
Own Your Identity
Own Your Identity is committed to helping men experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Each episode contains actionable tools to keep listeners moving forward into the life they truly desire, through Christ's power and for God's glory.
Latest episodes

Jul 18, 2025 • 13min
The Locker Room: A Place of Vulnerability and Preparation
While I longed to be in the athletic, game-time locker room, energized with the team before stepping onto the field, I was doing good to make it through showering after junior high PE. If you’ve ever felt like me—like you didn’t measure up, were stuck on the sidelines, or hiding parts of yourself because you were afraid of being seen—this episode is for you. For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Jul 3, 2025 • 8min
If You Only Knew
The discussion revolves around transforming the phrase 'if you only knew' from a burden of shame into a powerful statement of hope. It encourages individuals grappling with same-sex attraction to embrace their true selves. By fostering openness, the podcast aims to combat feelings of inadequacy and promote empowerment. Listeners are inspired to redefine their narratives and embrace their identities, paving the way for acceptance and growth.

Jun 27, 2025 • 7min
Mastering the Moment: Mindfulness During SSA Urges
Do your same-sex attractions feel overwhelming at times? Maybe it’s a physical sensation that catches you off guard. Maybe it’s a romantic feeling that stirs something in your heart. Or maybe it’s a thought pattern that loops in your mind. These things can feel powerful, but I want you to know they are not you. They are experiences that are just passing through.For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Jun 22, 2025 • 8min
3 Guys at the Airport and the Stories I Spun
When we admire something in others, it’s like God is whispering, “This is already in you. I’ve planted this seed—now let’s grow it together.” It’s not about striving to be someone else, it’s about stepping into the fullness of who He’s called you to be.For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Jun 12, 2025 • 13min
Redesign Your Emotional Home
If you act out sexually with another guy, use porn, or entertain comparisons, what emotional home are you coming from? Is it loneliness? Shame? A need for validation? For many of us, those moments aren’t just about the act itself—they’re about seeking comfort in an emotional home we’ve lived in for years. For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Jun 6, 2025 • 14min
Sacred Time. Sacred Purpose.
Time is sacred. It’s a gift from God, entrusted to us to use wisely. But too often we waste it obsessing over things that don’t serve us—whether it’s comparing ourselves to others, spinning in shame, or acting out in ways that don’t align with our values. It's a missed opportunity to step into the life God has called you to live. Make the best use of your time and energy and get excited about what's next!For more tools to live beyond your unwanted attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Jun 1, 2025 • 9min
Celebrate Courage
When we take small, courageous steps—whether it’s replacing a limiting belief, speaking truth over ourselves, or simply showing up when it’s hard—it’s so important to pause and celebrate. Why? Because celebration reinforces the behavior. It tells your brain, This matters. This is who I am now.For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

May 26, 2025 • 11min
The Power of Certainty
Imagine waking up each day knowing that no matter what happens, you are loved, you are enough in Christ, and the best is yet to come. Imagine living with a confidence that isn’t shaken by circumstances, a peace that isn’t dependent on outcomes, and a hope that fuels you forward. That’s the power of certainty. And it’s available to you right now.For more tools to live beyond your unwanted same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

May 23, 2025 • 9min
Am I Too Much?
Have you ever felt like you’re just too much for people? Like your personality, your struggles, or your past make you a burden, a liability, or someone who just doesn’t fit? If that’s you, I want you to know you're not alone.

May 11, 2025 • 7min
Be Gentle. Be Sensitive. Be Bold.
Discover how gentleness and sensitivity are redefined as strengths in modern masculinity. The conversation challenges the stereotypes of toughness and stoicism, presenting a new model that values human connection and compassion. By integrating boldness with these traits, men can embrace a powerful yet authentic identity. This enlightening discussion inspires listeners to foster genuine relationships while encouraging personal growth.