Own Your Identity There You Are
Jan 15, 2026
The phrase 'there you are' can evoke pressure, but what if it were an invitation to authenticity? Personal experiences reveal how parental disappointment shaped feelings of inadequacy. Discover the importance of self-disclosure through honest questions that promote healing. Embracing the idea of 'Here I am' enhances presence and groundedness. The contrast between a performance-driven spirituality and a loving God highlights the journey towards authenticity. Reflective questions help listeners explore their true selves without the need for comparison.
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Childhood Shift From Delight To Pressure
- Jason Mellard describes childhood responses to "there you are" and how it shifted from delight to pressure over time.
- He explains that feeling dismissed taught him to ask, "Who do you need me to be?" and to edit his presence.
A Sponsor's Question That Changed Everything
- Jason shares how his 12-step sponsor asked, "Jason, tell me, who are you?" with patience and curiosity.
- That invitation let him speak honestly and practice saying, "Here I am," which grounded his presence.
Claim Your Presence With 'Here I Am'
- Practice saying "Here I am" to claim presence without polishing or performing for others.
- Stop rushing to fill silence, avoid performing a borrowed masculinity, and treat your presence as enough.