It Starts With Attraction

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!*Note - this episode is all about sex so pop in your headphones especially if you have small children around.  In this final episode of our physical attraction series, we talk about sexual intimacy with your spouse and how to strengthen your relationship inside and outside the bedroom. Kimberly speaks with Victoria Sotelo, a marriage and family therapist specializing in sex therapy. Victoria talks about experiencing the senses to have pleasures and connecting with the essence of who you are. You will learn what you can do to shift the mindset and carve out a space for curiosity, newness, and intrigue to show up in your life in a place where you don't think it can exist. This is an important episode if you feel disconnected from your spouse and feel like you want to get that spark back. You'll want to take notes and save this episode for later. Today's Speaker: Victoria Sotelo, Marriage and Family TherapistVictoria Sotelo brings a heart of compassion and passionate energy for cultivating healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy to her clients. She practices from an integrative model, incorporating the Biological-Psychological-Social-& Spiritual aspects of her client’s lives. Her excellent listening skills and problem-solving methods, along with her clinical experience, position her as a therapist with a balanced approach.   Victoria has lectured to groups and professionals on ways to deepen sexual intimacy, and improve the quality of life, both in marriage, family, and personal growth potential.  Victoria has a private practice in both Midtown East & Inwood area, and she serves as a Board Member of the New York State Division for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Website:  https://www.sotelotherapy.com/ PIES Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnthe importance of giving your spouse verbal affirmationswhy you need to stay curious in your marriage and ask questionshow to approach your spouse to be more sexualEpisode 86 - Cultivating Healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy with Victoria Sotelo Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!This episode is the third episode in our physical attraction series. It's an insightful and powerful show that you'll want to save and listen to again. You are going to learn about adverse childhood experiences, how you may have been affected before the age of 17, and how it relates to your health and physical well-being. Our guest today is Dani Williamson, a family nurse practitioner specializing in functional medicine. You are going to learn so much about childhood trauma, food sensitivity, and how the gut affects everything that is going on in your life. Share this episode with your family and friends and don't forget to take notes. Check the show notes at the bottom of this page for links to Dani's book as well as the ACE questionnaire.Today's Speaker: Dani Williamson, MSN, FNP Integrative Healthcare Nurse PractitionerA graduate of Vanderbilt University School of Nursing Nurse-Midwifery and Family Nurse Practitioner program. Dani incorporates the art of medicine by balancing traditional and integrative therapies. Dani encourages her patients to step out of the realm of “normal” and reach “optimal” health.Dani owns Integrative Family Medicine in Franklin, TN. She focuses on gut, thyroid (Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis is her passion), hormone, and adrenal health with her patients. Her approach embodies a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual process to healing. She believes that God designed our bodies to heal themselves, we simply must give our bodies what they need. She teaches her patients that we are not designed to break down in our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s or even 70’s. She stresses the importance of eating real food, as well as cleaning up the environment around us one step at a time. She is a sought-after speaker at various conferences and workshops where she leads discussions on the gut, adrenal, thyroid, hormone, and brain health.Website: https://daniwilliamson.com/ Dani's Book: Wild & Well Dani’s Six Commonsense Steps to Radical HealingACE Questionnaire PIES Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnadverse childhood experienceshow your health is affected by your pastYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!This is part two of the sleep series in this month's topic of physical attraction. If you missed part one, go back and listen to last week's episode to catch the first six sleep tips. In part two, Kimberly shares the last four tips to help you get better sleep. If you are looking to feel rested, have better nighttime and morning routines, and feel better overall, you will want to listen to this episode and take notes. You will learn why sleep is so important and what you need to do to prepare your body for excellent rest. Please make sure to hit the share button, so your friends can start the new year off with great sleep too.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnwhy you need to destress before going to bedhow to make your room dark for better sleepwhy you want to set the temperature for better sleepEpisode 84 - Physical Attraction: Top 10 Tips for Great Sleep (Part 2)Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!We're kicking off the new year with all things PIES. We'll be doing a PIES series in the next four months where we bring you topics that help you focus on physical, intellectual, and emotional attraction. In this first episode of 2022, we start with physical attraction and provide you with tips on why sleep is so important. This is a 2 part episode, so make sure you tune in for the remaining tips next week. You will learn why sleep is so important and things you can start implementing into your nightly routine to wake up refreshed and renewed. Grab a notepad and get ready to take notes. Please make sure to hit the share button, so your friends can start the new year off with great sleep too. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnWhy sleep is important and why you need to have a healthy routineThings you can start doing today to get better sleepWhat to cut out of your diet for better sleepEpisode 83 - Physical Attraction: Top 10 Tips for Great Sleep (Part 1)Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In the last episode of 2021 and our personality series, Kimberly talks with Dr. Joe Beam about the DiSC profile. Dr. Beam explains each quadrant of DiSC and how you can use your profile to understand others better and have better relationships.You will learn the importance of understanding your spouse's DiSC personality so you can speak their language and vice versa. When you know about your spouse and know how they are wired, it helps make the marriage or relationship stronger.Dr. Beam says it doesn't mean you give up who you are. It just means if you want success in a relationship, whether it's romantic, parental work, anything, you learn how to speak people's language. Share this episode with your friends and family and stay tuned to what's coming for 2022! Today's Speaker: Dr. Joe Beam Dr. Beam is an internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage, and sex. He received his Ph.D. from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Tennessee, just south of Nashville.He has designed and developed courses, workshops, and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on national media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs, and books. Website: www.MarriageHelper.comYouTube: Marriage HelperPodcast: Marriage Helper LiveBooks: The Art of Falling in LoveYou'll LearnWhat the DiSC assessment is and how it is used at Marriage HelperAbout the four quadrants of the DiSC profile and how to read people. How to have better relationships using your DiSC and understanding others. Episode 82: Dr. Joe Beam, Ph.D. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!The Importance of Focusing on Your Strengths with Austin SuellentropThis week we are back with another exciting episode about personality styles. Today, Kimberly talks with Austin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio Manager for Gallup. (Also known as StrengthsFinder)You will learn why people learn differently and how to have conversations about each other's strengths to create better relationships. You'll also gain insight into when people are aware of their strengths, how it helps them identify and stick to their values.After you hear this episode, you will want to find out where you land with the StrengthsFinder assessment and share this episode with your friends and your spouse. Today's Speaker: Austin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio ManagerAustin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio Manager, leads Gallup’s organizational strategy for growing CliftonStrengths worldwide. Through close partnership with our learning, technology, research, and client teams, he helps ensure we are staying true to the mission of CliftonStrengths while providing the tools needed to further the strengths-based approach to human development. He specializes in helping Gallup clients to bridge the gap between Gallup research and practical application in the workplace, particularly when leading through times of extraordinary change. His mission is to inspire others to action by telling stories with passion and excitement about what individuals and teams can accomplish when they have the opportunity to do what they do best.Before joining Gallup, Austin served in a variety of roles for a major regional bank, most recently as a member of its organizational and leadership development team. He supported associate engagement programs across the company, providing data analysis and reporting and coaching teams and leaders on how to use employee engagement as a strategy to drive performance.Austin has a passion for public speaking and that dates back as far as he can remember and has been featured as a keynote speaker for organizations across the country including TedxBirmingham. Austin is an Associate Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation and has been a guest speaker on the Gallup Called to Coach Webcast as well as an author on the Gallup Coaching Blog.Austin received a bachelor’s degree in finance from Auburn University and a master’s degree in family financial planning and counseling from The University of Alabama. Austin spends his free time entertaining friends and family with his wife, Janna, and three daughters, Noelle, Elise, and Audrey. If you don’t find him in front of the smoker preparing BBQ for a crowd, he is likely at the soYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!We are all wired a bit differently, and this week we are continuing our series of personality test types. Last week Kimberly covered the Enneagram with Michael Norton, and today, she speaks with Dr. Tim Atkinson, a Myers-Briggs expert. Personality tests are ways to understand yourself and others better. Dr. Tim Atkinson covers Myers-Briggs and the dichotomy of the four letters. Dr. Tim describes the personality test as a great conversation starter that provides a window into who and how each person operates. The Myers-Briggs assessment allows people to explore further their personalities, including their likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, possible career preferences, and compatibility with other people. Grab your headphones, go on a walk and enjoy the episode!  Today's Speaker: Dr. Tim Atkinson, Myers-Briggs ExpertDr. Tim Atkinson is Director, Research and Sponsored Programs at Austin Peay State University.  He currently leads the research development process for faculty at an emerging research culture in a primarily undergraduate teaching university. Website: https://www.timatkinson.net/Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.comYou'll LearnWhat the Myers-Briggs assessment is The dichotomy of the four typesHow Myers-Briggs differs from other assessmentsEpisode 80: Dr. Tim Atkinson, Myers-Briggs ExpertYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!There is so much more to the Enneagram than you may think. Or, maybe you've never heard of it and want to learn what all the hype is about.  In today's episode, Kimberly talks with Micheal Norton, an Enneagram teacher, and coach.  Michael shares so much insight and goes deeper into the origin of the Enneagram, each of the nine types, and the passion each number represents. You will learn so much about the Enneagram and yourself in this episode. Grab your headphones, go for a walk and enjoy the enneagram journey! Today's Speaker: Michael Norton, Enneagram Teacher and Coach at Enneagram. is Michael Burditt Norton is an Enneagram teacher, artist, and coach based in London. He has been working in the arts and creative industries for over 15 years. He works with individuals and teams, accessing the Enneagram as a tool for creativity and collaboration. Through his teaching and coaching, he focuses on supporting people as they bring awareness to their unique attention patterns. With the Enneagram as a map, Michael offers tools and guidance to people and organizations who are willing to step into more conscious ways of living and working. He is a certified Enneagram teacher by The Narrative Enneagram, founded by Dr. David Daniels and Helen Palmer, and participates in Enneagram networks in the UK and the US.Website: www.enneagram.isGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.comYou'll LearnWhat the Enneagram is How to use your Enneagram number to make changes to your lifeHow you can use the Enneagram to help you understand others Episode 79: Michael Norton, Enneagram Teacher and Coach at Enneagram. is Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Have you ever been stopped in your tracks and been forced to rest? In this episode, you will hear Kimberly's story of perseverance and how an injury forced her to sit with God, listen, and rest. We are all wired to do and be what God has called us to do, and that is perfectly awesome. But sometimes, we need time to reflect to focus on our strengths rather than our weaknesses. You'll hear Kimberly's confession on how she struggled with her PIES and how she surrendered to rest. You are going to want to share this episode with a friend. So make sure you hit the share button, and please leave a review. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!In this episode, Kimberly speaks at a MUMLife event and shares how to fix a relationship with SMART Communication. There are two things you can do today to change your relationship. The first one is knowing that the only person you can control is yourself. The second thing you can do is improve relationships is change the way you communicate. Stop fighting and start listening.  SMART Communication is an acronym for:Stop PushingManaging ExpectationsApproach KindlyRemember to ListenTackle as a TeamA great marriage occurs when you start doing things to build love and stop doing things that destroy love. This episode covers a lot of great tips that you can begin implementing immediately to help fix your relationships. Don't forget to click the links below to get your free resources!  Free Resources: https://marriagehelper.com/hello/Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ