

Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Adult Child dives deep into the lasting effects of growing up in dysfunctional families—unpacking complex and relational trauma, codependency, toxic shame, and addiction patterns with raw vulnerability and unapologetic authenticity.Hosted by Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years sober, each episode shares unfiltered insights, expert conversations, and practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from the cycles that hold you back.Whether you’re an adult child of alcoholics or from a dysfunctional family, navigating toxic relationships, or healing your inner child, this is your no-BS space for healing. New episodes every Wednesday & Saturday.And damn the join The Shitshow Healing Community for live support groups and connection with fellow cycle breakers.
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Jun 2, 2021 • 1h 2min
10 - Becoming our Best Self w/ Ben Kiker
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, we take a deep dive into unearthing our truest and highest selves. Andrea shares about her journey to live her in potential, and is then joined by performance coach, Ben Kiker.The Ben Kiker Grouplinkedin.com/in/benkikerinstagram.com/benkikerResources -The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven PressfieldBig Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth GilbertSuper Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabrielle BernsteinCliftonStrengths Assessment⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 26, 2021 • 1h 3min
9 - Detachment w/ Kristina Wandzilak & Constance Curry
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, Andrea dives deep into detaching with love and family recovery with co-authors of "The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter's Worst Nightmare" Kristina Wandzilak & Constance Curry. "The Lost Years" is the real life story of just such a mother and child, each giving their first-hand accounts of the years lost to addiction and despair.The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter's Worst NightmareFull Circle RecoveryResources -One Day at a Time by Al-Anon Family GroupsLet Go Now: Embrace Detachment as a Path to Freedom by Karen CaseyAl-Anon Family Groups⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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May 19, 2021 • 1h 21min
8 - Surviving & Thriving From Adult Child Trauma Syndrome
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, we take a deep dive into complex PTSD - what it is, what causes it, it's symptoms, and how to the hell to heal from it. Andrea shares about her own battle with complex PTSD, and is then joined by Shannon who shares her powerful story of surviving and thriving from her tragic childhood.survivingchildhoodtrauma.cominstagram.com/survivingchildhoodtraumaQuestion & Comments - Hit a Girl UpEmail me @ andrea@adultchildpodcast.comOr leave a voicemail @ 415-562-8050Resources -Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkWhat Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah WinfreyThe National Child Traumatic Stress Network⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 12, 2021 • 52min
7 - Adult Children of Alcoholics Pioneer Tian Dayton
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, Andrea dives deep with author, speaker and Adult Child expert - Tian Dayton. Tian shares her wisdom on a variety of adult child topics - from how the movement began, the ACOA trauma syndrome, codependency and much much more!Tian's websiteResources -The ACOA Trauma Syndrome: The Impact of Childhood Pain on Adult Relationshipsby Tian DaytonEmotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 5, 2021 • 1h 9min
6 - Codependency & Acting Drunk When You're Sober
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, we take a deep dive into codependency. Andrea shares the rest of the Brian #2 story (!!!!), and then is joined by Nina Renata Aron, author of "Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love". Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love by Nina Renata AronResources -Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself by by Melody Beattie The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation Melody BeattieCodependents Anonymous⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 28, 2021 • 58min
5 - Broken Picker Syndrome & Cringeworthy Dating Stories
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, Andrea shares more cringeworthy dating stories and about her broken man-picker. Then struggle us all about her "broken man-picker". Then, she talks to her BFF and broken picker syndrome survivor, Jessica, and how she was able to fix her picker.Episode Resources:Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Loveby Amir LevineEmotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and BalanceBook by Tian Dayton⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 21, 2021 • 1h 10min
4 - Alcoholism, Why You Should be Grateful I Don't Drink & What Truly Lies Beneath Addiction
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, Andrea shares about the hot mess she once was (is?!?) and why the world is a much better place now that she's sober. Then she speaks with TJ Woodward, the founder of Conscious Recovery, a recovery method that goes beyond simply treating symptoms and addresses the underlying root causes to addiction.https://www.tjwoodward.com/Episode Resources:Alcoholics AnonymousNational Institute on Drug AbuseIf You Loved Me, You'd Stop!: What You Really Need to Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much by Lisa Frederiksen⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 14, 2021 • 44min
3 - Toxic Shame, Slut Shaming & Being Gay When Your Dad is a Pastor
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into one of the most damaging repercussions of growing up in a dysfunctional family – toxic shame. We are talking about becoming the school slut in the 7th grade, being gay when your dad is a pastor, and what happens when shame becomes one’s identity.Episode Resources:Healing the Shame that Binds You by John BradshawIt Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion Paperback by Beverly Engel ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 7, 2021 • 59min
2 - The Dysfunctional Family & the Scapegoat
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!On this week's episode, we are digging in deep on the experience of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Andrea shares her experience of becoming the scapegoat ("identified patient") in her family, and then talks to her friend, Eric, who shares his experience of growing up in an abusive home. We also talk about why speaking our truth is the only path to freedom, but why this doesn't mean blaming your parents."It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, and Adults" by Claudia Black"It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle" by Mark Wolynn"Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantage of a Painful Childhood" by Wayne Muller⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 31, 2021 • 42min
1 - Why I’ll Never Date Another Brian
💨Breathe to Heal: A Somatic Journey to Reclaim Your Inner Child: Early Bird Pricing through July 10th - get your damn spot now!In today's episode, Andrea tells you how she came to learn that she was an adult child and why she'll NEVER date another guy named Brian. Then she lays the groundwork for what lies ahead in the podcast - what is an adult child, where the term came from, and the common characteristics to help you determine whether or you're an adult child.Episode resources:Adult Children: Alcoholic / Dysfunctional Families"Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Dr. Janet Woititz25 Questions: Am I an Adult Child?"⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Bioma Health and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://gobioma.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


