Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Today’s episode is a SOLO show!Takeaways from the show Making agreements with your kids Creating a win win Brainstorming solutions that are related, reasonable, respectful, and HELPFUL Keeping things simple and concise Iceberg metaphor Handling peer pressure Letting go of your kids having the same priorities as you Reign in your criticism Take a break when things get heated For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jessica Lahey.Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs.Takeaways from the show Secrecy and shame around substance abuse Jessica’s story The process of recovery The normalization of adult drinking Pluralistic ignorance Authoritative parenting Knowledge about raising kids and substances Teaching kids why they shouldn’t be using substances Knowing risk factors of substance abuse can help you protect your kids Understanding the teen brain Scripts to give your kids to get out of situations Relationship matters For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!Takeaways from the show: Life updates The power of the tension of life Getting out of the way so your kids can feel the tension of life Pushback against traditional education Get curious about what’s important to your kids Being an unconditional parent Kids who have the opportunity to decide for themselves are the kids that thrive Teens need to have space to feel out what they want Resources:Dr. Hina Talib | Brave New World Summit See you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Rae McDaniel.Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club, a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master's of Education in community counseling.Takeaways from the show: Ray’s story Gender spectrum Expanding and exploring gender Deep dive into pronouns Gender shakes people’s fundamental ideas of the world How parents can support their kids coming out Gender dysphoria Tips for parents to support and accept their child in a scary world Safety within the trans/non binary world Celebrating gender expression The world needs people who are their most authentic selves For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba.Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons.Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine.Takeaways from the show: Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens What does Joyful Courage mean to you?It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term.Where to find Dr. Michele Borba: Thrivers the book | Twitter | InstagramSee you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s show should have been a solo show BUT I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of a book launch event last week, and was interviewed by Mindy Duff - one of the authors of the new book, Motherhood diaries. We had such a good time during the interview that I asked Mindy if she would share it with me so that I could turn it into a podcast! Mindy Duff is a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, speaker and published author. Her mission is to help individuals uncover their best selves through the power of nutrition, self care and self love. Takeaways from the show: Evolution is endless The gifts of hard situations Practicing not taking it personal Navigating the teen world Holding space for self-expression How we are holding learning and public education What self care looks like Your kids are NOT a projection of you Important things to remember when parenting teens Relationship is always first  See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing. Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars. Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens.  Takeaways from the show: Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent Having healthy adults for kids to open up to Being unconditional and non judgemental  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

::::This week’s episode is a solo show!Takeaways from the show: Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart See you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle!Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world. She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help. She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long. She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations.She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle---except plants… She says, "you can never have too many plants and green stuff" --- is described as "that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less", and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a "deep, campfire-style" conversation on Clubhouse.Takeaways from the show: Aprile’s journey to becoming a therapist Psychological cleaning program Maintaining a positive, steady state of mental health Feelings are temporary Think before you speak Responsive vs. reactive Inner voice Being inside of possibility vs. drowning in uncertainty 3 steps of psychological spring cleaning Vulnerability is what makes you brave Marie Kondo your mind Recommit to your goals For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week is a solo show!Takeaways from the show: Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child Previous shows about mistaken goals:Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal ChartSee you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices