It Starts With Attraction

Dr. John Gottman, a world-renowned marriage and divorce researcher, discusses commitment, great sex in relationships, being intentional with your spouse, constructive conflict, and dating your spouse. They cover all the important aspects of relationships and provide valuable insights to make marriages last.

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Creating habits on top of your existing habits can sound overwhelming, but in today's episode, Kimberly shares practical tips on how to increase productivity with PIES Stacking. Think about your good daily habits that already exist and consider something that you can add to it. For example, if you are a coffee drinker and it's part of your morning routine, rather than doom scrolling, read or journal while you enjoy your cup of caffeine. Say affirmations to yourself while you brush your teeth to help set the tone and mood for the day. Grab your headphones and dive into this quick and practical episode to help create habits that stick. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnWhat PIES Stacking is How to implement habits that stick How to add new habits to your existing onesEp 75: PIES Stacking - Do Less in More Time with Kimberly Beam HolmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you ready to Make Some Noise? In this episode, Kimberly chats with personal development coach, author, and speaker, Andrea Owen. Andrea talks about her new book Make Some Noise and shares how to navigate challenging conversations, set boundaries (and when it's appropriate), communicate better, and set expectations when speaking with loved ones. This episode is filled with vulnerability, transparency, and powerful tools you can use to show up as your best self! You'll leave this episode feeling empowered to show up for yourself so you can create your best life! Today’s Speaker: Andrea Owen, Global Speak, Author, and Certified Life CoachAndrea Owen is an author, global speaker, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, and master resilience. She has taught hundreds of thousands of women tools and strategies to be able to empower themselves to live their most kick-ass life through speaking, her books, coaching, and her wildly popular podcast with over 3 million downloads.She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness (Seal Press/Hachette Books) which has been translated into 18 languages and is available in 22 countries, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her latest book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength came out in August 2021, published by TarcherPerigee/Penguin Random-House.Andrea is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from The Coaches Training Institute, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation, a SHE RECOVERS® coach, as well as a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator; a modality based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown.When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or writing books, Andrea is busy riding her Peloton bike, chasing her two school-aged children or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.Learn more about Andrea at Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you getting enough rest, and are you getting the right kind of rest? In this week's episode, Pastor Ian Simkins talks about the importance of rest and how rest is much more than sitting on the couch after a long day at work; it's about how you spend your time when you aren't resting. You'll learn what God says about rest and why you need time for Sabbath. This episode aligns so well with the PIES of Attraction and becoming the best version of you that you can be. What you do in life is important but who you are becoming is more important. Ian provides a great perspective on rest and how it resets the posture of who we are and understanding our identity, especially our identity in Christ.Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, breathe in the fresh air and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Ian Simkins, Lead Pastor of Teaching at The Bridge Church in Spring Hill, TNIan is the Lead Pastor of Teaching and Vision at The Bridge Church in Spring Hill, TN. He and his wife Katie have two amazing young boys, Owen and Redmond.Prior to coming on as Lead Pastor of Teaching in TN, he was the Teaching Pastor at Community Christian Church in Chicagoland and was also the host of a radio show called The Common Good.Website: bridge.tvhttps://iansimkins.com/Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up.You’ll LearnWhat rest is and why it's importantWhat God says about SabbathHow to implement a mindset of restSeason 2, Ep 73: Stop Doing and Start Resting with Ian SimkinsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Do you practice mental wellness and self-love?In this episode, Kimberly chats with Dr. Shainna Ali about mental wellness and how we talk to ourselves. You are going to learn what you can start doing to take better care of your mental well-being. Dr. Shainna also shares what self-love is and how we can intentionally love ourselves with the seven components of self-love. Dr. Shainna created the Self-Love workbook that helps boost self-esteem, so you can recognize your worth and find genuine happiness. So grab your headphones, go for a walk and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Dr. Shainna Ali, Mental health clinician, educator, & advocateDr. Shainna is dedicated to helping others understand the important role of mental health in fostering happiness, fulfillment, and overall wellness. She is a licensed mental health counselor (MH15290), a nationally certified counselor (717226), and an approved clinical supervisor (ACS 3047). Beyond credentials, she is a wife, daughter, sister, friend, and dog mom who actively strives for mental health growth and balance.Presently, as the owner of Integrated Counseling Solutions, She enjoys utilizing a strengths-based tailored approach that focuses on growth, optimism, and the unique identity factors of each client. In addition to mental health therapy, she believes in the essentiality of mental health education. She is passionate about crafting research-informed, interactive presentations and workshops pertaining to mental health education.Website: https://www.shainnaali.com/Workbook: https://www.shainnaali.com/the-self-love-workbookWebsite: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow to practice self-loveHow to be aware of mental wellnessThe seven components of self-loveEp 72: The Seven Components of Self-Love with Dr. Shainna AliYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Are you a leader? If you answered no, you may be surprised to learn that you are wrong. In this episode, Kimberly chats with her friend, Alex Judd. Alex is the founder of Path for Growth and he believes that everybody wins when a leader DECIDES to intentionally grow every single day. You'll learn the difference between self-improvement vs. selfish improvement and how to release the baggage that you carry around for yourself and everyone else. You'll also hear Alex coach Kimberly as he puts her in the hot seat about prioritizing expectations rather than priorities. Grab a pen and paper, and get ready to take a lot of notes. If you're listening to this in the car, save the episode because it's so good that you'll want to listen to it again! Today’s Speaker: Alex Judd, Founder of Path For GrowthAlex Judd founded Path for Growth out of the belief that everybody wins when a leader DECIDES to intentionally grow every single day. Through teaching, intensives, and coaching, the Path for Growth team empowers impact-driven leaders to define vision and take meaningful action. Prior to starting Path for Growth, Alex served as the Host of Dave Ramsey's nationally recognized EntreLeadership podcast. Outside of work, Alex loves endurance sports. He has finished 22 marathons and two Ironman Triathlons. More than anything, Alex loves people. He is stubbornly committed to seeing as many people as possible engage in a healthy, life-giving, sustainable path for growth.Social media is @juddontherun and @PathForGrowth Path For Growth PodcastWebsite: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll Learnwhat leadership is How to release all the baggage you carryThe difference between self-improvement vs. selfish-improvementEp 70: Everyone is a Leader with Alex JuddYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Do you ever feel like you need to slow down? How aware are you of your body, your mind, and your emotions?  In today's episode, Kimberly shares techniques that you can do to help you become more grounded and centered. If you are new to mindfulness and meditation, we encourage you to go back and listen to episode 10, where Kimberly talks about the science and research behind it. You will learn breathing techniques and the importance of being intentional with your breath and what it does to your body. You'll also know what it means to be centered and grounded with your body. If you have never practiced mindfulness or meditation, this episode is perfect for you. Kimberly ends with a 10 minute guided meditation that you can do at your desk, on a walk, or lying down.Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, find a comfortable spot and enjoy the episode!  Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnTechniques on practicing mindfulnessThe importance of deep breathsHow to meditateEp 70: Practicing Mindfulness + 10 Minute Guided Meditation with Kimberly Beam HolmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!Do you have a relationship that is struggling over a disagreement? With everything going on in the world and our society, there is a lot of fighting and division happening all around us.In this episode, Kimberly shares five things you can do when a disagreement challenges you. Many of us have encountered conversations about politics, and we're quick to stand our ground, believe what we believe, and disagree with the other side. But, you'll learn how to have a respectful conversation when you disagree and come out of it with more love and appreciation for the other person once you seek to understand.Our psychological default is to fight to get our way and not be wrong. But we have to fight against that if we want to have a better society, if we're going to have better relationships and want to be the best version of ourselves. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow to have respectful conversations, so you seek to understandFive key points to remember when you disagree with someoneNo matter what the disagreement is, we are all on the same teamSeason 2, Ep 69: How to Disagree Without Losing Friends or Family with Kimberly Beam HolmesYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!There are two things in life that we are never taught to do, parenting and marriage.In this episode, Kimberly speaks with parenting expert Kimball Lewis. You are going to learn how not to take your child’s disrespectful behavior personally and how to find common ground between you and your spouse when it comes to parenting. If you want your child to behave a certain way, you have to model those behaviors you want them to exhibit.Parenting is hard, and this episode provides so much information and tips you can implement immediately. So grab a pen and get ready to take notes!Today’s Speaker: Kimball Lewis, CEO, Empowering ParentsKimball Lewis is the CEO of EmpoweringParents.com. In addition to his leadership and management roles, he contributes as an editor, a homeschooling expert, and a parent coach. He resides in Orlando, Florida, with his wife and two teenage sons. Managing child behavior problems is a skill that can be learned. And the tools and resources available through EmpoweringParent.com and The Total Transformation® child behavior program ensure that you don’t have to learn through trial and error. Instead, you can learn from parents and professionals who know how to effectively manage disrespect, defiance, backtalk, lying, laziness, motivation, and other behaviors.Website: empoweringparents.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnWhy short-term consequences are more effective than long-termLearn the difference between consequence and punishmentHow to find common ground with your spouse when you disagree about parentingSeason 2, Ep 68: Helping Parents Navigate Challenges with Kimball LewisYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!For us to be individuals who are more emotionally attractive, it's essential to understand our emotions. In this episode, Kimberly talks with Dr. Laurel Mellin about Emotional Brain Training. You will learn how to understand your emotions and what to do with your emotions to help you move towards a state of happiness and joy. You don’t want to miss the exercise Dr. Mellin walks Kimberly through. Kimberly gets real and raw about feelings and thoughts she has about herself, and she learns how those emotions don’t have to hold you back or dictate your future. Pop in your headphones, grab a notepad to take notes, and get ready to dive into this very insightful episode!Today’s Speaker: Dr. Laurel Mellin, Ph.D., Founder of Emotional Brain TrainingDr. Mellin is a health psychologist who founded and developed emotional brain training. She is an associate clinical professor of family and community medicine and pediatrics at the University of California San Francisco. Dr. Mellin has authored papers on the science and efficacy of EBT and is a New York Times bestselling author of four books on the method.Website: www.ebt.orgGet the App and use code HAPPY at checkoutYou’ll Learn:The #1 gateway to transformation is angerThere are 5 levels of stress, all of which are healthy (as long as we don’t stay in them)Everything that is important for us to survive and thrive, is also extremely sensitive to stressGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. Season 2, Ep 67: Training Your Brain to Be Happy with Emotional Brain Training with Dr. Laurel MellinYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w 📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ