ministry on mission to revive covenant marriages. They also co-host the top rated Behind the Scenes podcast… and are parents to their adorable baby girl EMBER. The most exciting thing is that Audrey and Jeremy are now launching their first book, A Love Letter Life, which we highly recommend to pick up NOW! Alright friends, today Kait and the Roloff's talk about a ton of things, but mainly they discuss WHAT it means to live a love letter life, and how to pursue creatively, date intentionally, and love faithfully. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Johan talks about all the myths women may believe about men and vice versa when it comes to dating. He also discusses rejection, dating in church, having an open mind, women making the first move, and if men and women can be just friends. Here is the deal. You guys DM us with questions about what the other gender is thinking all the time OR you ask them in our private FB community, and because of that we decided we needed to have a rad guy come on to help Kait tackle some of the biggest myths about men and women in dating.! So indeed we have a repeat podcast guest today, JOHAN KHALILIAN who previously was on our Men and the Me, TOO and masculinity episode conversations. Johan is a Youth Motivational Speaker, coach, and an author. Johan uses his life story to help people of all ages believe in the power of their dreams and the impact their life can make in the world around them. He is incredibly REAL and shameless and has a powerful voice. We also just so love his commitment to being truly vulnerable as a man. So here is the THING, he is a good friend of Kait's that she has known for years, so yall the two of them just get INTO it in this convo! They talk about things like how can guys truly pursue, how do they combat rejection if it’s happening over and over? Can men and women REALLY be friends? Is it too much for women to put themselves out there? How can they show a guy they are interested? What about emotional love tank filling? They even talk about attraction and why it’s important but also has to be balanced with other things. Kait and Jo GO ALL IN! This conversation is fun, but packed with nuggies as Jo says at the end. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kat discusses being a single woman in her 30s, online dating, dating apps, and debunking myths of christians using dating platforms. She shares online dating tips, myths, and her favorite online dating story.Kait brought her good girlfriend, Kat Harris, on the show to do a PODCAST swap where we exchanged advice on each other’s podcasts about online dating. Listen to that episode HERE.Kat Harris is a Brooklyn-based speaker, digital content creator, female empowerment advocate...She loves Jesus, a good Beyoncé dance party, + has an affinity for Ranch dressing (don't take it away from her!). Her vision is for women to know their beauty, identity and value.In terms of dating, she has experienced growth and transformation in this area. She used to feel shut down to her sexuality, terrified of rejection, and doubted she could ever have the type of relationship she truly longed for. Through lots of self-work, counseling, and practice she moved from fear to freedom in dating. Kat is passionate about sharing the freedom in dating and how it can actually be fun!She is Co-Founder of the online publication The Refined Woman and host of The Refined Collective Podcast. She believes in the power of story, that done is better than perfect, quality triumphs quantity, and that the journey truly is the destination.YALL, today Kat and Kait talk about WHY they are PRO online dating...why it is NOT unbiblical...the Do’s and DON’T of your profile. Kat also shares her FAVORITE dating app and top 3 online dating tips!After you get done with this episode, go on over to the refined woman to hear Kait talk on Kat’s podcast about online dating!Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interestWant to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-libraryKait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB:https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcastCome hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitness. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dave shares funny stories, how to woo a woman, lessons he's learned in dating, and ridiculous things christians do in dating. If yall have not had the pleasure of knowing WHO Dave Barnes is then, you are going to want to be his friend after listening to this episode!! Dave Barnes is a respected Nashville artist and songwriter who received GRAMMY and CMA nominations for Blake Shelton's recording of his hit song "God Gave Me You." Barnes has also penned songs for Tim McGraw, Carrie Underwood, Reba McEntire, Billy Currington, Hunter Hayes, Matt Wertz, Ben Rector, among SO many others. He has toured extensively over the past 15 years as a headlining artist, and has also opened for Taylor Swift, John Mayer, Lady Antebellum, Hanson, and One Republic, to name a few. Dave is also well known for his brand of humor, having sold out several stand-up comedy shows throughout the Southeast. Many of his comedic videos are posted to his YouTube video series… so yall BETTER check it out! This is one of those interviews where Kait and Dave covered a TON of ground. SO get ready for some Dating A to Z featuring the fantastic, uber talented, hilarious, and TOTALLY wise Dave Barnes! Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elisabeth and Peter go over some tendencies each enneagram type have in dating. Today we invited Peter and Elisabeth Bennett from the ever growing instagram account enneagram.life on the podcast. Peter is an Enneagram 1 and Elisabeth is an Enneagram 4! Together they live for Jesus in the beautiful PNW and they have been together for 5 years, married for 3 years, and have an almost 1 year old son. After learning about the Enneagram 2 years ago, Elisabeth read basically everything she can get her hands on and now Peter and Elisabeth have found the Enneagram to be an amazingly useful tool in marriage, work, and everyday life. Now they head up the instagram @enneagram.life which has grown TONS since its inception in the fall of 2018. They are working on fun projects in the future, so STAY TUNED. Today we talk about types in relationship. We talk about each types tendencies as well as how we can best LOVE each type. We even talk about ideal DATE IDEAS for each type so trust me it is a ton of fun! Get ready for some enneagram amazingness! Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Serena and Ryan discuss how to prepare for marriage as a Christian single both in practical and spritual ways. Today Kait invites Ryan and Selena Frederick onto the podcast… and they are the marriage #dreamteam! Together they have an incredible platform called Fierce Marriage which is a place to truly process the trials of marriage and celebrate its JOYS all rooted in Christ centeredness. Under Fierce Marriage they have a blog, an amazing instagram, a podcast, and TONS Of resources for couples. One thing we love about them so much is that they are so DEEPLY in love with Jesus… and they just bring the truth!!! Today, Ryan and Selena talk about all things FAITH in relationship and WHY it is so important! Yall ask me questions like “what if the person I like’s walk is not as far as mine?” or “can we pray together?” “how can I incorporate spiritual intimacy?” Today, Ryan and Selena lay it ALL down today in this rich and practical episode that is FILLED with nuggets. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carrie talks about being an older single woman and the feelings of loneliness and how to combat discouragement and comparison. Today we wanted to do an episode on singleness and THRIVING in it, as well as how to combat loneliness. So Kait brought on a phenomenal woman is is doing all of these things as a 38 year old single woman…the lovely Carrie Lloyd! Carrie Lloyd is an author, speaker, pastor at Bethel Church, and a coach. She originally worked in film and TV advertising in the UK and then went on to become a journalist for British national magazines where she found herself writing about love and relationships. Now she pastors people of all ages, guiding them through marriage, singleness, writing and destiny dreaming in northern California! She is also a podcast host of the The Carrie On Podcast...’which can be found on iTunes and Podbean. Her books on dating and sexual ethics: Prude and The Virgin Monologues are PHENOMENAL you guys should go check them out on amazon! Today Kait and Carrie talk about all things singleness. Carrie shares her heart and journey of finding freedom and HOPE in her singleness life, as well as how she has learned to be 38 and single and still love the journey. She is living a life of vibrancy and fullness, and has found ways to truly combat things like comparison and loneliness. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott talks about everything you need to discuss with your SO before getting married. Scott Kedersha is a Marriage pastor, conference speaker, and popular blogger. He currently lives in Dallas, TX and is the Director of Marriage ministry AND the Director of Newly Married Ministry. Scott works with thousands of couples and has learned an immense amount about what they struggle with and need to discuss before marriage. Scott has become so passionate about this that he just recently launched his new book, Ready or Knot, to help couples wrestle through the 12 critical conversations they need to have and the questions they need to answer before marriage. Ready or Knot? is a compilation of essential lessons and in-real-life stories of more than 5,000 premarried couples that gives readers reason to ponder, blush, cry, laugh, and most importantly, learn. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kait does a Q&A answering questions and topics such as: where to meet men, off/on relationships, boundaries, dating a friend, and more. This is an EXCITING day. We were able to POLL yall on instagram to find out what YOUR burning questions are regarding dating… we wanted to give you the opportunity to ask us anything, and now Kait is here to discuss it ALL...heyoooo!! Alrighty friends, truth be told, this is our first SOLO episode so we have to first start out by asking… have GRACE WITH KAIT! We want to put a disclaimer on this episode that Kait does not know the answers to everything. Dating is nuanced and murky and there are a variety of opinions out there. So today Kait does her VERY best to speak from her heart and share with you where she stands on these questions. Her answers won’t be perfect, but they will be from the heart. And they will also be grounded in as much resources and research as possible… but that STILL does not make them the end all be all. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mike discuss what codependency is, how to avoid it, how to recognize it, and why we do it. So today we are so excited because this guest has become a DEAR friend of Kait's over this last year... and is in fact a REPEAT GUEST! Mike Foster is such a wonderful human being you guys. He is a best-selling author, speaker, and advocate for not-so-perfect people. He has an INCREDIBLE podcast, Fun Therapy, which Kait actually had the pleasure of being on during Season 3 (go take a listen!). Y’all Mike has such a way of SEEING people, connecting with them, and making them feel understood and comfortable. Mike also has a book that he published with his wife Jennifer called FIVE dates. It’s a a His and Her workbook to help couples connect. Kait has personally used it and can honestly tell you it has been SO impactful in my dating life to foster gratitude, connection, and deeper understanding. I COULD NOT RECOMMEND IT MORE. Okay, friends today we are diving into the topic of CODEPENDENCY. Many of y’all have been asking about this so GET READY. We dive into what this is, and both Mike and Kait admit to being recovering CODEPENDENTS… YUP! So if you aren’t sure what that TRULY means or if you want to know more about what the symptoms are and how to recognize and heal from it… you’re going to LOVE this day and find it so helpful! Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices