

Own Your Identity
Jason Mellard
Own Your Identity empowers men experiencing same-sex attraction to live a life of purpose and possibility. Each episode contains actionable tools to keep listeners moving forward into the life they truly desire, through the power of Christ and for the glory of God.
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Oct 24, 2025 • 11min
Redirect Your Sexual Energy for Greater Purpose
Explore how to transform sexual energy into a powerful force for connection and creativity. Discover the decision to prioritize service over self-gratification. Learn practical techniques to redirect that energy into meaningful actions. Delve into the deeper desires behind urges and how they can lead to spiritual growth. Uncover the science and psychology that support viewing sexual energy as vital fuel for purpose. Embrace a journey of intentional living that transcends habitual behaviors.

Oct 16, 2025 • 7min
The Key, the Locked Door, and the True Me
For years, I’ve stood in front of the mirror, staring at my reflection. I saw my silhouette—the outline of me. But just beyond it, like a shadow I couldn’t escape, was the outline of the man I thought I had to be. Broader shoulders. Thicker chest. Sharper jawline. I didn’t always know where that outline came from. But one moment, one memory, gave it shape. For more tools to live beyond you same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

Oct 9, 2025 • 9min
No Compromise: Why 100% is Easier than 99%
Discover why living 100% aligned with your values is easier than settling for 99%. Explore how that elusive 1% creates mental clutter and inner conflict. Learn about the power of identity-based boundaries, which provide clarity and sustainability. Gain practical steps to move towards full commitment, enhancing your sense of peace and freedom. Jason also emphasizes that compromises don't define you, reinforcing a supportive mindset. If you're ready to live authentically, this discussion will inspire your journey!

Oct 3, 2025 • 8min
Choose Your Feelings
When I turned to gay porn, I wasn’t just escaping life—I was running towards feelings I desired. I wanted to feel strong, inspired, connected, and safe.The good news? You don’t need anything outside yourself to feel those things. You can choose them—right now. And God made you capable of that.For more tools to live beyond your same-sex attractions and into your purpose, visit ownyouridentitynow.com.

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Sep 27, 2025 • 12min
Honor Your Anger
Delve into the powerful theme of honoring anger with insights on its origins in childhood neglect and bullying. Learn to meet your younger self and embrace buried emotions. Discover anger as a vital signal, revealing boundary violations and worth concerns. Explore practical tools like anger and empathy letters, which facilitate meaningful emotional processing. Understand how grief often lies beneath anger and consider using it as a catalyst for personal growth and self-reflection. Reconnect with your identity and find encouragement in your journey.

Sep 19, 2025 • 12min
Navigating Confusion
Ever find yourself lost in confusion? This discussion reveals how uncertainty can spark growth and connection. Personal stories highlight the journey from mixed signals to breakthrough clarity about attraction and identity. Practical tools are shared to help navigate through confusion, encouraging listeners to confront fears and seek wise counsel. The fog might seem daunting, but it’s a pathway to deeper understanding and purpose.

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Sep 12, 2025 • 10min
When Admiration Shifts to Lust
The discussion dives deep into the nuances of attraction, exploring the transition from admiration to feelings of comparison or lust. Personal experiences are shared to illustrate these emotional shifts, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys and values, all while navigating the complexities of same-sex attractions and aligning with their true purpose.

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Sep 3, 2025 • 8min
Choose Me
Exploring our innate desire to be chosen and valued, the discussion reveals how this yearning is often rooted in emotional wounds. Personal stories of vulnerability highlight the importance of seeking affirmation beyond superficial attraction. A practical seven-step process is introduced to help navigate intrusive thoughts, fostering a deeper connection to self-worth and divine acceptance. Ultimately, the conversation encourages embracing our unique identities and living purposefully.

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Aug 29, 2025 • 18min
Just Be
Discover the beauty of embracing authenticity and the freedom that comes with just being yourself. Personal stories illustrate overcoming the pressure to perform while highlighting the importance of vulnerability. Gain practical tools that encourage a mindset shift from 'doing' to 'being.' Inspired by a carefree moment on the soccer field, this discussion encourages living in the present and finding empowerment in simplicity.

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Aug 22, 2025 • 37min
What I Wish I’d Learned Growing Up
Explore the vital lessons often missed in youth, particularly for men. Discover how recognizing these gaps can transform feelings of inadequacy into opportunities for growth. Personal stories emphasize the importance of emotional expression and self-acceptance. The conversation encourages listeners to confront their past while fostering connections through mentorship and community. Celebrate the journey of learning and evolve beyond previous limitations.


