

You Are Not Broken
Kelly Casperson, MD
Empowering women (and the partners who love them) to live their best mid lives. Combining the power of mind-work, body-science and relationships, I joyously smash the societal barriers that are keeping us from living our best intimate lives. Whether you are young or past menopause, single or in a long-term relationship, it is never too late or too early to realize YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. With humor, candor and ease, I break down the stories that we have been told about being sexual beings, to help us play, and normalize our intimacy and health. Nothing in this podcast is personal medical advice, of course.
Episodes
Mentioned books

Feb 19, 2023 • 1h 3min
199. Man Up – For Your Other Half – Men’s Sexual Health
Dr. Dubin is a fellowship-trained urologist and andrologist focusing on men’s health. He cares for men with fertility problems, sexual issues (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, etc.), Peyronie’s disease, low testosterone, testicular pain and other problems involving men’s genitalia. He wants to help men understand that the issues they face are normal and help them find solutions that fit their lifestyle and life goals. In addition to providing individualized patient care, he is also passionate about providing helpful information to the community. He co-hosts a podcast, “Man Up — A Doctor's Guide to Men’s Health,” in which he discuss various men’s health topics.Why don't men go to the doctor?Where do men get most of their sex ed from?Figuring out the difference between erections, orgasm, ejaculation (and refractory time) and desire.The five things you need to get a good erection.The role of testosterone and libido and erections.Taking testosterone can cause infertility in 60% of men.Once you take Testosterone are you going to be on it forever?When a man goes to the doctor for Viagra, should the doctor ask about the partner?We need more people talking about intimacy without an erect penis.And if you are comfortable - what to do when you penis doesn't work - I hear over and over about men being able to orgasm with a soft penis and I need some info on this! Are you the person? So many people think sex is over when the penis doesn't work and I need someone to tackle this difficult topic.Dr. Dubin did a study looking at women getting blamed for their partner’s erectile dysfunction. 1 out of 7 women were blamed.Tips for when your male partner doesn’t want to talk about intimate issues.What is with products that make you make more semen?What is with penis enlarging procedures?Social media inaccuracies with men’s health – sperm retention!Does ejaculating decrease prostate cancer?Does vasectomy cause prostate cancer?https://www.themanuppod.com/https://www.instagram.com/themanuppod/Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfKJoin my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 12, 2023 • 28min
198. "Use It Or Lose It" Needs To Die and February Live Podcast
Is bigger always better?
The “use it or lose it” myth needs to die.
Vaginal atrophy is a hormonal issue.
Are orgasms good for you?
Can I use vaginal estrogen more than twice a week?
Tips and tricks for vaginal estrogen.
Can you still get BV and yeast infections after menopause?
Painful sex and low libido after a LEEP procedure.
Hi I have a question! I just saw my gynecologist , she has me on vaginal estrogen. I asked if I can go on the estrogen patch she advised me that I don’t need to be on the patch that the tabs are what I need! I’m sorry I should have said explained i had a hysterectomy in my 40’s they left my ovaries a year later I was told I was in full menopause! I’m 60 now and only started vaginal estrogen a year ago due to me complaining about painful intercourse. Should I also be on the estrogen patch.
I’m only 22 and suspecting a stage 3 prolapse . I’m pretty sure I’ve unintentionally caused it due to straining on the toilet,etc. I wanted to know- can I still get pregnant? And can my prolapse heal itself?
Who needs systemic estrogen versus only vaginal estrogen?
The multiple reasons we are undertreating menopause.
I’m a 62 year old guy. Married to a beautiful soul for 40 years. I’d love to get her your book. But, I don’t wanna come off as being “that guy.” Do you have any suggestions?
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 5, 2023 • 34min
197. 2023 Hormone Education 101
Hot off the back of the New York Times Magazine Feb 1st on Menopause Hormones - I gave a lecture to my local medical society about hormones. It is a nice overview and I hope you enjoy it!
The best way to get rid of fear is education
Why the Women’s Health Initiative study took people off of hormones
Understanding the Healthy Cell Hypothesis
Repetition is the key to adult learning
The top two reasons women stop having sex in perimenopause and menopause
What we know about menopause hormone therapy in 2023
The more educated you are, the more you can advocate for yourself
By definition: menopause is one day - 366 days after your last natural period
Average age of menopause in western society is 51
Hormone therapy was popular in the 80’s and 90’s
If you still have a uterus you must protect the uterine lining with a progestin if you take systemic estrogen (not so for vaginal estrogen)
FDA approved indications for estrogen 1) preventing osteoporosis
2) treatment of vasomotor symptoms
3) treatment of premature ovarian insufficiency (going into menopause prior to age 40)
4) GSM
how did we get to the point where we thought estrogen caused cancer?
what does hormone therapy help?
the longer you go without estrogen, your arteries develop a fatty streak or plaque
who can’t be on HRT
who can be on HRT
Best practices for hormone replacement therapy
Non oral estrogen vs oral estrogen
Unanswered questions we have about hormones
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 29, 2023 • 18min
196. ChatGPT and How to Get My Partner to Have More Sex with Me
Happy ONE MILLION DOWNLOADS!
So I asked ChatGPT to help me write a podcast episode, and I think AI nailed it!
How can iIget my partner to have more sex with me?
1. Communicate openly: Have a conversation with your partner about your needs and desires. Share your feelings and listen to their perspective. It's important to approach this conversation in a non-confrontational and non-judgmental way.
2. Understand their perspective: Your partner may have different needs or desires when it comes to sex. Try to understand their perspective and see if there are any underlying issues that may be affecting their interest in sex.
3. Show affection: Show your partner that you care about them and appreciate them. This can help build a stronger emotional connection and make them more likely to want to be intimate with you.
4. Be spontaneous: Surprise your partner with a romantic gesture or plan a special date night. This can help reignite the spark in your relationship.
5. Look at your relationship: Reflect on your relationship as a whole and see if there are any factors that may be affecting your partner's interest in sex, such as stress, fatigue, or relationship issues.
6. Seek professional help: If you and your partner are unable to resolve the issue on your own, consider seeking the help of a couples therapist or sex therapist. They can provide guidance and support to help improve your relationship.
7. Be patient: Remember that change takes time, and it's important to be patient and supportive of your partner.
It's important to remember that every relationship and every person is different, and what works for one couple may not work for another. Communication and mutual understanding are key to addressing any issues in a relationship, including sexual intimacy.
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 22, 2023 • 38min
195. 8 Truths About Hormones
I get so many hormone questions! So I needed a podcast to refer people to.
I hope I did okay covering the basics and deep diving into some more complicated details.
Enjoy!
1. Sex and Menopause
2. Systemic versus Vaginal Hormones
3. Estrogen Doesn't Cause Cancer
4. We gendered hormones and how this hurts women
5. Natural is a weapon waged to keep us in our place
6. Pellets and compounds are to be avoided if better options are available
7. You never need to stop hormones
8. The FDA will not help us (the two cases of Testosterone and Alzheimer's disease).
(bonus) I hate the word "balanced" when discussing hormones. Pro tip - people are probably just trying to sell you something.
Paganini-Hill A, Henderson VW. Estrogen deficiency and risk of Alzheimer's disease in women. Am J Epidemiol. 1994 Aug 1;140(3):256-61
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 15, 2023 • 35min
194. Blaming Her For His ED, UTIs on Social Media, Sex Toys in the Middle East, Female Testosterone Guidelines and More - January Live Podcast
Blaming Her For His ED, UTIs on Social Media, Sex Toys in the Middle East, Female Testosterone Guidelines and More - January Live Podcast
Vanessa and Xander Marin’s survey – over 54,000 people - their Sexual Frequency Report
They were on my podcast # 181 – sex talks with social media’s sex educators
Justin Dubin’s paper on Blaming women for erectile dysfunction
Examples of misinformation found on YouTube and tiktok videos regarding urinary tract infection
Sex toys in the middle east
Mindfulness with Female Sexual dysfunction
Clinical practice guidelines for use of T in Women
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/13697137.2021.1891773?needAccess=true&role=button
Justin M. Dubin, MD, W. Austin Wyant, MSc, Navin C. Balaji, BE, Iakov V. Efimenko, BSc, Quinn C. Rainer, BA, Belen Mora, BA, Lisa Paz, PhD, Ashley G. Winter, MD, Ranjith Ramasamy, MD, Is Female Wellness Affected When Men Blame Them for Erectile Dysfunction?, Sexual Medicine, Volume 9, Issue 3, June 2021, Page 100351
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 8, 2023 • 45min
193. Why Good Sex Matters Author Nan Wise, PhD
I have the good fortune of talking with Dr. Nan Wise, PhD, author of "Why Good Sex Matters"
https://amzn.to/3GaubA5
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 1, 2023 • 27min
192. Happy Third Birthday and New Year's Resolutions!
Happy Third Birthday and New Year’s Resolutions
- Will hit 1 million in January!
New year’s wishes
- Male birth control
- Say no and have it be okay
- Vaginal E for everyone who wants it
o Good Rx
Estradiol 0.01% 42 G tube
o Amazon Pharmacy – 28.13
Interlude – get interlude
20 off your first order
- Decreased fear around estrogen
o Peter Attia podcast Episode 42interviewing Estrogen Matters Dr Avrum Bluming and Carol Taveris Phd
https://peterattiamd.com/caroltavris-avrumbluming/
2021 update from the authors
- :the WHI has walked back virtually all of their early alarmist findings. In recent publications, they reported that estrogen does not increase “all cause mortality” or deaths from heart disease and cancer. Actually, they said, it increases longevity, most notably when begun within ten years of the last menstrual period. It is the best preventative for osteoporotic hip fracture. It is safe and effective when applied vaginally for local symptoms. And, in the most striking about-face from their 2003 headlines that HRT “did not have a clinically meaningful effect on health-related quality of life” for women in menopause, they stated in 2019 that “Hormone therapy is the most effective treatment for managing menopausal vasomotor symptoms.”
- Desire mismatch is not a problem
- Orgasmic equality
- Hope is not a game plan
o Wishing your desire was different does nothing – it does worse than nothing
o Resisting reality, resisting what is
- Healthy relationship with your body
o Speak kindly
o Sleep, exercise, food
o Stop shoulding all over your body
- Healthy relationship with sex
o Stop shoulding
o Stop doing it for other people
o Be present
o It is okay to fail, to not feel like it
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
https://www.getinterlude.com/?utm_source=affiliate&utm_campaign=promo-kc-notbroken
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 25, 2022 • 39min
191. Discovering the snake clitoris, start your hormones early, and the Economist talks about sex
Happy December live podcast.
I talk about snake clitorises, human clitoris nerve endings, why the American Heart Association wants you to start hormones early, and sex has gone mainstream as the Economist talked about it!
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN
Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 18, 2022 • 1h 6min
190. Sex Ed for health care providers 101 - a Dr. C Lecture
This is the audio of a lecture I gave to Urology and Gyn Residents in 2022.
I know you are an advanced audience and can handle graduate level work!
Enjoy!
Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK
Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes.
www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership
Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide
Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.
Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN
Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken
---
Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices