

Own Your Identity
Jason Mellard
Own Your Identity empowers men experiencing same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Each episode contains actionable tools to keep listeners moving forward into the life they truly desire, through the power of Christ and for the glory of God.
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Jan 2, 2026 • 6min
Reclaim Power Over Attractions
Explore the concept of same-sex attraction as signals rather than identity, helping to dissolve shame and empower clarity. Learn how to transition from survival tactics to a freedom-centered mindset. Discover a four-step framework to understand your attractions' messages and make aligned choices that bolster your identity. Understand that true freedom comes from being present and acting purposefully. Finally, find out how attractions can foster spiritual growth and encourage deeper relationships.

Dec 12, 2025 • 6min
Men Create
Exploring the groundbreaking idea that creativity is a foundational masculine calling, the discussion reframes traditional masculinity. It highlights how men create safety and order through presence and boundaries. The importance of a man's attitude in shaping vision and atmosphere is emphasized. Additionally, it tackles shame experienced by men navigating same-sex attractions, affirming their God-given creativity. Listeners are invited to actively participate in creation and foster life-giving environments.

Dec 5, 2025 • 8min
Vision Trumps Fantasy
Fantasy escapes reality. Vision transforms it. Vision gives direction, clarifies choices, changes what you tolerate, and activates courage.In this episode, you will learn to craft a clear and compelling vision capable of lasting transformation.For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Nov 28, 2025 • 9min
Make Space for What's Next
If I received that promotion, I wouldn't be talking with you today. God used that disappointment to make space for something bigger. Now, I am a Certified High Performance Coach empowering men to live beyond their same-sex attractions and into their purpose. And I love it. What does God have next for you that requires space to hear?

Nov 21, 2025 • 9min
Participate in Masculinity
Explore the thought-provoking idea that masculinity isn't a checklist but a shared identity. Discuss the birthright of masculine traits and the importance of growth over shrinking away from them. Hear personal stories about withdrawing from male affirmation and how other men can reflect and inspire masculinity. Jason encourages reclaiming your identity, highlighting that you belong, and invites listeners to actively participate in a supportive community. Embrace your masculinity—it's all about connection and collaboration!

Oct 24, 2025 • 11min
Redirect Your Sexual Energy for Greater Purpose
Explore how to transform sexual energy into a powerful force for connection and creativity. Discover the decision to prioritize service over self-gratification. Learn practical techniques to redirect that energy into meaningful actions. Delve into the deeper desires behind urges and how they can lead to spiritual growth. Uncover the science and psychology that support viewing sexual energy as vital fuel for purpose. Embrace a journey of intentional living that transcends habitual behaviors.

Oct 16, 2025 • 7min
The Key, the Locked Door, and the True Me
For years, I’ve stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. I saw my silhouette—the outline of me. But just beyond it, like a shadow I couldn’t escape, was the outline of the man I thought I had to be. Broader shoulders. Thicker chest. Sharper jawline. I didn’t always know where that outline came from. But one moment, one memory, gave it shape. For more tools to live beyond you same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Oct 9, 2025 • 9min
No Compromise: Why 100% is Easier than 99%
Discover why living 100% aligned with your values is easier than settling for 99%. Explore how that elusive 1% creates mental clutter and inner conflict. Learn about the power of identity-based boundaries, which provide clarity and sustainability. Gain practical steps to move towards full commitment, enhancing your sense of peace and freedom. Jason also emphasizes that compromises don't define you, reinforcing a supportive mindset. If you're ready to live authentically, this discussion will inspire your journey!

Oct 3, 2025 • 8min
Choose Your Feelings
When I turned to gay porn, I wasn’t just escaping life—I was running towards feelings I desired. I wanted to feel strong, inspired, connected, and safe.The good news? You don’t need anything outside yourself to feel those things. You can choose them—right now. And God made you capable of that.For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

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Sep 27, 2025 • 12min
Honor Your Anger
Delve into the powerful theme of honoring anger with insights on its origins in childhood neglect and bullying. Learn to meet your younger self and embrace buried emotions. Discover anger as a vital signal, revealing boundary violations and worth concerns. Explore practical tools like anger and empathy letters, which facilitate meaningful emotional processing. Understand how grief often lies beneath anger and consider using it as a catalyst for personal growth and self-reflection. Reconnect with your identity and find encouragement in your journey.


