Shameless Leadership

Every mom remembers what it was like to be a teenager right? And we all remember that predictability and teenagers is nonexistent. Imagine starting out motherhood with teenagers! Jen Briggs, a dear friend of mine who is a business and life coach has done just that! As you can imagine it’s probably not easy to maneuver into a family that was once three and is now four. Step mothers also get a bad rap in our society. Which by the way not all step mothers are evil. With her new marriage, kids, new business and recent move she is going to tell us how she makes it all work. Jenn shares with us: Trying to “fit” in—it’s hard not to take things personal when you are trying hard to please someone else “Thirty Days of Yes” —you have to listen to this! Outside therapy—sometimes it’s good to get an outside perspective. Sometimes just talking out loud can really help! Make time to care for yourself—make dates for exercising and friends or things that will give you enough space to take care of yourself Prioritize the things that make you happy and give you the most—what are your values? Emotional intelligence—make better connections! Links Mentioned: Headspace app www.facebook.com/heyjenbriggs  www.twitter.com/heyjenbriggs www.instagram.com/heyjenbriggs   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am an amazing stalker and I totally own that! I’m not a creeper, because there is a difference! I try to use my stalking powers for good and that’s what we are talking about today. My stalking comes out of my desire to connect with certain people and figuring out how to create those connection opportunities! This is going to be fun, so join us!   There are lots of really great reasons to engage your stalking skills:   To get to know people to expand my inner circle To make your inner circle more powerful To take a leap that will get you to the next level To hang out with people that are more successful than you You want to change and shift your inner circle You get to make authentic connections with people out of your “league”     I had the desire to do this at one point in my life when I joined a mastermind. I went to my first meeting without a website or any sort of online business. Even though it was scary, I was surrounded by people that were very successful in online business. This helped me more than anything I could have done alone in my business. Ask yourself:  What can I learn about them so that I can start learning from them?   How do you start stalking? Lead with a compliment. Find common ground upon which to build a relationship. If you have nothing else to offer to them, be their supporter, their cheerleader. Make sure they know you are deliberate in wanting to have a relationship.   I was able to use these tips to connect with someone this past week that I look up to! I was able to make contact with Lewis Howes at an event.. I was very intentional about trying to connect with him, and I happened to connect 3 different times, so hopefully this will lead to more connections at some of his events in the future. At the same event, I was able to meet several other people that I admire, and I will be having them on the podcast. Even though they were out of my league, I still put myself out there and made the connection. One of them was Jill Coleman - My guru for having a healthy relationship with food - check her out at www.jillcoleman.com This isn’t super comfortable for me, but I approached my stalking at this event with no shame in my game, and it paid off! Don’t be afraid to be a stalker! Don't forget to check us out at www.shamelessmom.com.     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m sure all moms can agree that life turns fast pace when you become a mom. It’s hard to slow down when you are trying to keep up with your kids, your house, being a wife, just everyday life. Sometimes you have to slow it down a bit. Learn how to balance everything in life but especially time with family.  Maria Ross, our guest on the show today is going to share with us some tidbits that she uses to balance between life and business.  Maria is a brand strategist, author, actress, owner of Red Slice and speaker. She has received several praises for her book: “Branding Basics for Small Business”. And her second book called “Rebooting my Brain” is a really good read, especially if you have ever been through a health scare. She suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm and this book is a memoir on her amazing recovery. Maria is an inspiration and this episode is definitely worth the listen! Maria shares with us: You have to slow down sometimes—not everything is going to be perfect  The days are long but the years are short Go to a lactation specialist if you need help—there is nothing wrong with asking for a little help! Make sure to set work hours and then set time to spend time with family Don’t try to cram everything into a small amount of time—you won’t be 100% trust me Momentum comes to a screeching halt when you have kids—but the detox is actually good for business ideas! If you are going to be “selfish”, exercise is a great thing to be selfish about—show your kids that exercise is important  Links Mentioned: www.redslice.com twitter: @redslice email: maria [at] red-slice[dot]com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let’s face it, fitting exercise into our busy mommy lives can be a struggle sometimes. Today we are going to be talking about ways to make exercise part of your morning routine. The reason I say “part” of your morning routine is because when you have kids you just don’t know how your day is going to go! Obviously things happen, like your kid has a fever all night, so your workout is probably not going to happen first thing in the morning. But exercising can really help with certain struggles we may have with our kids and ourselves.  Today we will talk about: How I have found exercising helps me mentally—and how it can help you Working out in the morning helps make healthier decisions Exercising is not punishment!!! Key elements to making exercise part of your morning routine and the whole family Get up earlier, make exercise part of your identity and think of exercise as a gift not a punishment! Interruptions are not good…try to the best of your ability not to have interruptions during exercising Length of your workout doesn’t always doesn’t necessarily mean long and drawn out—don’t be ashamed of starting small Visit the website to listen to all the episodes! www.shamelessmom.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today on the show we have a good friend of mine, Susie Lane. Susie is a mom, chef and has had her own business, The Kitchen Door since 2005. The Kitchen door is a Seattle based business that provides meal solutions for busy families. We are going to talk about Susie’s challenges and victories on running her business mostly from home and how to build your legacy with passion.  We will talk today about: How did Susie manage running her business from home and the hospital… Her personal goal for her business—very important goal! Quantity vs quality Go out and get the book Live your Life from the Front Seat by Jessica Butts What exactly is a calendar situation? Be thankful for having a job but be passionate too Links Mentioned: www.kitchendoormeals.com www.amazon.com  www.jessicabutts.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let’s talk about taking a flying leap! So many times we don’t make certain decisions or do certain things because we think we can’t. We are going to talk about ways to get to that place to take a leap and how to take a flying leap and make it work. Today we are going to talk about: Scariest place is at the start line! Focus on progress not perfection How do you schedule time to take a leap? How do you make your leap part of your identity? Stalking… Do it! Links Mentioned: www.youtube.com/my120poundlife  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Launch has been incredible! I have gotten so many messages, and I have been overwhelmed with support for this launch!   So, let’s talk about the obvious. We have a new name. I got an email about trademarks and copyrights, etc. related to the podcast. So, this sent me into a major panic, because I never intended to do anything wrong. It turns out I had to change the name of the podcast because I was infringing on someone’s trademark. So this has turned into a wild ride already!   I learned a few things about myself through this situation:   I’m not ok with being bullied and talked down to Written communication can be challenging to interpret tone We all handle stress differently I get completely stressed out when I feel like I did something wrong Sometimes I am too quick to give in to pressure I am not a very good self-advocate under stress I could really embrace the word “shameless” in talking about my podcast This happened so something better can come out of it Shameless speaks to owning where you are and being ok with it I hate having messes on my plate I think this little bump is going to work out for the good It’s easy to be advocates for everyone but ourselves sometimes Pivoting doesn’t mean you are backing down I’m excited about this change moving forward   Until next time, do something shameless! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today on the show we are going to be talking with Laurie Kennedy. Laurie is a Toronto based nutritionist, health and wellness business expert, online strategist and mother of two. She works with health practitioners, healers, coaches and fitness professionals who want to start up their purpose driven businesses. Laurie does not mess around!Laurie makes it all work beautifully, even though it’s not always so beautiful. We are going to talk about the challenges of having kids, the challenges of working with her husband (he is business partner), and dirty moments like when she broke down in a hotel shower on Mother’s Day and the magic of 5 am. Laurie shares with us: When things don’t go your way you just need to laugh and don’t take everything so seriously Messiest moment she has ever had—Mother’s day: just to be left alone for 24 hours. This is when she realized that she needed to take care of herself and get her alone time more often so that she didn’t feel this way again. Spending an extra day on a business trip is not necessarily a good thing. You may get more things done but you should know how you will handle it emotionally. Husband time challenge—different work spaces and don’t bring the work home.  The word selfish is the word self with ish 5 am is Laurie’s self-time—she needs the 90 minutes to herself or sometimes spend a whole night and day at a hotel to recharge It’s really nice to not be on someone else’s schedule sometimes Set up a morning routine before the world starts and if you need help get child support! Even if it’s 2 hours a week! This can help you keep from feeling trapped. Her legacy is to help women know that you don’t have to do things if you don’t want to just because Links Mentioned:www.theselfishmomacademy.comwww.facebook.com/lauriekennedy www.facebook.com/lauriekennedyrhn www.lauriekennedyrhn.comwww.thatwellbusiness.com You visit our website at http://selfishmomacademy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are going to go into a dark place and talk about trauma. I recently experienced trauma on vacation and it’s been a little difficult to come back from. Trauma and vacation do not go together! Today we are going to talk about: It’s important to talk about what you experience I will always be a therapy advocate! If you don’t want to or don’t have someone to talk to there are other ways to get your feelings out about a traumatic experience Don’t be afraid of stepping out when you feel like staying in!  You can find the show notes at http://selfishmomacademy.com/07-what-happens-when-you-witness-trauma Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever tried to do something to get out of your comfort zone, only to have it go terribly wrong and have your life flash before your eyes? Yeah, that happened to me and my son! Then we’re going to talk about one of my biggest passions! I have built an entire career on it for the last 13 years. That’s right! We are going to talk about exercise! What kind of exercise is right for you and how you can integrate it into your life, and how to make it feel like it’s not a big chore. In today’s episode: Having a guilty mom moment—We took a family trip and went tubing to try something out of our comfort zones and it was terrifying! Vinny did recover from his shell shock. Thank God! If something doesn’t feel quite right listen to your gut! Before I was into exercise and athletics, I was a mac and cheese kid—broke my thumb in gym class. Best day of my life! Six weeks on the sideline! Woot! Always be aware of your goal when you exercise—fat loss, weight loss, stress relief, movement Determine the type of exercise—fat loss or weight loss: safe weight strength training, interval training General health—walking and running at a low to moderate pace. Just get your heart rate going. Stress relief—find something to zone out! Walk, run, hiking, yoga etc. Enjoyment of movement—sports, clubs or outdoor activities Schedule your exercise! If you don’t you will negotiate your way out of it! Accountability can be essential. Do what you have to do to make yourself do it. Effective and efficient. Exercising 3 days a week is a good start. Focus on afterglow when you don’t want to do your exercises. Do things on a regular basis. Be a good model. Teach your kids that movement and eating healthy is the norm. Links Mentioned: www.theselfishmomacademy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices