Let's Talk About It

Valentine’s season is here, and if you’re single, you might be wondering: Am I actually ready for a relationship?In this episode, we’re bringing in the whole Moral Revolution team to dive deep into this question!We’ll unpack the non-negotiables you need before pursuing a relationship, the biggest signs that you might not be ready yet, and how healing, self-awareness, and God’s timing all play a role in healthy dating.Plus, we’re tackling listener-submitted questions like: Can I date while healing from sexual trauma? What’s a normal level of thinking about my ex before I go on more dates?Why do I feel so much anxiety about dating, and what can I do about it?Whether you’re single and unsure, healing from past relationships, or just want to date with wisdom, this conversation is for you! BONUS: We created a free quiz called “Am I Actually Ready for a Relationship?”  that will help you figure out where you stand.Take the quiz here.Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro to the team(2:31) - Am I Actually Ready for a Relationship?(3:20) - Relationship Quiz - find it here(4:40) - Non-Negotiables before you pursue a relationship(5:01) - Don’t outsource your wholeness to a relationship(5:41) - How your wounds shape your relationships(6:29) - God’s timing > your timing(10:38) - Can I date while healing from sexual trauma?(20:55) - If someone is dating while healing, what safeguards or wisdom should they have in place?(24:05) - What’s a normal level of thinking about my ex before I go on more dates?(29:39) - How long should you wait to date again after a relationship?(35:51) - How do I deal with bad dating anxiety?(43:36) - Signs you’re not ready for a relationship(46:45) - Outro=============================You can listen to our the Dealing with Relationship Anxiety podcast conversation with Jay Vallotton here.Looking for the “Am I Actually Ready for a Relationship?” quiz? Take it here!=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com

Have you ever acted out sexually or given in to temptation and wondered, ‘Why did I do that?’ In this episode, we’re diving into the powerful connection between emotions, needs, and the choices we make. We’ll unpack why understanding your feelings and expressing your needs is essential for overcoming temptation, breaking free from cycles of sexual sin, and building healthier, whole relationships. We’re sharing practical tools like the Emotion Wheel, key questions to ask yourself when you’re facing temptation, and biblical wisdom on the importance of community. Whether you’re looking for healing or just want to deepen your relational and emotional health, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to steward your soul with wisdom and grace. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Looking for more support? Join the Date Well community ➡︎ https://www.letsdatewell.com/============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro(3:31) - Stewarding your soul(4:43) - What is your soul?(5:16) - God’s way of escape(6:00) - Daniel’s struggle with his own emotions(8:24) - Cycles of emotional brokenness and sexual sin(10:20) - Questions to ask the next time you face sexual temptation(12:33) - The emotion wheel(16:33) - Getting your needs met in community(18:55) - Communicating your needs(23:52) - How knowing yourself leads to knowing God better(25:00) - Isolation is the enemy of healing=============================You can listen to our recent podcast on the ins and outs of 2025 here.Looking for the emotion wheel? You can find the one we referenced here.=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.comletsdatewell.comDate Well: A Path To Wholeness & Dating Ready for a change? We help Christians Date Well with practical tools and wisdom that honors God and gets you the dates you want. Christians should have both chemistry and character and we'll help you do both. Date Well provides Christian Men and Women a pathway to wholeness and dating. SpotifyThe Ins and Outs of Healthy Relationships in 2025  How to Use ‘Wheel of Emotions’ to Express Better Emotions A simple chart that can help you to express emotions in your daily life Reading time: 4 min read May 23rd, 2020 (217 kB) https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/how-to-use-wheel-of-emotions-to-express-better-emotions-8037255aa661 YouTube: Moral Revolution We are a movement of passionate individuals called to promotes God's design for sexuality.

Are you ready to level up your relationships this year? In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s in and what’s out when it comes to building healthy, God-honoring connections in 2025. From saying “yes” to first dates, setting clear boundaries, and embracing healing, to ditching overthinking, ghosting, and settling, we’re covering it all. This is your go-to guide for navigating love, dating, and singleness with clarity and conviction. Whether you’re single, dating, or just figuring it out, this episode will help you align your relationship goals with God’s plan and step confidently into the new year. Looking for more support? Join the Date Well community ➡︎ https://www.letsdatewell.com/Make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode!============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro(3:24) - What’s IN in 2025?(3:40) - Healthy Connection(4:55) - Healing(6:34) - Saying “yes” to first dates(8:25) - Living with conviction, even if it’s not popular(9:18) - Identifying your emotions, voicing your needs(10:07) - Accountability(11:46) - Believing sex/sexuality is a GIFT from God(14:37) - Modesty(16:33) - Hard conversations(16:56) - Waiting well(19:01) - Clear boundaries(20:32) - Being grounded in God’s Word(22:20) - Doing things even if you’re scared(23:49) - Commitment(24:22) - What’s OUT in 2025?(24:27) - Coping(26:18) - Sexual sin(27:56) - Planning the wedding before the first date(28:39) - Fear of man(30:14) - Thinking singleness is a problem to be solved(30:52) - Settling(31:12) - Overthinking(32:23) - A victim-mentality(33:15) - Codependence/Hyper independence(34:54) - Performative Christianity(35:34) - Ghosting(36:21) - Jealousy(36:59) - Seeking validation in anything/anyone other than God(40:17) - Set your vision for 2025=============================You can listen to our recent podcast on how to have hard conversations here.=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com

What a year it’s been here at Moral Revolution! We’ve answered so many of your questions around God’s design for sex, relationships and morality.  Today we’re taking a look back at some of the best conversations we had at Moral Revolution this year! Want to listen to the full episodes clipped in this episode? You can find the links below! Why You're Not Getting Free From Porn ft Aaron Zint  Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. Sex, Jesus, & The Conversations The Church Forgot ft Mo Isom Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. The Christian Response to Pride Month - ft/Elizabeth Woning  Listen on  Apple. Listen on Spotify. Your Burning Questions About Sex, Dating, and Boundaries (part 1) Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. How To Break Up & Recover -ft/Abram Goff & Alley Vallotton  Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. Dealing With Relationship Anxiety - ft/Jason Vallotton Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. Ex-OnlyFans Recruiter TELLS ALL (part 1)  Listen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Partner with us for the “Let’s Talk About It” end of year campaign here! ============================= ⏰ Timecodes ⏰ ============================= (0:00) - Intro (1:40) - What’s the difference between sobriety and freedom? (5:46) - Purity vs. Virginity with Mo Isom (10:47) - An ex-gay pastor’s testimony  (21:58) - Is masturbation a sin? (28:54) - How to break up with someone healthily (35:56) - What’s the root of relationship anxiety (39:26) - An ex-OnlyFans Recruiter’s testimony (43:35) - The Let’s Talk About It Campaign ============================= Connect with us: ============================= ➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠ ➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠ ➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠ ➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com 

Have you ever felt like the holiday season amplifies your loneliness? While everyone else seems surrounded by joy and connection, you might feel left out or overwhelmed by the weight of being alone. In this episode of Let’s Talk About It, we’re addressing one of the hardest parts of the holidays: loneliness. But it doesn’t have to define your season. We’re sharing five practical tools to help you navigate this time with intention and find joy, connection, and purpose.Here’s what you can expect: Why being honest about your emotions is key to healing How to create a holiday bucket list that brings joy and meaning Starting your own traditions when life feels uncertain Ways to be intentional with friends and family during this season How to finish the year strong and step into 2025 with purpose We’re also sharing the vision for our “Let’s Talk About It” end-of-year campaign, where you can join us in equipping a generation to have conversations about God’s design for sex, relationships, and life. Tune in now and discover how to find hope and joy, even in the hardest moments. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Partner with us for the “Let’s Talk About It” end of year campaign here! You can dive into our Date Well Community here!============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro(2:18) - Lonely in Stockholm(9:17) - Let’s Talk About It campaign(11:02) - Be honest about your emotions(17:59) - Make a holiday bucket list(24:39) - Start your own traditions(30:15) - Be intentional with friends and family(33:55) - Finish strong(39:28) - Let’s talk about it=============================Connect with us:=============================➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com

Have you ever avoided a tough conversation because it felt too messy? Whether it’s setting boundaries, asking for help, or confronting someone, hard conversations are where real growth begins. In this episode of Let’s Talk About It, we’re teaching you how to talk about it. We’re diving into why hard conversations matter and giving you practical tools for some of the hardest conversations in your life. We’ll walk you step-by-step through 6 of the hardest conversations you may need to have:👉 How to ask someone out👉 How to break up with someone👉 How to establish boundaries in a relationship👉 How to ask for help with struggles like porn or masturbation👉 How to confront someone who has offended you or been offended by you👉 How to confess your past mistakes in a relationship We’re also introducing our “Let’s Talk About It” campaign, equipping you to handle the big conversations about God’s design for sex, dating, and relationships. Tune in now and take the first step toward clarity, connection, and courage. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Partner with us for the “Let’s Talk About It” end of year campaign here!============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro(8:29) - Why hard conversations matter(9:57) - The right mindset for hard conversations(15:27) - Practical tools for healthy communication(20:10) - Hard conversation #1 - How to ask someone out(25:25) - Hard conversation #2 - How to break up with someone(28:56) - Hard conversation #3 - How to establish boundaries in a relationship(36:45) - Hard conversation #4 - How to ask for help with struggles like porn or masturbation(40:22) - Hard conversation #5 - How to confront someone who has offended you or has been offended by you(46:21) - Hard conversation #6 - How to confess your past mistakes to a significant other or a friend(50:16) - The “Let’s Talk About It” end of year campaign=============================You can listen to our recent podcast on why crossing physical boundaries makes relationship complicated here. You can listen to our recent podcast on how to deal with shame in your life here.=============================Connect with us:=============================➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com

Have you ever crossed a physical boundary in your relationship and then found things feeling… weird? Maybe you’ve been there—things start out great, but then suddenly you’re arguing more, second-guessing everything, or feeling distant. What’s up with that? In this episode, we’re breaking it all down: why crossing physical boundaries in dating can mess with your emotions, your connection with each other, and even your relationship with God. We’ll talk about how physical intimacy bonds you in ways you might not realize, why it can make trust and respect harder to build, and how to avoid that awkward “what now?” feeling. We’ll also share practical tips for healing, setting better boundaries, and getting back on track if things have gotten complicated. You’re not too far gone—there’s always hope for a fresh start. Tune in now and learn how to keep things from getting messy! Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Looking for information on the Date Well community? Find it here ➡︎ https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/dating  ============================= ⏰ Timecodes ⏰ ============================= (0:00) - Intro  (3:00) - The spiritual implications of crossing boundaries  (8:02) - The physical implications of crossing boundaries (12:36) - The emotional and relational implications of crossing boundaries  (18:22) - How the relationship bank account works (23:17) - How men emotionally process crossing boundaries (24:40) - How women emotionally process crossing boundaries (25:36) - Why you wanted to stop, but didn’t (26:59) - The shame cycle (31:00) - Biblical example of crossing physical boundaries and things getting complicated (37:37) - I crossed a boundary, what do I do now? (42:48) - Should we consider breaking up? (44:57) - Hope for redemption  (45:48) - Closing prayer (47:14) - Date Well ============================= Find the satirical article we referenced at (26:26) at this link 🤣 ============================= Connect with us: ============================= ➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠ ➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠ ➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠ ➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com 

Is it possible to have a close friendship with someone of the opposite sex without things getting messy? In this episode, we’re diving into all things healthy friendships vs. codependency, what to do when you’re friends with someone of the opposite gender and one of you catches feelings, and navigating friendship transitions when the other person starts dating someone else. With practical tips on setting boundaries and communicating clearly, we’re here to help you build meaningful friendships with wisdom and grace.Tune in now and learn how to navigate cross-gender friendships well! Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Looking for information on the Date Well community? Find it here ➡︎ https://www.letsdatewell.com/============================= Timecodes =============================(0:00) - Intro(1:40) - Healthy friendships vs codependency(7:16) - What should you do if someone catches feelings?(16:02) - The expiration date on cross-gendered friendships(24:00) - Practical tips for healthy friendships between guys and girls(31:50) - Guys and girls really can be friends, BUT…==========================================================Connect with us:=============================➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com

If you’ve ever felt like you had to keep parts of yourself hidden, this episode’s for you. We’re diving into the power of shame—the thing that keeps us feeling unworthy, alone, and distant from God. Learn the difference between guilt and shame (hint: guilt is about actions; shame’s about identity) and how shame shows up in our relationships, making us hide our true selves. In this episode, we dive into why vulnerability and confession are game-changers, with real-life stories and practical steps to help you break free. Ready to stop hiding? Tune in and start living fully known and loved. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Looking for information on the Date Well community? Find it here ➡︎ https://www.letsdatewell.com/  ============================= ⏰ Timecodes ⏰ ============================= (0:00) - Intro (1:50) - The difference between guilt and shame (3:27) - How shame causes us to go into cycles of self protection (4:53) - The methods we use to hide our shame  (9:44) - Scripture’s formula for getting rid of shame (11:42) - Healthy cultures encourage confession to disempower shame free (15:48) - Practical steps to break free from shame (17:47) - The lies that shame tells (20:00) - Confession in marriage (21:34) - The power of living fully known (23:20) - Building the muscle of confession (24:34) - The difference between confession and breaking shame (25:45) - A prayer to break shame (27:27) - No Shame November: a next-step challenge for you ============================= ============================= Connect with us: ============================= ➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠ ➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠ ➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠ ➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com 

Why do we fall for toxic people? Why do we go for the things in a relationship we know aren’t healthy or good for us? Let’s talk about it. In this episode, we’re breaking down why so many of us get drawn into toxic relationships, even in Christian spaces. We cover six red flags of toxic people—like manipulation, control, and emotional abuse—and how to tell the difference between normal flaws and toxic traits. We’re diving into how your past, family dynamics, and unmet needs might be wiring you for chaos instead of peace. Plus, we’ll look at biblical stories like Samson and Delilah to show how toxic patterns can lead to destruction. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a toxic cycle or want to help a friend who’s struggling, this episode offers practical steps to break free and find healing. Tune in now and learn how to break the toxic cycles in your relationships. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Looking for information on the Date Well community? Find it here ➡︎ https://www.letsdatewell.com/  ============================= ⏰ Timecodes ⏰ ============================= (0:00) - Intro  (2:14) - Defining toxic traits  (15:51) - Normal flaws people can work through in a healthy relationship  (24:48) - What causes us to be attracted toxic people? (30:45) - Daniel’s experience being attracted to toxic people (34:17) - Biblical examples of toxic attraction (39:17) - How to break the cycle (43:55) - What should I do if I’m dating someone or am friends with someone who is attracted to toxic people? ============================= ============================= Connect with us: ============================= ➡︎ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc⁠ ➡︎ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/ ⁠ ➡︎ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev⁠ ➡︎ Website: ⁠http://www.moralrevolution.com