Buddhism Beyond Belief with Susan Piver

This episode starts off a new series on the Six Paramitas (Transcendent Actions). Focusing on the first paramita: generosity, I share how this quality—often misunderstood as mere niceness or material giving—is actually the foundation for waking up,  finding sanity, and increasing the sanity of this world. I talk about three forms of generosity:Ordinary generosity – Giving material things with an open heartThe gift of dharma – Sharing wisdom in a humble, useful wayThe gift of fearlessness – Helping others feel stronger and less alone, often through the simple act of listeningHighlights:Why generosity is the gateway to all other ParamitasHow practicing generosity transforms the way people respond to youWhat it really means to lead with offering, rather than seekingA beautiful, powerful definition of listening: “When you stop thinking your thoughts and start thinking mine.” –Catherine MacCounPractical ways to embody generosity in daily life—emails, conversations, arguments, and moreAs always, don’t take my word for any of this—reflect on these teachings yourself, and see what arises.This is a rich and grounding episode for anyone interested in living more deeply, whether or not you identify as Buddhist.Next week, I’ll share about the second paramita, discipline (Shila), or how to stay intentional without becoming rigid.For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

In this new episode, I explore what it actually means to become a Buddhist through the Refuge Vow. Potentially misunderstood as a formality or an unnecessary label, I discuss the spiritual and practical significance of the vow.Refuge is taken in the Three Jewels—Buddha (awakening), Dharma (wisdom/path), and Sangha (community). What do they mean? I also share about my own journey in taking the vow in 1993, how I was trained and given permission to offer the vow myself, and the internal changes that often follow taking the vow.Taking refuge isn't about labeling yourself—it's about recognizing a path you're already on.Highlights:What the Refuge Vow actually is—and isn’tThe meaning and power of the Three JewelsWhen (and if) you know you're ready to take the vowPersonal stories of transformation, doubt, and commitmentHow taking the vow changes your relationship with life“The best time to take the Refuge Vow is when it simply feels like a recognition of something that has already happened.”Resources & Links:Visit Susan’s Substack & continue the conversation: Susan Piver on SubstackLearn more or join her community: The Open Heart ProjectMentioned in podcast: Episode 8: Who Can You Trust in the Spiritual World?For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

In today’s episode, I take a deep dive into the meditation questions I’ve been asked the most over the past three decades—as a student, as a teacher, and now, as someone who teaches others to teach.We talk about the real stuff. The messy, wonderful, confusing, luminous questions that arise when you sit down on your cushion and meet your own mind.Highlights:“Why can’t I stop thinking?” You’re not supposed to. That’s not a failure—it’s reality. Thoughts are not the enemy.“Why do we keep our eyes open during practice?” Eyes open helps us stay here, in this life, not some special spiritual realm. We’re not retreating. We’re engaging—with softness and awareness.“I feel like I’m hyperventilating… or I’m weirdly obsessed with my breath or eyes—what’s happening?” You’re just noticing more. That wide open space you’ve created isn’t empty—it’s your awareness. And yes, it’ll settle.“What if I have a really good idea during meditation?” The real answer is: call it thinking, let go, return to the breath. But… I also share my (slightly quirky) workaround involving my thumbs.“Can meditation help with depression, anxiety, or trauma?” This is an important and delicate topic. Meditation is not a cure-all, and it is essential to proceed gently, and ideally with guidance from a trusted healthcare provider.“I’m overwhelmed by feelings when I meditate. Isn’t this supposed to calm me down?” Not always. Sometimes the most compassionate choice is to not meditate. Or to gently make your feeling—rather than your breath—the object of attention.“How do I know if I’m doing it right?” Because, let’s face it, it feels boring. But the answer is not on the cushion—it’s in your life. Are you more kind? More patient? More real? Then yes, you’re doing it right.For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

In this episode, I explore a classical teaching throughout the Buddhist world, The Four Reminders, also known as the Four Thoughts that Turn the Mind to the Dharma. When I first heard them, I thought how can I forget what I just heard?! Turns out, I can’t. Warning: once you hear them, you can’t unhear them either. They are at once brutal and deeply compassionate. Much like life itself. Highlights:The Four Thoughts are uncomfortable but essential contemplations that help you see with what truly matters. They are:Precious Human Birth – It's rare and valuable simply to be here. If one person in your line had done something different, you would not be you!Impermanence and Death – Death is real (but only 100% of the time) and comes without warning.Karma is real – Actions have results, whether or not in this lifetime.Samsara is an ocean of unavoidable suffering. Sure, there are also great things, but even they come with suffering because they all eventually dissolve.Remembering these truths can turn your mind toward wisdom, compassion, and a life of generosity.Even if you don't identify as Buddhist, these reflections can offer clarity in how to live more deliberately and kindly.With personal stories and my best insights, I hope to share how remembering these truths can shift your priorities and bring you back to what matters most.For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

Discover the intriguing balance between egolessness and self-awareness in spirituality. Explore how meditation unveils both our true essence and the illusion of self. The Enneagram emerges as a powerful tool for personal growth, offering insights into personality types that enhance self-compassion. Learn how understanding stress responses influences your relationships, fostering communication and harmony. This journey highlights that knowing ourselves is essential to spiritual development, not a distraction from it.

In a chaotic world, feeling powerless is common, but small changes can empower you. Start by tidying your space; a clean environment brings clarity and elegance. Choose clothes you love to wear, fostering self-respect each morning. Prioritize quality food and enjoy the preparation process, treating yourself kindly. Finally, surround yourself with people who see your true worth, minimizing time with those who don't uplift you. Embrace these suggestions to cultivate confidence and strength from within.

In this episode, I take a deep dive into a topic that a lot of people (myself included) find confusing; what does it mean to be egoless? Drawing from my 30+ years of experience, I share my own issues with the call to transcend ego within the Western cultural backdrop of individualism, shame, and self-judgment.Key Points:"Ego as the enemy" can reinforce cultural self-shaming:  Broadly speaking, we are wired to monitor, scrutinize and “fix” our flaws and mitigate our failings. This kind of self-focus in our culture makes it easy to see so-called ego as a problem to solve and our very own self as an obstacle on the journey.Relating to our wounds and pursuing spiritual insight are not mutually exclusive:  Both are essential and can coexist.Meditation fosters receptivity, not self-improvement: Rather than fall into the trap of using meditation to solve your problems, allow your practice to make the space for the wisdom that’s already a part of you. It will arise naturally.Egolessness is about openness, not self-denial: Genuine egolessness is not about prioritizing everyone else and abandoning yourself entirely. Our practice of letting go, being present; this is more helpful when it comes to realizing egolessness. It’s not about forcing yourself out; rather, it’s about being with what is (you are a part of what is) and receiving the love, wisdom, and insight that reveal rather than force egolessness. For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

In this episode, I share my personal adaptation of Buddhist principles for relationships, "The Four Noble Truths of Love." Drawing from my own 26-year marriage and moments of deep disconnection, I talk about how Buddhist wisdom helped me navigate challenges. Key Points include:Love Affairs vs. Relationships: There is a fundamental difference between love affairs (characterized by romance, intensity, desire, and perhaps some drama) and relationships (characterized by intimacy, closeness, deep knowing, and sometimes irritation).The Buddha’s Four Noble TruthsLife is suffering/unsatisfyingGrasping causes sufferingThere is a cessation of sufferingThe Noble Eightfold PathThe Four Noble Truths of Love (made up by me)Relationships never stabilize (what?!)Thinking they should stabilize creates instabilityMeeting the instability together is loveViewing all disconnects (barring abuse of any kind)  as ways to deepen intimacy helpsFor more on this topic, check out my book,  The Four Noble Truths of Love NOTE: We'll be taking a two-week break. The Buddhism Beyond Belief Podcast will return with a new episode on June 13. Mwah!For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

Which one are you in right now?In this episode, I explore the six realms of Buddhist cosmology which can be understood as both literal places of rebirth and psychological states we all experience. I also mention how this might help us contextualize the chaos and cruelty of our current political situation in the US. The realms include:The God Realm - A place of complete abundance where beings have everything they desire but no motivation to seek enlightenmentThe Jealous God/Asura Realm - Beings with power and resources consumed by covetousness and aggression, always fighting for more. And more. (Sound familiar?)The Human Realm - The most fortunate realm with the right balance of suffering and ease for spiritual development. Yay us!The Hungry Ghost Realm - Represents insatiable desires and cravings that can never be fulfilledThe Animal Realm - Characterized by basic survival needs and limited spiritual capacity, yet capable of love and connectionThe Hell Realm - A place of constant suffering with no relief, glimpsed through our experiences of heartbreak and witnessing sufferingResources Mentioned:"A Guided Tour of Hell" by Sam Bercholz - Featuring descriptions and visual depictions of the hell realmsJoin my meditation community, the Open Heart Project Sangha, to practice together and learn how to apply these teachings to everyday life. Would be great to see you there!For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project

Why do we turn to meditation when things fall apart—and what are we really supposed to do with all these overwhelming emotions? In this short episode, we explore three powerful ways to relate to difficult feelings like anger, fear, and anxiety: as afflictive; as bridges to compassion; and as hidden forms of wisdom. All three ways are accurate, though usually only the first is described in Buddhist writings.In this episode, you’ll hear about how to work skillfully with emotional intensity, not necessarily by escaping it, but by uncovering the fierce clarity and deep humanity that may lie beneath. For more on Buddhist teachings and how our humanity isn’t necessarily in our way, sign up for my free weekly newsletter or join the Open Heart Project sangha for more connection with community and with me. If this podcast has been meaningful to you, it would be great if you would subscribe, give it a five star rating and share it with a friend. To join or learn more about The Open Heart Project please visit openheartproject.com. Thoughts? Email us at info@susanpiver.com Produced by Citizens of Sound Music by: Derek O'Brien©Open Heart Project