Heart of Dating

Carrie talks about being an older single woman and the feelings of loneliness and how to combat discouragement and comparison. Today we wanted to do an episode on singleness and THRIVING in it, as well as how to combat loneliness. So Kait brought on a phenomenal woman is is doing all of these things as a 38 year old single woman…the lovely Carrie Lloyd! Carrie Lloyd is an author, speaker, pastor at Bethel Church, and a coach. She originally worked in film and TV advertising in the UK and then went on to become a journalist for British national magazines where she found herself writing about love and relationships. Now she pastors people of all ages, guiding them through marriage, singleness, writing and destiny dreaming in northern California! She is also a podcast host of the The Carrie On Podcast...’which can be found on iTunes and Podbean. Her books on dating and sexual ethics: Prude and The Virgin Monologues are PHENOMENAL you guys should go check them out on amazon! Today Kait and Carrie talk about all things singleness. Carrie shares her heart and journey of finding freedom and HOPE in her singleness life, as well as how she has learned to be 38 and single and still love the journey. She is living a life of vibrancy and fullness, and has found ways to truly combat things like comparison and loneliness. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott talks about everything you need to discuss with your SO before getting married. Scott Kedersha is a Marriage pastor, conference speaker, and popular blogger. He currently lives in Dallas, TX and is the Director of Marriage ministry AND the Director of Newly Married Ministry. Scott works with thousands of couples and has learned an immense amount about what they struggle with and need to discuss before marriage. Scott has become so passionate about this that he just recently launched his new book, Ready or Knot, to help couples wrestle through the 12 critical conversations they need to have and the questions they need to answer before marriage. Ready or Knot? is a compilation of essential lessons and in-real-life stories of more than 5,000 premarried couples that gives readers reason to ponder, blush, cry, laugh, and most importantly, learn. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kait does a Q&A answering questions and topics such as: where to meet men, off/on relationships, boundaries, dating a friend, and more. This is an EXCITING day. We were able to POLL yall on instagram to find out what YOUR burning questions are regarding dating… we wanted to give you the opportunity to ask us anything, and now Kait is here to discuss it ALL...heyoooo!! Alrighty friends, truth be told, this is our first SOLO episode so we have to first start out by asking… have GRACE WITH KAIT! We want to put a disclaimer on this episode that Kait does not know the answers to everything. Dating is nuanced and murky and there are a variety of opinions out there. So today Kait does her VERY best to speak from her heart and share with you where she stands on these questions. Her answers won’t be perfect, but they will be from the heart. And they will also be grounded in as much resources and research as possible… but that STILL does not make them the end all be all. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mike discuss what codependency is, how to avoid it, how to recognize it, and why we do it. So today we are so excited because this guest has become a DEAR friend of Kait's over this last year... and is in fact a REPEAT GUEST! Mike Foster is such a wonderful human being you guys. He is a best-selling author, speaker, and advocate for not-so-perfect people. He has an INCREDIBLE podcast, Fun Therapy, which Kait actually had the pleasure of being on during Season 3 (go take a listen!). Y’all Mike has such a way of SEEING people, connecting with them, and making them feel understood and comfortable. Mike also has a book that he published with his wife Jennifer called FIVE dates. It’s a a His and Her workbook to help couples connect. Kait has personally used it and can honestly tell you it has been SO impactful in my dating life to foster gratitude, connection, and deeper understanding. I COULD NOT RECOMMEND IT MORE. Okay, friends today we are diving into the topic of CODEPENDENCY. Many of y’all have been asking about this so GET READY. We dive into what this is, and both Mike and Kait admit to being recovering CODEPENDENTS… YUP! So if you aren’t sure what that TRULY means or if you want to know more about what the symptoms are and how to recognize and heal from it… you’re going to LOVE this day and find it so helpful! Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alessandra Conti, Celebrity Matchmaker and Co-Founder of Matchmakers In The City, talks about being a strong confident woman in dating, making the first move, meeting great men, and the idea of an "independent woman”. She discusses finding the perfect location to meet potential partners and shares strategies for breaking the ice with indirect questions. Alessandra emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and consistent practice in creating connections. The podcast also explores the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy in relationships and the decline of flirting in modern society.

Jason discusses how relationships are selfless and selfishness is taking over our culture. Today Kait invited her new friend and FELLOW Canadian, Jason Ballard onto Heart of Dating for an incredible, deeply inspiring conversation about selfishness and and physical boundaries. Jason is one of the hosts of the Alpha Youth Series and a pastor at his home church, Christian Life Assembly in CANADA, eh?! Jason lives in Langley, BC with his wife Rachael and his three kids. He loves preaching about Jesus, eating chocolate chip cookies and posting pictures of his kids on Instagram. Jason is a host on the Hidden City podcast and the Youth Ministry Team Podcast. Y’all besides having an amazing accent, Jason is truly filled with such WISDOM. He is on the frontlines at his church dealing with the youth and their many troubles with dating and is constantly providing advice. He knows the main issues which is what spurred our conversation today on SELFISHNESS. Kait and Jason start their conversation actually on the topic of SABBATH, and the importance of incorporating this rhythm of REST into your life as a spiritual discipline and sense of centering. If you are feeling ANXIOUS about the relationships you currently are navigating you need to focus on finding and seeking REST and time away so your mind can process. Use this time to pray pray pray pray. Quiet yourself enough to be able to hear what God is actually saying. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kris and Kristen tell their love story and how to romance the other in a dating relationship while pursing a christ centered relationship intentionally. They also discuss DM sliding and why it's OK. Now for today’s episode we brought on Kait's friends Kris Wolfe and Kristen Dalton Wolfe. Their conversation revolved around importance of PURSUIT and ROMANCE in relationship… because yall these two things are IMPORTANT! You might actually remember Kris from our previous Me,Too and Masculinity episodes. He inspires other men to be their BEST selves. He has written some amazing books and runs an online ministry called Good Guy Swag. Now his lovely wife Kristen Dalton Wolfe is a sparkly, joy-filled, encouraging woman. She is a former Miss USA who helps women step into the radiance of their true identity. Kristen has used her passion for women coupled with her degree in Psychology to launch SheisMore.com, a faith based blog. She is ALSO an author of multiple books including her LATEST book, The Sparkle Effect! Together Kris and Kristen run men and women’s ministries, retreats and conferences… they are POWERFUL and WISE so to have them on today was an absolute TREAT. To start the conversation Kristen talks first and foremost about her amazing new book “the Sparkle Effect”, and what it really means to be a woman who SPARKLES in all areas of life. Kristen felt as though through her transformation in life that God “crowned” her, and set her free from things like depression and anxiety and insecurity and jealousy and comparison. It was her deepest desire to share those learnings with others which. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bianca talks about how church dating can get akward and how to avoid being weird as a dating christian.Bianca Olthoff is a POWERHOUSE of a woman, let us tell you!Bianca is a speaker and pastor at The Father’s House, a church down in Orange Country. She moved down to the OC when she got married about 8 years and at the time worked alongside Christine Caine under the A21 organization, a global anti-human trafficking organization as well as helped to launch Propel Women. When she transitioned out of work there she launched a person initiative to help both male and female prisoners with resources and to tell them about who JESUS is.She is married to a pastor currently and she has SUCH a passion for dating and relationships. Bianca believes that there ARE amazing ways we can use the Bible to establish incredible foundations for our dating relationships.Today Kait and Bianca dive into the AWKWARDNESS and CLICHE’S of Christian Dating. They just talk about ALL THE THINGS. Literally all of them. This conversation is fun, light-hearted, and packed with wisdom.DORT- Bianca’s word for Dating slash COURTINGCrushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest:https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interestWant to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library!https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-libraryKait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon:https://amzn.to/3E59cLQWant to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB:https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcastCome hang with us on the gram:http://instagram.com/heartofdatinghttp://instagram.com/kaitness. . . . . A quick thank you to some of our friends!Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdatingCompassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joel discusses the importance of having a vision, purpose, dreams, and pursing them. He also talks about having values and being intentional. oday Kait interviews the inspiriting Joel Brown. Joel currently lives in Bali and in fact during this interview you could hear the birds chirping outside so you’ll want to get on a plane after for sure! Out in the gorgeous land of Bali Joel runs incredible conferences with his friend Emile Steenveld to help people really dive into figuring out WHAT is limiting them at their CORE. Joel is also huge on contribution, his website addicted2success.com has over 155 Million views worldwide and his podcast, Addicted to Success, has had 3.2M plays and downloads- WOW!!! Joel believes that you can make all the money in the world and you can build the empire but truly our purpose lies in what you can SHARE with others. Joel has also worked alongside some of the GREATS in the field like Tony Robbins, Gabby Bernstein, and so many others. In essence, you will just be blown away with inspiration on today’s episode no matter WHERE you are in your dating life. ….But the reason why we also think this episode is so important is because it can be extremely problematic to not have vision for our lives before entering into dating. We really NEED to have vision for our lives as individuals and bring that into our dating relationships. Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gerard and Jeannie share their powerful story of grief and loss and talk about looking for someone who can face the hardships of life together with. Today’s episode touches our heart for a plethora of reasons. This first time Kait heard the story of today’s guests she was brought to total and complete tears. It moved Kait so deeply the vast amount of trauma they had been through but were able to OVERCOME So today Kait interviews the amazing Gerard and Jeannie Long. Gerard has an extensive banking career background that eventually led him to actually leaving this career to join ALPHA USA. He is married to the lovely Jeannie and together they live in Malibu. They also recently launched the TRIUMPH FOR MARRIAGE COURSR which is an e-learning course strengthening couples. It’s SO AMAZING and powerful. Gerard and Jeannie have an incredible story of devastation, heartbreak, grief and then restoration and HOPE and love. Today they share about their tragically beautiful story and how they conquered it together with ultimate LOVE and SACRIFICE and SURRENDER through overwhelming healing and STRENGTHENING from God. Friends the reason why their message is so pivotal is that we believe this lie that relationships are about making us happy. We focus on how the other person can serve our needs and once it gets hard we often see that as a red flag and usually LEAVE for the next thing. The fact of the matter is AND what Jeannie and Gerard’s story shows us is that life is SO much more than just being happy. The storms will come, the unexpected will happen, and at the end of the day you might be left in shambles with your spouse. This is where we have to admit that having a partner to see you through life’s biggest hardship is SO PIVOTAL. We hope you will listen to todays episode with an open heart, the reality is LIFE will probably get ugly, and painful and hard and sometimes tragic…. so who is it you want standing by your side when that happens? Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Faithful Counseling: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, Christian therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to http://getfaithful.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices