

The Modern Therapist's Survival Guide with Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy
Curt Widhalm, LMFT and Katie Vernoy, LMFT
The Modern Therapist’s Survival Guide: Where Therapists Live, Breathe, and Practice as Human Beings It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. We are human beings who can now present ourselves as whole people, with authenticity, purpose, and connection. Especially now, when clinicians must develop a personal brand to market their private practices, and are connecting over social media, engaging in social activism, pushing back against mental health stigma, and facing a whole new style of entrepreneurship. To support you as a whole person, a business owner, and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.
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Dec 21, 2020 • 36min
Marketing with Empathy
Marketing with EmpathyAn interview with Kat Love, on the hurdles therapists face when marketing their practices. Curt and Katie talk with Kat about how to develop relationships with referral sources on social media, advice on writing website copy, and the great importance of knowing yourself (and processing some of your stuff) when making a marketing plan. We also talk about some data you’ll want to review to adjust your planning and writing prompts to help get you started. It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.Interview with Kat LoveTherapists helped Kat heal from childhood sexual abuse, so now they specialize in helping therapists with their marketing. From helping you find the words to write to implementing the marketing strategies you need, Kat helps therapists get more clients, more referrals, and start making an impact. Check out Kat’s services that help with copywriting for therapists and marketing and business coaching for therapists.In this episode we talk about:
The hurdles that therapists have to jump over to market their practice
How mindset blocks keep therapists from creating a marketing plan
The confusion and overwhelm in the DIY marketing space
When you don’t know how to execute your marketing plan
The problem of doing too many social media channels at once
How to network on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter
Building relationships with people on social media
You can even do cold outreach and warm up the relationship within the digital world
The importance of doing things that align with your natural talents and interests
The type of data you should be looking at to adjust your marketing plan
Ideas for how to market based on who you are
Advice on writing website copy
How journaling and blocking out time for self-discovery can move you past your blocks
Understanding what works for you
Vulnerability and self-awareness required for building a business and a website
Your website isn’t about you
What you may need to process before you can get your marketing on point
The key things that need to come through in website copy
Speaking to clients’ pain points so they feel seen
Writing about the benefits of therapy in general as well as specifically with you
Listening to your clients and asking your family and friends to understand how you show up as a helper, listener, and therapist
Resources mentioned:We’ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance!katlove.comempathycopy.comGroup Practice Owner’s SummitRelevant Episodes: Clinical Marketing The Brand Called YouConnect with us!Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group Get Notified About Therapy Reimagined Conferences Our consultation services:The Fifty-Minute HourCredits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/

Dec 14, 2020 • 39min
Don’t Take Tax Advice from Therapists
Don’t Take Tax Advice from TherapistsAn interview with Julie Herres of GreenOak Accounting on why you shouldn’t take tax advice from random therapists in a Facebook Group. Curt and Katie talk with Julie about common mistakes therapists make while trying to do their own bookkeeping and accounting, a new way to look at expenses, what is (and is not) tax deductible, what business entity you might consider, and why the picture is extra complex right now, meaning expert advice is especially important. It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.Interview with Julie Herres, GreenOak AccountingJulie Herres is an accountant and the owner of GreenOak Accounting. Her firm provides accounting, bookkeeping & tax services to private practice owners throughout the United States. Their mission is for every practice to be profitable! Julie and her team have worked with hundreds of private practice owners, so they are uniquely positioned to be a trusted advisor to clients. Julie also hosts the Therapy For Your Money Podcast, where she talks about all things money & finance for private practice.In this episode we talk about:
The common mistake of not saving enough for taxes
Bookkeeping mistakes
How to look at your numbers, what numbers you should know about
Expenses that may be outsized for your need
Problem-solving for when your numbers are out of whack
The importance of planning and having a conversation with an expert
Being a good steward of the money that is coming into your therapy business
What you can do proactively to plan for your business and taxes
What you can do to clean up your books and then plan ahead going forward
The value of basic budgeting and forecasting, even for 2021
Uncertainty and luck can be navigated
Covid expenses and plans for investing in growth
What you can still do to address 2020 taxes (including quarterly tax payments)
What to spend money on when you have extra money at the end of the year
The possibility of maximizing retirement accounts, etc.
What you can do into 2021 that still impact 2020 taxes
The need for really good advice based on the complexity of income, loans, etc.
Which experts to go to for advice, which to go to implement your plan
The danger of taking tax advice from a FB group and other questionable advice
Personal expenses are not typically tax deductible (therapy, clothes, makeup, etc.)
What you can deduct related to gifts
Marketing expenses and usual and necessary expenses for business.
Different business entities and some of the things to consider when deciding (spoiler alert: get advice because these things are so complex and depend on your full financial picture
Things to consider in becoming a corporation and who to get help from
How to prepare for changes (or potential changes) expected for 2021
The way in which having an accountant can support you in staying abreast of what you need to know as a business owner
Resources mentioned:We’ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance!Julie’s website: GreenOak AccountingTherapy for Your Money PodcastFree tax planning checklist: greenoakaccounting.com/taxRelevant Episodes: The 4-1-1 on your 401KConnect with us!Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group Get Notified About Therapy Reimagined Conferences Our consultation services:The Fifty-Minute HourCredits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/

Dec 7, 2020 • 35min
Therapists Struggling with Darkness
Therapists Struggling with DarknessCurt and Katie chat about how therapists are struggling during the pandemic. We looked at how client material impacts therapists. We also explored unique risk factors and protective factors. We talked about the stigma for therapists to admit that something is not okay as well as the tendency to move that conversation out of the public space (just go to therapy). We have some ideas about how we can better take care of ourselves and each other.It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.In this episode we talk about:
How we are struggling during the pandemic
Sitting with client’s darkness and how that impacts therapists even before the pandemic
The impact client material can have on therapists
The stigma around therapists having mental health concerns
Anxiety contagion, energy drain of working with depression
Impacts on libido, mood, suicidality
Unique risk factors for therapists
Risk factors for suicidality
The heaviness and suicidality that can enter thought processes
The shame and the simplification when therapy is the only suggestion
“We deal with some heavy shit.”
Taking the conversation about therapists struggles out of the social space (“go to therapy”)
The lack of research about therapists as a workforce, the client impact on therapist, or therapists as clients
Therapists as human beings in both private and public ways
The feeling of being stuck and not being able to talk about it when you’re a therapist
How legal and ethical concerns play a part
Having a job, having people around you can be protective factors
Isolation and lack of social support
Boundary issues, vagueness to keep others at bay
How therapists support each other (and the importance of social support)
The danger of feeling trapped, especially if you’re isolated
Practices to incorporate to reinforce resilience
How we consume information and how the people around you are perceiving the news can impact you
Self-assessment of risk factors, identification of protective factors
What actually helps when someone is struggling
The group responsibility as well as our individual responsibilities
How to manage community care without overburdening yourself
The importance of assessing capacity to support and give to our colleagues and friends
Creating reinforcements and structure for regular support
Resources mentioned:We’ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below might be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance!Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group Signing up for our newsletterRelevant Episodes: Quarantine Self-Care for Therapists Therapist Suicide Suicidal Therapists Therapists in Therapy Toxic Work Environments The Mental Load of Therapists Structuring Self-Care Connect with us!Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group Get Notified About Therapy Reimagined 2021 Our consultation services:The Fifty-Minute HourCredits:Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/

Nov 30, 2020 • 43min
Noteworthy Documentation
Noteworthy DocumentationAn interview with Dr. Ben Caldwell, LMFT about some basic documentation information as well as updates relevant to the 21st Century Cures Act. Curt and Katie talk with Ben about what to consider when writing your notes including what to include and what should not be included. We look at who can see your progress notes as well as other considerations related to records requests and confidentiality. It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.Interview with Dr. Ben Caldwell, LMFTDr. Benjamin Caldwell, PsyD is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#42723) and the Education and Director for SimplePractice Learning. He currently serves as adjunct faculty for California State University Northridge in Los Angeles. He has taught at the graduate level for more than 15 years, primarily in Law and Ethics, and has written and trained extensively on ethical applications in mental health care. In addition to serving a three-year term on the AAMFT Ethics Committee, Dr. Caldwell served as the Chair of the Legislative and Advocacy Committee for AAMFT-California for 10 years. He served as Editor for the Users Guide to the 2015 AAMFT Code of Ethics and is the author for several books, including Saving Psychotherapy and Basics of California Law for LMFTS, LPCCs, and LCSWs.In this episode we talk about:
Documentation as our favorite thing ever
Excitement about Ben breaking the record on number of interviews on this podcast
What needs to go into your documentation
Accurate, adequate, and timely
Standard of care
How much information to put into your notes
Who is the audience for your documentation
Who might request records
The importance documentation in continuity of care
Where to put client quotes
The difference between progress and process or psychotherapy notes
What can be subpoenaed (including psychotherapy notes)
How much information you include based on what is advisable to protect self
The benefit of doing documentation for yourself as well as for treatment efficacy
The 21st Century Cures Act – Open Notes (deadline now extended through April 2021)
Optional certification process that requires clients to have access to all the information in their chart without charging them)
Most mental health providers have no changes required from this change
Most private practice EHRs are not on these systems
Hospitals may have this requirement, but individual practitioners are not responsible for the mechanism to provide documentation to clients
How to make sure you’re ready for clients to see your documentation
The communication is going on for people who are required to comply with this open notes mandate, including how to access information and who to contact with questions
In most states, clients have a fundamental right to request their records
Confidentiality and access to records for family members, especially parents of minor children
Conversations to have at the beginning of treatment in these situations regarding what will be included in the chart (and what will not be put into the chart)
What not to include in your chart (specifically written reports from child abuse reports)
A debate of who owns the record – who can see them is different from who owns them

Nov 23, 2020 • 39min
Grad Programs Moving Online
Grad Programs Moving OnlineCurt and Katie chat about the quick move to online learning when the pandemic hit. We talk about the challenges with virtual platforms – what has worked and what has not. We look at the decisions related to starting or continuing therapist education at this time. We also talk about the opportunities that have been gained and ideas for students and professors on how to more effectively approach online graduate programs.It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.In this episode we talk about:
Graduate programs for therapists moving online during the pandemic
The education one applied for is vastly different from what you’re getting right now
The rapid shift to online education and lack of deliberate choices to shift how to teach
Synchronous and asynchronous elements of education
The requirement for faculty to learn and utilize technology effectively
A lack of interaction due to polite students keeping their mics off
The spoke and wheel conversations that impact how learning happens
The lack of guidance on how to create truly effective online education
Navigating time on screens
Role plays translating into learning telehealth, rather than in-person therapy
The lack of interaction with the material, more passive learning
Developing clinical efficacy for telehealth
The uncertainty of the efficacy of clinical work in the newer space of telehealth
The impact on discussions social justice, racial and cultural identity, due to the ability to opt out of the conversation in online education
The importance of figuring out how people learn and how it applies to the online space
Should people delay or pause education?
What the impacts on the workforce might be
Opportunities within the online learning space, especially when the technology is well used
Theoretical versus practical base
The need to have more deliberate and direct conversations to create connections that may have happened organically
The adjustments and planning that may improve the situation
Different factors that impact each student’s and each professor’s ability to engage
Looking at expectations, support, and needed infrastructure
What students can do to better access education during this time
Developing personal relationships with professors
Putting together options to increase connection and interaction with peers
Seeking career mentorship and synchronous conversations
Moving from venting and commiserating to advocacy within the system
The ability to make changes, be nimble, and put forward a collective voice

Nov 16, 2020 • 38min
Career Trekking with MTSG
Career Trekking with MTSGAn interview with Marissa Esquibel, LMFT on her journey from community mental health to private practice. Curt and Katie talk with Marissa about how she used the Modern Therapist’s Survival Guide podcast to shift her mindset and change her career trajectory. Marissa highlights the benefits of belief, guidance, and community. It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.Interview with Marissa Esquibel, LMFT“Though she be but little, she is fierce.”– ShakespeareMarissa Esquibel is not like a regular therapist, she’s a cool therapist. With her practice located near Los Angeles, Marissa is on a one-woman mission to empower young women to stop playing small and to start taking up space. She works exclusively with young adults, 20-something’s, who are checking off all the boxes of “success,” and yet, they feel like failures internally. They often come to Marissa dealing with depression, anxiety, imposter syndrome, or codependency. As an undergraduate, she attended UC Santa Barbara and then received her Masters in Clinical Psychology from California State University, Fullerton. In September of 2018, she became licensed and opened-up shop to her virtual therapy practice in March 2020. When Marissa is not in session with patients, she spends her time reading, hanging out with friends and family, binging on podcasts and audiobooks, attending her own therapy, and making sure to get her 10,000 steps a day. She loves her work, job, and life and looks forward to connecting with you. Learn more about Marissa at therapywithmarissa.comIn this episode we talk about:
Marissa’s burnout story and how she made the trek from community mental health to private practice
Reflections on the question: what do therapists get wrong (and the self-analysis and feedback informed nature of the question)
The idea of self-sacrifice and hard work being required to be a good therapist
The importance of critical thinking regarding what is effective, what is healthy for me
How Marissa made the decision to move to a group practice and then her own private practice
Marissa’s experience at Therapy Reimagined 2019 and her follow up with speakers
The need for belief, guidance, and community
Marissa talks about the episodes that helped her to move forward
How Marissa implemented a new plan for her career
“I choose this agony, this heart ache, this effort” – Marissa Esquibel, LMFT
Marissa’s choice to be vulnerable at this time and to keep on going
The determination and belief that has kept Marissa moving forward on her vision and mission
The need to hear from (and connecting with) people at each stage of career development

Nov 9, 2020 • 40min
Quarantine Self-Care for Therapists
Quarantine Self-Care for TherapistsCurt and Katie chat about the challenges for therapists during the pandemic. We look at what is unique to therapists’ experiences, causes of burnout, and ways in which therapists can work to protect their mental health and wellness during this time.It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.In this episode we talk about:
How therapists can take care of themselves during this time
The risks for burnout during COVID – study in the Asian Journal of Psychiatry
Taking on clients’ emotions, reacting together in real time
Compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma
The strain of “in this together”
Lack of the usual go-to self-care practices
Lack of in-person community and connection
Difficulty in getting feedback related to how we’re being received
Not knowing if we’re providing effective therapy
The concept of stasis, and just waiting for things to go back to normal
Longer term therapy due to lack of progress or on-going stressors
The lack of distraction from work or other responsibilities
The danger of filling time with work
The struggle or concern related to raising fees during a pandemic
How work may have become more of a grind
Lack of creativity or inspiration
The importance of taking a self-assessment
Realistic expectations
Priorities and values
All the roles we are playing right now
What resources do we have available to us?
Creating separation between work and personal space (through physical separation, ritual, structure)
How to identify opportunities with what is happening now
Identifying new challenges and risks, how to mitigate risks
Creating a sustainable situation even if it is just for now
Managing your schedule
Connecting with your community, so you don’t feel so isolated
The importance of breaks

Nov 2, 2020 • 39min
All Things Group Therapy
An interview with Katie K. May about creating effective therapy groups. They discuss the challenges therapists face, different types of groups, aligning clients with curriculum, and overcoming anxiety. Also, the importance of screening process, transitioning to telehealth, embodying DBT concepts, and marketing strategies for filling therapy groups.

Oct 26, 2020 • 42min
Online Therapy Apps
Online Therapy AppsCurt and Katie chat about online platforms that hire clinicians to provide therapy through their apps. We look at how companies like Talkspace and BetterHelp operate related to their workforce, customer data use, and effective client care. We look at the potential for increased mental health access. We also talk about the risks as well as ethical and legal concerns that clinicians may face if they choose to provide services through these apps. It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.In this episode we talk about:
The different telehealth platforms that hire therapists
The boundary and privacy issues identified at Talkspace from a NY Times article
The use of customer data
Clinical efficacy
Risk and liability issues related to incorporating Artificial Intelligence into treatment
How the platforms work on the clinician side, how clinician gets paid
The packages that clients get on word limits, etc. where they may have to renew early to continue treatment
The potential clinical issues with how therapists get paid in these apps
What is incentivized for therapists on these platforms
The boon to mental health access and treatment flexibility from these apps, including text, phone, and video (synchronous and asynchronous communication)
The caution about these apps growing beyond their capacity to serve clients
The types of clients who are good candidates for these platforms
The concern about clients being anonymous to their therapists
Managing escalating risk without sufficient information
“Counselor” versus “Counseling” services, which provides some cover related to requirements for therapy services and for employee concerns
The potential for practicing across state lines
The Talkspace memo about practicing across state lines and the app paying for legal fees
The legal and ethical risks for practicing across state lines, no matter the help from Talkspace
Rating manipulation – false reviews

Oct 19, 2020 • 34min
Biden and Trump on Mental Health
Biden and Trump on Mental HealthCurt and Katie chat about policies, promises, and actions taken by President Donald Trump and Vice President Joe Biden related to mental health. We look at mental health parity, the Affordable Care Act, Medicaid, prisons, funding priorities, as well as the importance of voting.It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.In this episode we talk about:
The promises and the actions taken by President Trump and Vice President Biden on mental health
Mental Health Parity and the Affordable Care Act
Medicaid Funding and Social Services
Prison and Jail Systems
Mental Health workforce
The difference between budget allotments and how much money actually gets to the programs
The opioid epidemic
Suicide prevention and veterans
How the candidates talk about mental health and drug abuse
Trumps attack on Hunter Biden and desire to reopen mental institutions
Control and punishment versus prevention and support
Biden normalizing mental health care
The importance of voting