Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!What you’ll hear in this episode: The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self Having a life you enjoy in a body you love Nourishment and movement are a family practice Giving gratitude around nourishment There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.  Where to find Julie:– Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radiohttp://www.fitmomrevolution.com/Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project. She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support. The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration.What you’ll hear in this episode: Challenges tween girls navigate Elementary to Middle School transition. Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage. How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience. Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment. How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves. The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression. How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween. Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice. What you can expect from working with Carly. Special introduction to The Chakra Girls! What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work.Where to find Carly:https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/ https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/Facebook l Instagram l Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love.After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life.She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved.We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us!“I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history”What you’ll hear in this episode:·     Compassion as a mindset·     Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles·     How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment·     Managing Fear and operating in its presence·     Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves·     Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking·     How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef·     Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward·     How to be a “meaning making machine”·     Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation·     Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate·     How to get out of your own wayResources:The Power of NowWhere to find Jenna:Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l (Ascension Facebook, Ascension instagram)Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PSTFacebook l Instagram l Twitter l Unicorn University  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BONUS EPISODE!! Omg. I have been bugging my guests to come and talk to me since meeting them LAST May at the Mom 2.0 conference.Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are both producers at the Today Show, bestselling authors, and mamas to two kids. Their life is BUSY, and they find humor, compassion and forgiveness around every corner.They came on the show to talk about their book, Shitty Moms, and the sequel, Shitty Moms for All Seasons. Alicia and Mary Ann keep it real. Their honesty, insights, and willingness to laugh and say what so many of us only dare to think will hook you right from the start.Please listen in.Where to find Alicia and Maryann's books:Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First YearShitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of UsShitty Mom For All Seasons: Half Assing it All Year Long Where to find Shitty Mom:Shitty Mom on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.”What you’ll hear in this episode: ​​​​​​​ Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail Maturity and developmental differences between genders Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem Optimal learning environments for boys Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask How to encourage independence and service to others Supporting your child in remembering things Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys The value of trades education The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Larissa Dann, a Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) trainer. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! “Children don’t misbehave, they behave to meet a need.”What you’ll hear in this episode: Being assertive without alienating our children Using “I messages” to communicate needs Trusting our child’s desire to be helpful vs. presenting requests in a way that is prescriptive Using active listening to gain cooperation The limitations of contingent rewards The impact of rewards on motivation for cooperation – who are they cooperating for Omitting rewards to foster self-discipline and an inner locus of control Preparing children for adulthood by making them less dependent on the judgment of others Using relationship skills to help your child develop a moral compass The power of natural consequences in building resilience and developing internal judgments about right and wrong Trusting children to care and problem solve to find mutual solutions How children’s behavior is impacted by unmet needs Avoiding the temptation to attribute intent or take behavior personally The gift of imperfection and modeling accountability The benefit of modeling alternate skills to teach solutions instead of using punishments The impact we have on the world through our own parenting practices in the way we raise our kids Parenting as imparting soft skills Brainstorming solutions to discomfort when the activity is non-negotiable Creating routines and agreements, doing with vs doing to and communicating expectations in a way that is an invitation to relationship Conflict as competing needs Shifting language around what “works” to what is “helpful” – moving from control to partnership  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?This is what it takes to be a child growing up in an adult’s world and it’s something we so often forget. Children so often are powerless and it takes courage for them to say no when we are the huge person in their life and when they think they might get into trouble and yet they are the most joyful beings on the planet. In the face of the most dire situations, children can somehow find that spark of joy that they can bring out from terrible situations. As a parent, it takes the courage of conviction, to parent against the flow of accepted parenting opinion and practice and the joy comes when you see your children flower and grow sometimes despite your many mistakes.Resources: Parent Effectiveness TrainingWhere to find Larissa:Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

 ** This podcast is marked explicit for a reason!**So happy to have my friend Rebecca Gallagher, from frugalistablog.com on this bonus episode to dig into the popular and controversial Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. Rebecca is raising teens, and like me, watched the show and had powerful discussions about the themes that show up with her daughter.Rowan and I actually watched the show together.The themes that show up in 13 Reasons Why, created by Brian Yorkey and based on a book of the same name by Jay Ashor, are heavy, and intense. Some parents are unsure about whether it is something they want their kids to see.Rebecca and I don't claim to have answers, but we do discuss our own opinions and experiences we had with sharing the show with our kids and the conversation that showed up because of it.Topics include sexual assault, bullying, sexual harassment, rape and suicide. Like I said, intense. AND important to be talking about with the young people in our life.Let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest, Noha Alshugairi, is a “citizen of the world,” a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Newport Beach, California and positive discipline trainer. We are discussing positive discipline in the Muslim home. Join us!“I don’t need to be preaching what Islam says to us in order to be teaching Positive Discipline.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Diversity within the Muslim community (80 groups, with differing faith) How Muslim teachings align with Positive Discipline principles (building social interest, fostering belonging and contribution, understanding the belief behind the behavior, encouragement, mutual respect, kindness and firmness at the same time, short-term vs long-term and focus on solutions) How does Islam promote mutual respect? The concept of obedience as it relates to both Islam and Positive Discipline Doing the best you can with the tools you have – how excellence at 3 or 4 looks difference than excellence in adolescence The impacts of hanging onto childhood hurt in adulthood What non-Muslims are most surprised to learn about Muslim families Concerns of Muslim parents – how to protect children from Islamophobia & how to build a cultural identity they can be proud of? Finding peace through focus on your circle of influence and stepping away from victimhood How to broaden your understanding and support for the Muslim community Connecting with larger groups as minority group members to move past stereotypes  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Having joy while you are facing life. It’s difficult because life is not smooth sailing. Resources: Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home7 Habits of Highly Effective People  Where to find Nosha: Website – Sakina CounsellingWebsite – Positive Parenting in the Muslim HomeFacebookl Youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection Attachment theory and gentle parenting Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self. Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges. Resources:Aha parenting website The Explosive Child – Ross Greene Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs Where to find Angela:WebsiteFacebookTwitterPinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leanne Kabat is on the show today talking about her vision of a world where mamas come together to love, support and CELEBRATE all parts of themselves!!Leanne is the Head Mama of Mamacon, an annual conference for moms in the Pacific Northwest. She shares her story, her inspiration, and her desire to connect mamas not only to themselves, but also to each other.Join us at Mamacon, April 29th from 2-10pm. Get your tickets here!! BOGO sale is happening through midnight, Friday, April 14. GET ON IT - bring a friend, TREAT yourself!!Where to follow Leanne and Mamacon:Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices