Shameless Leadership

Maybe you have had a day or two of these? Especially since having a child my anxiety can be through the roof. It can be because of what I have on my to do list and sometimes it’s just a bunch of random things and I’m having a hard time managing it. So I’m going to talk about my nervousness and anxiety and what has helped to turn around my day. Let’s face it we have to get things done and it’s so much easier to get things done if you are feeling positive and optimistic. So here are three tips that I want you to use to help turn around any tough day that comes your way. On today’s episode we will talk about: If I’m being honest I have probably been dealing with anxiety my whole life Sometimes being in a positive place is not easy for me—I just want to have wine, chocolate and The Real Housewives—Yes I said it The Real Housewives Tip number 1: create space—this might mean going for a walk, listening to music, listening to podcasts Head space app- meditation: I am a pretty sucky meditator but this could be a way to clear your mind to be creative Exercise of course can relieve stress or anxiety and help reframe your day Tip number 2: finding another focus—dive into a project that will channel that energy to be creative, call your mom, help someone else Get out of the physical location that you are having your break down at Escape—take a bath, watch tv Tip number 3: talk it through—it’s amazing how much talking to someone about a problem can help you work through it Write it out if you don’t have someone to talk to Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m going to talk about putting my kid in daycare and not even feeling guilty about it. I know I’m supposed to feel guilty about this but I don’t and I’m going to tell you why. In this episode we will talk about: Daycare was not a bad thing for me. But going to entrepreneur workshops put this image out that you know you have made it when you don’t have put your kids in daycare. Newborn land was not what I thought it was going to be  I was unable to help my clients and started feeling captive in my own house I learned that I needed a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day—I’m not saying that being a stay at home mom cannot be an accomplishment to be proud of. It is hard work! When I put my son in daycare it helped me set definitive boundaries between work and motherhood I’m supposed to feel guilty about putting my kid in daycare right? I don’t feel guilty at all. I am helping him with social skills It still is challenging for me to juggle things Links mentioned: www.theselfishmomacademy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On today’s episode we are going to talk about how to not have bad food days. I’m going to give you tips and tools that will make you look at food differently and change your food habits. So get ready there is going to be some major mindset shifts! Everyone has relationship with food and most of us do not have a healthy relationship with food. Let’s start working on it right now! Today we talk about: Let’s stop labeling days good or bad based on what we put in our mouths! —this impacts the way you eat, self-esteem and how other people see you I have had a troubled relationship with food since I was young—I went through a four to six-year period where fat was my biggest enemy  We are not what we eat and we are not the value of what we put in our mouths! Food is food and not good or bad just different nutritional values People are self-conscious about ordering food when I am there—I don’t care what you are eating!  Don’t talk about having a “good” or “bad” day in front of your kids—this will impact their relationship with food Think about the triggers for food—replace a habit with another habit  You make at least 200 decisions that are focused on your weight. Focus on the positive things that have happened in your day and not on what food you ate that day that you think are “bad”. So you ate a donut…move on! Links Mentioned: www.theselfishmomacademy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On today’s episode we will be talking about how to become more powerful in your daily life and how becoming powerful will help you with all goals in all areas of your life. I’m going to give you five tips on how to perpetuate power and how potty training has created more power for us in our house.We will be talking about in this episode: Even though my son was standing in a puddle of his own pee and investigating his poop with a flashlight he has gained that confidence and power that he can go to the potty all by himself. This make me feel like he is more powerful. Who are the people that you think are powerful and what do they hold? You’re not really powerful unless other people think you are powerful. Tip number 1: get clear on goals and know why they are important—my son has the power to hold his bladder for hours but didn’t realize it until it was important for using the potty Tip number 2: consistently self-power—is this taking me closer or further from a goal. Don’t waste your time on something that is taking you further away from a goal. Tip number 3: remove negative thinking—any time you use negative energy on something you have wasted time and energy that could have been positive Tip number 4: take calculated risks—I’m not saying take risks that can be potentially damaging but if you don’t take risks you will get stuck. You don’t want this! Tip number 5: put yourself first—you can be more self-less if you are more selfish.  Links Mentioned:Don't forget to join us for all the episodes at www.theselfishmomacademy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On today’s episode we are going to be talking about the four pillars of being a selfish mom. The four things that make mom’s tick if we can get all four of these in unison. Also, a little bit about the controversy about the name of my podcast.Here is what we will be discussing: Controversy and confrontation makes me very nervous Why did I pick the name I did for my podcast? Selfish is a positive thing! Yes, I would say I am very selfish but I live my life in a way where I am selfish in a selfless way The pursuit of mommy marterism is real! – let’s bring it down a notch When I am completely selfless I am worthless to everyone Pillar number 1: self-care-needs a routine around movement - take a walk, have a girl’s night etc. Also, make sure you are eating good foods and have a hobby. Pillar number 2: pursuit of your passion- establish goals to make a part time passion maybe a full time passion. Sometimes you have to give up some things to create space to do passion projects Pillar number 3: dedicated family time- this is a challenge for me! My mind does not turn off so it’s hard for me to step away from my projects. Pillar number 4: humor- let’s be honest none of this is easy. Chaos happens and life gets ahead of you. Expect messes. Resources Mentioned on the Show:Don't forget to join us for all the episodes at www.theselfishmomacademy.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m super excited about getting this project off the ground. I’ve been sitting on it for months, so this going to be amazing. This is going to be my place to just be a real Mom and be really open about what it’s really like. Just a bit about me. I have been working with women in fitness since 2003. I own my own gym, called Sync Fitness in Seattle. Prior to that, I worked in a Psychiatric Hospital. Believe it or not, I grew up overweight - a real macaroni and cheese kid. I’ve struggled with self- image, and those are some things we are going to be discussing. This is NOT a podcast about fitness. Sure, I will give you some tips on fitness and nutrition as they relate to everyday life. I’m not into cultivating rock hard bodies anymore - I’m into creating an amazing life! Here’s what we’re going to be talking about (or not) on the show:  Again, even though you may know me from the fitness industry - this is NOT a fitness podcast. I’m not going to be telling you how to get 6-pack abs. I don’t care about that anymore. I struggled with infertility, so I’m sure there will be some stories from that part of my life here. My journey from brick and mortar business owner to online business owner. The struggles to balance staying home with my baby and running my business. How my reality didn’t match what I thought it would be. Why I did my taxes right after my water broke…..isn’t that what everyone does? How my “failure to thrive” child took over my life The big move of getting my child in childcare outside my home Being a Mom is hard….really hard. The reality of this came crashing down on me It’s ok to have interests on your own that you want to pursue - it doesn’t make you a bad Mom How to find yourself in the midst of Mom-dom The systems and tools I have developed to try to pull it all off My legacy is important, so I have to be a little selfish for the greater good. I want to help you to live the life you want   You CAN expect from the show:  Tools to be more efficient in your daily life Tips of how to not sacrifice your dreams when you build the life you want How to take care of yourself  Things I have learned from coaching I receive Interviews with Moms who have struggled for success   Resources Mentioned on the Show: Don't forget to join us for all the episodes over at theselfishmomacademy.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices