

You Are Not Broken
Kelly Casperson, MD
Empowering women (and the partners who love them) to live their best mid lives. Combining the power of mind-work, body-science and relationships, I joyously smash the societal barriers that are keeping us from living our best intimate lives. Whether you are young or past menopause, single or in a long-term relationship, it is never too late or too early to realize YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. With humor, candor and ease, I break down the stories that we have been told about being sexual beings, to help us play, and normalize our intimacy and health. Nothing in this podcast is personal medical advice, of course.
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Apr 30, 2023 • 23min
209. “The Cervix is Dumb” and I Disagree – April Live
“The
Cervix is Dumb” and I Disagree – April Live
Giovannetti O, Tomalty D, Gilmore S, Pattison A, Komisaruk B,
Goldstein S, Hannan J, Goldstein I, Pukall C, Adams MA. The contribution of the
cervix to sexual response: an online survey study. J Sex Med. 2023 Jan
14;20(1):49-56. doi: 10.1093/jsxmed/qdac010
Cochrane review on Cranberry for UTI
https://www.cochranelibrary.com/cdsr/doi/10.1002/14651858.CD001321.pub6/full
Kisspeptin is a protein that
is essential for reproductive hormone secretion and fertility
Male kisspeptin study
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36735255/
Sexual
Tipping Point
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/24001856_The_Sexual_Tipping_PointR_A_MindBody_Model_for_Sexual_Medicine
Oral
versus Vaginal DHEA
Vaginal
DHEA is awesome – it is a prescription
DHEA oral
is a supplement – over the counter
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DHEA oral safety - lack of efficacy good enough reason to not take it?
Dehydroepiandrosterone
replacement in women with adrenal insufficiency N Engl J Med 1999 Sep
30;341(14):1013-20. doi:
10.1056/NEJM199909303411401. 50mg oral for 4
months – decreased HDL and total Cholesterol
Conclusions: Dehydroepiandrosterone
improves well-being and sexuality in women with adrenal insufficiency.
Double-blind
treatment of major depression with dehydroepiandrosterone Am J Psychiatry 1999
Apr;156(4):646-9. doi: 10.1176/ajp.156.4.646.
Conclusions: These
results suggest that DHEA treatment may have significant antidepressant effects
in some patients with major depression. Further, larger-scale trials are
warranted.
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Apr 23, 2023 • 45min
208. Better Sex Through Lifestyle Changes – Diet, Sleep, Hormones, Exercise – The Galveston Lifestyle
The Third time Dr. Haver is on my podcast!
The role of sleep, diet, exercise and body image on sex is
real.
Dr. Haver’s story – she shares her journey of stress, grief
and menopause and how “workout more and eat less” wasn’t working for her.
How female body composition changes in peri and menopause
Diets may change hot flashes
Can you measure inflammation?
Fatty liver – goes up in menopause – treatable with diet
changes
Anti-inflammatory diet resource: arthritis.org
Supplements for peri/menopause
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Fiber, mag, vit D, omega 3 - - ? DIM ? DHEA
Role of continuous glucose monitors
The loss of estrogen increases gut permeability – role of
gut microbiome in bone heath –
Tiktok: drmaryclaire
IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegalvestondiet
Website: https://galvestondiet.com/
The Galveston Diet Book: https://amzn.to/433AsGZ
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Better Sex Through Lifestyle Changes – Diet, Sleep, Hormones,
Exercise – The Galveston Lifestyle
Try not to eat like shit.
The role of sleep, diet, exercise and body image on sex is
real.
Dr. Haver’s story – she shares her journey of stress, grief
and menopause and how “workout more and eat less” wasn’t working for her.
How female body composition changes in peri and menopause
Diets may change hot flashes
Can you measure inflammation?
Fatty liver – goes up in menopause – treatable with diet
changes
Anti-inflammatory diet resource: arthritis.org
Supplements for peri/menopause
-
Fiber, mag, vit D, omega 3 - - ? DIM ? DHEA
Role of continuous glucose monitors
The loss of estrogen increases gut permeability – role of
gut microbiome in bone heath –
Tiktok: drmaryclaire
IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegalvestondiet
Website: https://galvestondiet.com/
The Galveston Diet Book: https://amzn.to/433AsGZ
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Apr 16, 2023 • 32min
207. Emergency Department Care of the Menopausal Female
Emergency Department Care of the Menopausal Female
Dr. Pam Dyne is a Professor of Clinical Emergency Medicine at UCLA
David Geffen School of Medicine
Common things midlife women go to the ED for – irregular bleeding
and prolapse
Heart attacks present differently in women than in men.
How to work up abnormal vaginal bleeding – questions to ask.
Do ED docs know how to do a pelvic exam?
Indications for a pelvic exam and optimal positioning
Recurrent UTIs, and estrogen possibly 1st line rx so something
to keep in mind
Asymptomatic bacteruria - if doc says you have a UTI but
you have no UTI sx, question whether abx indicated, pending the urine culture
- change in
cognition in elderly human – don’t just treat for a UTI?
Elder abuse – what is it – when to suspect it?
Cardiac symptoms in perimenopause
Heart attacks present differently in women than in men.
“Sometimes a doctor’s job is to tell you what it isn’t” – workups
that don’t show anything dangerous.
How to use a tennis ball to do myofascial release for muscle pain
The devastating effects of a hip fracture.
www.instagram.com/drpdyne
Pelleton: singerpam
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Apr 9, 2023 • 34min
206. Increasing Penile Length, How Long Sex Lasts, and Urology YouTube Rockstar Rena Malik, MD
Increasing Penile Length, How Long Sex Lasts, and Urology YouTube
Rockstar Rena Malik, MD
Dr. Malik is an associate professor of surgery in the Division of
Urology and director of Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery at
the University of Maryland School of Medicine. She has published more than 60
peer-reviewed articles and book chapters.
She has 1.48 Million YouTube subscribers
We go over her most popular videos – most of these questions are
“am I normal” questions.
27M views – Scientifically proven ways to increase penile length
Why are men so obsessed with penis size and do women care?
11M views – How long does sex last on average?
10 M views - What exactly is the G spot?
9.4 M views – Can you masturbate too much?
8.9 M views – Can you increase your semen volume?
5.8 M views – Can ejaculating more frequently reduce risk for
prostate cancer?
5.7 M views – How to increase testosterone naturally
5.2 M views – Explaining the difference between showers and
growers
4.3 M views – Does prostate massage have any health benefits?
3.5 M views – Does science support “no nut November”?
Dr. Malik's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV66hp0qxx2Xq273N0bo7uQ
https://www.instagram.com/renamalikmd
https://www.tiktok.com/@renamalikmd
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Apr 2, 2023 • 54min
205. Hormone Therapy Position Statement of The North American Menopause Society
Here is the 2022 NAMS Hormone Therapy Position Statement!
https://www.menopause.org/docs/default-source/professional/nams-2022-hormone-therapy-position-statement.pdf
1) For women aged younger than sixty years or who are within ten years of menopause onset and have no contra indications the benefit risk ratio is favorable for treatment of bother some vasomotor symptoms and prevention of bone loss for women who initiate hormone therapy more than ten years from menopause onset.
2) We discuss safety
3) We discuss decreased mortality in women 50-60 in the WHI trial.
4) We discuss the absolute risk reduction for: all cause mortality, fracture, diabetes, and breast cancer in women aged younger than sixty years
5) Their statement on compounded and pelleted hormones
6) Vasomotor symptoms are assoicated with diminished sleep quality and reduced quality of life
7) Hormones for genitourinary syndrome of menopause
8) We discuss cognition and weight gain
9) The critical window or "healthy cell" hypothesis
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Mar 26, 2023 • 47min
204. Sexual Intelligence: What we really want from sex and how to get it
Joining me for the second time on the podcast is world renowned sex therapist, Dr. Marty Klein – Author and sex therapist to Silicon Valley.
If you want our first episode together check out Episode 169 – where we discuss his book “His porn her pain”
Today we are discussing his amazing book: “Sexual Intelligence: What we really
want from sex and how to get it”. This book is 10 years old and still completely relevant. And
he is still being interviewed about it!
What is sexual intelligence and why did it need to be
written about?
“For a lot of people, sex is an opportunity to fail” – Dr.
Marty Klein
How do you navigate when one partner wants something and the
other doesn’t – oral during a period, PIV sex, kink?
What is your opinion about the “low desire” epidemic and the
meds for low desire.
“Most people leave sex for when they are too tired to do
anything else” – Dr. Marty Klein
“In a world that is filled with ice cream and Netflix….why
would anyone want sex?” – Dr. Marty Klein
You say in the book PIV has symbolic meaning for hetero
people – can you talk about why this limits us?
What to do when sex is boring?
What to do with a partner who won’t communicate about sex?
Stonewalling?
26:13 Why Dr. Klein doesn’t like the term erectile dysfunction.
I’m not attracted to my partner any more – they gained
weight or are getting older – any help?
Tips for desire discrepancy. Communication and more touch.
https://www.martyklein.com/
Dr. Klein’s book: His Porn, Her Pain https://amzn.to/3IYvIsF
Dr. Klein’s book: Sexual Intelligence https://amzn.to/3WLfYi0
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Mar 19, 2023 • 36min
203. March Live - Obligation Sex, Hormones and More
Motives between the Sheets: Understanding Obligation for Sex at Midlife and Associations with Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction
Monika Georgieva et al.
· https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2022.2076278
This study investigated reasons for sex at last sex, with a focus on obligation (an avoidance motivation) and doing something nice for a partner (an approach motivation), and their associations with sexual and relationship satisfaction, while controlling for marital duration, age, and sexual desire. We investigated these reasons among married, midlife Canadian women (n = 324), men (n = 275), and 25 non-binary/gender queer participants 40 to 59 years of age.
Darling, Come Lay with Me or Talk with Me: Perceived Mattering and the Complementary Association between Sex and Communication within Marital Relationships
Haeyoung Gideon Park et al
https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2021.2018393
Kovacevic, K.*, Tu, E.*, Raposo, S.*, Rosen, N. O., & Muise, A. (2023). Is spontaneous sex ideal? Beliefs and perceptions of spontaneous and planned sex and satisfaction in romantic relationships. Journal of Sex Research.
Not enough early breast cancer survivors on Vag E. – Dr. Menn -
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Cold S, Cold F, Jensen MB, Cronin-Fenton D, Christiansen P, Ejlertsen B. Systemic or Vaginal Hormone Therapy After Early Breast Cancer: A Danish Observational Cohort Study. J Natl Cancer Inst. 2022 Oct 6;114(10):1347-1354. doi: 10.1093/jnci/djac112. PMID: 35854422; PMCID: PMC9552278.
Member question:
On the topic of pain with penetrative sex, what can go awry during the healing process from vaginal surgery for hysterectomy and prolapse repairs that might contribute to this?
Pelvic floor therapy, lubricants, moisturizers, estrogen and dialators are the armenatarium used but what happens when they are used long term but there is still pain upon insertion even a year out from surgery?
NAMS practice Pearl on Testosterone
https://www.menopause.org/docs/default-source/professional/practice-pearl-testosterone_.pdf
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Mar 12, 2023 • 53min
202. Sex Doesn’t Exist In A Bubble – Be Hard To Kill
Dr Jaime Seeman aka Doctor Fit and Fabulous is a board certified OBGYN. She has a passion for fitness, preventative medicine and empowerment not only in her medical practice but in her own life. She has a podcast called The Fit and Fabulous Podcast with Dr Jaime Seeman and a book called Hard to Kill: Master the Mindset to Maximize Your Years
She was last here episode 148: march 2022: - I Want to Be Hard to Kill! - Mindwork with Dr. Jaime Seeman, MD
Welcome back! What she has been up to since our last interview.
The connection between sex, body image, feeling good, being strong and confidence.
How to get a lot done.
Finding non-sexual passion in your life.
Confidence is built though action – body and intimacy
Why our internal language is so important.
Muscle is the organ of longevity.
Fat makes hormones – why low fat is bad.
Helping hypothyroidism with diet.
Red meat a more taboo topic than sex?
Why do aging people need more protein?
The role of collagen, and what supplements are okay?
Why does alcohol make you easy to kill?
Hard to Kill Manifesto
https://www.doctorfitandfabulous.com
Hard to Kill Book: https://amzn.to/3QiFGst
https://www.instagram.com/doctorfitandfabulous
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Mar 5, 2023 • 43min
201. Sexual Fantasy with Dr. Lehmiller
Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it can help you improve your sex life. He is a social psychologist and a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University.
Why research Fantasy?
Should we normalize fantasy? So many people feel shame or like they are cheating.
Are there hormones correlated with sexual fantasy?
What are Americans Fantasizing about?
Shame about fantasy – and who feels more ashamed.
Our our fantasies actually truth and should we act on them?
The difference between fantasy and desire.
Just because you have a fantasy about a threesome – should you do it?
Humans are poor predictors of future emotional states – Justin Lehmiller
What do people mean when they talk about “getting the spark” back. And is there a role for fantasy.
Sex quality versus quantity.
In his book Dr. Lehmiller talks about self disclosure and building trust….but it can seem fraught with backfire potential.
Should you share your fantasy with you partner? How do you know if it is safe?
Novelty – seems so simple but people have the same sex week in and out. Research shows couples who engage in the most acts of novelty tend to be the most sexually satisfied and the most successful at keeping the passion alive.
The most common fantasy and the one that doesn’t work out well when done in real life – threesomes.
Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/3ZkDW5K
Sex and psychology podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817
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Feb 26, 2023 • 43min
200. Talking about Sex and Menopause Is An Act Of Rebellion – With Dr. Gilberg-Lenz
Episode 200!!!!
Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, MD works at the Women’s Care of Beverly Hills, an obstetrics and gynecology practice that has locations in Beverly Hills and Redondo Beach, California.
Dr. Gilberg-Lenz is involved in women’s empowerment and public education and frequently appears as an expert in women’s health and integrative medicine on TV, in print, and online.
Her book Menopause Bootcamp: optimize your health, empower your self, and flourish as you age is out now.
Why is talking about menopause an act of rebellion?
How many doctors know how to treat menopause and how to find an expert?
We discuss the role of communication and how it builds intimacy.
Normalizing how varied sex can be and getting out of the heteronormative narrow view of penetrative sex.
The role of declining estrogen and giving less fucks.
How can menopause be an opportunity?
Mainstream medicine has a woman problem – and the painful truth is that science fails us.
Why we do not recommend pellets?
How to talk to your doctor about menopause?
Why does no one care about heart disease?
https://www.menopause.org/
https://www.instagram.com/askdrsuzanne
https://www.instagram.com/themenopausebootcamp/
Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish as You Age https://amzn.to/3m5ZJzn
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