The Date Brazen Podcast

Danielle Prescod is on the podcast this week. She is the author of, “Token Black Girl,” and co-founder of 2BG Consulting, which offers anti-racism seminars and resources with the aim of fixing the fashion industry. This week, Danielle joins Lily in a conversation about writing her memoir, the trap of perfectionism, and the role white supremacy plays in the pursuit of perfectionism in love and in life. Links:Danielle’s new book! Danielle’s websiteDanielle on TikTok Talking Body Image, Diet Culture, and Your Dating Life with Chrissy King Date Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/releasing-perfectionism-with-danielle-prescod  

We have two bad-ass podcasters and thought-leaders on the show this week. Nicci Nunez and Alex Stewart, hosts of the Swipe Fat podcast, join Lily for a conversation about dating as a plus-sized woman.  In this episode, they talk about their recent decision to take a dating app detox, share the story of how they became friends and then podcast hosts, and talk about life as plus-sized women in the dating world.  Hot-takes from this episode: Thin privilege in dating versus overcompensating in other areas because you are plus-sized  Creating a safe space with other plus-sized women at Swipe Fat events You can’t be right for everybody, all of the time What self-care looks like in the midst of difficult times  Alex and Nicci’s decision to take a dating app detox, why it felt difficult and, yet, important to do Links and Resources:Swipe Fat Podcast Swipe Fat on InstagramSwipe Fat at TikTok Alex on Instagram Nicci on InstagramDate Brazen on Instagram Date Brazen on TikTokSwipe Fat Podcast Community on FacebookSwipe Fat on Patreon

This week’s episode is all about the “Thank you, more, please!” challenge. This challenge is a powerful tool for those of us who were taught, “What you want, does not exist.” Listen in as Lily dares you to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist, in your love life, in your professional life, and beyond.  Tune into this short episode to hear how to implement this challenge into your life, today.  Links and resources: Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes: https://datebrazen.com/blog/thank-you-more-please  

Chrissy King is on the podcast this week! She is an author and the Creator of The Body Liberation Project. In this episode, we talk all about body image, diet culture, and your dating life.  Chrissy has a new book coming out called The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom, which we discuss too.  Chrissy shares some of the ways she empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. This is an amazing conversation and we are thrilled to be able to share it with you today!  Hot-takes from this episode: Chrissy shares her experience going from yo-yo dieting to re-evaluating her relationship with her body  The work of body liberation is never done, it is a lifelong journey Shrinking into a space that doesn’t feel built for you versus taking up space There is a real distinction between having body issues versus having a body that causes systemic oppression in the world Practicing compassion, kindness, and grace in your body We talk about mindset and dating while being in a bigger body Decolonizing fitness: What Chrissy would like women of color to know and what she would like white women to know about effective allyship Links and resources: How the Hell to Meet Someone In-Person Workshop is THIS Thursday! Pre-Order Chrissy's Book, The Body Liberation Project HERE for our Main Character Energy Bookclub!  Chrissy's Website Chrissy's Instagram The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia, Sabrina Strings About Chrissy: Chrissy King is a Writer, Speaker, Fitness and Strength Coach, and Creator of The Body Liberation Project. She has a passion for creating a diverse and inclusive wellness industry.  She empowers individuals to stop shrinking, start taking up space and use their energy to create their specific magic in the world. Her book, The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom-- MARCH 14, 2023

In this workshop, I'm going to give you my playbook to ditch the dating app and start meeting awesome people in-person! The tickets are donation based, and 100% of the proceeds go to local abortion funds in the U.S.  Get your ticket right HERE! Thursday, Sept 8th, 2022 6pm EST See you there! 

Today we are throwing it back to Episode Four of the Date Brazen Podcast. Why? Because it's all about in-person dating. The episode featured a coaching session with Date Brazen client, Amelia, who didn't want to use dating apps anymore. Sound familiar? We thought so and that is why we decided to re-air it!  Lily and Amelia talk about how to start dating in person, what that might look and feel like, and also explore what fears come up -  yes, all of that juicy stuff. You don’t want to miss this one!  Hot takes from this episode: Why it’s okay (and sometimes healthy) to not be on a dating app - these apps can be distracting, discouraging, and depleting Lily gives Amelia some tools to listen to her intuition, which can be a revolutionary act in a world that tells women how to behave, especially in dating. Dating confidence is built in person - being brave enough to engage with someone you find attractive and start a conversation is a challenge Links and resources: ALL NEW - Coming Sept 9th, 2022!!! How the Hell To Meet Someone In Person. Get your tickets here! Show notes with resources and links Download The Friendly Guide to Setting You Up Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-four/  

This week’s episode is all about feelings. Lily talks about how you can feel your way through any of your feelings, why it’s important to do so, and how it is going to change your life, especially your love life. This episode is a practical guide for feeling your emotions, even the hard ones. Our hope is that this episode will shift the relationship you have with yourself in a juicy way. Some hot takes from this episode:   Feelings are a bodily function, feeling them does not mean you’ll get stuck in them, feeling them is a means for moving them through your body (7:15) You are not going to miss out on life when you slow down to practice self-compassion or feel your feelings - you are going to experience a more meaningful depth of life (15:53) How to actually practice feeling your feelings with emotional safety (25:49) Links and resources: 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok 6: How to curb your freak out with self-compassion with Megan Saxelby 69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol Kristen Neff and self-compassion The Feelings Wheel  Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/feel-your-feelings-when-rejected/  

Today we are bringing you a dating app ask me anything episode! Lily is going to share all of her dating app hot-takes with you. This episode was inspired by a survey posted on her Instagram account (@datebrazen). She received over 300 responses with your questions and thoughts about all things dating.  We hope you enjoy the episode! Some of the questions answered include:   “It seems impossible to meet anyone in the wild. Help!” “How do you get someone to talk to you?!?!”  “What do I do when I am asking qualifying/disqualifying questions and the response I get is simply, ‘You’re pretty.’” 🤨 “How honest should we be on our profiles? Should we try to be witty or flirty?” “How do I respond to my family about why I don’t use dating apps?” “Are apps better for queer or straight relationships?” “Can Tinder be used for finding long-term partners and not hook-ups?” Links and resources: Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok 58. How Maddie built a dating action plan and found love 75. Stephanie’s radical transformation (and the long-term impact of the Brazen Breakthrough) 114. Brazen Client Story: Jenny’s Self-Compassion Journey 113. Brazen Client Party: How Kate and Julianne stepped into their best "Hell, Yes!" 115. Brazen Client Story: How Emily Lived Her Self-Worth and Main Character Energy Las Culturistas  Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-ama/    

Lily is bringing you another AMA (ask me anything) episode this week! The Date Brazen community has grown by thousands over the last month with members joining us from TikTok and Instagram. Lily loves hearing from everyone!  She is taking the time to answer more of your questions about mindset work and your dating life.  The intention of Date Brazen is to provide tools for change and encouragement to integrate what feels good for you - in your love life and beyond.  Questions answered in this episode include:   How do you regulate your nervous system when dating? How long does it take you to start a mindset change once you start working together on the Date Brazen journey? I am viewing dating apps as the only way to meet people. How do I reframe my mindset? How do I not let my fear of rejection in dating spill over into rejection in a professional setting? I am almost 30 and never dated. How do I get started? Links and resources: 3 Step Guide to Make Dating Feel Like Self-care Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok Burnout, by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA Show notes:https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/ama-dating-mindset-edition  

The Queer Confidence Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they)  joins Lily on the podcast this week! We are obsessed with what Alex is putting out into the world and excited to share the conversation. Lily talks to Alex about how LGBTQ+ individuals can create their own universe complete with confidence and freedom; and can step into their next powerful phase of life. Join us for this amazing episode!  Hot-takes from this episode: Stepping into both your divine masculine and divine feminine energy (2:50) Unpacking the stories that have shaped our confidence (12:39) Owning your sexual liberation and agency as a member of the queer community (18:57) Alex shares some of her favorite clients’ breakthroughs about self-permission (27:46) Confidence means allowing discomfort and having your own back (31:05) Links and resources: Alex Ray’s website Follow Alex on Instagram  Follow Date Brazen on Instagram Follow Date Brazen on TikTok The Queer Confidence Podcast Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/a-conversation-about-confidence-with-alex-ray